I swear I am related to some vile people. Phoney, selfish, greedy, manipulative, negative, small-minded, hateful, mentally unstable people I have absolutely nothing in common with. The few I keep in touch with I can count them on one hand. The rest...I'm quickly getting over. I don't think I'd have a problem forgetting they exist.

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yanowha said:

I swear I am related to some vile people. Phoney, selfish, greedy, mapiulative, negative, small-minded, hateful, mentally unstable people I have absolutely nothing in common with. The few I keep in touch with I can count them on one hand. The rest...I'm quickly getting over. I don't think I'd have a problem forgetting they exist.

Join the club! The family I have here in Autralia I don't talk to or have any interaction with...every word u wrote springs to mind, you forgot, ungrateful . My family is my bro and my father and my momma but she isn't alive anymore but that is it!

I made the mistake of returning one of their phone calls this evening and divulging my whereabouts. It won't happen again.

I figured out a long time ago, just cause Im somehow connected to someone with DNA doesn't mean I have to like, love, understand, talk to, or care for. The notion of caring for family cause its family is out dated.

My ex wife and her sister.

Two of the most egotististical, selfish, immature, delusional human beings that you could come across.

For nearly 20 years, they WERE my "family". I treated them better than my own flesh & blood.

Shame on me of course. You live and learn.

Then when shit hits the fan, you find our who is genuinely & sincerely interested in you and your well-being, and who's just trying to get what they can out of you.

Right now my ex-sister-in-law's lawyer is gonna get a nasty letter from me.

That'll pretty much seal the deal with my "divorcing" her triffling ass.

"you can choose your friends, but you cannot choose your family."

free2bfreeda said:

"you can choose your friends, but you cannot choose your family."

...except for in-laws...

PurpleJedi said:

free2bfreeda said:

"you can choose your friends, but you cannot choose your family."

...except for in-laws...

sho u rite!

PurpleJedi said:

free2bfreeda said:

"you can choose your friends, but you cannot choose your family."

...except for in-laws...

or my former out-laws

My mother is the meddling kind so I tend to keep my distance. The least contact, the better. Sadly.

luv4u said:

PurpleJedi said:

...except for in-laws...

or my former out-laws

My mother is the meddling kind so I tend to keep my distance. The least contact, the better. Sadly.

i don't like to say bad things about others, but i must say i have an awlful family that hates one another! no one is kind to the other one, they are always looking to bring someone else in the family pain and suffering. i don't understand it, and i never will! there is one person in my family that suffers from mental illness that doesn't seek help, and causes me constant hurt almost by the things they do and say. the only way i can deal with it is because i live in another state far away from this person.

some of the things i have seen done and said in my family is just insane, and for that reason i never get to spend holidays or birthdays with family. i feel jealous when i read about people visiting their parents or other family for christmas, because in my family it just can't happen.

i have always been the kind of person that loves for family to be kind and loving to each other. and get together for holidays and birthdays. it really makes me sad that my son misses out on that because people in my family cannot stop fighting or living in the past.

sometimes in order to protect yourself though, you must divorce yourself from family.

PurpleJedi said:

My ex wife and her sister.

Two of the most egotististical, selfish, immature, delusional human beings that you could come across.

For nearly 20 years, they WERE my "family". I treated them better than my own flesh & blood.

Shame on me of course. You live and learn.

Then when shit hits the fan, you find our who is genuinely & sincerely interested in you and your well-being, and who's just trying to get what they can out of you.

Right now my ex-sister-in-law's lawyer is gonna get a nasty letter from me.

That'll pretty much seal the deal with my "divorcing" her triffling ass.

Oh yeah. NOTHING like a divorce to show you who your real friends are. Amen to that!

Anyway....I divorced my inlaws but my ex father in law still visits me about once a week or two, and even brings presents for my new baby.

yanowha said:

I swear I am related to some vile people. Phoney, selfish, greedy, manipulative, negative, small-minded, hateful, mentally unstable people I have absolutely nothing in common with. The few I keep in touch with I can count them on one hand. The rest...I'm quickly getting over. I don't think I'd have a problem forgetting they exist.

[Edited 12/20/11 23:25pm]

I find most people that I come in contact with could and do fit that list. Friends, family all can be both good and bad. I just don't communicate with the people that are awful, except for Christmas, Thanksgiving, funerals, or a special function.

nevermind

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OH YES!!!!

At one time in my life I decided to stay the hell away from ALLLLLLLLL of my family members EXCEPT for my kids.

To this day I just keep to my myself for my own sanity. I was able to let go of much hurt and forgive my sister and my own mother, father, brother, and extended family .....

many circumstances occured when people dogged me and lied about me and set out to hurt me in my own family...

ONE example>>>

my mom moved in a possesive guy in the home. He was nice at first but quickly turned into a monster. One day he threatened her and I pulled him aside and said

"If you don't trust my mom you should leave.. threaten her again I will call the police".

You see, I was an adult in my mom's home, but I helped my mom buy her house. I gave her $$$ for the deposit (she didn't have any savings) and I gave her an application for a 1st time home buyers program since she spoke little English and I was only 19 and couldn't buy the house myself since I just had a baby and had no credit.

When I was home alone with him he threatened me... we had a quick knife fight and he ran off to my mom's job.

My mom returned from work only believing his side of the story and I had to leave. I was homeless with a son.

I helped my mom buy that house but I couldn't stay in it, nor did I qualify for housing since I made too much money at a job I had. So me and my kid were on the streets until I found a place of my own.

After a year of being homeless... and finally getting my own place.... I forgave my mom but told her I didn't trust her man.

She still brought that dude to my place and shortly after he tried to kill my mother and my brother on separate occasions.

The family never believed me that I said he was dangerous and he wanted to hurt me and my son.

I HAD to leave the house and become homeless since my mom didn't believe me... and after he attacked her on the street and left her bloody...

she showed up at my job with one shoe on and shaking like a leaf. My mom never apologized to me or acknowledged that I was right about her guy.

She took him back repeatedly... every time she took him back she would turn on me and treat me like shiot and dog me.

Every time the police would haul that jerk away after beating her to a bloody pulp I would be there to nurse her back and help her despite how she treated me.

I had enough of my family's shit and left them alone for 3 years...

they came to my house all wanting to have a relationship and I put my foot down.

To this day I will tolerate no shit from my mother, brother, sister, nieces, and now my father.

I had to make a stand and my family hated me for standing up for my mom while she was in a abusive relationship. Because even she wanted to stay in that mess.

I have a crazy family. That's just the tip of the iceberg.

:disbeleif:

yes ..

paintedlady said:

OH YES!!!!

At one time in my life I decided to stay the hell away from ALLLLLLLLL of my family members EXCEPT for my kids.

To this day I just keep to my myself for my own sanity. I was able to let go of much hurt and forgive my sister and my own mother, father, brother, and extended family .....

many circumstances occured when people dogged me and lied about me and set out to hurt me in my own family...

ONE example>>>

my mom moved in a possesive guy in the home. He was nice at first but quickly turned into a monster. One day he threatened her and I pulled him aside and said

"If you don't trust my mom you should leave.. threaten her again I will call the police".

You see, I was an adult in my mom's home, but I helped my mom buy her house. I gave her $$$ for the deposit (she didn't have any savings) and I gave her an application for a 1st time home buyers program since she spoke little English and I was only 19 and couldn't buy the house myself since I just had a baby and had no credit.

When I was home alone with him he threatened me... we had a quick knife fight and he ran off to my mom's job.

My mom returned from work only believing his side of the story and I had to leave. I was homeless with a son.

I helped my mom buy that house but I couldn't stay in it, nor did I qualify for housing since I made too much money at a job I had. So me and my kid were on the streets until I found a place of my own.

After a year of being homeless... and finally getting my own place.... I forgave my mom but told her I didn't trust her man.

She still brought that dude to my place and shortly after he tried to kill my mother and my brother on separate occasions.

The family never believed me that I said he was dangerous and he wanted to hurt me and my son.

I HAD to leave the house and become homeless since my mom didn't believe me... and after he attacked her on the street and left her bloody...

she showed up at my job with one shoe on and shaking like a leaf. My mom never apologized to me or acknowledged that I was right about her guy.

She took him back repeatedly... every time she took him back she would turn on me and treat me like shiot and dog me.

Every time the police would haul that jerk away after beating her to a bloody pulp I would be there to nurse her back and help her despite how she treated me.

I had enough of my family's shit and left them alone for 3 years...

they came to my house all wanting to have a relationship and I put my foot down.

To this day I will tolerate no shit from my mother, brother, sister, nieces, and now my father.

I had to make a stand and my family hated me for standing up for my mom while she was in a abusive relationship. Because even she wanted to stay in that mess.

I have a crazy family. That's just the tip of the iceberg.

:disbeleif:

You are strong and brave for what you have been through.

kewlschool said:

You are strong and brave for what you have been through.

TY .

I am glad to have met normal people growing up. I measured their lifestyles against my family life and knew the crap going on in my family was NOT normal.

I thank God for that because I was able to strive for normalcy in my life and a peaceful home for my children and me.

We keep my family at a distance. If they visit I keep it short (3 hours or less) this way I am assured of a pleasant visit. Any longer and it gets ugly.

I use an egg timer ( no joke)... 3 hours... then ya gotta go! Here's your coat (s), nice seeing you, buh-bye now! GTFOH

I made peace with the fact that my family is ghetto... So now I know how to deal with them. I love them all but I don't really like them. I am learning to appreciate my mother, its a slow process, but a worthwhile one.

God bless them.

I have a brother and one of my sisters that I care about and keep in contact with. The rest of my family that I loved such as my mother, grandparents, and great aunts are all dead. As for the rest of my living family, I haven't seen them in years and the ones that I have seen in recent years can kiss my ass.

kimrachell said:

i don't like to say bad things about others, but i must say i have an awlful family that hates one another! no one is kind to the other one, they are always looking to bring someone else in the family pain and suffering. i don't understand it, and i never will! there is one person in my family that suffers from mental illness that doesn't seek help, and causes me constant hurt almost by the things they do and say. the only way i can deal with it is because i live in another state far away from this person.

some of the things i have seen done and said in my family is just insane, and for that reason i never get to spend holidays or birthdays with family. i feel jealous when i read about people visiting their parents or other family for christmas, because in my family it just can't happen.

i have always been the kind of person that loves for family to be kind and loving to each other. and get together for holidays and birthdays. it really makes me sad that my son misses out on that because people in my family cannot stop fighting or living in the past.

sometimes in order to protect yourself though, you must divorce yourself from family.

From what I've seen, you're very much into family, well, your husband's family anyway, and church. That's usually the type of person I clash with but you have always been kind, respectful, and nonjudgemental to us freaks, outcasts, and wierdos around here and we absolutely love you for it! If your family has a problem with you, it's their loss, not yours.

Kinda.

Fortunately, no

I am not real close with my dad, but we get along just fine. Everyone else I get along with just fine. Maybe if I spent more time with extended family there would be a bigger problem, but as it is they are scattered all over the country.

I actually wish I had more opportunity to get sick of them.

paintedlady said:

OH YES!!!!

At one time in my life I decided to stay the hell away from ALLLLLLLLL of my family members EXCEPT for my kids.

To this day I just keep to my myself for my own sanity. I was able to let go of much hurt and forgive my sister and my own mother, father, brother, and extended family .....

many circumstances occured when people dogged me and lied about me and set out to hurt me in my own family...

ONE example>>>

my mom moved in a possesive guy in the home. He was nice at first but quickly turned into a monster. One day he threatened her and I pulled him aside and said

"If you don't trust my mom you should leave.. threaten her again I will call the police".

You see, I was an adult in my mom's home, but I helped my mom buy her house. I gave her $$$ for the deposit (she didn't have any savings) and I gave her an application for a 1st time home buyers program since she spoke little English and I was only 19 and couldn't buy the house myself since I just had a baby and had no credit.

When I was home alone with him he threatened me... we had a quick knife fight and he ran off to my mom's job.

My mom returned from work only believing his side of the story and I had to leave. I was homeless with a son.

I helped my mom buy that house but I couldn't stay in it, nor did I qualify for housing since I made too much money at a job I had. So me and my kid were on the streets until I found a place of my own.

After a year of being homeless... and finally getting my own place.... I forgave my mom but told her I didn't trust her man.

She still brought that dude to my place and shortly after he tried to kill my mother and my brother on separate occasions.

The family never believed me that I said he was dangerous and he wanted to hurt me and my son.

I HAD to leave the house and become homeless since my mom didn't believe me... and after he attacked her on the street and left her bloody...

she showed up at my job with one shoe on and shaking like a leaf. My mom never apologized to me or acknowledged that I was right about her guy.

She took him back repeatedly... every time she took him back she would turn on me and treat me like shiot and dog me.

Every time the police would haul that jerk away after beating her to a bloody pulp I would be there to nurse her back and help her despite how she treated me.

I had enough of my family's shit and left them alone for 3 years...

they came to my house all wanting to have a relationship and I put my foot down.

To this day I will tolerate no shit from my mother, brother, sister, nieces, and now my father.

I had to make a stand and my family hated me for standing up for my mom while she was in a abusive relationship. Because even she wanted to stay in that mess.

I have a crazy family. That's just the tip of the iceberg.

:disbeleif:

Honey, when it comes to these women that have lowdown men, you're fighting a losing battle because those crazy heffers will choose that damn man over everyone else every single time. I've seen it too many times. I don't know what kind of spell they have over these women because all a motherfucker has to do is piss me off with words and I'm through with him, let alone lift a hand in violence because I'd probably kill his ass for it. I just don't understand these crazy women for taking these no good men back. But the again, I'm a whore who's at the point that all a man can do for me is give me the dick and not spoil it by talking so I'll never understand it.

vainandy said:

paintedlady said:

OH YES!!!!

At one time in my life I decided to stay the hell away from ALLLLLLLLL of my family members EXCEPT for my kids.

To this day I just keep to my myself for my own sanity. I was able to let go of much hurt and forgive my sister and my own mother, father, brother, and extended family .....

many circumstances occured when people dogged me and lied about me and set out to hurt me in my own family...

ONE example>>>

my mom moved in a possesive guy in the home. He was nice at first but quickly turned into a monster. One day he threatened her and I pulled him aside and said

"If you don't trust my mom you should leave.. threaten her again I will call the police".

You see, I was an adult in my mom's home, but I helped my mom buy her house. I gave her $$$ for the deposit (she didn't have any savings) and I gave her an application for a 1st time home buyers program since she spoke little English and I was only 19 and couldn't buy the house myself since I just had a baby and had no credit.

When I was home alone with him he threatened me... we had a quick knife fight and he ran off to my mom's job.

My mom returned from work only believing his side of the story and I had to leave. I was homeless with a son.

I helped my mom buy that house but I couldn't stay in it, nor did I qualify for housing since I made too much money at a job I had. So me and my kid were on the streets until I found a place of my own.

After a year of being homeless... and finally getting my own place.... I forgave my mom but told her I didn't trust her man.

She still brought that dude to my place and shortly after he tried to kill my mother and my brother on separate occasions.

The family never believed me that I said he was dangerous and he wanted to hurt me and my son.

I HAD to leave the house and become homeless since my mom didn't believe me... and after he attacked her on the street and left her bloody...

she showed up at my job with one shoe on and shaking like a leaf. My mom never apologized to me or acknowledged that I was right about her guy.

She took him back repeatedly... every time she took him back she would turn on me and treat me like shiot and dog me.

Every time the police would haul that jerk away after beating her to a bloody pulp I would be there to nurse her back and help her despite how she treated me.

I had enough of my family's shit and left them alone for 3 years...

they came to my house all wanting to have a relationship and I put my foot down.

To this day I will tolerate no shit from my mother, brother, sister, nieces, and now my father.

I had to make a stand and my family hated me for standing up for my mom while she was in a abusive relationship. Because even she wanted to stay in that mess.

I have a crazy family. That's just the tip of the iceberg.

:disbeleif:

Honey, when it comes to these women that have lowdown men, you're fighting a losing battle because those crazy heffers will choose that damn man over everyone else every single time. I've seen it too many times. I don't know what kind of spell they have over these women because all a motherfucker has to do is piss me off with words and I'm through with him, let alone lift a hand in violence because I'd probably kill his ass for it. I just don't understand these crazy women for taking these no good men back. But the again, I'm a whore who's at the point that all a man can do for me is give me the dick and not spoil it by talking so I'll never understand it.

I swear I wish I had you as a friend to chill out with. You're like the sibling I wish I had.

Back in 2009 and early 2010, I decided to nearly cut all ties or keep distance from a lot of relatives. Nearly all of my immediate aunts and uncles and most of my material first cousins. There's so many times you can verbally abuse someone or talk behind their back for absolutely no reason until they reach a boiling point

vainandy said:

kimrachell said:

i don't like to say bad things about others, but i must say i have an awlful family that hates one another! no one is kind to the other one, they are always looking to bring someone else in the family pain and suffering. i don't understand it, and i never will! there is one person in my family that suffers from mental illness that doesn't seek help, and causes me constant hurt almost by the things they do and say. the only way i can deal with it is because i live in another state far away from this person.

some of the things i have seen done and said in my family is just insane, and for that reason i never get to spend holidays or birthdays with family. i feel jealous when i read about people visiting their parents or other family for christmas, because in my family it just can't happen.

i have always been the kind of person that loves for family to be kind and loving to each other. and get together for holidays and birthdays. it really makes me sad that my son misses out on that because people in my family cannot stop fighting or living in the past.

sometimes in order to protect yourself though, you must divorce yourself from family.

From what I've seen, you're very much into family, well, your husband's family anyway, and church. That's usually the type of person I clash with but you have always been kind, respectful, and nonjudgemental to us freaks, outcasts, and wierdos around here and we absolutely love you for it! If your family has a problem with you, it's their loss, not yours.

aww...thank you andy! i love you all too!

Unfortunately. More specifically my mother and most of her family. Most dysfunctional bunch I've ever seen in my life.

But we're stil family. And family stays together. Albeit in spirit...but I won't take no BS or drama.

vainandy said:

paintedlady said:

OH YES!!!!

At one time in my life I decided to stay the hell away from ALLLLLLLLL of my family members EXCEPT for my kids.

To this day I just keep to my myself for my own sanity. I was able to let go of much hurt and forgive my sister and my own mother, father, brother, and extended family .....

many circumstances occured when people dogged me and lied about me and set out to hurt me in my own family...

ONE example>>>

my mom moved in a possesive guy in the home. He was nice at first but quickly turned into a monster. One day he threatened her and I pulled him aside and said

"If you don't trust my mom you should leave.. threaten her again I will call the police".

You see, I was an adult in my mom's home, but I helped my mom buy her house. I gave her $$$ for the deposit (she didn't have any savings) and I gave her an application for a 1st time home buyers program since she spoke little English and I was only 19 and couldn't buy the house myself since I just had a baby and had no credit.

When I was home alone with him he threatened me... we had a quick knife fight and he ran off to my mom's job.

My mom returned from work only believing his side of the story and I had to leave. I was homeless with a son.

I helped my mom buy that house but I couldn't stay in it, nor did I qualify for housing since I made too much money at a job I had. So me and my kid were on the streets until I found a place of my own.

After a year of being homeless... and finally getting my own place.... I forgave my mom but told her I didn't trust her man.

She still brought that dude to my place and shortly after he tried to kill my mother and my brother on separate occasions.

The family never believed me that I said he was dangerous and he wanted to hurt me and my son.

I HAD to leave the house and become homeless since my mom didn't believe me... and after he attacked her on the street and left her bloody...

she showed up at my job with one shoe on and shaking like a leaf. My mom never apologized to me or acknowledged that I was right about her guy.

She took him back repeatedly... every time she took him back she would turn on me and treat me like shiot and dog me.

Every time the police would haul that jerk away after beating her to a bloody pulp I would be there to nurse her back and help her despite how she treated me.

I had enough of my family's shit and left them alone for 3 years...

they came to my house all wanting to have a relationship and I put my foot down.

To this day I will tolerate no shit from my mother, brother, sister, nieces, and now my father.

I had to make a stand and my family hated me for standing up for my mom while she was in a abusive relationship. Because even she wanted to stay in that mess.

I have a crazy family. That's just the tip of the iceberg.

:disbeleif:

Honey, when it comes to these women that have lowdown men, you're fighting a losing battle because those crazy heffers will choose that damn man over everyone else every single time. I've seen it too many times. I don't know what kind of spell they have over these women because all a motherfucker has to do is piss me off with words and I'm through with him, let alone lift a hand in violence because I'd probably kill his ass for it. I just don't understand these crazy women for taking these no good men back. But the again, I'm a whore who's at the point that all a man can do for me is give me the dick and not spoil it by talking so I'll never understand it.

I thought of this t-shirt for you, immediately...

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