Watching MTV's The Friend Zone.. and am wondering if it creates more bad feelings than good. If you guys haven't watched this show yet, I'll try 2explain. You see, the show is about a person who has a best friend in their life that they either recently or since the being of their friendship have interest in becoming more than just friends. They tell this best friend that they are going 2go on a blind date and would like that best friend to act as their wing man. They ask their friend 2 help them get ready and ask for them 2come as support until their blind date arrives. As that best friend departs in anticipation for the arrival of the blind date... the person has 2reveal their feelings to them. Now this can go 2ways.. That best friend could be like over joyed and be like.. yea I feel the same way.. I 've luved u 2 but didn't know how 2get out of the friend zone or that best friend could be like.. what??? why did u lye 2me, how could you.. I only see u as a friend. I feel tricked and on the spot!!

Lately in the episodes I've seen, ppl are feeling tricked and that person has lost their best friend. I have seen them ending happily ever-after too though. The ones that end bad are heartbreaking.

Question fellow orgers.. Has this ever happen 2u. A friend that u thought was just ur friend suddenly coming 2 u wanting more? Have u had a friend that has told u since the first time they meet you they wanted more but waited soo long and ended up in the friend zone b4 they could muster enough guts 2tell u? On this show ppl waited up2 5yrs before they had enough guts 2say something. How long do u wait? Do you tell them right away, fearing u might scare them away, or wait a little while thinking if they get 2know u better u would have a better chance. Become their friend and hope maybe they will see how great u are. IHO, I used to believe at love at first sight and that never got me anywhere.. now I just believe in2 lust at first sight. I've gotten 2know ppl and then fall in luv w/them. How do you guys feel about this.. Lets discuss....

Here is a link from the shows creator discussing her show: http://realitytvmagazine....ty-series/

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gotta check it out

I always fuck them first and then decide if it's something I want to pursue.

Every male friend I've ever had either wanted to be more than friends, or I wanted more and we slept together...except one. He and I were truly just really good friends.

I've watched this show on a few occasions. It's pretty entertaining, but also heartbreaking when it doesn't go well. I can understand how some of those people would feel setup by their "friends" by choosing to reveal their crush to them on a television show.

As far as my personal experiences; there has never been anything that needed to be revealed to me. Any friend that may have ever had feelings other than friendship for me was always apparent from the beginning, and is not something that can be easily hidden from me. I have on occasion had to let a friend know that I wasn't interested in them in any way aside from being friends. If they had tried to pull me on TV to "reveal" their crush, it would not have gone well for them, lol. Some things are best handled in private. To attempt a stunt like that on TV would just come across as a huge manipulation to me, as if the TV camera's would influence or assure my compliance (...they would not).

Then on the other hand; any friend that I've ever developed "feelings" for I usually keep to myself as I opt to not act upon them. If a sexual/romantic relationship is meant to be, it usually doesn't require too much forethought, in my opinion. It usually just happens like spontaneous combustion, lol.

what the fuck is a "friend"?? Can you fuck them too?

Cuz I just wanna fuck.

Fuck.

JustErin said:

Every male friend I've ever had either wanted to be more than friends, or I wanted more and we slept together...except one. He and I were truly just really good friends.

was he a eunuch or just blind?

RicoN said:

JustErin said:

Every male friend I've ever had either wanted to be more than friends, or I wanted more and we slept together...except one. He and I were truly just really good friends.

was he a eunuch or just blind?

haha

We actually talked about it once because we both thought it was kind of weird that it never went there. We both said that we really liked each other but there was no sexual chemistry at all, no physical attraction.

ScarletScandal said:

what the fuck is a "friend"?? Can you fuck them too?

Cuz I just wanna fuck.

Fuck.

its called a fuck buddy

eavlinc said:

I always fuck them first and then decide if it's something I want to pursue.

JustErin said:

Every male friend I've ever had either wanted to be more than friends, or I wanted more and we slept together...except one. He and I were truly just really good friends.

For me its the opposite. Everyone of my male friends jst wanted 2be my friend. I had one that told me he liked me in college.. but he knew and I knew it wouldnt work because of reasons he didnt know yet...but I did.... a couple of years later he came out of the closet. Now hes my best gay friend.

banks said:

gotta check it out

u should. You'd be surprise on how long ppl can keep their feelings bottled up inside....

PDogz said:

As far as my personal experiences; there has never been anything that needed to be revealed to me. Any friend that may have ever had feelings other than friendship for me was always apparent from the beginning, and is not something that can be easily hidden from me.

One one episode everyone knew except for the guy.. even his family knew. They were like .. hes kinda dumb..everyone knows that..

The girl that had the crush said she is soo obvious, but he doesn't pay attention.

sunflower7 said:

eavlinc said:

I always fuck them first and then decide if it's something I want to pursue.

What?

sunflower7 said:

PDogz said:

As far as my personal experiences; there has never been anything that needed to be revealed to me. Any friend that may have ever had feelings other than friendship for me was always apparent from the beginning, and is not something that can be easily hidden from me.

One one episode everyone knew except for the guy.. even his family knew. They were like .. hes kinda dumb..everyone knows that..

The girl that had the crush said she is soo obvious, but he doesn't pay attention.

I haven't seen that episode and I certainly can't speak for that particular guy, but I've been in situations where the girl assumed I was unaware of her admiration for me, but that wasn't the case at all. It was only that I wasn't giving her admiration any energy whatsoever because I had absolutely no interest in her in that way. In cases like that I've noticed that sometimes the more I ignore their advances, the more they turn up the heat, as if they must assume that I'm not getting the message or that I'm not paying attention. I think this happens sometimes more often than some girls may realize, until it's too late and they wind up feeling foolish... or hurt.

ScarletScandal said:

what the fuck is a "friend"?? Can you fuck them too?

Cuz I just wanna fuck.

Fuck.

eavlinc said:

sunflower7 said:

What?

My thoughts exactly ... he fucks them 2see if they r a suitable friend....