PurpleJedi said:

My oldest & dearest friend is my daughter's godmother. I've known her since the 8th grade.

I am not attracted to her.

Right now I would say that I have three female friends and six guy friends. Not acquaintances, but actual friends.

Two of my female friends (my comadre included) I am not attracted to. The other I would get with in a HEARTBEAT should the situation ever present itself. But I'm still her friend, and I lend an ear when she's got troubles and wants to vent. She sees me as a friend.

I'm very "safe" you see.

GUYS TAKE NOTE: A group of us hung out and went to a bar, there was lots of alcohol involved (LOTS), she had a fight with her boyfriend (happens to be my friend as well) and to get "back" at him she flashed her puppies and put my face in 'em.

Sometimes there are definite benefits to being a "safe" friend.

This makes the most sense to me. I believe we all have a friend that we would would have sex with easily.....

You know what, PurpleJedi? You're vastly becoming one of my favs, dude.

Tittypants said:

PurpleJedi said:

My oldest & dearest friend is my daughter's godmother. I've known her since the 8th grade.

I am not attracted to her.

Right now I would say that I have three female friends and six guy friends. Not acquaintances, but actual friends.

Two of my female friends (my comadre included) I am not attracted to. The other I would get with in a HEARTBEAT should the situation ever present itself. But I'm still her friend, and I lend an ear when she's got troubles and wants to vent. She sees me as a friend.

I'm very "safe" you see.

GUYS TAKE NOTE: A group of us hung out and went to a bar, there was lots of alcohol involved (LOTS), she had a fight with her boyfriend (happens to be my friend as well) and to get "back" at him she flashed her puppies and put my face in 'em.

Sometimes there are definite benefits to being a "safe" friend.

This makes the most sense to me. I believe we all have a friend that we would would have sex with easily.....

You know what, PurpleJedi? You're vastly becoming one of my favs, dude.

I feel like all men catch feelings they do not like the f word (f = friend) I notice.

babybugz said:

I feel like all men catch feelings they do not like the f word (f = friend) I notice.

Nah...we like the "f" word ALOT...just that depending on how hot we think you are determines WHICH "f" word we associate with you.

PurpleJedi said:

babybugz said:

I feel like all men catch feelings they do not like the f word (f = friend) I notice.

Nah...we like the "f" word ALOT...just that depending on how hot we think you are determines WHICH "f" word we associate with you.

Whatever. lol

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The guy eating the sandwich looks like he'd be fun to go for a drink with.

And my answer to the question...

I think men and women can be just friends, but I think it depends on the situation. I have male friends who I could talk about ANYTHING with, but I wouldn't necessarily have those kinds of conversations with girl-friends. I tend to find it easier to talk to men about certain stuff. Women can sometimes be too serious/emotional (?) and men tend to be more (in my opinion) to the point and black and white - which I prefer.

Back in the day I would probably sleep with any guy I had this kind of friendship with. Now I have these kinds of friendships with married men and i'm married too.. so the shagging part clearly doesn't happen and we (usually) know that no lines are going to be crossed.

Reading that back, it probably won't make much sense, but it makes perfect sense to me.

I cant be ur friend if I wanna have sex w/u. The vibes I send subconsciously would be undeniable and make it uncomfortable for us 2hang out if you are not feeling the same way. Trying 2 make friendship work with someone that doesn't like u that way would drive me crazy, especially when that person starts to talk about or want advice on a love interest..or somebody they want 2bang

Thisi si a pretty simple question: they can be whatever YOU believe they can be. Some men have a problem with their women hsving male friends, and vice versa.

I have several male friends whose women can't stand me. It used to piss me off to no end, particularly since I knew these guys way before their women came along but I got to the point where i just put space in between my male friends and I when they are in relationships. It sucks that i have to do that but I rather do that than deal with the drama of it all.

I will never understand it.

Vendetta1 said:

Thisi si a pretty simple question: they can be whatever YOU believe they can be. Some men have a problem with their women hsving male friends, and vice versa.

I have several male friends whose women can't stand me. It used to piss me off to no end, particularly since I knew these guys way before their women came along but I got to the point where i just put space in between my male friends and I when they are in relationships. It sucks that i have to do that but I rather do that than deal with the drama of it all.

I will never understand it.

I made the same experience in the last years since I am in a long time relationship. Some women seem to think just because my boyfrind is living abroad I am suddenly interested in their men, it's just ridiculous . When I was still with my ex it was much less of a problem.

Yes, men and women can be friends.

My english teacher once said to me, "Justice, no man will every have a friendship with a woman without the thoughts of fucking her crossing through his mind."

And I suppose that's true. But I do have a very dear friend, who happens to be male. We've had "ackward" moments, but we've never fucked. We still remain good friends. If we become a couple, then it was meant to be. But if not, I'm very much satisfied being his friend just as much as he is mine.