tackam said:

Tranny boyfriend?! Uh, does that mean what I think it means?

JamesMarshallHendrix said:

Oh my!

Any place where I can have a garden! I want to grow vegetables, fruits, flowers, and herbs!

By the powers vested in me by Prince.org,I now pronounce JamesMarshallHendrix and LaVisHh husband and wife. You may the bride. However if you hurt her I will personally have to tear out your tongue and pimpslap the sh*t out of you. Congratulations to the new couple.
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LaVisHh said:

Well that was forward wasn't it? We can get to know each other but the goal is the important thing.

Herbs...mmm

Growing fruit may be a challenge in Montana, so maybe Mexico?

LaVisHh said:

told ya!

TongueBox said:

Hey now, don't be marrying me off...I need to inspect the merchandise first.

JamesMarshallHendrix said:

How's Portugal?

MrBliss said:

LaVisHh said:[quote]

JamesMarshallHendrix said:

Sure, I've always wanted to see Portugal and Spain.

They probably have people to dig ditches, so I'll have to come up with another way to make some cash.

LaVisHh said:

It's real. My girlfriend's parents live this life in the countryside in Oregon. Their place/property is beautiful...its on a large farm with its own pond and next to a river. They can afford this because they have a fair inheritance from the fact that a great great great great grandfather was co-founder for a major retail company. My girlfriend and I plan on living that kind of life later on, someday, too...either in the US or Australia, most likely...or possibly New Zealand.



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It sounds like an ideal life in the country Lav.
I like busy cities and would miss the pace of life.
I just wish London wasn't so cold.

I do share some of your dream with you. I currently want to move to New Zealand, live in a small detached house near a forest, with my own vegetable plot and with stunning countryside as scenery. I want to change my environment to fit in more with my dream. I am bored and I get nothing from nightclubs, bars etc. I want the country... and lots and lots of it.
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matt said:

I think women should probably work/have a career when they are young...depending on someone else is so scarey!

I would not like looking at my 40's with no income of my own and hubby getting the 40's itch (you know?) So I tell my daughter...get in a position to take care of yourself, whether you ever have to or not.
I also have a home-based business for "mad money" for stuff like the celly.
I live in the country, but 40 miles from the gulf coast beaches and right in between two large metropolitan areas.
I did not plan it out...it just happened...(Ahhh!)

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[This message was edited Fri Feb 21 4:20:19 PST 2003 by SensualMelody]

LAV...


i do that every few years...

its nice to stay home with babies for a bit then it gets boring. My first i went straight in to my undergraduate degree. After that went to work for like 3 or 4 years then went for my masters had another child. Went to work for 3 years and had my next child. But this time I didnt stay home and brought the little tyke with me for the first 6 months of his life. IT WAS AWSOME..!! Had my office set up like a nursery and a seperate place to meet with clients. Then I stayed home again for about 1 year and here i go working again. I like babies and staying home with them. Once they are old enough to talk to but not carry on a conversation I AM OUTA THERE AND OFF TO WORK..


i would NOT no way want to stay home after they were beyond the age of 2. BORING BORING...

LaVisHh said:

Most of my life with my ex husband was just this way! (only we WONT b growing old TOGETHER) It's a dream depending on WHO u R with...however, i always had a vision of going to college (as i did briefly), and "he" was jealous of the ppl i met, & my grades etc. he made enough money at 2 incomes, so i didnt have 2 work. in our opinions, we thought it best if the mother stays home with the children though. still do. ppl who dont have a husband making good money however, want the things the ones that do have, so 2 ppl work. also, there r many ppl who must work as things r expensive. plus single moms have NO choice. 4 some reason, since the 70's & the womens movement, one is made to feel inferior if your a "stay at home mom". why? raising ones children is a very IMPORTANT JOB. if more moms stayed home, imo, our future world would be less of a worry as our children would make it a better place than i feel it is heading in now, due 2 so many reasons, one being too many working moms not taking their #1 jobs seriously enough.

I wanted to take this time to thank everyone for the wonderful responses, what a turnout!

grandebelle said:

BULLSHIT..!!!

how bout fathers staying home..??

or paying day care providers higher wages to ensure the highest trained individuals are caring for children.

who the fuck said it was a womans JOB to raise children..?

fuck that its a choice

just because some women either HAVE to work or CHOOSE to work does not mean they no not see the importance of being a PARENT

what an ignorant fuckin comment that demeans and subjugates the life of a woman

LaVisHh said:

i don't have a preference... if the woman wants to work, that's fine... if she doesn't that's fine, too...

however, most of the time, it's not really a choice these days...

this is my situation... my wife can't work right now because she's doing her student teaching (teaching in the school full-time, 5 days a week, with no pay)... she does everything a teacher does, which doesn't leave her time to work... as soon as she graduates, we're going to move out of this hillbilly dump and we'll both be working (may can't get here fast enough)...

she wants to teach... that's what she wants to do more than anything in the world... but, if she didn't want to work, that would be fine as long as i made enough money so that she didn't have to...

right now, i'm working my ass ragged... i work between 50 & 65 hours a week just to make ends meet... and we still have to cut corners all over the place... so, in our case, my one income isn't really enough, but we don't have any other option... so, yes, as soon as she is able to do, it will be necessary that she work... luckily, it's something that she wants to do anyway...

so, i'm sure that there are women who don't want to work, and men that want to be the sole source of income, but it's really not possible for most people...

hell, there are men who want to stay at home and let the women work, but that's generally not possible anymore either...


the world is fucked, what can i say... you work yourself to death... nonfuckingstop just to survive... and no one ever says, "i wish i had worked more" when they're on their deathbed... ...

Fhunkin said:

i dont think its that we didnt want it anymore...i think we just wanted to feel that that wasnt the only thing that we could do in a lifetime...ya know?

LaVisHh said:

Haven't met the type?
hmm...I wonder who it was a met then...

Heavenly said:

In a group setting...

LaVisHh said:

O! would love it! This is a far away dream! That's so far a way from me! It's so far away from me, - so far I just can't see. it's so far a way from me,yes so far away from me!

minneapolisgenius said:

Transexual? Yeah, though (s)he needs to be bi. Or whatever. (S)he doesn't HAVE to be tranny. But we're talking ideal here. In reality, anybody who likes us both and will sleep with us both is up for consideration. But we'd encourage cross dressing at the very least.

What? Can't a girl have a nice old fashioned fantasty about her life in her happy little triad? Geez.

LaVisHh said:

LAVISH - u r not old darlin' - he's too young to handle a woman like YOU!!! ... my new name when I meet men is "My name is Mrs. Robinson ...

I know exactly what you mean about the simple life - things are soo complicated and competitive now in the world - all these stupid reality shows "AM I HOT" "BACHELOR(ETTE)" - crap, places far too much emphasis on being a certain way to be accepted. Simple is sexy - u know, less is more ..
good luck to you to lav!!

lashious said:

Thank you!

DORA said:

First off, i DO NOT like that word "F+++" used in your every sentence. very unnecessary. and from reading some of ur other contributions to this forum, i can see u are a rather bitter person 4 some reason known only 2 urself, but taken out on the rest of us...cool it! i STILL shall try 2 clarify MY opinion 2 u however, AND it IS just MY opinion. so, cool it! i feel fathers can b very loving parents, and surely r capable of staying home with the children if they can & so choose. however, THIS THREAD is about "old fashioned" lifestyles that consisted of "mothers" staying home with the children. i still feel that however loving fathers r, a woman, (being the way we were raised different than men, & to an extent-but not enough, is changing now) is still the best candidate 4 the job of. we r more nuturing, patient, verbal, intuitive, loving, watchful, sensitive, more willing 2 be teachers, on & on, which is highly beneficial 2 children growing up. it doesnt matter "HOW HIGHLY PAID" ur day care care providers r or trained! they are NOT mother! cant replace her. if a woman HAS 2 work, imo, so b it. no choice does she have then. but if u want children just to say goodnight to them at bedtime, and shop with them on weekends, why have them? why want someone else influencing them when it's ur teachings/values of ones own family u want to instill in them! to b able to say U brought the child up, not society or some daycare worker. actually, if one has no other choice but to work, the grandparent or another CLOSE relative of the child is always preferable to daycare providers. and yes, this is where dad (if available) makes an excellent choice, but only 2nd to mom. granted, some women r not meant to bring up children & in those cases the child is better off elsewhere. better yet, use birth control. dont dump ur job on someone else. "THE OLD FASHIONED WAY" (which is the basic content of LaViSh's thread) is to have mom stay home AT LEAST till the children r schoolbound. (the most important years of a childs life, BTW) in years to come, we WILL see how all the kids being dumped at daycare ctrs r turning out. we can actually see it now, & it isnt good!!!

post is too long

didnt even fuckin read it