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PrintableI currently have this life...we don't live out in the country yet, but still. It's a good life. My wife seems happy. Fear is the mind-killer. | |
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chickengrease said: LaVisHh said: :
I have to say...looking at the times where women were home, getting laid, having children, cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, and taking care of her man would be a dream. Why isn't this acceptible anymore?  and you wonder why every man here wants you...  I've spoken to men who think this type of life is only attractive to women who want to "leech"...so I don't know. | |
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ian said: There's a lot to be said for the simple life
I was in the west of Ireland last year, in County Clare. Man I was blown away by how nice it was... two thirds of the country is busting their arses to live in the big city (Dublin) paying crazy money for rent and mortgages... and yet you could have a great life on the other side of the country with fresh air, big cheaper houses, and a more mellow pace of life. You should check it out LaV! Unfortunately I'm a total city urchin... I like the noise and bustle of big cities. However, living in cities has an adverse affect my health, breathing, blood pressure etc so I reckon I'll go rustic in my later years 
As for women staying at home and managing the household, having babies etc... nothing wrong with that, it's a very admirable thing to do. I'm all for it! The traditional roles exist for a reason (they work) and there's nothing wrong with people who still want that. Well said, ian. I agree with all that you said. I enjoy the city life too, but I really would prefer to have a man to share what I described with...the country setting would just make it perfect. | |
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teller said: I currently have this life...we don't live out in the country yet, but still. It's a good life. My wife seems happy.
 teller... I know she is. | |
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LaVisHh said: applekisses said: Fhunkin said: It was you women that didn't want that anymore !!
It's not that women didn't want that anymore, it's that they wanted a chance to be able to do something else if they wanted to...they wanted a choice. But, considering that women still make only 70 cents on the dollar for what a man makes doing the same job with the same education/level of experience (actual statistics for the state of Michigan) things are still not where they should be. This is sooo true, applekisses. This is another thing that bothers me...if I do work (and I do) it seems I get nowhere.  I agree. The 'system' is still set up so that the man in the relationship is the primary breadwinner. And, for those who are married or in stable long-term relationships, that works. But for single women (especially single moms) it puts them in real finanical hardship. I understand why you'd want an 'old-fashioned life' it's attractive to me too. But, that's only because we have seen the other side and worked our butts off outside AND inside the home. If we could do just one, it'd be a lot easier, huh? | |
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I love staying home and taking care of my child, and husband. There are days I get restless. Honestly I wouldn't want to be any where else. Being in the country would be the only thing other thing I could ask for. Until I can get that I'll just remember what the mountains look like and what it's like to look up in the night sky and see stars, and not street lights. It would be great to sit on the front porch in the evening and watch the sun go down... there is so much to be said about living in the country. Making myself homesick here! _____________________________________
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applekisses said: [...]If we could do just one, it'd be a lot easier, huh?
Oh yes!!! You totally understand where I am coming from!!! for you!!! | |
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Bella said: I love staying home and taking care of my child, and husband. There are days I get restless. Honestly I wouldn't want to be any where else. Being in the country would be the only thing other thing I could ask for. Until I can get that I'll just remember what the mountains look like and what it's like to look up in the night sky and see stars, and not street lights. It would be great to sit on the front porch in the evening and watch the sun go down... there is so much to be said about living in the country. Making myself homesick here!
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LaVisHh said: Bella said: I love staying home and taking care of my child, and husband. There are days I get restless. Honestly I wouldn't want to be any where else. Being in the country would be the only thing other thing I could ask for. Until I can get that I'll just remember what the mountains look like and what it's like to look up in the night sky and see stars, and not street lights. It would be great to sit on the front porch in the evening and watch the sun go down... there is so much to be said about living in the country. Making myself homesick here!
Appreciate it...and I see that you do. I do appreciate it... I just hope my husband knows how much I do! I hope he knows how much I appreciate him. [This message was edited Thu Feb 20 8:32:17 PST 2003 by Bella] _____________________________________
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Bella said: LaVisHh said: Bella said: I love staying home and taking care of my child, and husband. There are days I get restless. Honestly I wouldn't want to be any where else. Being in the country would be the only thing other thing I could ask for. Until I can get that I'll just remember what the mountains look like and what it's like to look up in the night sky and see stars, and not street lights. It would be great to sit on the front porch in the evening and watch the sun go down... there is so much to be said about living in the country. Making myself homesick here!
Appreciate it...and I see that you do. I do appreciate it... I just hope my husband knows how much I do! I hope he knows how much I appreciate him. [This message was edited Thu Feb 20 8:32:17 PST 2003 by Bella] Remind him. | |
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LaVisHh said: Bella said: LaVisHh said: Bella said: I love staying home and taking care of my child, and husband. There are days I get restless. Honestly I wouldn't want to be any where else. Being in the country would be the only thing other thing I could ask for. Until I can get that I'll just remember what the mountains look like and what it's like to look up in the night sky and see stars, and not street lights. It would be great to sit on the front porch in the evening and watch the sun go down... there is so much to be said about living in the country. Making myself homesick here!
Appreciate it...and I see that you do. I do appreciate it... I just hope my husband knows how much I do! I hope he knows how much I appreciate him. [This message was edited Thu Feb 20 8:32:17 PST 2003 by Bella] Remind him. He has clean socks! LOL [This message was edited Thu Feb 20 8:34:49 PST 2003 by Bella] _____________________________________
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Hmmm...these socks really ARE quite clean... Fear is the mind-killer. | |
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teller said: Hmmm...these socks really ARE quite clean...
Then my job is done... going back to bed! night _____________________________________
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LaVisHh said: applekisses said: [...]If we could do just one, it'd be a lot easier, huh?
Oh yes!!! You totally understand where I am coming from!!! for you!!! There are a lot of expectations on both women and men these days. The traditional roles still exist (men being the primary breadwinners and women being the caretakers of the home and children) but, now we have modern roles also to deal with on top of the traditional ones. So, we have women working 8 hour days and coming home to take care of kids/meals/house work and men working 8 hour days and coming home to yard work and some kid and house work issues. Also, we have all of these modern appliances that were designed to save time for us, but really all they've done is raise the level of expectation for how clean our homes are supposed to be! Little House on the Prairie take me away! | |
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applekisses said: [...]Little House on the Prairie take me away!
So true!!! | |
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Awe...
My kinda girl! I need to take my wife and baby and move back to Tennessee! Ah, my old backyard... 
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yamomma said: Awe...
My kinda girl! I need to take my wife and baby and move back to Tennessee! Ah, my old backyard...
[This message was edited Thu Feb 20 8:59:46 PST 2003 by yamomma] Wow... :O | |
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Not I...
I like my relationship the way it is... He works, I work and he goes to his home and I have mine..We both cook, we both clean... And I get laid regularly!  ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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LaVisHh said: Nah...I don't know if men want to live this way, seriously. The notion is that women need to contribute financially, don't you think?
My $.02... It's nice that Kim and I are "DINK's" (double income, no kids). But she herself made the decision to work--she has specifically stated that she has no interest in being a homemaker. I never pushed her in that direction--in fact, she knew she wanted a career before I even met her. Now, if she told me tonight that she wants to stop working when her current annual contract is up, we'd have some talking to do, but that's only because it would have an impact on our financial situation and the lifestyle decisions we've made. As for the city versus the country, well, I definitely prefer an urban lifestyle. But that's nothing more than my opinion--I don't think it's an ideal of society in general. Please note: effective March 21, 2010, I've stepped down from my prince.org Moderator position. |
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moderatori thought about this kind of life as well, but i know i'd get bored easily. plus, we are both very independant and only children so i don't think that lifestyle would work for us.
when we have kids, i'd like to stay home but i would probably still work as a freelancer or some other home based business. besides, billy's hos need a break sometime | |
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Yeah, I've always wanted to tool to work in one of these babies:  | |
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LaV, well you do make pretty babies. I've seen that first hand, you're little girl is adorable. I think if that's your "dream" lifestyle then don't give up on it. There has got to a man out there that is right for you, you just haven't found him yet. Personally I could not live in the country. Crickets chirpin' all the time,it would make me wanna go to the bathroom. | |
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TongueBox said: LaV, well you do make pretty babies. I've seen that first hand, you're little girl is adorable. I think if that's your "dream" lifestyle then don't give up on it. There has got to a man out there that is right for you, you just haven't found him yet. Personally I could not live in the country. Crickets chirpin' all the time,it would make me wanna go to the bathroom.
I bet you'd be up all night killin them with a swatter!
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 Swatter,Raid,my foot. Maybe I could just buy a few snakes to eat all of the crickets. Bad idea then I have to make sure the snakes wouldn't wrap around me and squeeze me to death.  [This message was edited Thu Feb 20 11:17:46 PST 2003 by TongueBox] | |
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You're welcome. Right back at ya. <---purple huggle with a little bit of gold thrown | |
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TongueBox said: You're welcome. Right back at ya.
<---purple huggle with a little bit of gold thrown
Can't wait to spend time with you and Gemini again...I don't spend enough quality friendship time. | |
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I want to live in a small but lush condo on Capitol Hill in Seattle with my husband, our tranny boyfriend, our two adorable rats (Riker and Picard) and our lovely rescued Greyhound. Three incomes, three pets, no kids, no yardwork.
We're about a third there. Our condo is small, but not lush or on Capitol Hill. We've got the rats (who are, in fact, called Riker and Picard), but no boyfriend or dog. | |
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tackam said: I want to live in a small but lush condo on Capitol Hill in Seattle with my husband, our tranny boyfriend, our two adorable rats (Riker and Picard) and our lovely rescued Greyhound. Three incomes, three pets, no kids, no yardwork.
We're about a third there. Our condo is small, but not lush or on Capitol Hill. We've got the rats (who are, in fact, called Riker and Picard), but no boyfriend or dog. At least you are getting there! | |
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LaVisHh said: :
I have to say...looking at the times where women were home, getting laid, having children, cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, and taking care of her man would be a dream. Why isn't this acceptible anymore? I dream of a house in the country, and a simple life of love, children, and growing old together. It would complete me. Anyone here dream of this type of life?
It's only a dream...it isn't real...it's only a dream...it isn't real... I've been in an Arabic country called "Qatar" ppl there live the life that you described but you wouldn't wanna go there cuz of the simple fact that the weather is "too much"
Yeah,,ain't nothing betta 4 a sistah(esp a mother like us) than a mellow life  I sho nuff dream of this type of life but not in Harlem [This message was edited Thu Feb 20 14:03:42 PST 2003 by Harlepolis] | |
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Lets get married Lav!
I'll try to find a job in the country, even if it's digging ditches, I've had enough of the Rat Race. Which country side to live in? Canada sounds good to me. | |
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