Do you do it?

Frequently?

Why? Why not?

When was your last time?

Any horror stories?

41 years on this earth and only this past year have I become a part of this cultural phenomenom.

Surprisingly, this is something prompted when myself or some random friend is having "issues" and just need to decompress.

Titty bars are a different thing altogether. Been to my second, and wow. The first one was a dive and the strippers left alot to be desired. The second was nicer with hotter women, but it was all about the benjamins. Lots & lots of benjamins.

I think that the nasty stripper with only one good tit (the other she was saving up for) was my LOL moment.

The drunk-ass guy that tried to bully my buddy into buying him a drink was my WTF moment.

ét tú?

No.

I don't drink alcohol, so it loses its appeal rather quickly when you're sober the whole night. Before the smoking ban in bars, my allergy to smoke made it much worse.

The last time I was in a bar was in July on my best friend's birthday.

Oh yeah... Lots of horror stories which include babysitting drunk friends.

chocolate1 said:

No.

I don't drink alcohol, so it loses its appeal rather quickly when you're sober the whole night. Before the smoking ban in bars, my allergy to smoke made it much worse.

The last time I was in a bar was in July on my best friend's birthday.

Oh yeah... Lots of horror stories which include babysitting drunk friends.

No alcohol? Not even an appletini? That's one molecule shy of Koolaid you know.

i agree ever since i've become the legal to consume alcohol. i've been to a few bars and the appeal does lose it self quickly if you are not drinking. I don't really like alcohol. or perhaps the people i am going with that i don't really end up having a good time.

Hate it since the smoking ban , it has become utterly boring

I still go though but don't enjoy myself anymore at all

So besides the booze and the smokes...what about the "scene"???

What about hanging around and B.S.'ing and possible hook-ups?

Do you do it?

Yes.

Well, clubs more often than bars.

Frequently?

2-3 times per month. I avoid doing it during the coldest months of winter, because I hate trying to get back home in the middle of the night when it's really cold.

Why? Why not?

I have to admit it's not a bad way to meet women. I also like the hilarious conversations you end up having with people that are quite different from the conversations you'd have when you're sober (for example, a few weeks ago some wannabe rapper chick insisted on rapping for me and I told her straight up that she's better off quitting). If you need a reason to avoid doing it then it can of course get quite expensive.

When was your last time?

Last weekend. I ended up sitting next to a really drunk girl on a pavement and making sure that she gets into a cab safely. Fun times.

Any horror stories?

Plenty. I've been pretty close to ending up in fights on many occasions (there's been some shoving around involved often). Due to my appearance - most people seem to think I am a metalhead - I get harassed quite often and people shout obscenities at me. In general, I don't think I really fit into the places I go to, but I sort of like that feeling too.

chocolate1 said:

No.

I don't drink alcohol, so it loses its appeal rather quickly when you're sober the whole night. Before the smoking ban in bars, my allergy to smoke made it much worse.

The last time I was in a bar was in July on my best friend's birthday.

Oh yeah... Lots of horror stories which include babysitting drunk friends.

I don't drink alcohol either and the smoke is annoying as bars here usually don't have a smoking ban .

Actually, that's one of the reasons why I finally started to go into bars in my late-twenties. They introduced the smoking ban here and it's been a lot nicer to stay in those places than before.

Not anymore...

40 now, and its not my scene.

I worked in a bar part time when younger and I remember that the older a customer was the more pathetic they looked hanging out there. I am now 50 years old and I can not imagine not looking pathetic. Maybe hanging out at the bar of a restaurant might not look so bad, sort of like eating with the bartender, but for the most part comes to mind.

I used to go out every single weekend. Since 2006, I've only been out about five or six times and each of those times, I was talked into going out and had an absolutely miserable time. In the black club, every single song played is as slow and dull as a Lawrence Welk record and in the white club, the music is that trance shit that's actually too fast to dance to and is repetitive and every song sounds the same.

The last time I went out, which was months ago, the rediculous smoking ban had gone into effect and it was even worse. Almost the entire club was empty except for about four or five people sitting around the bar. Everyone else was outside on the patio either smoking or hanging out with their friends who smoke. I recognized one of the guys sitting around the bar on the inside. For years, he would do that little fake cough that nonsmokers like to do when someone would light up a cigarette. I'm glad to see he's not happy now with this smoking ban because with everyone else sitting outside, that means all the dicks are outside also so unless his wimpy ass mans up, goes outside, and stops that fake cough he likes to do, he'll be going home alone without a dick every single night.

I have no desire though to ever go out again unless the music changes for the better. I refuse to throw away my hard earned money to sit and listen to some boring ass music all night long and be around folks half my age who have the musical tastes of senior citizens. Just last night, I pissed off my best friend because I refused to go see him in the show next week. I be damned if I'm gong to sit through some boring music all night and then have to dodge the police on the way home because I'd be under the influence. And even the song he will be performing is boring so that means the enitre night will be boring. He can just get over it.

the shadier the tit bar, the better.

Do you do it? Not as much as I used to.

Frequently? In college and through my late 20s, I frequently went to bars and clubs with my friends.

Why? Why not? I stopped going as much when I moved to NYC - I was working and in grad school; any spare time was usually spent at the library and I didn't have as much disposible income. Now when I go out for drinks with friends it's at wine bars or restaurants or I'll invite them over. In the summer, when it's nice we sit on my balcony and drink wine. I also go to bars and listen to live music every so often. I rarely get wasted anymore. I'm too old for hang overs - they're not fun.

When was your last time? I went out for drinks with some girl friends on Nov. 11.

Any horror stories? For sure, but no way am I posting them on the internet!

So besides the booze and the smokes...what about the "scene"???

What about hanging around and B.S.'ing and possible hook-ups?

I never went/go to bars or clubs by myself with the intention of meeting complete strangers. That's not really my scene. I always go with friends (or meet them there).

Nope. Never. I'm a good girl...

Do you do it? Not really since I moved out here.

Frequently? Nope, only been out 3 times in 11 months.

Why? Why not? Because it fucking sucks here. Back in Ontario I went out a couple times a month. Usually hit up a patio in the summer with friends for a few drinks and some laughs or to a club only when there was a DJ in town doing a show.

When was your last time? I don't even remember.

Any horror stories? Not really, just the usual crap women have to deal with from guys.

So besides the booze and the smokes...what about the "scene"??? What about it? I loved the "scene" I was in back home...I did not go to those crap top 40 hook up clubs. I went where people loved the music and loved being with their friends.

What about hanging around and B.S.'ing and possible hook-ups? I have never gone out to hook up with someone. Gross. I go out to be with friends.

I'm in a bar maybe four, five times a year. It can be very cool still with family & friends.



Do you do it? Yes, but not in a bar.

Frequently? Yes

Why? Why not? Because it fucking feels good.

When was your last time? I don't ever remember.

Any horror stories? You know Chucky. Halloween.

So besides the booze and the smokes...what about the "scene"??? It's definitely cool to hang out with good friends there every once.

What about hanging around and B.S.'ing and possible hook-ups? I tried hook-ups there before but, I ain't looking per se.

If I was not in a band I might not ever go to bars or clubs anymore. I actually like that it is an excuse to go to them though. I get to hang out, but I have a purpose for being there at some point during the evening.

And I don't have to live as the shut-in I surely would be otherwise!

When I was younger and going to bars & clubs, I hated it because of some delusion that I was supposed to be finding girlfriends there, and that never happe...well, not never!

Do you do it?

Yes, I love to hit the bar with some friends. But bars around here are like Cheer-ish type bars....everyone you've known forever is there, and theres 2 on every block.

Frequently?

Not often enough.

Why? Why not?

I have 3 kids.

When was your last time?

Last night....but it wasn't as enjoyable as I'd hoped. Usually I go out with my friends and my husband watches the kids or vice versa.....last night was one of the RARE occurences that we got to go together....but there was like a weird vibe....I dunno. Its kind of sad....we used to be great friends and have so much fun together. It was weird. I actually WANTED to leave and come home and I think he did too. Blah.

Any horror stories?

Nothing coming to mind.

Bars are an intricate part of gay culture.

Do you do it? No.

Frequently? No. I used to back in my mid to late 20's. I preferred shitty little dive bars mostly because I wasn't interested in hooking up and most of the men that went to those bars were either old or just... ew. I was a fun drunk. Rum and Coke was my drink of choice but since my friend was dating the bartender, I would do shots for free all of the time. Now I average about one drink every 3 months and it's mostly a blended drink from a restaurant.

Why? Why not? I can't afford it and my body can no longer handle alcohol in that sort of setting.

When was your last time? Oh heavens, I don't think I can remember. Wait, last February. It was my mom's retirement party. I intended to get drunk but quit drinking after 2 drinks. And I still felt like shit the next day.

Any horror stories? Every now and again I would drink tequila which never ends well. I get so rowdy and obnoxious when I drink tequila. All my pent up sexual aggression comes out and I take it out on random men. I would punch their arms and grab/slap their asses. Or I would just be mean for no reason. A biker once asked to play pool with some of my friends. I was drinking tequila shots and started to feel that aggression come over me. The biker dude missed his shot and before I could stop myself I said "way to go, fuckface!" He looked annoyed but ignored me. My friend thought the guy was going to kick my ass, since he looked like a tough guy. I went back up to the bar and while I was away he came up to my friend with a sad face and pathetic voice and asked her "why did she say that to me?" I hurt a biker's feelings.

JerseyKRS said:

not any more.

Most bars here are English pubs, minus the Cheers-style everybody's-welcome-atmosphere that they often have in Britain, so I usually avoid them. There's one that has free standup comedy nights though, which I like, and there's also a handful of more lounge-style bars with good electronic music. I can never get anyone to go to those with me though.

retina said:

Most bars here are English pubs, minus the Cheers-style everybody's-welcome-atmosphere that they often have in Britain, so I usually avoid them. There's one that has free standup comedy nights though, which I like, and there's also a handful of more lounge-style bars with good electronic music. I can never get anyone to go to those with me though.

Not sure why, but I never pictured you going to a comedy club.

JustErin said:

retina said:

Most bars here are English pubs, minus the Cheers-style everybody's-welcome-atmosphere that they often have in Britain, so I usually avoid them. There's one that has free standup comedy nights though, which I like, and there's also a handful of more lounge-style bars with good electronic music. I can never get anyone to go to those with me though.

Not sure why, but I never pictured you going to a comedy club.

Thanks...

I actually went to see Charlie Murphy (Eddie´s brother) a couple of weeks ago, and had a chat with him afterwards. I have great admiration for comedians. They have one of the hardest jobs in the world, and the ones that are good at what they do really impress me.

retina said:

JustErin said:

Not sure why, but I never pictured you going to a comedy club.

Thanks...

I actually went to see Charlie Murphy (Eddie´s brother) a couple of weeks ago, and had a chat with him afterwards. I have great admiration for comedians. They have one of the hardest jobs in the world, and the ones that are good at what they do really impress me.

I only say that because I wouldn't be caught dead in a comedy club.

I am going to see Jerry Seinfeld in February though...

JustErin said:

retina said:

Thanks...

I actually went to see Charlie Murphy (Eddie´s brother) a couple of weeks ago, and had a chat with him afterwards. I have great admiration for comedians. They have one of the hardest jobs in the world, and the ones that are good at what they do really impress me.

I only say that because I wouldn't be caught dead in a comedy club.

I am going to see Jerry Seinfeld in February though...

I know, they don't exactly pull in the most interesting crowds but if the performer is good it's still worth it.

I saw Seinfeld last year here in Stockholm. The tickets were insanely expensive (how many more Porsches does he need??) but it was a good show. He's pretty reliable by now. Nothing surprising, but very professional.

My answers are gonna be very similar to jone70.

Do you do it?

In my 20's I did quite a bit. Bars and clubs. These days it's a once a month or so kind of thing. Happy hour with coworkers, a pint with some food and to play some games with my bf if we feel like getting out of the house (there's a bar we like that has games to loan out, like Trivial Pursuit and such), a nice glass of wine with friends, etc. I rarely go "clubbing" anymore unless it's a DJ I wanna see. I see live music shows about once every couple of months as well, so long as someone I want to see is playing.

Frequently?

Not compared to my younger days. In my hey day I was going out 3-4 nights a week. Compared to other folks my age, probably a bit more.

Why? Why not?

Can't drink like I used to and I wouldn't want to anyway.

When was your last time?

Last Wednesday I went dancing. My favorite local DJ does a club night on Wednesdays and the Wednesday before Thanksgiving is the second biggest night for going out in the year here (right behind New Year's Eve). I went with my bf and some friends and danced all night and had a great time.

Any horror stories?

Plenty, but a lady doesn't tell.

Titty bars are a different thing altogether. Been to my second, and wow. The first one was a dive and the strippers left alot to be desired. The second was nicer with hotter women, but it was all about the benjamins. Lots & lots of benjamins.

What else would you expect it to be about? That's the only reason they do that line of work.

bars are cool if the bar is decent, and if it's 5:00-8:00 pm

but there's no chance in hell I'll spend the night in a bar...give me some cool dance/club instead, even if the music nowadays is pretty lame...

crappy bars are cool, I guess, if you're looking for easy men/women, dirt, cheap beer, fist fights or wtf moments...

titty bars are a whole different concept,... as long as there are men, there will be titty bars the only problem is that some strippers (specially the younger ones) keep giving me and my friends the evil eye, like "look at those 25 years old horny creeps, shame on you all :-s "

any horror stories? well, a 35-45 years old redneck once bullied me into accepting that black people are worthless; when I kept sayin' "no that's not true" for some long minutes I had to leave the bar: that guy was NOT the only agressive redneck around there...

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