I was tease in elementary and middle school .. I had friends though so it wasn't like I was a loner but it still hurt me because I was real senstive at that time. In high school not really (people tried but no) those were my best school years. But I think it did affect me how I am now with people I'm a mean bitch if you tick me off I'm not a people person

babybugz said:

I was tease in elementary and middle school .. I had friends though so it wasn't like I was a loner but it still hurt me because I was real senstive at that time. In high school not really (people tried but no) those were my best school years. But I think it did affect me how I am now with people I'm a mean bitch if you tick me off I'm not a people person

Yeah I was teased a lot between kindergarten and tenth grade (it started to dissipate around tenth grade because I began to find friends I could actually relate to ) The only time it got bad was in sixth grade/portions of seventh, eighth and ninth grade. But after ninth grade, I didn't let the teasing affect me as much. I was quite shy and sensitive as a kid but strange thing is I never cried. I did get angry but got over it quick. I think it was the talks with my mother that convinced me to focus on me rather than what people were saying about me being nerdy and shit.

Timmy84 said:

babybugz said:

I was tease in elementary and middle school .. I had friends though so it wasn't like I was a loner but it still hurt me because I was real senstive at that time. In high school not really (people tried but no) those were my best school years. But I think it did affect me how I am now with people I'm a mean bitch if you tick me off I'm not a people person

Yeah I was teased a lot between kindergarten and tenth grade (it started to dissipate around tenth grade because I began to find friends I could actually relate to ) The only time it got bad was in sixth grade/portions of seventh, eighth and ninth grade. But after ninth grade, I didn't let the teasing affect me as much. I was quite shy and sensitive as a kid but strange thing is I never cried. I did get angry but got over it quick. I think it was the talks with my mother that convinced me to focus on me rather than what people were saying about me being nerdy and shit.

Oh I was a cryer probably why i'm very no nonsense now LOL. But I never had a fight which is the interesting thing. I had to get tough but yeah I really don't care what people think of me now.. let your freak flag fly is what I say

babybugz said:

Timmy84 said:

Yeah I was teased a lot between kindergarten and tenth grade (it started to dissipate around tenth grade because I began to find friends I could actually relate to ) The only time it got bad was in sixth grade/portions of seventh, eighth and ninth grade. But after ninth grade, I didn't let the teasing affect me as much. I was quite shy and sensitive as a kid but strange thing is I never cried. I did get angry but got over it quick. I think it was the talks with my mother that convinced me to focus on me rather than what people were saying about me being nerdy and shit.

Oh I was a cryer probably why i'm very no nonsense now LOL. But I never had a fight which is the interesting thing. I had to get tough but yeah I really don't care what people think of me now.. let your freak flag fly is what I say

Pretty much with me too.

I have been bullied a lot, starting in childhood.

A boss once said of me "She wouldn't say shit if she had a mouth full of it".

Another boss said "She walks around like she's got a crusafix around her neck'.

The truth I think is this;

I was taught to turn the other cheek,

I was taught not to whine or tattle tale

I was tautht to not show anger

I was taught to always walk away from a fight

I was taught to never ask for anything, wait my turn, and be grateful no matter what I got or if I got anything at all.

Basically I was taught to be the perfect kid to bully, the perfect adult to bully and the perfect welcome mat. Period.

New girl in town! I have an inner alpha bitch and there is only so much she will ignore. She has boundaries. She will turn her cheek if she thinks you are having an off day and you really didn't mean to be so mean, otherwise you get what you give.

The alpha bitch doesn't care if she is liked, but she does care if she is respected.

"People say bullies are cowards. Well, they're wrong. Bullies are brave because they're strong"

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Deadflow3r said:

I have been bullied a lot, starting in childhood.

A boss once said of me "She wouldn't say shit if she had a mouth full of it".

Another boss said "She walks around like she's got a crusafix around her neck'.

The truth I think is this;

I was taught to turn the other cheek,

I was taught not to whine or tattle tale

I was tautht to not show anger

I was taught to always walk away from a fight

I was taught to never ask for anything, wait my turn, and be grateful no matter what I got or if I got anything at all.

Basically I was taught to be the perfect kid to bully, the perfect adult to bully and the perfect welcome mat. Period.

New girl in town! I have an inner alpha bitch and there is only so much she will ignore. She has boundaries. She will turn her cheek if she thinks you are having an off day and you really didn't mean to be so mean, otherwise you get what you give.

The alpha bitch doesn't care if she is liked, but she does care if she is respected.

All of this makes so much sense and like what I was coming off as or tried to for so many years though I was repressing my true feelings. In the past year at least if not longer, I'm really trying to stop being a pushover and be blunt and say what I feel when I need to, though I think it pushes people away at times. I guess it's a result of pain, but in the end I get what I want cause I showed concern. I just have to learn to be assertive, and not enough of us are taught that from an early age or getting positive reinforcement at home, cause that has a huge impact on your self-esteem in later life IMO.

alphastreet said:

Deadflow3r said:

I have been bullied a lot, starting in childhood.

A boss once said of me "She wouldn't say shit if she had a mouth full of it".

Another boss said "She walks around like she's got a crusafix around her neck'.

The truth I think is this;

I was taught to turn the other cheek,

I was taught not to whine or tattle tale

I was tautht to not show anger

I was taught to always walk away from a fight

I was taught to never ask for anything, wait my turn, and be grateful no matter what I got or if I got anything at all.

Basically I was taught to be the perfect kid to bully, the perfect adult to bully and the perfect welcome mat. Period.

New girl in town! I have an inner alpha bitch and there is only so much she will ignore. She has boundaries. She will turn her cheek if she thinks you are having an off day and you really didn't mean to be so mean, otherwise you get what you give.

The alpha bitch doesn't care if she is liked, but she does care if she is respected.

All of this makes so much sense and like what I was coming off as or tried to for so many years though I was repressing my true feelings. In the past year at least if not longer, I'm really trying to stop being a pushover and be blunt and say what I feel when I need to, though I think it pushes people away at times. I guess it's a result of pain, but in the end I get what I want cause I showed concern. I just have to learn to be assertive, and not enough of us are taught that from an early age or getting positive reinforcement at home, cause that has a huge impact on your self-esteem in later life IMO.

I think when people care a great deal if they are liked and accepted vs respected they are more likely going to experience bullying.

It takes a cerain amount of self love to do what is best for yourself whether or not people resent you for it.

I was watching "The Barbie Diaries" with my daughter, It is as totally stupid movie but one thing stood out to me. Barbie (the animated version of the doll!) said " my grandmother told me that other peoples opinion of you is none of your business". And that is really the truth.

Yeah I hope that last message was loud and clear. I get sad about how girls feel they need to live up to beauty standards or develop body image issues, though we can't blame the whole world either. I know Barbies have been criticized for that, though there are all types of Barbies and not just one kind.