I know there are a lot worse problems going on in the world, so I won’t pretend my tiny little issue is anything to get to upset over. But I can’t help but feel low, few months ago I started talking to this gentleman, over the course of time we met & instantly I felt something between us it was magic. We went on our first date the next day…. We held hands, stayed out late, played piano, drove around town, hung-out in the hot tub & cuddled. It was a night like those you see in the movies.

He was a short Taiwanese gentleman who was so sweet,, the way he talked to me made me feel spectacular. He would tell me how good it feels to hug me, and he would fall asleep on me, held my hand and played with it lol

I felt so happy with him, then he had to go back to school, we are both busy doing our own thing I understand. He is going to school for building cars, and this was going to be the hardest term of his school year.

I Would text him occasionally and he only texted back once fair enough, then I would send him messages every once & awhile nothing. I had not talked to him in a long time by last night, so I messaged him, as I had not done so in quite awhile. I saw he read my message and ignored it. He was also on aim for the 1^st time in 2 months I imed him & he asap went offline.

I don’t get it, I mean we had gone on many dates, but had not been official…. But in the back of my mind there was always hope & he said he wanted us to be more.

Now he is getting cold on me, I don’t text often I texted 3 times in the span of 3 week’s and I was like ok cool. I sent 2 messages within 2 months. I don’t think I was being overbearing considering how some people can be. But now I can’t help but think something is wrong, and I wish guys would seriously not pretend we are candyland and treat us like humans. Guys [and girls to] like to play games, it’s easier to just say what is what, if you don’t like me, think I’m ugly or whatever tell me.. Maybe not in such harsh words lol but why beat around the bush?

One gentleman I like said he really cared for me, but instead of telling me he wasn’t over his ex yet… he just stopped talking to me for like 5 months0_0 that is a lot more harsh & rude! Why not just tell me? That is all I ever ask is honesty

I can’t help but feel a bit or sorrow… he was a nice guy probably the nicest guy I ever went on dates with/:

I'm still young... i'm sure this won't be the last time this happens

Gunsnhalen said:

..my tiny little issue ...

PANDURITO said:

The word that come to mind is closure. It is difficult to let go of someone if I feel like there was mutual attraction there. When the chemistry feels right my instincts get all confused. I start wondering if I can trust my gut after all.

I also think it is a dumb idea to totally focus exclusively on one guy before the relationship is off the ground. Right now I am not sleeping with any man but there are at least 3 that I chat with and one has already taken me out once.

There was a video out there by some matchmaker lady and she was teaching women how to get married in a year and she kind of said the same thing. She said in the early stages, before you sleep together, you want to be dating 3 guys so you're not overly focused on that one. This advice does not work if you sleep with guys on the first date, at least I don't think so.