...when it's "just sex" Vs. being in a real relationship?

....If you can't get your self a "10", the least you could do is fuck 5 "2's".....?????

They are most important in both situations.

JustErin said:

They are most important in both situations.

The reason I ask is because a couple friends/family members of mine sleep with far more attractive women then the ones they end up dating/marrying.....I don't understand their concept whatsoever....

[Edited 10/27/11 4:29am]

Easy. They marry ones that are the feel are less likely to attract another partner and subsequently leave them.

JustErin said:

Easy. They marry ones that are the feel are less likely to attract another partner and subsequently leave them.

That's absolute bullshit imo, But I'm guessing your right. Which could lead to why infidelity is a major deal....I just don't see the reason to do some shit like that...

A lot of men are more concerned about their wives being good mothers and housewives than they are about them being hot and sexy.

But then they go hang out at strip clubs and/or go get some on the side.

JustErin said:

A lot of men are more concerned about their wives being good mothers and housewives than they are about them being hot and sexy.

But then they go hang out at strip clubs and/or go get some on the side.

I need a woman that's Hot, sexy, & a good mother. I'm not wasting my $ at strip clubs or with random ass on the side [too much emotional play, & I don't like it]....So are you saying that hot/sexy women are pretty much doomed & all are to be considered as ...well..."Fuckbags"?

Tittypants said:

JustErin said:

A lot of men are more concerned about their wives being good mothers and housewives than they are about them being hot and sexy.

But then they go hang out at strip clubs and/or go get some on the side.

I need a woman that's Hot, sexy, & a good mother. I'm not wasting my $ at strip clubs or with random ass on the side [too much emotional play, & I don't like it]....So are you saying that hot/sexy women are pretty much doomed & all are to be considered as ...well..."Fuckbags"?

No, that's not what I am saying at all.

JustErin said:

Tittypants said:

I need a woman that's Hot, sexy, & a good mother. I'm not wasting my $ at strip clubs or with random ass on the side [too much emotional play, & I don't like it]....So are you saying that hot/sexy women are pretty much doomed & all are to be considered as ...well..."Fuckbags"?

No, that's not what I am saying at all.

JustErin said:

A lot of men are more concerned about their wives being good mothers and housewives than they are about them being hot and sexy.

But then they go hang out at strip clubs and/or go get some on the side.

Sorry, Aries Lady. I have an Aries husband and as godly as he is, he is waaaay into me keeping it tight and sexy and working my itty bitty skinny jeans and fierce-go-get-'em attitude..and if you've ever had the pleasure of being with a Scorpio, then you know that, um...well...they're sexually intense...no strip clubs or hooker side pieces needed

That's awesome but I stand by what I said.

You guys may have it that way - which is the way it should be, imo...but it still doesn't change the fact that a lot of men think this way.

Maybe they marry less than sexy woman because after they get up in the morning with their sexpot they find there is nothing upstairs... "usually" the very sexy hot playboy types are a few bricks short a load...

And while the girls they marry may not be "hot as hell" there is alot to be said about the sexiness of having a brain, and knowing how to use it... Plus personality goes alongggggg way towards attraction... I dated a guy once who wasnt the best looking but he had this way about him and he was soooooo smooth, plus, he made up for it elsewhere

yes, looks usually are what initially attracts a person, but its what inside that makes a relationship

I think in the cases of married people YOU speak of...people marry ugly. Not true with the couples I know... (the married folk I know are gorgeous couples... unless they are both ugly) so I find the opposite to be true.

I think if a person gets serious with someone who is "uglier" than the people they tend to date may have met someone who has other qualities that attract and makes them a "keeper".

You can be fine as hell and sport a stink ass attitude and have people leave you because of it.

But I generally see men and women marry the best looking & acting person they can get. Its a total package thing IMO.

[Edited 10/27/11 6:35am]

The thing is, you might look at a couple and think, "Why is she/he with him?!"

But you don't know what the person sees that MAKES that person attracted to the other. Not everyone beholds beauty the same way.

Also... Some people overestimate their own attractiveness, so they think they're "entitled" to a certain standard. How do they know the people they are with aren't "settling" for them?

paintedlady said:

But I generally see men and women marry the best looking & acting person they can get. Its a total package thing IMO.

Looks are important no matter how you dice it.

Of course, each person has their own perception on what constitutes "good" and "bad" in the looks department.

But IMO, we all strive to get with the best looking AND acting person that we can get. Sometimes the looks outweigh the acts, and sometimes the other way around. However, when the situation is really skewed, that's when the troubles begin.

You can't really wank on personality.

MacDaddy said:

You can't really wank on personality.

Yeah...

...it goes without saying that looks are the biggest factor when looking for a quick hookup (or a quick wank)

It's the "relationship" aspect (the latter part of the OP's question) that complicates matters.

Personal hygiene and aesthetics are always important and that's completely natural.

Tittypants said:

JustErin said:

Easy. They marry ones that are the feel are less likely to attract another partner and subsequently leave them.

That's absolute bullshit imo, But I'm guessing your right. Which could lead to why infidelity is a major deal....I just don't see the reason to do some shit like that...

You seem like a secure man

angel345 said:

Tittypants said:

That's absolute bullshit imo, But I'm guessing your right. Which could lead to why infidelity is a major deal....I just don't see the reason to do some shit like that...

You seem like a secure man

I'm just not into cheating or playing with people's emotions....it's not fair. I just want to be happy & make my woman even happier...

[Edited 10/27/11 9:51am]

Not at all important, I HOPE.

Tittypants said:

angel345 said:

You seem like a secure man

I'm just not into cheating or playing with people's emotions....it's not fair. I just want to be happy & make my woman even happier...

[Edited 10/27/11 9:51am]

Regardless of their looks. Good for you

angel345 said:

Tittypants said:

I'm just not into cheating or playing with people's emotions....it's not fair. I just want to be happy & make my woman even happier...

[Edited 10/27/11 9:51am]

Regardless of their looks. Good for you

I have to be physically attracted first though, [I can't front]...

Tittypants said:

angel345 said:

Regardless of their looks. Good for you

I have to be physically attracted first though, [I can't front]...

Sure, that happens, regardless

People say they don't & shouldn't matter ... but in all honesty it does matter , in my opinion . I don't wont to walk around with my partner looking a hot mess & knowing he looks a hot mess . Even if a guy didn't have the cutest face . At least dress nice , smell nice , be nice , built nice .... etc . I know some people are probably reading this & thinking ' if you really love him , you wouldn't care what he looked like .' .... actually ...if i really love someone , I'm not going to let them walk out the house looking hideous .

but if you're just dating it doesn't matter.

This sounds so wrong but ...

If I'm in it for sex YES& NO... yes it matters ; if you're having unprotective sex . No it doesn't matter , if you are having protective sex . For the Baby's sake .

[Edited 10/27/11 10:55am]

MacDaddy said:

You can't really wank on personality.

Ugly people do not make great poll dancers.

However ugly people know this. They know that just looking at them is not going to do it and they make up for it in action. Nerds make great lovers. Why? They already look like shit so they are not worried about what they look like when the action starts. The keep it moving and are not trying to give you an underwear add and hope that is action enough.

What I am saying titty is that your ugly inlaws may look like shit in family photos but that does not mean that they don't get the party started in the sack. Good looks don't always = good fuck, unless of course you're wanking yourself while you look at them.

Deadflow3r said:

MacDaddy said:

You can't really wank on personality.

Ugly people do not make great poll dancers.

However ugly people know this. They know that just looking at them is not going to do it and they make up for it in action. Nerds make great lovers. Why? They already look like shit so they are not worried about what they look like when the action starts. The keep it moving and are not trying to give you an underwear add and hope that is action enough.

What I am saying titty is that your ugly inlaws may look like shit in family photos but that does not mean that they don't get the party started in the sack. Good looks don't always = good fuck, unless of course you're wanking yourself while you look at them.

I was just joking. But looks to me do matter. By no means to any 'industry standard', but just what apeases me. And my taste has quite a broad range.

MacDaddy said:

Deadflow3r said:

Ugly people do not make great poll dancers.

However ugly people know this. They know that just looking at them is not going to do it and they make up for it in action. Nerds make great lovers. Why? They already look like shit so they are not worried about what they look like when the action starts. The keep it moving and are not trying to give you an underwear add and hope that is action enough.

What I am saying titty is that your ugly inlaws may look like shit in family photos but that does not mean that they don't get the party started in the sack. Good looks don't always = good fuck, unless of course you're wanking yourself while you look at them.

I was just joking. But looks to me do matter. By no means to any 'industry standard', but just what apeases me. And my taste has quite a broad range.

I have also said this before what is ugly to one person may just be plain or unique to someone else. I have features that I react to more negatively than others. Men with Santa Clause beards is a no. Necks, I like them to have a neck. Lips, I would have issues with Simon Cowell's lips. So I too have some visual needs. I think that that is human.

I've reached a point in my spiritual path where I no longer view my life as 'my life' but part of a continuous process in infinite lives. I intrinsically believe this now, so much so, that I plan to pursue a spiritual path towards my autumn years.

Therefore, I'm looking for a partner who can share in experiences with me in the here and now and for a few sweet years (maybe a decade or two) then willing to depart without hard feelings---this is a tall order of course.

Therefore, my ideal mate is someone who is younger than me, and very good looking, but willing to hit the road once her boobs start sagging.....because I'm spiritual and shit.

I would not date an ugly man. Looks are important. I also like men who are intellectual and creative. Musicians are very HOT.