Looks are a factor, but not the most important one.

Attraction is very important. When looking for just sex, all they might have to go on is looks. When you’re looking at a relationship, you’ve spent enough time with someone to figure out all the other things about them that might be attractive.

People who study psychology know that individuals are attracted to others who have similar qualities. That includes looks, personality, interests, etc.

HobbesLeCute said:

Not at all important, I HOPE.

Dalia11 said:

People who study psychology know that individuals are attracted to others who have similar qualities. That includes looks, personality, interests, etc.

When it comes to serious relationships or marriage, do people mostly choose partners, based on those qualities or more on opposities? Do you know of any studies on that?

i look for girls who cannot outrun me

ZombieKitten said:

HobbesLeCute said:

Not at all important, I HOPE.

Don't worry, I was just fishing for a response like that.

HobbesLeCute said:

ZombieKitten said:

Don't worry, I was just fishing for a response like that.

imago said:

I've reached a point in my spiritual path where I no longer view my life as 'my life' but part of a continuous process in infinite lives. I intrinsically believe this now, so much so, that I plan to pursue a spiritual path towards my autumn years.

Therefore, I'm looking for a partner who can share in experiences with me in the here and now and for a few sweet years (maybe a decade or two) then willing to depart without hard feelings---this is a tall order of course.

Therefore, my ideal mate is someone who is younger than me, and very good looking, but willing to hit the road once her boobs start sagging.....because I'm spiritual and shit.

This is funny

I take it you are a buddhist. What is a buddhist view on sex? Is it attachment and should you abstain from it, or can you forget about your ego while having sex.

Oh, and looks are very important, of course

I think you definitely have to be attracted to someone, even if he/ she isnt the greatest looking person alive, otherwise just be friends. Everyone has different opinions on what is attractive to them. It's subjective. I do believe personality counts as well.

Depends on how ugly you are!

(Man, I love these kind of answers...)

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hendrikus said:

imago said:

I've reached a point in my spiritual path where I no longer view my life as 'my life' but part of a continuous process in infinite lives. I intrinsically believe this now, so much so, that I plan to pursue a spiritual path towards my autumn years.

Therefore, I'm looking for a partner who can share in experiences with me in the here and now and for a few sweet years (maybe a decade or two) then willing to depart without hard feelings---this is a tall order of course.

Therefore, my ideal mate is someone who is younger than me, and very good looking, but willing to hit the road once her boobs start sagging.....because I'm spiritual and shit.

This is funny

I take it you are a buddhist. What is a buddhist view on sex? Is it attachment and should you abstain from it, or can you forget about your ego while having sex.

If you are a lay practicing Buddhist (not a monk), sex is fine. Music is fine. Love and material posessions are just fine. Just dont' expect these things to bring lasting happiness. All experience is transient.

imago said:

hendrikus said:

This is funny

I take it you are a buddhist. What is a buddhist view on sex? Is it attachment and should you abstain from it, or can you forget about your ego while having sex.

If you are a lay practicing Buddhist (not a monk), sex is fine. Music is fine. Love and material posessions are just fine. Just dont' expect these things to bring lasting happiness. All experience is transient.

That sounds very sensible.

hendrikus said:

imago said:

If you are a lay practicing Buddhist (not a monk), sex is fine. Music is fine. Love and material posessions are just fine. Just dont' expect these things to bring lasting happiness. All experience is transient.

That sounds very sensible.

I'm sensible. That's what I do. I make sense. I sensanate.

imago said:

hendrikus said:

That sounds very sensible.

I'm sensible. That's what I do. I make sense. I sensanate.

He also makes up his own way to spell words.

We love Imago

Looks are important to get attention for actual first contact.

However, looks are only important to someone who is very interested in a trophywife/husband. I hope the rest is more interested in all the aspects of a person, not just some 'general accepted as pretty' look.

I love somebody who isn't considered pretty. However, he has several aspects that make him the most beautiful man who ever existed (to me).

Personality!!! charisma and intellect is what attracts me. Looks don't matter 2me. If u can stimulate me mentally, make me laugh, then I'm already yours. As we age our looks go down hill.....

"if god one day struck me blind ..ur beauty I'd still see"..

Dalia11 said:

People who study psychology know that individuals are attracted to others who have similar qualities. That includes looks, personality, interests, etc.

People who finished their study psychology with a degree, know that the mean is not something to base an entire theory on. And know that individuals who match on several aspects have a more succesful relationship than the ones just based on looks and how pretty they consider themselves.

Shanti0608 said:

imago said:

I'm sensible. That's what I do. I make sense. I sensanate.

He also makes up his own way to spell words.

We love Imago

dJJ said:

Looks are important to get attention for actual first contact.

However, looks are only important to someone who is very interested in a trophywife/husband. I hope the rest is more interested in all the aspects of a person, not just some 'general accepted as pretty' look.

I love somebody who isn't considered pretty. However, he has several aspects that make him the most beautiful man who ever existed (to me).

Awww...I love you too.

Shanti0608 said:

imago said:

I'm sensible. That's what I do. I make sense. I sensanate.

He also makes up his own way to spell words.

We love Imago

I think that we ALL sensanate when it comes to Imago.

PurpleJedi said:

Shanti0608 said:

He also makes up his own way to spell words.

We love Imago

I think that we ALL sensanate when it comes to Imago.

imago said:

PurpleJedi said:

I think that we ALL sensanate when it comes to Imago.

See!?!? I'm sensanating right there!!!!

PurpleJedi said:

imago said:

See!?!? I'm sensanating right there!!!!

I am starting to learn that as long as you are clean and well groomed men can fuck you. They may not come back for more but they can make it work when need be.

Deadflow3r said:

I am starting to learn that as long as you are clean and well groomed men can fuck you. They may not come back for more but they can make it work when need be.

Really though I don't think looks are important as much as a complete and total willingness to torture my balls without mercy.

HobbesLeCute said:

Really though I don't think looks are important as much as a complete and total willingness to torture my balls without mercy.

Balls are beautiful, why would anybody torture them?