So?

being there

HotGritz said:

being there

That's not the whole story, but damned if it is not 90% of it!

Seriosuly, I've just got together with a new bloke after coming out of a long term (and pretty much sexless for most of it) relationship and I really want him to enjoy it - feel like I've been a bit disappointing so far

Shegoes said:

Seriosuly, I've just got together with a new bloke after coming out of a long term (and pretty much sexless for most of it) relationship and I really want him to enjoy it - feel like I've been a bit disappointing so far

Why?

I think desire is really sexy, just doing what you want and taking an active role, not being too shy

But in the beginning just being there really is probably enough!

And remember, it's not all on you, he has to communicate what he wants too.

JustErin said:

Shegoes said:

Seriosuly, I've just got together with a new bloke after coming out of a long term (and pretty much sexless for most of it) relationship and I really want him to enjoy it - feel like I've been a bit disappointing so far

Why?

Couple of things he's said jokingly around me being lazy. Really didn't I was. None of it said in a nasty/mean way but think more of a hint.

Shegoes said:

JustErin said:

Why?

Couple of things he's said jokingly around me being lazy. Really didn't I was. None of it said in a nasty/mean way but think more of a hint.

try getting on top & see if that is less lazy for is unappreciative ass!

But like I said, if he wants something specific he can nudge you into a certain position, you just have to be ready to respond

It's a mixture of things that they don't show in porn and things that they do show in porn.

novabrkr said:

It's a mixture of things that they don't show in porn and things that they do show in porn.

LOL good answer!

ass 2 mouth and then swallowing

unique said:

ass 2 mouth and then swallowing

I should invent a dildo that smells and tastes like fart. I'm sure I could make millions....if it were made out of 24K gold and sold at the affordable price of $666,666.66.

Shegoes said:

JustErin said:

Why?

Couple of things he's said jokingly around me being lazy. Really didn't I was. None of it said in a nasty/mean way but think more of a hint.

I'm pretty sure most men think a woman that is truly enjoying sex and enjoys pleasing their partner at the same time is someone that's "good" in bed.

I'd ask him what turns him on and see if that turns you on as well.

Head.

Genesia said:

Head.

Yep that just about nails it

When it comes to sex, people should just talk about what they like and don't like. That way, you can avoid or at least minimize any disappointment and possibly get out of a relationship that isn't sexually fulfilling. Truthfully, calling you lazy outright or even hinting at you being sexually lazy is not cool. I'm sure you could come up with a few things that would make him better. Sometimes it really does take two to tango.

endymion said:

Genesia said:

Head.

Yep that just about nails it

Elite-level variations:

Morning head

Unexpected head

And if you combine the two, you're in gold-medal contention.

It's been a long time since I put this out there, but I honestly believe pleasing a man (in general) boils down to the Three Fs:

Feed him, Fuck him, and let him watch Football.

NDRU said:

if you know what your man likes...and it doesnt turn your stomach or anything like that...then do it for him now and again...

a blowjob always works wonders i think..especially when he isnt maybe expecting it....men like to feel wanted and desired as well ..so to see a women coming on to you and taking the lead in wanting to please you (and probably herself in doing it) is a huge turn on for a man i think....and when you are doing it....make little comments or noises about how much you are enjoying doing it to him and then ..when he is ready to climax...how much you want it.....

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well thats my sexual fantasies out the way for now

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Simples: she has to like sex, like be really in it and into you. Crush my back with her arms, from pulling me onto her, when having an orgasm. That kind of stuf. That is all.

tell you what. try this. pop this in the telly and ask him to walk you through it.

A gutter mouth

Sucks cock like shes a diabetic..and my cock contains the Insulin(old joke)

Must like squirting and b able 2 hit my mouth from 10 feet

Must like her bum played with(at least 1 finger)

Maintain eye contact

Bite that bottom lip

Lick all around her mouth when eye look at her

When eye say eat ur panties,She best open wide

Spit in my mouth

Allow me 2 spit in hers

After ive cum in her mouth dont swallow,gargle that cum 4 a couple of minuets

Blow bubbles with my cum like hubbabubber

Let me watch her on the loo

Suck my cock when shes on the loo

Lick my arse

Enjoy me eating her arse

Go out of herself....Say things that r soooooooooo nasty(try and shock me)Good Luck

Suck my cock without leaving teeth marks

When shes leaves her undies now belong 2 me

Enjoy having her hair pulled and her face slapped

This aint a bad start.....Thats what makes a woman good in bed or the Kitchen or the living room or on the stairs or in the shed...or the bathroom or the back seat of a car...This is Daves kind of thread.

Shegoes said:

So?

we would have to get together to let me show you

JustErin said:

Shegoes said:

Couple of things he's said jokingly around me being lazy. Really didn't I was. None of it said in a nasty/mean way but think more of a hint.

I'm pretty sure most men think a woman that is truly enjoying sex and enjoys pleasing their partner at the same time is someone that's "good" in bed.

I'd ask him what turns him on and see if that turns you on as well.

^ as simple as that.

I feel it's also the "chemistry" between the two people involved..

BlackAdder7 said:

JustErin said:

I'm pretty sure most men think a woman that is truly enjoying sex and enjoys pleasing their partner at the same time is someone that's "good" in bed.

I'd ask him what turns him on and see if that turns you on as well.

^ as simple as that.

I feel it's also the "chemistry" between the two people involved.. talking helps during sex. communicating what's a turn on is crucial to good sexual intimacy. there've been times when my dungeon has echoed with the honest cries of mutual pleasure and adult communication. i think my best sexual encounters have been when didn't even need to use discipline. no spanking whatsoever.

huh. i thought you said spanking turns you on.

XxAxX said:

BlackAdder7 said:

^ as simple as that.

I feel it's also the "chemistry" between the two people involved.. talking helps during sex. communicating what's a turn on is crucial to good sexual intimacy. there've been times when my dungeon has echoed with the honest cries of mutual pleasure and adult communication. i think my best sexual encounters have been when didn't even need to use discipline. no spanking whatsoever.

huh. i thought you said spanking turns you on.

Enthusiasm and communication!

There's no one specific act... I've had plenty of bad head in my life.

Genesia said:

It's been a long time since I put this out there, but I honestly believe pleasing a man (in general) boils down to the Three Fs:

Feed him, Fuck him, and let him watch Football.

Shegoes said:

So?

Have I told you that you are extremely inspirational at this very moment?