I am very new to this dating site thing and have put my name forth in at least 2 of them. One of them is free and the other is not that expensive (but also not that great either,lol). I know that some of you have been doing this longer so I am trying to get advice on "what not to do" and what you find obnoxious, etc.

Sometimes I just want to talk to people, both male and female. I want to find out not only what is out there but how "normal" I am or not. Anyway I am not ready to marry anyone and would love to meet a man with a fun personality who wants sex. I am quite capable of meeting my own needs in the mean time so I am not running after every piece of meat wagged infront of me. I believe in safety first.

So, help me out please.

Ive never done this but eye hope u have alot of fun and meet lots of nice people....and hopefully get 2 hide the bone...

I'm sorry...what's the question?

JustErin said:

I'm sorry...what's the question?

Basically I am trying to make friends. I have a feeling that I am going about it wrong. If you have had some experiences that you would like to share that would give me and others like me an idea of what to do and more importantly WHAT NOT TO DO, I would be most grateful. Thank you!

davetherave6767 said:

Ive never done this but eye hope u have alot of fun and meet lots of nice people....and hopefully get 2 hide the bone...

I am also new to this part of the states so I think of it as a way to meet people as well. Of course I don't have a pic up yet. This seems to be a crime. I will get some made next week and you all can tell my what you think of them before I post them on any site. Thanks for the .

I signed up for OKCupid once but got too nervous to do anything with it but browse.

There are a couple of girls in the area who are probably wondering why they have like 50 views from a guy called "Marmadick" though.

Be careful... many more normal people are choosing the internet to meet other singles, but I had two 3 bad experiences and will never do the online dating thing again.

Do NOT engage in sexual talk with any potential guy, he will think you are only trolling for dick. If he tries to get sexual, let him know straight out you will NOT have anytype of sex with someone you just met online.

On any first date, make your own way to the place and stay in a heavily populated place, do not let him know where you live nor should you get in his car under ANY circumstances. Plan to make your own way home. Meet at a place that you know well. Meet for coffee (something quick) and have an exit plan or a friend nearby looking out for you during the first meeting. It was my 3rd date when my date pulled the bait n switch, so please be careful.

I also met Mr. Phimosis on an online dating site... we all know how that went.

Background check his ass and make sure dude is not some serial rapist or sex offender.

Have fun

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Thanks. I don't want to end up in someone's trunk. Maybe I will not post pics after all. I really just want someone that i am sexually compatible with that will not kill me. Am I asking too much?

You need to decide if you're looking for friends, or looking for a guy to date...but I wouldn't try to do both.

Talk online, then videochat on skype or some shit so you can make sure he looks like he claims he looks then go meet somewhere public and take it from there.

And I believe you should post pics. People deserve to see what you look like and I wouldn't want to waste my time talking to a dude that eventually tells me that I'm not his type when he sees me. You need to talk to guys that are physically attracted to you...so you need to post a pic for sure. It's nice to think that guys are looking for an awesome girl with a great personality and that it doesn't matter what she looks like, or that they will get to know you first, like you and then it won't matter what you look like...but that shit isn't real.

I've only done the dating site thing once. I only met one dude...and we've been dating now for a couple of months. I did everything they say not to do. I met him at his house, went out to dinner, then went back to his place, and I fucked him on the first night. Worked for me.

I am back on this thing because I need advice and I trust you guys more then you know. After all you have nothing to loose by telling me your honest thoughts and such.

First, some of you may already know my type. Odd men, slightly feminine to more then slightly feminine. Hair length is unimportant. I will date long hair or bald. Guyliner is a plus. The average guy just doesn't click with me. I keep seeing guys my age in polo shirts with santa looking faces and I don't want to be with that. I wish i could be less fussy but unfortunately it seems that I can't. Any advice to the lovelorn would be appreciated and any good stories about your own experiences.

HobbesLeCute said:

I signed up for OKCupid once but got too nervous to do anything with it but browse.

There are a couple of girls in the area who are probably wondering why they have like 50 views from a guy called "Marmadick" though.

I think a lot of people do this! So far I have found some attractive men the oldest of which was 43. I feel creepy sending notes to younger men but luckily on this free site I have had guys half my age hit on me! It helps when they at least say Hi.

PS Marmadick was not the best name you could have used,lol.

Where do you normally meet people? Have you tried haning out at local venues first?

HobbesLeCute said:

I signed up for OKCupid once but got too nervous to do anything with it but browse.

There are a couple of girls in the area who are probably wondering why they have like 50 views from a guy called "Marmadick" though.

you should wear a button with that on it to work so if they come in to buy a coffee they will know you are interested

JustErin said:

You need to decide if you're looking for friends, or looking for a guy to date...but I wouldn't try to do both.

Talk online, then videochat on skype or some shit so you can make sure he looks like he claims he looks then go meet somewhere public and take it from there.

And I believe you should post pics. People deserve to see what you look like and I wouldn't want to waste my time talking to a dude that eventually tells me that I'm not his type when he sees me. You need to talk to guys that are physically attracted to you...so you need to post a pic for sure. It's nice to think that guys are looking for an awesome girl with a great personality and that it doesn't matter what she looks like, or that they will get to know you first, like you and then it won't matter what you look like...but that shit isn't real.

I've only done the dating site thing once. I only met one dude...and we've been dating now for a couple of months. I did everything they say not to do. I met him at his house, went out to dinner, then went back to his place, and I fucked him on the first night. Worked for me.

The only reason that I don't post a pic right away is that if he talks creepy to start with rejecting him is easy. I also need my roomate to help me with posting pics which would mean he would have to know my business, yuk. I honestly just don't want to get physically hurt/ butchered. At 50 I still have a libido whether I want to or not. I am not looking for love just a fun loving sex buddy.

HotGritz said:

Where do you normally meet people? Have you tried haning out at local venues first?

I just moved here. I take the bus and it stops running at 6pm. I sold and gave away every damn thing I had to get out of where I was at. I am dirt, DIRT, POOR. No car. But I am funny, smart, clean, and have a great personality and a damn good libido. I drink socially and take no drugs. I just know that there is someone out there that wants to fuck a fun girl like me who is not looking for marriage.

I got myself into this financial place and I aim to get myself out of it. My daughter is with her Auntie so for the first time in nearly 10 years my life is my own and little one is several states away so she will not even know I am meeting men never mind meet them herself.

ZombieKitten said:

HobbesLeCute said:

I signed up for OKCupid once but got too nervous to do anything with it but browse.

There are a couple of girls in the area who are probably wondering why they have like 50 views from a guy called "Marmadick" though.

you should wear a button with that on it to work so if they come in to buy a coffee they will know you are interested

If a girl ever comes in with a button that says "Heathclitt" I know it will be love.

HobbesLeCute said:

ZombieKitten said:

you should wear a button with that on it to work so if they come in to buy a coffee they will know you are interested

If a girl ever comes in with a button that says "Heathclitt" I know it will be love.

lie. best advice ever.

My advice is to chat with someone first through the site several times. I used to be on match.com and I always did that. I didnt like to give out any personal info (tel #/ email) until after the first date (which was at a public place), to see if things had a possibility of going anywhere. I didnt even tell the town I lived in until I knew the person better. I did post pictures of myself, since no one will contact you without them usually.

I wish I had your feelings about just wanting a fun "buddy", cause I had that with someone I met from match, but I wanted more. I dont think you'll have a problem finding someone who wants to keep things casual, it seems to be the general consensus out there.

Good luck & be safe.

PurpleKittyK said:

My advice is to chat with someone first through the site several times. I used to be on match.com and I always did that. I didnt like to give out any personal info (tel #/ email) until after the first date (which was at a public place), to see if things had a possibility of going anywhere. I didnt even tell the town I lived in until I knew the person better. I did post pictures of myself, since no one will contact you without them usually.

I wish I had your feelings about just wanting a fun "buddy", cause I had that with someone I met from match, but I wanted more. I dont think you'll have a problem finding someone who wants to keep things casual, it seems to be the general consensus out there.

Good luck & be safe.

At 50 I am a bit old to hold out for TLA who knows how much longer "always" is?