wow the org is really fucked up, eating all my posts.

Deadflow3r said:

angel345 said:

I was considering stability for the kids, instead of seeing their parents with men/women in and out of their lives.

As a single mom of a daughter (that currently lives with my sister) I have read articles and even books on the subject since her birth. ( I left her father when she was one month old).

Mosting dating parents choose not to involve their children in the dating process at all. They don't want their children to get attached to adults that may no longer be in their lives in a year.

I hope to begin dating soon. As I said my daughter does not stay with me right now so I am not afraid of dating. My daughter is very physically beautiful in many peoples opinion. I have had men compliment her beauty one too many times for my liking. I am frightened of her having a man in her life that formed an unhealthy bond with her.

I also do not want to hang out with the children of men early on. There is no need to find out if I like your children if we are not sure about each other.

I've once had a former co-worker tell me when she and her two sisters were growing up with a single mother, she did not date anyone, until all three of her girls were grown, and out of the house. You do read and hear of incidents where mostly the men in the mother's lives make a move on the daughters, causing friction and confusion in the house. I wonder about the boys, too I have also grew up with girls in high school that had their mother's boyfriend or stepfathers make a move on them. I'd say it is great if you can wait until your child is not living with you to date. A better option, although people are different.

angel345 said:

Deadflow3r said:

As a single mom of a daughter (that currently lives with my sister) I have read articles and even books on the subject since her birth. ( I left her father when she was one month old).

Mosting dating parents choose not to involve their children in the dating process at all. They don't want their children to get attached to adults that may no longer be in their lives in a year.

I hope to begin dating soon. As I said my daughter does not stay with me right now so I am not afraid of dating. My daughter is very physically beautiful in many peoples opinion. I have had men compliment her beauty one too many times for my liking. I am frightened of her having a man in her life that formed an unhealthy bond with her.

I also do not want to hang out with the children of men early on. There is no need to find out if I like your children if we are not sure about each other.

I've once had a former co-worker tell me when she and her two sisters were growing up with a single mother, she did not date anyone, until all three of her girls were grown, and out of the house. You do read and hear of incidents where mostly the men in the mother's lives make a move on the daughters, causing friction and confusion in the house. I wonder about the boys, too I have also grew up with girls in high school that had their mother's boyfriend or stepfathers make a move on them. I'd say it is great if you can wait until your child is not living with you to date. A better option, although people are different.

Whenever I hear women who were molested as children speak about it, it was never some guy that followed them home from the mall or the grocery store that did it. No, it was almost always someone already waiting for them at the house who has his own key. If a man violated my daughter I would gladly wear an orange jumpsuit for the rest of my life to ensure that he never did it again.

Deadflow3r said:

angel345 said:

I've once had a former co-worker tell me when she and her two sisters were growing up with a single mother, she did not date anyone, until all three of her girls were grown, and out of the house. You do read and hear of incidents where mostly the men in the mother's lives make a move on the daughters, causing friction and confusion in the house. I wonder about the boys, too I have also grew up with girls in high school that had their mother's boyfriend or stepfathers make a move on them. I'd say it is great if you can wait until your child is not living with you to date. A better option, although people are different.

Whenever I hear women who were molested as children speak about it, it was never some guy that followed them home from the mall or the grocery store that did it. No, it was almost always someone already waiting for them at the house who has his own key. If a man violated my daughter I would gladly wear an orange jumpsuit for the rest of my life to ensure that he never did it again.

True, most of the molestations are from someone you know or lived with Though you may hear this advice often, parents should keep an eye on their children, and to teach them if anyone touches them inappropriately, tell them right away. You do hear of sad cases whereas the child tells the parent, and they don't believe them. Love has blinded them, and they may be supporting the household. I do not ever want any man come between my daughter and me, and we're close. We're a package. Just hope and believe for the best that we don't ever have to see an orange suit.

paintedlady said:

So, many people do not date people with kids because they think the kids will give them too much grief/work.

Thank you! Now if the kids are older and in college, I can deal with that. But single moms with young kids, hell no. Been there, done that, ain't doing it again. No more Bebe's kids for me.

The only kids I want to deal with are the ones related to me.

uPtoWnNY said:

paintedlady said:

So, many people do not date people with kids because they think the kids will give them too much grief/work.

Thank you! Now if the kids are older and in college, I can deal with that. But single moms with young kids, hell no. Been there, done that, ain't doing it again. No more Bebe's kids for me.

The only kids I want to deal with are the ones related to me.

Even if the kids are well behaved they are still tons of work since you have to stay on top of them in order to not slip into bad behavior.

My guy likes my kids, but living with them is an entirely different matter.

I don't like my own kids half the time...

I'm engaged to my fiance, who has 3 kids from another marriage, and I wouldn't change a thing. They all love me and accept me as their step-dad, and we couldn't be happier. Maybe because it's easy for me to sink down to a kid's level..lol!

BobGeorge72 said:

I'm engaged to my fiance, who has 3 kids from another marriage, and I wouldn't change a thing. They all love me and accept me as their step-dad, and we couldn't be happier. Maybe because it's easy for me to sink down to a kid's level..lol!

I am glad for you! She is very lucky to find someone as family oriented as you !

Revolution said:

I don't like my own kids half the time...

That sounds like Chris Rock....

Not a deal-breaker for me. I love kids.

MacDaddy said:

Not a deal-breaker for me. I love kids.

I would have put you firmly in the "Get those rugrats out of here" camp. I guess I am totally when it comes to you.

Deadflow3r said:

MacDaddy said:

Not a deal-breaker for me. I love kids.

I would have put you firmly in the "Get those rugrats out of here" camp. I guess I am totally when it comes to you.

If I was asked this question a few years ago I would've probaly said; "no way!"

But seeing friends of mine with their kids has changed that completely.

MacDaddy said:

Deadflow3r said:

I would have put you firmly in the "Get those rugrats out of here" camp. I guess I am totally when it comes to you.

If I was asked this question a few years ago I would've probaly said; "no way!"

But seeing friends of mine with their kids has changed that completely.

Kids bring with them a stronger sense of family. They demand a certain selflessness.

Revolution said:

I don't like my own kids half the time...

that was going to be my answer!!

I wouldn't date a guy with kids if I was a single mother just for the simple reason that the three I have is already way too many

MacDaddy said:

Deadflow3r said:

I would have put you firmly in the "Get those rugrats out of here" camp. I guess I am totally when it comes to you.

If I was asked this question a few years ago I would've probaly said; "no way!"

But seeing friends of mine with their kids has changed that completely.

how do you feel about babysitting?

ZombieKitten said:

MacDaddy said:

If I was asked this question a few years ago I would've probaly said; "no way!"

But seeing friends of mine with their kids has changed that completely.

how do you feel about babysitting?

I love it!

Deadflow3r said:

MacDaddy said:

If I was asked this question a few years ago I would've probaly said; "no way!"

But seeing friends of mine with their kids has changed that completely.

Kids bring with them a stronger sense of family. They demand a certain selflessness.

I know. I would absolutely love being a dad now.

MacDaddy said:

ZombieKitten said:

how do you feel about babysitting?

I love it!

when are you coming over!!!

MacDaddy said:

Deadflow3r said:

Kids bring with them a stronger sense of family. They demand a certain selflessness.

I know. I would absolutely love being a dad now.

we could start with some kind of time-share arrangement

ZombieKitten said:

MacDaddy said:

I love it!

when are you coming over!!!

I seriously want to go to Australia someday. Most of my money goes into traveling to South Africa though

But I'm considering it. And if I do, you will be the first person I want to visit.

MacDaddy said:

ZombieKitten said:

when are you coming over!!!

I seriously want to go to Australia someday. Most of my money goes into traveling to South Africa though

But I'm considering it. And if I do, you will be the first person I want to visit.

my house is your house love!

ZombieKitten said:

MacDaddy said:

I seriously want to go to Australia someday. Most of my money goes into traveling to South Africa though

But I'm considering it. And if I do, you will be the first person I want to visit.

my house is your house love!

ZombieKitten said:

MacDaddy said:

I seriously want to go to Australia someday. Most of my money goes into traveling to South Africa though

But I'm considering it. And if I do, you will be the first person I want to visit.

my house is your house love!

Never.

If you date someone with kids, there's a good chance he/she will NOT want any more, so if you're DONE with baby-makin' it's a better scenario.

PurpleJedi said:

If you date someone with kids, there's a good chance he/she will NOT want any more, so if you're DONE with baby-makin' it's a better scenario.

Yes! This is truth.

PurpleJedi said:

If you date someone with kids, there's a good chance he/she will NOT want any more, so if you're DONE with baby-makin' it's a better scenario.

I wish it was always like that .

Serious said:

PurpleJedi said:

If you date someone with kids, there's a good chance he/she will NOT want any more, so if you're DONE with baby-makin' it's a better scenario.

I wish it was always like that .

PurpleJedi said:

Serious said:

I wish it was always like that .

Thank you. The men I am with always want children even if they already have some .