eyewishuheaven said:

Enthusiasm and communication!

There's no one specific act... I've had plenty of bad head in my life.

If I was a man that would be my answer !

Shegoes said:

JustErin said:

Depends on how he's doing it. If he's givin' er I usually just let him go to town but if he slows down I'll add to the movement.

Thank you! So maybe I'm not so 'lazy' afterall.....

1. I think you are over thinking the whole thing

2. your man sounds like he may be a bit of an arse making you feel crap about yourself even subtly is not gonna help is it!

endymion said:

Shegoes said:

Thank you! So maybe I'm not so 'lazy' afterall.....

1. I think you are over thinking the whole thing

2. your man sounds like he may be a bit of an arse making you feel crap about yourself even subtly is not gonna help is it!

I agree with above.

If your Bloke says something like "Hey you suck like a broken Dyson", Then I kinda think he is a muppet who deserves to wank himself on a permanent basis...........(Can I say Wank on here?)

itsnotallover said:

endymion said:

1. I think you are over thinking the whole thing

2. your man sounds like he may be a bit of an arse making you feel crap about yourself even subtly is not gonna help is it!

I agree with above.

If your Bloke says something like "Hey you suck like a broken Dyson", Then I kinda think he is a muppet who deserves to wank himself on a permanent basis...........(Can I say Wank on here?)

You can use all the disgustingly filthy language you'd like on here (it's one of the reasons this is my favorite Internet forum!).

Welcome, "It's Not Al-lover" (or should that be "It's Not Al Lover"?).

P.S. Why don't you love Al and/or if it's not Al Lover, which Al is it? Or is it Ed Lover?

I'm confused.

P.P.S. I hope it's not "its". That would open a whole can of worms I'm not even prepared for.

itsnotallover said:

endymion said:

1. I think you are over thinking the whole thing

2. your man sounds like he may be a bit of an arse making you feel crap about yourself even subtly is not gonna help is it!

I agree with above.

If your Bloke says something like "Hey you suck like a broken Dyson", Then I kinda think he is a muppet who deserves to wank himself on a permanent basis...........(Can I say Wank on here?)

Whoops - this was your 226th post! My bad.

Please disregard all of the above bad username jokes.

Whoops - Prince just called in.

He says that you can't say "wank" on here, as Jehovah gets his panties all in a bunch if you do.

Ben! We're gonna need an amendment to the site rules!

eyewishuheaven said:

Enthusiasm and communication!

There's no one specific act... I've had plenty of bad head in my life.

There is nothing worse then someone doing something that they really do not enjoy. I had read someplace that the vast majority of men would prefer a decent hand job over being given head by a woman that clearly is only doing it because she thinks that that is what her man wants.

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sleeping pills... :grinch:

whistle said:

not asking for money before, during, or after

Deadflow3r said:

I had read someplace that the vast majority of men would prefer a decent hand job over being given head by a woman that clearly is only doing it because she thinks that that is what her man wants.

This is so true. I like a greedy lover - one who'll take what she wants, when she wants it... that might just be the hottest thing there is.

I can take a notoriously long time to come, which can make a less secure woman fear she's doing something 'wrong', and start 'trying' to please me. This can make me concerned that it's becoming 'work' for her, and a sort of anti-fun feedback loop can result. Do what you love, and if we come, we come. Also, there's much to be said for taking a break, doing something else for a while, and then getting right back at it!

eyewishuheaven said:

Deadflow3r said:

I had read someplace that the vast majority of men would prefer a decent hand job over being given head by a woman that clearly is only doing it because she thinks that that is what her man wants.

This is so true. I like a greedy lover - one who'll take what she wants, when she wants it... that might just be the hottest thing there is.

I can take a notoriously long time to come, which can make a less secure woman fear she's doing something 'wrong', and start 'trying' to please me. This can make me concerned that it's becoming 'work' for her, and a sort of anti-fun feedback loop can result. Do what you love, and if we come, we come. Also, there's much to be said for taking a break, doing something else for a while, and then getting right back at it!

Do you perhaps have an available twin on the gulf coast ?

Deadflow3r said:

eyewishuheaven said:

This is so true. I like a greedy lover - one who'll take what she wants, when she wants it... that might just be the hottest thing there is.

I can take a notoriously long time to come, which can make a less secure woman fear she's doing something 'wrong', and start 'trying' to please me. This can make me concerned that it's becoming 'work' for her, and a sort of anti-fun feedback loop can result. Do what you love, and if we come, we come. Also, there's much to be said for taking a break, doing something else for a while, and then getting right back at it!

Do you perhaps have an available twin on the gulf coast ?

Nope, haha! Shame too, 'cause I'm pretty damn single over here!

myfavorite said:

sleeping pills... :grinch:

eyewishuheaven said:

Deadflow3r said:

Do you perhaps have an available twin on the gulf coast ?

Nope, haha! Shame too, 'cause I'm pretty damn single over here!

And where might that be? Something tells me your not even in North America ,

Oops, didn't mention! I'm in Toronto.

[gets atlas to find Gulf Coast... ]

eyewishuheaven said:

Oops, didn't mention! I'm in Toronto.

[gets atlas to find Gulf Coast... ]

PS your profile page sucks, it tells nothing about you; do something about that!

Deadflow3r said:

eyewishuheaven said:

Oops, didn't mention! I'm in Toronto.

[gets atlas to find Gulf Coast... ]

PS your profile page sucks, it tells nothing about you; do something about that!

D'oh! I didn't expect a girl to be coming over. I'll try to spruce the place up a bit tonight... maybe get a plant, or something...

eyewishuheaven said:

Deadflow3r said:

PS your profile page sucks, it tells nothing about you; do something about that!

D'oh! I didn't expect a girl to be coming over. I'll try to spruce the place up a bit tonight... maybe get a plant, or something...

While you're at it check the sturdiness of your bed, couch, chairs and sink. Yes sink, paintedlady gives much praise to the sink and I trust her. No one wants to hit the floor by surprise. Of course starting out on the floor also gets high ratings around here. While we are on the subject do you have a balcony with a beautiful view? If not, get one, Micheala recommends them. Balconies do not go up right away but tents do at least that is what purplejedi says. So get one. Do you have a Walmart or Dicks sporting goods in Toronto? Today is Saturday so you should have time to swing by and pick up the tent, and other essentials.

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[Edited 10/22/11 10:11am]

Deadflow3r said:

eyewishuheaven said:

D'oh! I didn't expect a girl to be coming over. I'll try to spruce the place up a bit tonight... maybe get a plant, or something...

While you're at it check the sturdiness of your bed, couch, chairs and sink. Yes sink, paintedlady gives much praise to the sink and I trust her. No one wants to hit the floor by surprise. Of course starting out on the floor also gets high ratings around here. While we are on the subject do you have a balcony with a beautiful view? If not, get one, Micheala recommends them. Balconies do not go up right away but tents do at least that is what purplejedi says. So get one. Do you have a Walmart or Dicks sporting goods in Toronto? Today is Saturday so you should have time to swing by and pick up the tent, and other essentials.

Holy moly, you are high-maintenance!

In the Best. Possible. Sense. of the word!

eyewishuheaven said:

Deadflow3r said:

While you're at it check the sturdiness of your bed, couch, chairs and sink. Yes sink, paintedlady gives much praise to the sink and I trust her. No one wants to hit the floor by surprise. Of course starting out on the floor also gets high ratings around here. While we are on the subject do you have a balcony with a beautiful view? If not, get one, Micheala recommends them. Balconies do not go up right away but tents do at least that is what purplejedi says. So get one. Do you have a Walmart or Dicks sporting goods in Toronto? Today is Saturday so you should have time to swing by and pick up the tent, and other essentials.

Holy moly, you are high-maintenance!

In the Best. Possible. Sense. of the word!

I was born high-maintenance. Strove for and achieved low-maintenance and regret every minute of it. So boring to be easily pleased all the time. I am now on the search for an equally difficult partner; one that may not want on Tuesday what pleased him on Sunday.

I love it when she's willing to experiment but it's hella sexy when she takes the lead, shows some aggression and confidence, and not trying to be all proper and conservative.

Adisa said:

I love it when she's willing to experiment but it's hella sexy when she takes the lead, shows some aggression and confidence, and not trying to be all proper and conservative.

This is very difficult to do if a woman was raised in a particularly religious home; especially if the mother did not enjoy sex herself. (I don't know if that is the case of the woman you have met but I know that the good-girl ideal can be hard to let go of.)

Deadflow3r said:

Adisa said:

I love it when she's willing to experiment but it's hella sexy when she takes the lead, shows some aggression and confidence, and not trying to be all proper and conservative.

This is very difficult to do if a woman was raised in a particularly religious home;

Don't I know it.

Adisa said:

Deadflow3r said:

This is very difficult to do if a woman was raised in a particularly religious home;

Don't I know it.

No matter how religious a boys upbringing is there is a saying "boys will be boys" there is not that same saying for girls. You end up spending all your teen years suppressing your sexual side and then supposedly when you finally have the O.k. you are going to be this uninhibited she-cat. It just doesn't happen.

I had a mom that went to church every day and said the rosary every day. I also had wild sexual fantasies that were pretty intense starting at age 13 and felt soooo guilty just about having the thoughts, not even doing anything! If you had met me before age 35 I would have struck you as frigid and asexual.

It is unfortunate that we do this to women and I guess their future husbands to boot.

The only advice I have is compliment even her lamest attempt at taking the initiative. Even if it borders on pathetic. Secondly, for me, clothes matter. Going to bed or lounging around in good girl night gowns and PJ sets does not help at all. Halle Berry wears high heels to bed ( At least that is what she told Harpaars Bazaar). My last lover would say "I don't need all that" when it came to sexy nighties. What he didn't seem to understand was that he wasn't the only one I was doing it for.

Simply doing what I like best is not good enough for me (especially not when she wouldn't enjoy what she's doing, even if it wasn't me she's doing it with). Being too submissive is boring.

I like it when she takes my cock and puts it into her (clean!!) ass without warning.

I like it when she tells my how beautiful my cock is and that she wants to suck on it (and feel that she really wants it while doing it).

I like it when she is not afraid to slowly undress in front of me, then turn around and show me her ass and tell me to lick her from behind.

However, all of this must be done correctly! I don't want to get any feeling of desperation from her while she's doing it - that's a huge turn-off!

Deadflow3r said:

Adisa said:

Don't I know it.

No matter how religious a boys upbringing is there is a saying "boys will be boys" there is not that same saying for girls. You end up spending all your teen years suppressing your sexual side and then supposedly when you finally have the O.k. you are going to be this uninhibited she-cat. It just doesn't happen.

I had a mom that went to church every day and said the rosary every day. I also had wild sexual fantasies that were pretty intense starting at age 13 and felt soooo guilty just about having the thoughts, not even doing anything! If you had met me before age 35 I would have struck you as frigid and asexual.

It is unfortunate that we do this to women and I guess their future husbands to boot.

The only advice I have is compliment even her lamest attempt at taking the initiative. Even if it borders on pathetic. Secondly, for me, clothes matter. Going to bed or lounging around in good girl night gowns and PJ sets does not help at all. Halle Berry wears high heels to bed ( At least that is what she told Harpaars Bazaar). My last lover would say "I don't need all that" when it came to sexy nighties. What he didn't seem to understand was that he wasn't the only one I was doing it for.

!!!!! I agree.

1000%

paintedlady said:

Deadflow3r said:

No matter how religious a boys upbringing is there is a saying "boys will be boys" there is not that same saying for girls. You end up spending all your teen years suppressing your sexual side and then supposedly when you finally have the O.k. you are going to be this uninhibited she-cat. It just doesn't happen.

I had a mom that went to church every day and said the rosary every day. I also had wild sexual fantasies that were pretty intense starting at age 13 and felt soooo guilty just about having the thoughts, not even doing anything! If you had met me before age 35 I would have struck you as frigid and asexual.

It is unfortunate that we do this to women and I guess their future husbands to boot.

The only advice I have is compliment even her lamest attempt at taking the initiative. Even if it borders on pathetic. Secondly, for me, clothes matter. Going to bed or lounging around in good girl night gowns and PJ sets does not help at all. Halle Berry wears high heels to bed ( At least that is what she told Harpaars Bazaar). My last lover would say "I don't need all that" when it came to sexy nighties. What he didn't seem to understand was that he wasn't the only one I was doing it for.

!!!!! I agree.

1000%

Thank You! I don't think men understand just how ingrained that can be and spirit crushing. I personally would love a man to give me sexy lingerie. I would see it as a green light and go with it!

Deadflow3r said:

paintedlady said:

!!!!! I agree.

1000%

Thank You! I don't think men understand just how ingrained that can be and spirit crushing. I personally would love a man to give me sexy lingerie. I would see it as a green light and go with it!

My mom is a complete prude and she raised us to "save" ourselves for marriage...

but she ran around like a ho and so did we...

Yet, she imparted me and my sister with the "only dirty girls like sex" mentality. My sister couldn't even bring herself to talk about sex with her own children and they came to me for advice. She was pissed.

Do not even mention masturbation in my family, my sister acts as if its gross... yet my daughter (3 at the time) found one of her footlong strap-ons. Thanks sis...

paintedlady said:

Deadflow3r said:

Thank You! I don't think men understand just how ingrained that can be and spirit crushing. I personally would love a man to give me sexy lingerie. I would see it as a green light and go with it!

My mom is a complete prude and she raised us to "save" ourselves for marriage...

but she ran around like a ho and so did we...

Yet, she imparted me and my sister with the "only dirty girls like sex" mentality. My sister couldn't even bring herself to talk about sex with her own children and they came to me for advice. She was pissed.

Do not even mention masturbation in my family, my sister acts as if its gross... yet my daughter (3 at the time) found one of her footlong strap-ons. Thanks sis...

I most definitely did not go to my mother with any sex questions after our first sex talk! I think I was around 10 or 11 when we did the "talk" and she told me "you just lay there and close your eyes". Let me just say that that was not what I was doing in my sex fantasies! How could I tell her what I was envisioning doing? I truly thought that there was something evil about my mind for these elaborate thoughts that ran through it.

My sister teaches sex ed on the college level but she would be the last person you would want to talk about the pleasures of sex with.

Add to all the Christian guilt was the arrival of women's liberation which made it O.K. to masturbate but every other thing was seen as some sort of way for men to control you, control your sexuality, and be degraded. By the time Madonna had arrived I was already in my early 20's and the damage had been done. I was too close in age to Madonna to be freed by her at all. I just hope my own daughter does not learn sexual guilt like I did. (since she is staying with my sister this is very possible).