So on facebook somebody posted a little video touring their new apartment, and I posted a comment, and then two other people commented too. Then the person who posted the video commented how they were inviting them two when they do a house warming party. But not me. Isn't it kinda rude to discuss a party in front of somebody who isn't invited?

InternationalLover82 said:

So on facebook somebody posted a little video touring their new apartment, and I posted a comment, and then two other people commented too. Then the person who posted the video commented how they were inviting them two when they do a house warming party. But not me. Isn't it kinda rude to discuss a party in front of somebody who isn't invited?

Well, what did you tell them in your comment?

728huey said:

InternationalLover82 said:

So on facebook somebody posted a little video touring their new apartment, and I posted a comment, and then two other people commented too. Then the person who posted the video commented how they were inviting them two when they do a house warming party. But not me. Isn't it kinda rude to discuss a party in front of somebody who isn't invited?

Well, what did you tell them in your comment?

I was being sarcastic about this persons old fashioned stove and I said "awesome stove " then said they should make vlog videos Lol

InternationalLover82 said:

728huey said:

Well, what did you tell them in your comment?

I was being sarcastic about this persons old fashioned stove and I said "awesome stove " then said they should make vlog videos Lol

they maybe disliked your sarcasm, thought you were the rude one, and failed to invie you on that basis

XxAxX said:

InternationalLover82 said:

I was being sarcastic about this persons old fashioned stove and I said "awesome stove " then said they should make vlog videos Lol

they maybe disliked your sarcasm, thought you were the rude one, and failed to invie you on that basis

I was just joking , but the person was sarcastic about it in the video too

This is why Facebook friends are a poor substitute for real friends. And don't tell me "But they ARE my real friends!" If they were, you'd already be seeing them instead of posting on some ridiculous computer program.

Would have been a shit party anyway......fuckum.....

Just post a pic of somebodies bare ass with the caption, "Well you're not invited to my party, either."

That ought to take care of it.

RodeoSchro said:

This is why Facebook friends are a poor substitute for real friends. And don't tell me "But they ARE my real friends!" If they were, you'd already be seeing them instead of posting on some ridiculous computer program.

I'm inclined to agree. This is one of the many reasons why I disabled my FB page. At the end of the day, my REAL friends are the ones who call me up to see how I'm doing or hang out, etc. and vice versa. Plus its extremely easy for folks to misinterpret things that are posted in cyber world.

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Here's the thing: If you have...say...200 Facebook "friends," would you invite all of them to a party?

On one hand, it's stupid to mention having a party knowing that a gazillion people will see that and either a) think they're invited or b) get all butthurt because they aren't.

On the other hand, knowing that it isn't really feasible to issue a blanket invitation to a party, why get all wrapped around the axle if you aren't invited? Are you really that close (in terms of actual friendship or proximity) to this person?

Get over it.

RodeoSchro said:

This is why Facebook friends are a poor substitute for real friends. And don't tell me "But they ARE my real friends!" If they were, you'd already be seeing them instead of posting on some ridiculous computer program.

nah man.

that whole "let's all hang out with people who we have nothing much in common with but we all live in the same area" definition of "friendship" is some seriously neanderthal 20th century mentality.

i would rather have 20 friends in 20 different cities all over the world that i have loads in common with and can hit up any of those cities any time and be welcome, than have 20 friends who all live in my city and we could hang out every day but not really have that much in common with.

obviously theres a balance but i don't think the only definition of "a real friend" is someone you hang out with IRL all the time.

[Edited 10/15/11 14:25pm]

I haven't seen the convo, of course, but it occurs to me that there might not be any party, but they were just making a comment about "we'll have to have you over sometime" and it had nothing to do with excluding you.

RodeoSchro said:

This is why Facebook friends are a poor substitute for real friends. And don't tell me "But they ARE my real friends!" If they were, you'd already be seeing them instead of posting on some ridiculous computer program.

how dare you call him naked!!! the emperor IS wearing clothes!! he IS!!

NDRU said:

Im thinking this was all piss and wind....dont take this to heart mz 82, but your just a little to trusting babe..!!!

Ass shot.

wow, and the party was so awesome too - I went, and I don't even KNOW them!

ZombieKitten said:

wow, and the party was so awesome too - I went, and I don't even KNOW them!

Wow u can b evil.......

davetherave6767 said:

ZombieKitten said:

wow, and the party was so awesome too - I went, and I don't even KNOW them!

Wow u can b evil.......

I didn't even bring my own grog!

ZombieKitten said:

wow, and the party was so awesome too - I went, and I don't even KNOW them!

npgmaverick said:

ZombieKitten said:

wow, and the party was so awesome too - I went, and I don't even KNOW them!

I'm lying, I've never been a party

ZombieKitten said:

npgmaverick said:

I'm lying, I've never been a party

Not what I heard.

Cerebus said:

ZombieKitten said:

I'm lying, I've never been a party

Not what I heard.

I hope my reply wasn't too harsh. I wasn't trying to be rude. I think you're a very, very sweet young lady and you're far too interesting and have way too much to offer to worry about what some people on a computer think.

No it's not rude.

It's presumptuous to assume to automatically be invited to anything not being thrown by one-self.

Someone throwing a party should be able to speak about it publicly without pressure.

And when they don't then they're accused of being sneaky. Just can't win.

johnart said:

No it's not rude.

It's presumptuous to assume to automatically be invited to anything not being thrown by one-self.

Someone throwing a party should be able to speak about it publicly without pressure.

And when they don't then they're accused of being sneaky. Just can't win.

Thanks. I didn't want to make this young girl feel bad. From what I've seen of her, she's very sweet and would be the shining star of any party lucky enough to have her.

RodeoSchro said:

johnart said:

No it's not rude.

It's presumptuous to assume to automatically be invited to anything not being thrown by one-self.

Someone throwing a party should be able to speak about it publicly without pressure.

And when they don't then they're accused of being sneaky. Just can't win.

Thanks. I didn't want to make this young girl feel bad. From what I've seen of her, she's very sweet and would be the shining star of any party lucky enough to have her.

I've never met International in person but I can't imagine she's any less sweet than on here or on her cute videos, but that's just my take on assuming you should be automatically invited to anything. You shouldn't.

Genesia said:

Here's the thing: If you have...say...200 Facebook "friends," would you invite all of them to a party?

On one hand, it's stupid to mention having a party knowing that a gazillion people will see that and either a) think they're invited or b) get all butthurt because they aren't.

On the other hand, knowing that it isn't really feasible to issue a blanket invitation to a party, why get all wrapped around the axle if you aren't invited? Are you really that close (in terms of actual friendship or proximity) to this person?

Get over it.

Although you quite usually make decent and valid points and come across very intelligently, the way you write can be condescending to the point of being offensive.

Respectfully, you could learn to be a little nicer in your wording.

[Edited 10/15/11 23:30pm]

InternationalLover82 said:

So on facebook somebody posted a little video touring their new apartment, and I posted a comment, and then two other people commented too. Then the person who posted the video commented how they were inviting them two when they do a house warming party. But not me. Isn't it kinda rude to discuss a party in front of somebody who isn't invited?

It's FB ~ a social media where people are rude ... or not

and most don't care what others think about their actions or lack there off

I find that rude ... yes, but that's just me

oops

[Edited 10/16/11 12:12pm]