kewlschool said:

kewlschool said:

IamFunkay7 said:

I know I'm not ugly, I'm pretty shy...

Can you post a clear picture of yourself so that we can be the judge of that?

Deadflow3r said:

Spinlight said:

Are you smoking crack?

Really?

Is this what you want to become?

You are evolving from a thoughtful contributor to a downright .

Lastly, I hope you are not following paintedlady and HotGritz around from thread to thread flaming them.

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HE IS WHAT HE IS

paintedlady said:

IamFunkay7 said:

I am confused now, between Spinlight flaming and JustErin saying we should not expect him to pay but he's going to pay, whoring yourself, to hotgritz regulating etc etc.

I....

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I opened that ugly can of worms

but when I was your age most guys were in college/or just getting jobs and in transition ... (broke) so I went out and they paid my way, it was mostly pizza or a burger and I was fine with that on a first date... where we went didn't matter much, it was more about his personality and getting to know a guy.

The BEST dates were those when he cooked for me, but that usually happened later on... I love it when men cook. :swoon:

Chile, just do what ever you feel comfortable doing.

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you are AWESOME!

ConsciousContact said:

IamFunkay7 said:

I know I'm not ugly, I'm pretty shy...

Can you post a clear picture of yourself so that we can be the judge of that?

who in the world says that?

Here I am

IamFunkay7 said:

ConsciousContact said:

Can you post a clear picture of yourself so that we can be the judge of that?

who in the world says that?

Here I am

I want to be clear that you are not getting dates because you are ugly or not.

ConsciousContact said:

IamFunkay7 said:

who in the world says that?

Here I am

I want to be clear that you are not getting dates because you are ugly or not.

Did you not understand the "I know I'm not ugly part." O.o I don't think you get it

IamFunkay7 said:

ConsciousContact said:

Can you post a clear picture of yourself so that we can be the judge of that?

who in the world says that?

Most of the Orgers in General Discussion. You'll get used to it.

PunkMistress said:

IamFunkay7 said:

who in the world says that?

Most of the Orgers in General Discussion. You'll get used to it.

I figured

Was reading this, this weekend.

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morningsong said:

Was reading this, this weekend.

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A coworker JUST walked away from my desk, bitchin' about how much his divorce and DATING is costing him!

My man was just about to start a new job when I met him and had been out of work for 6 months or so prior to that. For our first date he asked me out for coffee and because I got to the coffee shop a few minutes early (and therefore before him) I paid for my own cup. That’s all we had, one cup of coffee each, but we talked for a good few hours.

Our next date we went to an art museum and he paid my entrance fee, so I paid for dinner after. He tried to decline my offer, but reluctantly he let me (after all, he’d been out of work for 6 months).

I don’t think any of that makes him awful or cheap and I am most certainly not ugly or desperate.

And if I’d have let that any of that stop me from getting to know him, I’d have missed what is potentially the love of my life (to use a cheesey but apt phrase).

As for having not dated yet, as everyone else says - work on what makes you happy. Find new hobbies and make sure you're having a good time. It will make you a more interesting person (for attracting new dates) and you'll have the benefit of not pining away in a room wishing you had somebody - you'll be busy having a wonderful life and not so worried about whether you're dating ot not.

CarrieMpls said:

My man was just about to start a new job when I met him and had been out of work for 6 months or so prior to that. For our first date he asked me out for coffee and because I got to the coffee shop a few minutes early (and therefore before him) I paid for my own cup. That’s all we had, one cup of coffee each, but we talked for a good few hours.

Our next date we went to an art museum and he paid my entrance fee, so I paid for dinner after. He tried to decline my offer, but reluctantly he let me (after all, he’d been out of work for 6 months).

I don’t think any of that makes him awful or cheap and I am most certainly not ugly or desperate.

And if I’d have let that any of that stop me from getting to know him, I’d have missed what is potentially the love of my life (to use a cheesey but apt phrase).

awww!

CarrieMpls said:

I don’t think any of that makes him awful or cheap and I am most certainly not ugly or desperate.

And if I’d have let that any of that stop me from getting to know him, I’d have missed what is potentially the love of my life (to use a cheesey but apt phrase).

Exactly. People can have so many preconceived notions and rules about who they are prepared to date that they can sometimes miss out on fine human beings. Not that theres anything wrong with having an ideal that they want to meet, but why be so rigid?

ConsciousContact said:

CarrieMpls said:

I don’t think any of that makes him awful or cheap and I am most certainly not ugly or desperate.

And if I’d have let that any of that stop me from getting to know him, I’d have missed what is potentially the love of my life (to use a cheesey but apt phrase).

Exactly. People can have so many preconceived notions and rules about who they are prepared to date that they can sometimes miss out on fine human beings. Not that theres anything wrong with having an ideal that they want to meet, but why be so rigid?

No... I never made mention of being rigid. Carrie unederstood her man's situation. I said all along that things are different depending on a situation. I have done the same in her situation.

For people to come in here and act as if anyone said that... they are wrong.

People need to read the posts more carefully.

I could date a broke man... not a cheapass. There is a difference.

Dating a guy who CAN'T do is different than dating a guy that will NOT do.

Is it wrong that I fear getting with someone I am not attracted to, I know he's not going to be a Lenny Kravitz but.... come on now lol

IamFunkay7 said:

Is it wrong that I fear getting with someone I am not attracted to, I know he's not going to be a Lenny Kravitz but.... come on now lol

That's a strange fear to have. You have complete control over your participation in the "getting with". Just don't get with anyone you're not attracted to. It's pretty simple.

paintedlady said:

ConsciousContact said:

Exactly. People can have so many preconceived notions and rules about who they are prepared to date that they can sometimes miss out on fine human beings. Not that theres anything wrong with having an ideal that they want to meet, but why be so rigid?

No... I never made mention of being rigid. Carrie unederstood her man's situation. I said all along that things are different depending on a situation. I have done the same in her situation.

For people to come in here and act as if anyone said that... they are wrong.

People need to read the posts more carefully.

I could date a broke man... not a cheapass. There is a difference.

Dating a guy who CAN'T do is different than dating a guy that will NOT do.

I wasn't talking about you I was talking about my thoughts on people in general who approach situations with rules and regulations and are rigid.

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CarrieMpls said:

It's pretty simple.

Yer not calling love 'simple', are ya?

But what if he's a rich 'someone I'm not attracted to'?

HamsterHuey said:

CarrieMpls said:

It's pretty simple.

Yer not calling love 'simple', are ya?

But what if he's a rich 'someone I'm not attracted to'?

The "I'm not attracted to" part tends to dissappear as soon as the "rich" part enters the scene.

HamsterHuey said:

CarrieMpls said:

It's pretty simple.

Yer not calling love 'simple', are ya?

But what if he's a rich 'someone I'm not attracted to'?

I'm not calling love in itself simple, but I think it's simple to only "get with" someone I'm attracted to.

Attraction itself can be complicated, though. And for some women how much money a man makes is a factor in attraction.

That doesn't matter to me, though. Didn't you see my bf was broke when I met him?

PurpleJedi said:

HamsterHuey said:

Yer not calling love 'simple', are ya?

But what if he's a rich 'someone I'm not attracted to'?

The "I'm not attracted to" part tends to dissappear as soon as the "rich" part enters the scene.

I wouldn't say it tends to, but it's a factor for some women. A guy could be a billionaire and have a perfect body and face, but if he's a jerk who kicks puppies and is, say, a registered republican I'd find him utterly unattractive.

CarrieMpls said:

PurpleJedi said:

The "I'm not attracted to" part tends to dissappear as soon as the "rich" part enters the scene.

I wouldn't say it tends to, but it's a factor for some women. A guy could be a billionaire and have a perfect body and face, but if he's a jerk who kicks puppies and is, say, a registered republican I'd find him utterly unattractive.

OK...you did say BILLIONARE, right?

For a chunk of that change, you'd join the NRA and shoot puppies dangling from a clothesline with a grenade launcher...who are YOU kidding.

PurpleJedi said:

CarrieMpls said:

I wouldn't say it tends to, but it's a factor for some women. A guy could be a billionaire and have a perfect body and face, but if he's a jerk who kicks puppies and is, say, a registered republican I'd find him utterly unattractive.

OK...you did say BILLIONARE, right?

For a chunk of that change, you'd join the NRA and shoot puppies dangling from a clothesline with a grenade launcher...who are YOU kidding.

No richness over here, never been into money like that, if I don't find you attractive, then its not going to work.

IamFunkay7 said:

PurpleJedi said:

OK...you did say BILLIONARE, right?

For a chunk of that change, you'd join the NRA and shoot puppies dangling from a clothesline with a grenade launcher...who are YOU kidding.

No richness over here, never been into money like that, if I don't find you attractive, then its not going to work.

Come on...you'd at least KICK a puppy for a piece of a BILLION dollars!