This wasn't about whether or not you get lucky with a nice cop. It was simply a statement of fact.

I don't have to be fucking a woman to know how women interact with men. I've had plenty of relationships with females. Do you know me that well? Damn... Let the argument be what it is without you sniffing around my tree.

The "pursuing" can be seen as just another way of wording "courtship/courting" and obviously this whole concept is not self-evident or it would not have drawn out to 6 pages.

This obviously comes from your humongous, bulbous, floppy EGO that you drench the whole of General in every day. What other excuse could there be for the thing you are defending? Well you asked me out so YOU have to pay cuz you're leasing my goodies? That is mindfuckingly stupid and would explain why you still talk about dating rather than marriage.

Deadflow3r said:

HotGritz said:

and IamFunkay7 will find a taker as well and won't have to worry about whether they pay for the date. Such things only matter here on the org.

Remember I am a single woman living on disability. I have a ton of good qualities IMO.

However, I don't think it would be wrong if a guy would say "pass" specifically because of my financial situation. He has that right.

Maybe he wants a woman that he can take places and she has appropriate attire to wear and he does not also have to pay for that. Who knows?

What I am against is dishonesty about ones motives for accepting the date or pursuing the person to begin with.

T, you've opened up a whole other can of worms.

Spinlight said:

This wasn't about whether or not you get lucky with a nice cop. It was simply a statement of fact.

I don't have to be fucking a woman to know how women interact with men. A fucking woman? Um, okkkaayy. Well, I would say you do have to be a woman to truly know how women interact with men unless you're sitting up there on the date from the moment he picks her up to the moment he takes her home and anything in between, otherwise you are hearing one side of the story.

I've had plenty of relationships with females. Do you know me that well? Damn... Let the argument be what it is without you sniffing around my tree. I didn't sniff around your tree I merely peed on it as it was right there in the open. You shouldn't expose your tree that way. And your relationships with women aren't really what I'm talking about but whatevs. I lie to my gay friends too.

The "pursuing" can be seen as just another way of wording "courtship/courting" and obviously this whole concept is not self-evident or it would not have drawn out to 6 pages. I thought the 6 pages were about you and JE trying to infer that women are gold-diggers with entitlement issues.

This obviously comes from your humongous, bulbous, floppy EGO that you drench the whole of General in every day. NOW THERE'S THE NAMECALLING SPINLIGHT THAT WE ALL KNOW AND TOLERATE!

What other excuse could there be for the thing you are defending? Um, that thing you refer to is a woman's right to choose, to have her company appreciated, and to not be judged because she likes the 'institution" of courtship.

Well you asked me out so YOU have to pay cuz you're leasing my goodies? Back to your presumptions about women and sex are we? Um...okay!

That is mindfuckingly stupid and would explain why you still talk about dating rather than marriage. I talk about dating as opposed to marriage because I CAN! I got it like that. Sorry if you don't. I can get date, get married, get divorced and do it all fucking over again. Now what!

Are you smoking crack?

FAIL!

You talk about dating because your priorities are so fucked up that you can't manage a serious relationship. THAT is self-evident.

And anyone can get married, boo. Any damn one. Hell, in some places you can get married before you can sprout tits. I guess that concept is too complex for you.

Have fun in your Dirty... 50s.

holy cow!

i'm totally being taken out of context!

JerseyKRS said:

holy cow!

i'm totally being taken out of context!

This fucking thread.

Spinlight said:

Are you smoking crack?

Really?

Is this what you want to become?

You are evolving from a thoughtful contributor to a downright .

Lastly, I hope you are not following paintedlady and HotGritz around from thread to thread flaming them.

[Edited 10/20/11 10:34am]

Deadflow3r said:

PunkMistress said:

Doesn't he already have three of them?

And none of those chicks were awesome. They were all ugly, dirty, stupid whores.

This is where the thread starts to go wrong, very, very wrong.

People getting flippant and sarcastic and I start loosing the point.

Only desperate men willing to take whomever settles for them are asking out ugly dirty stupid whores.

What am i to believe is happening in this exchange????

It was a joke.

Y'know, 'cause I'm married to him? So every woman that came before me was an ugly whore? 'Cause I'm sooo jealous? Funny? No?

I didn't realize how serious people were about this subject. Yikes. I'll take my clownery back to the circus, see yas.

On dates bills must be paid quickly, in order to proceed to the bedroom

Nearly 200 posts on this thread, and the OP is now probably as confused as I am as to whether or not going dutch on a date is acceptable or taboo.

How's about we all agree to disagree on this very un-important subject?

There are women who expect the man to pay for the bill, and there are those who don't and whip out the purse on cue (I hope to meet some of THOSE when I start dating).

There are men who feel uncomfortable having the woman pay for the bill, and those who welcome it.

Why don't we instead focus on how to find someone to date in the first place, who shares similar ideals when it comes to footing the bill, opening car doors, and giving head?

Would help the OP (and others) navigate this crazy dating world.

P.S. - Match.com can be a dud.

hendrikus said:

On dates bills must be paid quickly, in order to proceed to the bedroom

I am confused now, between Spinlight flaming and JustErin saying we should not expect him to pay but he's going to pay, whoring yourself, to hotgritz regulating etc etc.

I....

[Edited 10/20/11 12:10pm]

IamFunkay7 said:

I am confused now, between Spinlight flaming and JustErin saying we should not expect him to pay but he's going to pay, whoring yourself, to hotgritz regulating etc etc.

I....

[Edited 10/20/11 12:10pm]

I know...I know...

...what're you doing Friday night....?

IamFunkay7 said:

I am confused now, between Spinlight flaming and JustErin saying we should not expect him to pay but he's going to pay, whoring yourself, to hotgritz regulating etc etc.

I....

[Edited 10/20/11 12:10pm]

I opened that ugly can of worms

but when I was your age most guys were in college/or just getting jobs and in transition ... (broke) so I went out and they paid my way, it was mostly pizza or a burger and I was fine with that on a first date... where we went didn't matter much, it was more about his personality and getting to know a guy.

The BEST dates were those when he cooked for me, but that usually happened later on... I love it when men cook. :swoon:

Chile, just do what ever you feel comfortable doing.

[Edited 10/20/11 13:04pm]

PurpleJedi said:

IamFunkay7 said:

I am confused now, between Spinlight flaming and JustErin saying we should not expect him to pay but he's going to pay, whoring yourself, to hotgritz regulating etc etc.

I....

[Edited 10/20/11 12:10pm]

I know...I know...

...what're you doing Friday night....?

Seize the moment PJ!

IamFunkay7 said:

I am confused now, between Spinlight flaming and JustErin saying we should not expect him to pay but he's going to pay, whoring yourself, to hotgritz regulating etc etc.

I....

[Edited 10/20/11 12:10pm]

I am not flaming. I'm disagreeing with the people you agree with. There's a difference.

Deadflow3r said:

Spinlight said:

Are you smoking crack?

Really?

Is this what you want to become?

You are evolving from a thoughtful contributor to a downright .

Lastly, I hope you are not following paintedlady and HotGritz around from thread to thread flaming them.

[Edited 10/20/11 10:34am]

What is it with you self righteous people on this forum?

You don't know me, you know my posts, and the minute I say something you don't predict I am somehow a troll? Please.

I have been a thoughtful contributor in the entire thread, but that doesn't mean I need to continue to pander to someone's idiocy. I've been passive-aggressively accused of being multiple things in this thread, including a tranny, and you wanna say I am the troll?

You can feel free to have w/e opinion of me that makes you feel better about the way I post.

Spinlight said:

IamFunkay7 said:

I am confused now, between Spinlight flaming and JustErin saying we should not expect him to pay but he's going to pay, whoring yourself, to hotgritz regulating etc etc.

I....

[Edited 10/20/11 12:10pm]

I am not flaming. I'm disagreeing with the people you agree with. There's a difference.

Just admit Spin, you like to flame lol. Disagreeing is one thing, but insulting people is another thing. Thats okay we all flame sometimes

IamFunkay7 said:

Spinlight said:

I am not flaming. I'm disagreeing with the people you agree with. There's a difference.

Just admit Spin, you like to flame lol. Disagreeing is one thing, but insulting people is another thing. Thats okay we all flame sometimes

Selective reading. I guess if someone insults your intelligence, it's not a flame, but if I ask someone if they are smoking crack and say they have a big floppy ego, I am flaming.

Sometimes this forum just likes to pick enemies and make it part of the lexicon. I'm okay with that.

Guess I should break out my Scarface DVDs.

Spinlight said:

IamFunkay7 said:

I am confused now, between Spinlight flaming and JustErin saying we should not expect him to pay but he's going to pay, whoring yourself, to hotgritz regulating etc etc.

I....

[Edited 10/20/11 12:10pm]

I am not flaming. I'm disagreeing with the people you agree with. There's a difference.

Actually, she stayed in neutral territory. She never agreed with any view or opposed it.

You sir have a VERY difficult time disagreeing with someone without being emotion or taking an opposing view as a personal attack.

You have a knee jerk reaction if someone says anything about you being gay.... you snap and accuse people (like me) of racism and bigoted behavior against an entire group of people because I disagree with you.

You have insulted me every chance you got and you act as if I have no intelligence or have ulterior motive...

one re-read of this thread is proof enough.

You also take any disagreement and bring it to other threads.... you did that also.

So yes, its ONE thing to disagree....

its quite another to insult and post condescending comments to someone just because they don't share the same views as you do.... and that is flaming... and to take that shit on other threads and follow people around and jump in a thread just to disagree and attack specific orgers repeatedly is trolling...

you do that too.... every chance you get.

And yes... that's my "jive" talk.... funny how you only use that term and others related to black stereo type...to black orgers only. You do that often. Hmm... I wonder why, but I will tell you one thing... the BeeGees has nothing to do with that.

I haven't insulted you one time... I only said the truth.

I am done with you know, since you do not like nor respect me one little bit... I'm good with that too. People can clearly read for themselves and decide what's up.

I won't feed you anymore. :->:

Elle85n09 said:

PurpleJedi said:

I know...I know...

...what're you doing Friday night....?

Seize the moment PJ!

Carpe muthafuckin' diem...!

Spinlight may be aggressive and even somewhat rude with his responses sometimes, but the dude is absolutely not flaming or baiting...or at the very least, he's not being anymore of a flamer (that sounds stupid) than others in here.

Add me to the roster of Team What the Fuck? for this thread.

Sure do love me some red herring.

PurpleJedi said:

Elle85n09 said:

Seize the moment PJ!

Carpe muthafuckin' diem...!

I'm going to try to tame my little red machine!, honestly, my car needs to be fixed lol.

I love connorhawke and I love ZombieKitten to death.

However, if they came onto this board and flamed people I would say so.

I have always enjoyed Spinlights posts. He has started taking to flaming people straight out.

Part of being an org friend is telling people the truth. It is just like real life in that regard. I don't want any friends that can not tell me what they see as the truth and I will never be that kind of friend to anyone else.

Trust me, it is not fun to tell people that you love that what they are doing is something that you don't condone, but that is a part of being an adult. Friendships are not real if they must remain in a hot house to survive. I am not going to coddle anyone, LEAST of all - people that I like.

Deadflow3r said:

I love connorhawke and I love ZombieKitten to death.

However, if they came onto this board and flamed people I would say so.

I have always enjoyed Spinlights posts. He has started taking to flaming people straight out.

Part of being an org friend is telling people the truth. It is just like real life in that regard. I don't want any friends that can not tell me what they see as the truth and I will never be that kind of friend to anyone else.

Trust me, it is not fun to tell people that you love that what they are doing is something that you don't condone, but that is a part of being an adult. Friendships are not real if they must remain in a hot house to survive. I am not going to coddle anyone, LEAST of all - people that I like.

Making sweeping statements about the conduct of my posts is a cheap shot, not a helpful hint from a friend. And were you to regard me as such, you would pull me aside in an orgnote rather than make a public spectacle of your disapproval of my behavior.

Furthermore, I (like everyone else) have my own limits and when someone begins to load up their responses to me with veiled jabs or goes as far as to suggest I'm racist, you are damn right I'm going to throw my hands up. They wanna roll in the mud? Fine. I can roll in the mud. But I'm not gonna fuckin apologize for rolling in the mud on my own terms.

I love how these threads sometimes go (with the usual suspects) where they become some kind of psychoanalytical support group for a poster whose posts you don't understand or care for. You want to have public dialogue about your estimation of my character? Cool. Don't expect me to participate in it. Let's not pretend that people who have publically raked me over the coals has EVER reached out to me in an orgnote or ever took any other avenue to settle a disagreement other than flat out flamethrowing fests.

Again, I'm totally cool with people not liking my posts. You don't have to reply. I apologize that the antiquated software prevents you from being able to block me. Why not do what some other ladies do here and play a game of entrapment by setting me up to say somethin' bannable.

Spinlight said:

Deadflow3r said:

I love connorhawke and I love ZombieKitten to death.

However, if they came onto this board and flamed people I would say so.

I have always enjoyed Spinlights posts. He has started taking to flaming people straight out.

Part of being an org friend is telling people the truth. It is just like real life in that regard. I don't want any friends that can not tell me what they see as the truth and I will never be that kind of friend to anyone else.

Trust me, it is not fun to tell people that you love that what they are doing is something that you don't condone, but that is a part of being an adult. Friendships are not real if they must remain in a hot house to survive. I am not going to coddle anyone, LEAST of all - people that I like.

Making sweeping statements about the conduct of my posts is a cheap shot, not a helpful hint from a friend. And were you to regard me as such, you would pull me aside in an orgnote rather than make a public spectacle of your disapproval of my behavior.

Furthermore, I (like everyone else) have my own limits and when someone begins to load up their responses to me with veiled jabs or goes as far as to suggest I'm racist, you are damn right I'm going to throw my hands up. They wanna roll in the mud? Fine. I can roll in the mud. But I'm not gonna fuckin apologize for rolling in the mud on my own terms.

I love how these threads sometimes go (with the usual suspects) where they become some kind of psychoanalytical support group for a poster whose posts you don't understand or care for. You want to have public dialogue about your estimation of my character? Cool. Don't expect me to participate in it. Let's not pretend that people who have publically raked me over the coals has EVER reached out to me in an orgnote or ever took any other avenue to settle a disagreement other than flat out flamethrowing fests.

Again, I'm totally cool with people not liking my posts. You don't have to reply. I apologize that the antiquated software prevents you from being able to block me. Why not do what some other ladies do here and play a game of entrapment by setting me up to say somethin' bannable.

My post was not meant for just you.

At this point I am hijacking this thread so I will make it brief.

I am very annoyed by the fact that people are very into their cliques around here to the point that if you are friends with someone you back up every last thing that comes out of their mouth. I hate that nonsense. It is especially saddening when most of these individuals who are doing it are well over 30.