I'm in class trying not to laugh so hard

and my Bible is not crusty, I suggest you read it sometimes Spinlight.

as for the other stuff, well... I guess the solution would be get out of the house. I don't want to sex in any kind of way right now, I think it's just harder finding a guy with my same beliefs... I could always join the singles group at my church... and go out more.

IamFunkay7 said:

I'm in class trying not to laugh so hard

and my Bible is not crusty, I suggest you read it sometimes Spinlight.

as for the other stuff, well... I guess the solution would be get out of the house. I don't want to sex in any kind of way right now, I think it's just harder finding a guy with my same beliefs... I could always join the singles group at my church... and go out more.

Oh honey, you'll get plenty of dick in church. Just put on a schoolboy uniform and you'll have to beat the priests off with a stick.

vainandy said:

IamFunkay7 said:

I'm in class trying not to laugh so hard

and my Bible is not crusty, I suggest you read it sometimes Spinlight.

as for the other stuff, well... I guess the solution would be get out of the house. I don't want to sex in any kind of way right now, I think it's just harder finding a guy with my same beliefs... I could always join the singles group at my church... and go out more.

Oh honey, you'll get plenty of dick in church. Just put on a schoolboy uniform and you'll have to beat the priests off with a stick.

lol but I did say I didn't want to sex in any kind of way right now.

vainandy said:

ScarletScandal said:

Gotta give that ass on the first date, douche first carefully. Please got to my douching thresd for proper instructions, but always give up the ass first date. Make sure u really get it stuck in to, none of this i'm going half way in NO!!!!

He NEEDS TO STICK IT IN ALL THE DAMNNNNN WAY, TILL IT'S IN THE GUTS YA FEEL ME?

Take it from a man LIKE A MAN

You whore!

Hell, I couldn't be no woman because I'd be done walked into a room full of men and holler...."I want some dick!".....and I guarantee you, I'd come out there with more dick than I knew what to do with. Honey, these women got it made and just don't know it.

And yet some people still argued that men have it easier when it comes to hooking up on this thread: http://prince.org/msg/100/368135

vainandy said:

paintedlady said:

Did she say date or fuck?

My understanding is that dating is making a man spend his money while fucking is fucking...

you want a man to spend money on you and take your ass out, then you need to be seen.

Do what HamsterHuey said.

if you just wanna fuck...

then do what Vainandy said... walk into a room and annouce you need some dick*.

*warning: doing this may lead to possible coldsores on your vulva, and or, foul smelling and or discolored discharge, burning sensation,redness, swelling, spotting,itchyness, missed periods, infertility, cervical cancer, scabies burrowing in the folds your skin, scabbing on the vulva, hair loss, louse infection and loss of life.

Dating has nothing to do with making a man spend his money on you. It's simply about spending some time together to see if you want to be in a committed relationship.

JustErin said:

paintedlady said:

Did she say date or fuck?

My understanding is that dating is making a man spend his money while fucking is fucking...

you want a man to spend money on you and take your ass out, then you need to be seen.

Do what HamsterHuey said.

if you just wanna fuck...

then do what Vainandy said... walk into a room and annouce you need some dick*.

*warning: doing this may lead to possible coldsores on your vulva, and or, foul smelling and or discolored discharge, burning sensation,redness, swelling, spotting,itchyness, missed periods, infertility, cervical cancer, scabies burrowing in the folds your skin, scabbing on the vulva, hair loss, louse infection and loss of life.

Dating has nothing to do with making a man spend his money on you. It's simply about spending some time together to see if you want to be in a committed relationship.

Duh! But there is no harm in getting a fed a free meal while you get your cuddle on. You know I'm not lying.

I just learned what second base was yesterday I had to ask...

IamFunkay7 said:

I just learned what second base was yesterday I had to ask...

What is it?

I'm not american so I'm not clued up on all the bases, although I can take a wild guess on home

I read an article about what men go after recently.

They like chicks that seem as if they are out to have a good time and not looking specifically to meet their life partner. Just get yourself your beverage and loosen up and enjoy the night, SMILE.

Don't talk negatively about other women

Have interests outside of finding Mr Right

Jeans and heels with a slim t shirt seems to also impress them.

Be the kind of person you would want to date. Would you date you? Do you project confidence, and fun?

Know thyself.

I think there was more but I forgot the rest.

sextonseven said:

vainandy said:

You whore!

Hell, I couldn't be no woman because I'd be done walked into a room full of men and holler...."I want some dick!".....and I guarantee you, I'd come out there with more dick than I knew what to do with. Honey, these women got it made and just don't know it.

And yet some people still argued that men have it easier when it comes to hooking up on this thread: http://prince.org/msg/100/368135

you know what, say a guy wanted to get laid, he could do exactly the same thing

he wouldn't necessarily get the kind of laid he really wants, but laid is laid!

I think that might explain how appealling that idea is to a woman, or me at least, since I can only speak for myself

I would say, if you go to church, I'm pretty sure there are some guys there that are interested in you. From my experiences, a lot of freaky people go to church. Heck, I've had sex in church before. People go to praise the Lord, but they also go to see if they can find sometime to make "whoopee" with. Just don't be so nervous, & pay attention more while you're there, & I'm sure someones noticing you.....I know sex isn't your goal, but always be honest with yourself...sex is bound to happen when you meet someone you're really into.....

paintedlady said:

JustErin said:

Dating has nothing to do with making a man spend his money on you. It's simply about spending some time together to see if you want to be in a committed relationship.

Duh! But there is no harm in getting a fed a free meal while you get your cuddle on. You know I'm not lying.

This is why girls get treated poorly.

Spinlight said:

paintedlady said:

Duh! But there is no harm in getting a fed a free meal while you get your cuddle on. You know I'm not lying.

This is why girls get treated poorly.

Men's behavior toward women is largely in response to how women treat them.

Men are usually direct and straightforward, while women frequently like to play games. This often causes men to say "screw it" and not bother.

Case in point, I've known women who absolutely will not show interest in a guy even if they like him and he likes them. These women are of the mind that they must reject a guy multiple times before finally agreeing to go on a date. The women are of the mind that men have to "prove" their feelings and work hard at winning them over. No doesn't mean no, no means keep trying until it's yes. It's that sort of message which causes men to either give up and move on, or keep pestering someone who truly doesn't have any interest in them.

As for the money issue, these days guys are scared to death of marriage because they've seen all the men who have become financially ruined after divorce. It's unfortunate because not every woman's goal is to get married so they can one day take the house and collect alimony, but for many guys marriage is simply not worth the risk.

Spinlight said:

paintedlady said:

Duh! But there is no harm in getting a fed a free meal while you get your cuddle on. You know I'm not lying.

This is why girls get treated poorly.

Not true... dating is expensive... most men like to treat their ladies right,

so... whether its a nice restaurant or a special trip to the grocery store to cook a good meal to impress her then that's part of the courtship ritual. I never said that she couldn't reciprocate.

Men do all types of shit for pussy... and many women are treated just fine by men because men have a sense of pride in the fact that they know how to treat their ladies right. Grown and sexy men do that is... a cheap asshole will always complain about any money he has to spaend for any reason.

paintedlady said:

Spinlight said:

This is why girls get treated poorly.

Not true... dating is expensive... most men like to treat their ladies right,

so... whether its a nice restaurant or a special trip to the grocery store to cook a good meal to impress her then that's part of the courtship ritual. I never said that she couldn't reciprocate.

Men do all types of shit for pussy... and many women are treated just fine by men because men have a sense of pride in the fact that they know how to treat their ladies right. Grown and sexy men do that is... a cheap asshole will always complain about any money he has to spaend for any reason.

Listen...I was just talking to a recently-divorced co-worker in his late 40's...he spent the weekend in Atlantic City with a girl he recently met. 10 years his junior. He picked her up and drove. She paid for the hotel.

I've already posted about my ex sis-in-law supporting a boyfriend who has no car, no home, no solid job, no money, no desire to commit, but turns her ass out.

I guess what I'm saying is the tide is turning. Some of the old rules still apply obviously (I wouldn't be comfortable taking a girl out on a date and NOT paying) but in more & more cases the roles are reversed.

...and I guess it helps to have a fully loaded weapon in your arsenal.

sextonseven said:

vainandy said:

You whore!

Hell, I couldn't be no woman because I'd be done walked into a room full of men and holler...."I want some dick!".....and I guarantee you, I'd come out there with more dick than I knew what to do with. Honey, these women got it made and just don't know it.

And yet some people still argued that men have it easier when it comes to hooking up on this thread: http://prince.org/msg/100/368135

Hell, even the ugliest woman could get the best looking man in bed if she just comes up to him and says..."Give me some dick".....Men, on the other hand, have to beat around the bush, wait, spend money, etc. and still may not get a woman into bed. Hell, I've seen some fine ass men practically begging an ugly woman. All I do is shake my head and think to myself....hell, that's what you get for wanting a woman. Drop the bitch and make the switch and the only effort you'll have to make when it comes to me is unzipping your pants.

PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

Not true... dating is expensive... most men like to treat their ladies right,

so... whether its a nice restaurant or a special trip to the grocery store to cook a good meal to impress her then that's part of the courtship ritual. I never said that she couldn't reciprocate.

Men do all types of shit for pussy... and many women are treated just fine by men because men have a sense of pride in the fact that they know how to treat their ladies right. Grown and sexy men do that is... a cheap asshole will always complain about any money he has to spaend for any reason.

Listen...I was just talking to a recently-divorced co-worker in his late 40's...he spent the weekend in Atlantic City with a girl he recently met. 10 years his junior. He picked her up and drove. She paid for the hotel.

I've already posted about my ex sis-in-law supporting a boyfriend who has no car, no home, no solid job, no money, no desire to commit, but turns her ass out.

I guess what I'm saying is the tide is turning. Some of the old rules still apply obviously (I wouldn't be comfortable taking a girl out on a date and NOT paying) but in more & more cases the roles are reversed.

...and I guess it helps to have a fully loaded weapon in your arsenal.

I NEVER said dating is ONLY expensive for men... but while SHE dates she can expect to be treated to a few free meals.

When you go out on a date... do YOU leave your wallet at home?

paintedlady said:

JustErin said:

Dating has nothing to do with making a man spend his money on you. It's simply about spending some time together to see if you want to be in a committed relationship.

Duh! But there is no harm in getting a fed a free meal while you get your cuddle on. You know I'm not lying.

That's just whoring for food instead of money. Ain't no shame in being a whore though. Hell, if a man is crazy enough to pay for it, by all means, charge that dumb motherfucker. But if you're gonna be a whore, be a good whore. Go for the money honey. Leave the whoring for food to the crack ho's. Those bitches will do it for an RC Cola, a Moonpie, and on a good day, some hoghead souse.

paintedlady said:

PurpleJedi said:

Listen...I was just talking to a recently-divorced co-worker in his late 40's...he spent the weekend in Atlantic City with a girl he recently met. 10 years his junior. He picked her up and drove. She paid for the hotel.

I've already posted about my ex sis-in-law supporting a boyfriend who has no car, no home, no solid job, no money, no desire to commit, but turns her ass out.

I guess what I'm saying is the tide is turning. Some of the old rules still apply obviously (I wouldn't be comfortable taking a girl out on a date and NOT paying) but in more & more cases the roles are reversed.

...and I guess it helps to have a fully loaded weapon in your arsenal.

I NEVER said dating is ONLY expensive for men... but while SHE dates she can expect to be treated to a few free meals.

When you go out on a date... do YOU leave your wallet at home?

...when I begin to date again, I don't think that I could allow her to pay. It's just not me.

But I find it interesting how the roles are shifting in a big way.

...and you can leave your purse at home...

PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

I NEVER said dating is ONLY expensive for men... but while SHE dates she can expect to be treated to a few free meals.

When you go out on a date... do YOU leave your wallet at home?

...when I begin to date again, I don't think that I could allow her to pay. It's just not me.

But I find it interesting how the roles are shifting in a big way.

...and you can leave your purse at home...

Aww hell no... since day one I always broght my purse with me and enough cash for a quick getaway JIC. :Ben we need a road runner-run like hell emoticon:

Seriously.. men like spoiling women and making them swoon... in or out the bedroom. I think women have always paid on dates on occassion but now its gaining more popularity because men now aren't considered scrubs if a woman pays.

I don't know why folks are pulling up in here like a girl shouldn't expect a free meal.

I think you'll enjoy dating again P.Jedi... its really tit for tat now with most women.

ZombieKitten said:

you know what, say a guy wanted to get laid, he could do exactly the same thing

he wouldn't necessarily get the kind of laid he really wants, but laid is laid!

I think that might explain how appealling that idea is to a woman, or me at least, since I can only speak for myself

No. Andy can explain it better than I can:

vainandy said:

Hell, even the ugliest woman could get the best looking man in bed if she just comes up to him and says..."Give me some dick".....Men, on the other hand, have to beat around the bush, wait, spend money, etc. and still may not get a woman into bed. Hell, I've seen some fine ass men practically begging an ugly woman. All I do is shake my head and think to myself....hell, that's what you get for wanting a woman. Drop the bitch and make the switch and the only effort you'll have to make when it comes to me is unzipping your pants.

PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

Not true... dating is expensive... most men like to treat their ladies right,

so... whether its a nice restaurant or a special trip to the grocery store to cook a good meal to impress her then that's part of the courtship ritual. I never said that she couldn't reciprocate.

Men do all types of shit for pussy... and many women are treated just fine by men because men have a sense of pride in the fact that they know how to treat their ladies right. Grown and sexy men do that is... a cheap asshole will always complain about any money he has to spaend for any reason.

Listen...I was just talking to a recently-divorced co-worker in his late 40's...he spent the weekend in Atlantic City with a girl he recently met. 10 years his junior. He picked her up and drove. She paid for the hotel.

I've already posted about my ex sis-in-law supporting a boyfriend who has no car, no home, no solid job, no money, no desire to commit, but turns her ass out.

I guess what I'm saying is the tide is turning. Some of the old rules still apply obviously (I wouldn't be comfortable taking a girl out on a date and NOT paying) but in more & more cases the roles are reversed.

...and I guess it helps to have a fully loaded weapon in your arsenal.

There is a saying that I can not think of that basically means "he who pays is the boss and gets the final say". In the old days a man did all the paying. That means that ultimately he had the last say on where you went and what you ate and so on and so forth. When a woman pays it sort of sends a message that she is as much invested in this as he is. If she continues to insist on paying some of the time she will always insist on being an equal partner; no one will be ruling the roost and always having the last say.

Deadflow3r said:

PurpleJedi said:

Listen...I was just talking to a recently-divorced co-worker in his late 40's...he spent the weekend in Atlantic City with a girl he recently met. 10 years his junior. He picked her up and drove. She paid for the hotel.

I've already posted about my ex sis-in-law supporting a boyfriend who has no car, no home, no solid job, no money, no desire to commit, but turns her ass out.

I guess what I'm saying is the tide is turning. Some of the old rules still apply obviously (I wouldn't be comfortable taking a girl out on a date and NOT paying) but in more & more cases the roles are reversed.

...and I guess it helps to have a fully loaded weapon in your arsenal.

There is a saying that I can not think of that basically means "he who pays is the boss and gets the final say". In the old days a man did all the paying. That means that ultimately he had the last say on where you went and what you ate and so on and so forth. When a woman pays it sort of sends a message that she is as much invested in this as he is. If she continues to insist on paying some of the time she will always insist on being an equal partner; no one will be ruling the roost and always having the last say.

...interesting...

paintedlady said:

PurpleJedi said:

...when I begin to date again, I don't think that I could allow her to pay. It's just not me.

But I find it interesting how the roles are shifting in a big way.

...and you can leave your purse at home...

Aww hell no... since day one I always broght my purse with me and enough cash for a quick getaway JIC. :Ben we need a road runner-run like hell emoticon:

Seriously.. men like spoiling women and making them swoon... in or out the bedroom. I think women have always paid on dates on occassion but now its gaining more popularity because men now aren't considered scrubs if a woman pays.

I don't know why folks are pulling up in here like a girl shouldn't expect a free meal.

I think you'll enjoy dating again P.Jedi... its really tit for tat now with most women.

I can picture you sittin' at the table, then your date looks into your eyes and says; "Ever heard of phimosis?" And next thing you know there's a white cloud of dust where you were sittin' at mere seconds earlier.

vainandy said:

paintedlady said:

Duh! But there is no harm in getting a fed a free meal while you get your cuddle on. You know I'm not lying.

That's just whoring for food instead of money. Ain't no shame in being a whore though. Hell, if a man is crazy enough to pay for it, by all means, charge that dumb motherfucker. But if you're gonna be a whore, be a good whore. Go for the money honey. Leave the whoring for food to the crack ho's. Those bitches will do it for an RC Cola, a Moonpie, and on a good day, some hoghead souse.

I just saw this! True... you are crazy Andy!

As for me, it depends on the guy... and if I NEED dick I'll feed his ass while he can do me after...

but most guys do like to cuddle and talk and do not mind spending time and getting a bite to eat while at it. Sometimes a guys just wants a companion to a movie and a meal... it beats staying home and being bored... but now if she is in college, then dudes in college are generally broke and splitting the costs of a meal may be more realistic.

PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

Aww hell no... since day one I always broght my purse with me and enough cash for a quick getaway JIC. :Ben we need a road runner-run like hell emoticon:

Seriously.. men like spoiling women and making them swoon... in or out the bedroom. I think women have always paid on dates on occassion but now its gaining more popularity because men now aren't considered scrubs if a woman pays.

I don't know why folks are pulling up in here like a girl shouldn't expect a free meal.

I think you'll enjoy dating again P.Jedi... its really tit for tat now with most women.

I can picture you sittin' at the table, then your date looks into your eyes and says; "Ever heard of phimosis?" And next thing you know there's a white cloud of dust where you were sittin' at mere seconds earlier.

:choking on my drink:

!!!!!

paintedlady said:

Spinlight said:

This is why girls get treated poorly.

Not true... dating is expensive... most men like to treat their ladies right,

so... whether its a nice restaurant or a special trip to the grocery store to cook a good meal to impress her then that's part of the courtship ritual. I never said that she couldn't reciprocate.

Men do all types of shit for pussy... and many women are treated just fine by men because men have a sense of pride in the fact that they know how to treat their ladies right. Grown and sexy men do that is... a cheap asshole will always complain about any money he has to spaend for any reason.

You know, I find it hard to relate to someone in their 40s who still uses descriptions like "grown and sexy." It's neither grown nor sexy to expect you to be carried because you partake in game playing.

Maybe if people were more concerned with treating each other fairly and walking with a sense of confidence, they would not feel so compelled to stack cards against each other prior to knowing one's intent. Who cares if men treat women a certain way or do something for some genitals. Check your baggage at the door.

Spinlight said:

paintedlady said:

Not true... dating is expensive... most men like to treat their ladies right,

so... whether its a nice restaurant or a special trip to the grocery store to cook a good meal to impress her then that's part of the courtship ritual. I never said that she couldn't reciprocate.

Men do all types of shit for pussy... and many women are treated just fine by men because men have a sense of pride in the fact that they know how to treat their ladies right. Grown and sexy men do that is... a cheap asshole will always complain about any money he has to spaend for any reason.

You know, I find it hard to relate to someone in their 40s who still uses descriptions like "grown and sexy." It's neither grown nor sexy to expect you to be carried because you partake in game playing.

Maybe if people were more concerned with treating each other fairly and walking with a sense of confidence, they would not feel so compelled to stack cards against each other prior to knowing one's intent. Who cares if men treat women a certain way or do something for some genitals. Check your baggage at the door.

Well, I am a black woman who is at least a decade older than you... why would you relate to me?

You shouldn't...

I never said I expected to be "carried" .... men paying for a dinner or two is a common courtship pratice with hetero-sexual people in MY age group ... women like me never date jobless men.

Now I have foolishly carried men before and that didn't help either one of us in that situation... I didn't make the rules and men still like taking care of their women. If a man wants to that's his perrogative and its a lady's perrogative to expect to be taken out a few times too.

If a man bought you dinner would that mean he's "carrying" you?

Lay your blind assumptions elsewhere.

I'm also a little confused as to how a man who is expected to pay but doesn't means they are jobless?

I will never, ever expect a man to pay for anything. If he offers that's cool and I won't resist, but I'll automatically feel the want to reciprocate...and I will. I mean, if I like him...it's about taking care of each other...not him taking care of me.

That's what relationships are about....no matter what kind. I'm the same way with family or friends.