connorhawke said:

Genesia said:

Here's the thing: If you have...say...200 Facebook "friends," would you invite all of them to a party?

On one hand, it's stupid to mention having a party knowing that a gazillion people will see that and either a) think they're invited or b) get all butthurt because they aren't.

On the other hand, knowing that it isn't really feasible to issue a blanket invitation to a party, why get all wrapped around the axle if you aren't invited? Are you really that close (in terms of actual friendship or proximity) to this person?

Get over it.

Although you quite usually make decent and valid points and come across very intelligently, the way you write can be condescending to the point of being offensive.

Respectfully, you could learn to be a little nicer in your wording.

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And you should sweep before your own door.

Genesia said:

connorhawke said:

Although you quite usually make decent and valid points and come across very intelligently, the way you write can be condescending to the point of being offensive.

Respectfully, you could learn to be a little nicer in your wording.

[Edited 10/15/11 23:30pm]

And you should sweep before your own door.

Why don't you say what you mean? For someone so confrontational you're side-stepping.

But anyway, do you not see the point? The first two sentences of your reply gave great analysis and advice to IL82. The last line was completely unneccesary and possibly would make people disregard the valid opinions you'd just given.

Clarification edit.

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connorhawke said:

Genesia said:

And you should sweep before your own door.

Why don't you say what you mean? For someone so confrontational you're side-stepping.

But anyway, do you not see the point? The first two sentences of your reply gave great analysis and advice to IL82. The last line was completely unneccesary and possibly would make people disregard the valid opinions you'd just given.

Clarification edit.

[Edited 10/16/11 19:40pm]

I didn't side step - I said exactly what I meant. You popped up out of the blue and delivered a public dressing down to someone who wasn't talking to you. Talk about condescending!

I spent two paragraphs laying out the last three words - you admit the advice was "great" - and you chose to ignore that to see only what you wanted to see. You are rude. You are condescending.

Get it, now? (That one was deliberate.)

Genesia said:

connorhawke said:

Why don't you say what you mean? For someone so confrontational you're side-stepping.

But anyway, do you not see the point? The first two sentences of your reply gave great analysis and advice to IL82. The last line was completely unneccesary and possibly would make people disregard the valid opinions you'd just given.

Clarification edit.

[Edited 10/16/11 19:40pm]

I didn't side step - I said exactly what I meant. You popped up out of the blue and delivered a public dressing down to someone who wasn't talking to you. Talk about condescending!

I spent two paragraphs laying out the last three words - you admit the advice was "great" - and you chose to ignore that to see only what you wanted to see. You are rude. You are condescending.

Get it, now? (That one was deliberate.)

Nonono, you have me wrong (something that's happened in the past also).

I'm not giving you a dressing down at all here, nor did I ignore anything of what you wrote. If you think so, please re-read. Even in my first post there I didn't ignore any of what you said. I bolded the part I was referring to and deliberately left the rest, then later edited for clarification. I ignored nothing. And anyway, your last line was the one I pointed out as rude, which was my point, really.

Furthermore, I was and am being far from rude in the way I'm communicating with you here, nor am I condescending to you. If I was to be condescending I'd be not treating you as equal.

Yes I did call you out on the way you'd written and yes this is a public forum. So if you or I write something, any of us can reply. Whether or not you were talking to me is irrelevant. Somebody could come and take a dump all over this post. Their freedom to do so.

Has no one ever pointed out the negativity of your blunt communiations before?

connorhawke said:

Genesia said:

I didn't side step - I said exactly what I meant. You popped up out of the blue and delivered a public dressing down to someone who wasn't talking to you. Talk about condescending!

I spent two paragraphs laying out the last three words - you admit the advice was "great" - and you chose to ignore that to see only what you wanted to see. You are rude. You are condescending.

Get it, now? (That one was deliberate.)

Nonono, you have me wrong (something that's happened in the past also).

I'm not giving you a dressing down at all here, nor did I ignore anything of what you wrote. If you think so, please re-read. Even in my first post there I didn't ignore any of what you said. I bolded the part I was referring to and deliberately left the rest, then later edited for clarification. I ignored nothing. And anyway, your last line was the one I pointed out as rude, which was my point, really.

Furthermore, I was and am being far from rude in the way I'm communicating with you here, nor am I condescending to you. If I was to be condescending I'd be not treating you as equal.

Yes I did call you out on the way you'd written and yes this is a public forum. So if you or I write something, any of us can reply. Whether or not you were talking to me is irrelevant. Somebody could come and take a dump all over this post. Their freedom to do so.

Has no one ever pointed out the negativity of your blunt communiations before?

I have learned that Genesia is a very bright intelligent and hilarious orger who has brought much to the org.

I have learned that she can be haunty and snarky at times.

I have learned how to deal with it and appreciate her gifts and marvel at the depth of her human folly and how, when she is trying too hard to sound intelligent, she is coming across as less intelligent than she really is. It is the irony of the human species my friend. Sometimes we try too hard. This is a planet of infinite irony and paradox.

Enjoy Genesia and overlook her folly which usually is the last one or two lines that she writes.

To InternationalLover82: The exchanges above are a perfect illustration of what I meant when I talked about people getting wrapped around the axle about things that are a) not intended to be hurtful and b) not directed at them (and hence, none of their business).

Be the smart girl you are, give those involved the benefit of the doubt, and let it go.

The facebook friend made the mistake of putting the party invite on their wall verses a message. Once you put it on your facebook wall it becomes in effect all your friends' business. I bet there are other friends who bluntly asked "Am I invited too?"

It is sort of like the org. If I post something on a thread it becomes everyones business that posts here. If I mean it to be read by purely one orger I know to use an org note.

Any orger who sees this comment has the right to not only read it but comment on it. That is the beauty of threads. All sorts of people can get in on the conversation and where it goes, no one knows.

Lesson of the day, if you are saying something that is meant for the ears and eyes of only one , use 'message' on fb and "orgnotes" here and you'll have less imput from the peanut gallery.

Sincerely,

proud member of the peanut gallery of life.

Deadflow3r said:

I have learned that Genesia is a very bright intelligent and hilarious orger who has brought much to the org.

I have learned that she can be haunty and snarky at times.

I have learned how to deal with it and appreciate her gifts and marvel at the depth of her human folly and how, when she is trying too hard to sound intelligent, she is coming across as less intelligent than she really is. It is the irony of the human species my friend. Sometimes we try too hard. This is a planet of infinite irony and paradox.

Enjoy Genesia and overlook her folly which usually is the last one or two lines that she writes.

I've tried.

More the fool me.

connorhawke said:

Deadflow3r said:

I have learned that Genesia is a very bright intelligent and hilarious orger who has brought much to the org.

I have learned that she can be haunty and snarky at times.

I have learned how to deal with it and appreciate her gifts and marvel at the depth of her human folly and how, when she is trying too hard to sound intelligent, she is coming across as less intelligent than she really is. It is the irony of the human species my friend. Sometimes we try too hard. This is a planet of infinite irony and paradox.

Enjoy Genesia and overlook her folly which usually is the last one or two lines that she writes.

I've tried.

More the fool me.

As long as you tried; that is all that can be asked of you.