Would you, do you, & if so, What is the limit in the amount of kids someone already has?

And for those who are single with children, how difficult is it to date?

I really thought it would be a problem but it's never been an issue.

I'm not really interested in seeing a guy that has kids, though.

No, thank you.

Spinlight said:

No, thank you.

Tittypants said:

Would you, do you, & if so, What is the limit in the amount of kids someone already has?

And for those who are single with children, how difficult is it to date?

I have/did ... close to 27 yrs later we're still going strong !

Nope. I don't believe in blended families To each their own, but a guy with kids it's a no go for this girl.

i have a bunch of kids

but i have not tried dating yet ~ although i have been asked out a few times already....

anyway, its only dating, not like u will be getting married or anything so it should not be a problem

DysregulatedToxicity said:

Nope. I don't believe in blended families To each their own, but a guy with kids it's a no go for this girl.

Why not? [If you don't mind me asking]

FuzzyWitch said:

i have a bunch of kids

but i have not tried dating yet ~ although i have been asked out a few times already....

anyway, its only dating, not like u will be getting married or anything so it should not be a problem

What if marriage became an option?

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I ask myself that question alot. I dont know though, seeming how I dont have any kids. But I guess if I really liked them itll be cool. But I know for sure that ill mess around with one for fun, nothing serious.

Tittypants said:

FuzzyWitch said:

i have a bunch of kids

but i have not tried dating yet ~ although i have been asked out a few times already....

anyway, its only dating, not like u will be getting married or anything so it should not be a problem

What if marriage became an option?

[Edited 10/19/11 19:36pm]

after what i have been through... i will NEVER EVER EVER EVER get married again EVER!!!!!!

When I was with my son's mom, girls were throwing themselves at me. But now, being single with a child, it's often a different story.

The child(ren) come with the package.

If a man runs the opposite direction then that tells you right there that he is not worth it nor did he really care/love you. Now the reaction speaks volumes

Tittypants said:

DysregulatedToxicity said:

Nope. I don't believe in blended families To each their own, but a guy with kids it's a no go for this girl.

Why not? [If you don't mind me asking]

Because I don't want to complicate my life with his "baggage." I know that when you decide to be with someone you take them as they are, but I think a relationship is complicated enough with two people so when you add more people to it, it can become a circus. I go where I want to go and do what I want to do and I expect the guy I am with to have the same freedom. The last thing I want is being with someone who constantly has to worry about daycare or not being available because of parental obligations. Which in all honestly should be his priority. But I'm personally not willing to be the accomodating and understaing person in a relationship like that. I don't feel like my life has to revolve around his parental responsibilities.

FuzzyWitch said:

Tittypants said:

What if marriage became an option?

[Edited 10/19/11 19:36pm]

after what i have been through... i will NEVER EVER EVER EVER get married again EVER!!!!!!

Damn, I take it your marriage sucked, huh...

Tittypants said:

FuzzyWitch said:

after what i have been through... i will NEVER EVER EVER EVER get married again EVER!!!!!!

Damn, I take it your marriage sucked, huh...

more than u can imagine!!!!!

I have. Had no problem with it. I fell in love with the kids and am still somewhat in their life although I can no longer be with their mother. We bring out the worse in each other, although we always had great sex...

Individual choice. In the past i have done it but with

a one child rule.

I made the mistake of marrying a man with kids.(I'm divorced now, thank GOD). Too damn much babymama drama and the kids were a pain in the ass. Never again!!!

Ouch.

i might have some for dyslexia. when i first saw the name of the thread i thought it said "dating people who have chicken" my initial reaction whats wrong with that? unless they are frying them i am out of the picture..buts its children..i think its cool.

baroque said:

i might have some for dyslexia. when i first saw the name of the thread i thought it said "dating people who have chicken" my initial reaction whats wrong with that? unless they are frying them i am out of the picture..buts its children..i think its cool.

question: is she lactating?

NDRU said:

question: is she lactating?

Oh shit! Never thought about that....

No problem at all. Wanna hear the story of the Pandy Bunch?

Here's the story of a lovely lady who was bringing up three very lovely girls.

All of them had hair of gold, like their mother, The youngest one in curls...

I am always intrigued as to why Women avoid Men with Kids, but Men are not always as quick to avoid a Woman with Kids?

Women always say they want a responsible Man, who wants Kids and who will be a Good Dad, then they find a Man with Kids and it's like "RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUN AWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY"

I have been with my Wife for 10 Years, she had a Daughter when we met, I never had a problem with it. Luckily I get on well with my Step Daughter, none of this "You aren't my Dad" Drama I also get on really well with her Ex Husband, at first it was a pain (He was not very pleasant towards me), for obvious reasons, but now we get on really well, we will never be beer buddies, but we both knew why we had to be pleasant to start with and that has developed into a mutual respect.

It shouldn't matter if a person has kids or not, regardless of Male or Female parent. What should matter is that you are responsible enough to handle that situation if you find yourself attracted to a Single Parent and that you will accept that Child into your "Family".

itsnotallover said:

I am always intrigued as to why Women avoid Men with Kids, but Men are not always as quick to avoid a Woman with Kids?

Women always say they want a responsible Man, who wants Kids and who will be a Good Dad, then they find a Man with Kids and it's like "RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUN AWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY"

I have been with my Wife for 10 Years, she had a Daughter when we met, I never had a problem with it. Luckily I get on well with my Step Daughter, none of this "You aren't my Dad" Drama I also get on really well with her Ex Husband, at first it was a pain (He was not very pleasant towards me), for obvious reasons, but now we get on really well, we will never be beer buddies, but we both knew why we had to be pleasant to start with and that has developed into a mutual respect.

It shouldn't matter if a person has kids or not, regardless of Male or Female parent. What should matter is that you are responsible enough to handle that situation if you find yourself attracted to a Single Parent and that you will accept that Child into your "Family".

I've always wondered this too. This has never made sense to me....

Tittypants said:

itsnotallover said:

I am always intrigued as to why Women avoid Men with Kids, but Men are not always as quick to avoid a Woman with Kids?

Women always say they want a responsible Man, who wants Kids and who will be a Good Dad, then they find a Man with Kids and it's like "RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUN AWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY"

I have been with my Wife for 10 Years, she had a Daughter when we met, I never had a problem with it. Luckily I get on well with my Step Daughter, none of this "You aren't my Dad" Drama I also get on really well with her Ex Husband, at first it was a pain (He was not very pleasant towards me), for obvious reasons, but now we get on really well, we will never be beer buddies, but we both knew why we had to be pleasant to start with and that has developed into a mutual respect.

It shouldn't matter if a person has kids or not, regardless of Male or Female parent. What should matter is that you are responsible enough to handle that situation if you find yourself attracted to a Single Parent and that you will accept that Child into your "Family".

I've always wondered this too. This has never made sense to me....

Depends...I speculate that..

Its a control issue.

A woman with kids may not date a guy with kids because the children will not want a man in the household and become territorial with their mom. Espscially if the woman thinks men will not grow to love her children as their own.

Now a woman who doesn't have kids may think she has to deal with baby momma drama, and men with children tend to be tied up with their finances and she doesn't want a man who's money and time will be poured into a different household...

BUT>>> I know many woman who date men with children. Its not a factor. Bad teeth and joblessness are greater factors to why a guy can't get a date.

I would date a guy with kids... but the children MUST be over age two! I wouldn't date a guy with a newborn or a pregnant woman. There may be unresolved feelings there.

Tittypants said:

itsnotallover said:

I am always intrigued as to why Women avoid Men with Kids, but Men are not always as quick to avoid a Woman with Kids?

Women always say they want a responsible Man, who wants Kids and who will be a Good Dad, then they find a Man with Kids and it's like "RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUN AWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY"

I have been with my Wife for 10 Years, she had a Daughter when we met, I never had a problem with it. Luckily I get on well with my Step Daughter, none of this "You aren't my Dad" Drama I also get on really well with her Ex Husband, at first it was a pain (He was not very pleasant towards me), for obvious reasons, but now we get on really well, we will never be beer buddies, but we both knew why we had to be pleasant to start with and that has developed into a mutual respect.

It shouldn't matter if a person has kids or not, regardless of Male or Female parent. What should matter is that you are responsible enough to handle that situation if you find yourself attracted to a Single Parent and that you will accept that Child into your "Family".

I've always wondered this too. This has never made sense to me....

I don't want to date a dude with kids because a) I don't want to deal with the kid's mother - which most times than not is full of drama and b) I've never wanted to care for more than one child.

And it really doesn't bother me if men don't want to date a woman with a kid/kids. If I was a single man, I would feel the same way.

Luckily I've never been placed in that situation. I think it would definitely have been a dealbreaker for me because I really dislike children, dislike being around them, and do not ever want any. Maybe if they were grown (like over 21!) it would have been okay.