i agree with all said here... u need to break that cord and let them fend for themselves..if u dont put ur foot down they will walk all over u from here to eternity....if u are the bread winner of the house and little missy and bubby have issues maybe they need to go live somewhere or give them a good boot out the door... seriously what u do with YOUR money is ur biz.....not the bf of ur kid (sounds like he a big ass baby too with him gettign huffy about u not keeping a car, tell that wimp to get his own and stop sponging.. u not his momma).....YOUR putting the roof over their head.. not them.... regardless if they help very little....still i have a daughter that is 16 if she pull that shit o HELL NO in my home.... she can either help or GTFO..same with ur son....

ugh now i gotta clean that sort of thing pisses me off with some kids today

hey yall better shut the hell up talking about my kids...i can talk about them and call them names, you cant...

thing about it is, if i called any orger a name, i would be bannaed or punished or whatever, so dont call my kid s out of their name...thanks!..

myfavorite said:

hey yall better shut the hell up talking about my kids...i can talk about them and call them names, you cant...

thing about it is, if i called any orger a name, i would be bannaed or punished or whatever, so dont call my kid s out of their name...thanks!..

We are not in the streets with this.

We are given you objective feedback as best we can.

If you were a new orger or a orger we would not put our true feelings out there.

If you don't want people to speak bluntly on the issue, than it is best to not start the post with bold blunt language to begin with. The OP not only lays out the topic but often the tone as well.

I love you myfavorite and I just don't want to see you pull a purplemookiebut where you ask orgers for their insight and then when they use the same blunt tone you started the thread with you back at them.

You're funny and unique.

It's time for mother eagle to pull away the straw and reveal the sharp bottom of the nest and get those big bird a flyin'.

No one comes on this thread to fight with you; you are one of the most cherished orgers here and I say that in sincerity. Being sweet to you all the time and telling you what you want to here is not being a good org friend.

I hope my honesty has not ruined our friendship.

Deadflow3r said:

myfavorite said:

hey yall better shut the hell up talking about my kids...i can talk about them and call them names, you cant...

thing about it is, if i called any orger a name, i would be bannaed or punished or whatever, so dont call my kid s out of their name...thanks!..

We are not in the streets with this.

We are given you objective feedback as best we can.

If you were a new orger or a orger we would not put our true feelings out there.

If you don't want people to speak bluntly on the issue, than it is best to not start the post with bold blunt language to begin with. The OP not only lays out the topic but often the tone as well.

I love you myfavorite and I just don't want to see you pull a purplemookiebut where you ask orgers for their insight and then when they use the same blunt tone you started the thread with you back at them.

You're funny and unique.

It's time for mother eagle to pull away the straw and reveal the sharp bottom of the nest and get those big bird a flyin'.

No one comes on this thread to fight with you; you are one of the most cherished orgers here and I say that in sincerity. Being sweet to you all the time and telling you what you want to here is not being a good org friend.

I hope my honesty has not ruined our friendship.

I think people here in general would just like to see you make progress and not be coming back here in 3 months time with the exact same frustrations, but instead with news of newfound happiness and positive change.

myfavorite said:

hey yall better shut the hell up talking about my kids...i can talk about them and call them names, you cant...

thing about it is, if i called any orger a name, i would be bannaed or punished or whatever, so dont call my kid s out of their name...thanks!..

calling your kids cunt bitches aint normal either and letting the whole world know that as well...but c'est la vie. This is an org that cares and hope you take advice and lead a happy life. I know what it is like to have rebellious teens - my 30 year old is still rebellious and does stupid grating things but I keep my distance so as not to be too affected by it but be there when she needs me. One day she will learn - sometimes it takes longer than others!

when parents finally do let go of adult children, they often find a stronger, deeper, and more fulfilling relationship than they ever could have imagined. letting go of adult children is a struggle for all parents. they are no longer just our children, they are now like a brothers and sister, and we relate to them as we do our close friends. they now should be independent, self sufficient and able to stand on their own.

ask yourself, isn't time for you to let go of them? also ask yourself are you becoming obsessed with the terraine of this situation? if so please try to get yourself out of obsessive mindset. obsession can led to anxiety and depression.

many people here seem to care for you, let it go. the children will always be your children, but it's now time to let your faith to take over and realize the are grown adults.

someone once said it takes 72hrs to begin a true change. i wish you could find 72hrs to yourself, away from your kids. (locked in your room, go to a bed and breakfast place, go to a safe motel or to a trusted friends house - make sure to tell a close friend!)

soul purpose for this is to re-find yourself and re-introduce yourself to the creative, independent, intellectual and fun side of who you were before your children came along.

maybe the (good) forces that be are trying to tell you, it's time to re-focus on yourself.

even nemo's dad had to let him go!

these words are from my with

I'd say since you're not gonna boot 'em out, and they are really too grown to control, you need to use your skills and get involved in something where you're around some common goal adults a good portion of your time. It won't make your kids act any better, but it'll give you a different prospective in life.

free2bfreeda said:

someone once said it takes 72hrs to begin a true change. i wish you could find 72hrs to yourself, away from your kids. (locked in your room, go to a bed and breakfast place, go to a safe motel or to a trusted friends house - make sure to tell a close friend!)

soul purpose for this is to re-find yourself and re-introduce yourself to the creative, independent, intellectual and fun side of who you were before your children came along.

maybe the (good) forces that be are trying to tell you, it's time to re-focus on yourself.

even nemo's dad had to let him go!

these words are from my with

When I read this my head went "WOW"!

I turned 50 August 29th 2011 and I had hoped it would be a great day filled with meeting orgers and travel and what not

That is not at all what happened. What happened is that I spent from late Friday August 26th to early Wednesday, August 31st pretty much by myself on busses or in a hotel far away from anyone. Hurricane Irene made my birthday a wash out literally!

However, this alone time was invaluable. I just thought of this earlier today before I read your comment. All in all it was just a bit over 72 hours pretty much alone. I got a notebook and just journaled. That shitty birthday was not what I ordered but perhaps the greatest gift I could have gotten and one that I would never have picked out for myself.

Thanks for your post