ok so my kids are at it again.......i blame their father. he taught them how "to defend theirselves" against ME and now they are insolent bullies. the 20 and 22 year old are complete assholes that arent satisfied unless they fight, namely me....

i never once ran their father out the house he fukkin chose to go and trust and believe id be right behind his ass to remind of the mess he made of what used to be my family....

now the girls look like assholes to me and i have HAD it! one sits on the couch all damn day when she is off work, and is content to never say one word to me in casual convo or otherwise....he is playing the dumb bitch role i guess...

the other has a paranoid fukkin boyfriend who comes in everyday with a different deameanor...and today happens to be the day i dont wanna be bothered with him.......he is paranoid, cause i didnt keep the car i test drove over the weekend....what the fuck business is it of his anyhow...oh yeah, his girlfriend didnt like the idea of her mother having a car neither.....pshycho bitch (sic).

what they fuck makes them think they can "hold me here for questioning" when all they wanna do is fuck each other.......why the fuck does a child think their mother would go along with daughter fuckin in the upstairs bedroom. moreover, why the fuck their daddy dont say nothing.....that cunt bitch act like all the shyt and dysfunctionality is normal......if i gotta fight them, im going to jail, i already know, but i hope them bitches know they are gonna be older sometime and even if they dont have kids......what goes around comes the fuck back around..........i know i sound like a bitchy tart, but they are out of fukkin order, esp the boyfriend......how the fuck you sit in your mothers house and try and judge her???? cause fukkin is the only justice them dumb asses seem to desire.......dumb fuck father's children!!!!

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shit sounds like you you need to show them the door!!!

dear God, I hope my relationship with my kids is never this SHITTY!

amen

You need to post this sign in your house;

They're grown! Kick their asses the fuck out! Deuces!

Seriously... If I knew my mother talked about me like that I would have no respect for her either...

I realize your venting... But thats some pretty disrespectful talking on your part...

they do need the fuckin door, dressed and ready to go, cause i have humbled, bent, closed my eyes, aided and abetted a ton of their unruly behavior only because if they didnt want to listen to me in that state, then it would be their choice to listen to waht the world has to tell em and you already know the world dont love them and dont do shyt for them for their health.

i will talk to them worse than that esp if they wanna see a whore on the street instead of what i have been and that is a 150 percent giving mom.....period.

Do you own the place you are living in?

I have often thought that if I was in your situation (being 50 I know of plenty of people who are) I would simply move out myself. Get myself a studio apartment and cut my losses. If you live in a place that has more bedrooms than you need they can always move back.

Legally I don't know how you can evict grown ass children. I remember when purplemookiebut was here she was such a child and a 30 year old woman at the same time. I often thought "how should her mother go about getting rid of her?". What I have noticed with many that live at home until they are 30 is that they are no better for it.

Please NOTE

Worse case scenario; my friends son started breeding while living at home. With new baby and girlfriend in the picture she felt even worse for kicking him out. She moved out and old girlfriend, her son by a different boy, and the new baby moved in. I think they don't make the mortgage payments themselves either.

Adult children are like vermin, get rid of them before they breed!

Deadflow3r said:

Do you own the place you are living in?

I have often thought that if I was in your situation (being 50 I know of plenty of people who are) I would simply move out myself. Get myself a studio apartment and cut my losses. If you live in a place that has more bedrooms than you need they can always move back.

Legally I don't know how you can evict grown ass children. I remember when purplemookiebut was here she was such a child and a 30 year old woman at the same time. I often thought "how should her mother go about getting rid of her?". What I have noticed with many that live at home until they are 30 is that they are no better for it.

Please NOTE

Worse case scenario; my friends son started breeding while living at home. With new baby and girlfriend in the picture she felt even worse for kicking him out. She moved out and old girlfriend, her son by a different boy, and the new baby moved in. I think they don't make the mortgage payments themselves either.

Adult children are like vermin, get rid of them before they breed!

HELLA WORD!!

There's a reason why you're considered grown @ 18...

MyFavorite, personally, I think YOU should move... not because you have to or because of those kids. I say this because I think YOU need to benefit now. Girl, it's time for you to GO FOR SELF!!

It's time for those two young women find their own place. To put it bluntly put them out myfavorite! Where they go or end up is not your problem. If you have any pains of guilt you can take the time to search and give them each the listings of homeless shelters, studio hotel apartments whatever. They'll land on their feet or else, give them a due date. Don't feel bad about it.

TD3 said:

It's time for those two young women find their own place. To put it bluntly put them out myfavorite! Where they go or end up is not your problem. If you have any pains of guilt you can take the time to search and give them each the listings of homeless shelters, studio hotel apartments whatever. They'll land on their feet or else, give them a due date. Don't feel bad about it.

The thing is HOW? It all gets so fkn complicated because then the daddy gets his 2 cents in. If you are not there then that means your food isn't there for them to eat and they need to sink or swim on their own. Once you leave the home with everything you can't live without who gives a rat's ass if they bitch, swear or break shit. You are not there to see and hear it.

I did this with my baby's daddy. I knew me and that sponge would be together til the end of time if I did not leave him. It was an apartment and his name was not on the lease. I went to management and explained my situation and that I was shutting off the utilities as of the 28th and taking off. He had no job and he knew the score. I actually left the apartment on the 22nd leaving him at least 6 days more to find a floor to sleep on.

The management team said that they had dealt with such issues before so they knew how to handle it.

I also did not give him an exact forwarding address and moved far, far away.

We now talk occasionally and he has apologized many many times. Of course I would never take him back but being homeless for a while was good for him.

the evil beast and her dad...:pfft:

the evil beast and her boyfriend.....

she will be the first to tellyou shes a mean jackass,,,,just tell a bitch what for sometimes...dag!

the other evil witch. [IMG]

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stop enabling their behaviour - they have no respect so you dont cook, clean, washing, shop for them - your money is your own.

You do not have other people also disrespecting you - they are not welcome in your house. These days young people get away with it because we let them.

Another thing - start respecting yourself and you csn then demand respect from your family. You earned the respect by being their mother - now demand it - if you get no change from their behaviour = give them 14 days to find their own home where they can live how they want and see how they like their home disrespected - tough love is hard but then again you aint nobody's fool!

my advice (unsolicited), if you are the bread winner.

start grocery shopping just for yourself, or going out to dinner. let the refridgerator create an echo.

they are grown (at 18yrs), you have done your part, you no longer owe them anything.

i have a friend that's going thru just what u r going through. so she stopped grocery shopping for them. she buys only oatmeal for her breakfast. fixes red beans and rice for herself, enough to last for one week. buys no eggs, snacks, bread, or the things she knows her grown kids like.

she has let all the light bulbs go out save for the bathroom, kitchen and her room. she post all the household receipts on the fridge. tells them they can only use the computer for job searches.

she has gotten forms for 30day eviction notices. although she's not completed the eviction forms, she ssays is about to do so. she will be within the law to evict them. especially since they are being totally non-productive and dis-respectful to her and her house.

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myfavorite said:

the evil beast and her dad...:pfft:

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the evil beast and her boyfriend.....

she will be the first to tellyou shes a mean jackass,,,,just tell a bitch what for sometimes...dag!

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They are cute, but hunny comes a time to cut bait and run before the living life is completely sucked outta ya. Hell, they'll be fine, they got fangs and claws, the world won't eat 'em alive, you need some time to get yours sharpened up.

you aint lyin....

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whether im nice or not, them kids owe me more than they can take from me.....

I feel your pain, I know people who complain about the same thing too though I'm just a few years older than them, I've heard lots of stories. I'm not so sure I would post pics of them online though, even if you're upset or they are grown.

JerseyKRS said:

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It is so true because she doesn't hold anything back; she totally shoots from the hip! No suprise that she is from Texas !

i know someone out there has a bunch just like em, so how do you handle when your offspring come in the house and turn their nose up atcha like you asked them for something???...just damn ridiculous to sit to be waited on...smh!

free2bfreeda said:

my advice (unsolicited), if you are the bread winner.

start grocery shopping just for yourself, or going out to dinner. let the refridgerator create an echo.

they are grown (at 18yrs), you have done your part, you no longer owe them anything.

i have a friend that's going thru just what u r going through. so she stopped grocery shopping for them. she buys only oatmeal for her breakfast. fixes red beans and rice for herself, enough to last for one week. buys no eggs, snacks, bread, or the things she knows her grown kids like.

she has let all the light bulbs go out save for the bathroom, kitchen and her room. she post all the household receipts on the fridge. tells them they can only use the computer for job searches.

she has gotten forms for 30day eviction notices. although she's not completed the eviction forms, she ssays is about to do so. she will be within the law to evict them. especially since they are being totally non-productive and dis-respectful to her and her house.

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How to Evict an Adult Child

updated September 01, 2011

There comes a time when you need to tell your adult child to leave your home. For some this comes easy, for others the adult child may put up a battle. When this happens, one step to take is to evict him from your home. An eviction notice is a legal document given to the tenant to leave the premises within a certain time frame. The notice is typically served on the individual by a law enforcement officer.
Read more: How to Evict an Adult Child | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/how_7190739_evict-adult-child.html#ixzz1abwTbJEW

maybe it sounds mean and heartless, however many of today's young adults take their parents love for granted! It's a very difficult decision for a parent to evict their child, but the stress alone is not worth it. "what's love got to do with it?"

i'm not saying do this, it's just an alternative way to look at ur situation. i hope you will be okay u seem like such a nice person.

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myfavorite, you really are a favorite of mine and you NEEEEEEED to read this.

I say this as a woman who could take up a whole page of this thread with examples of what happens to kids whose parents never forced them to just jump out of the nest. That extra time in the nest did not serve them well in any way.

Maybe it is like fruit on the vine. There is a time to pick it off. If you choose not to do that it begins to go bad, and eventually does go bad right there.

Those children need to be picked off from you.

Once they are gone you can keep talking to them. Being supportive. Reminding them of their strengths.

That may be a tactic that you have not tried. Remind your children that they are strong enough to make it on their own. Maybe get a copy of "Grey Gardens" either the original Documentary or the movie Staring Drew Barrimore and Jessica lang and watch it together and see that this is some of the crazy shit that happens when you go past the picking time.

It is fall now in Texas.

Fall is harvest time.

Time to pick them off LOVE,

I Love you and you need to love yourself and them enough to do this, .

you seem to be ignoring the advice being given (tell your kids to move out)

and keep asking for advice

Agree with the other poster that said YOU should move out.

Do you own the house or are you renting?

If you are renting then I def think it's the best way to go!

Honestly, I've seen a couple of your threads and I think your situation is actually driving you crazy. You owe it to yourself to make a good life for yourself. I'd start now.

If you can move out of the place, then not only can you tell the kids they'll have to find their own place in 45 days because you're moving into a single bedroom apartment to start a life for yourself, but you can actually have a feeling of a brand new start, in a new place that is free from the memories of heartache.

If you decide to do that, and I hope you do, then make sure you keep telling your kids how much you love them and offer them nothing but encouragement to start their own lives in the real world.

Make a change! Do it for yourself AND for your kids own good!

well, i wont argue but ... they are driving alright and its them who are crazy.....

smh...just another episode i guess...

it's in their own best interests to learn to stand on their own 2 feet. You will do them a HUGE favour to make them grow up and be ADULTS

the fact that they are adults is what gets on my nerves and that they should be recognizing me as the woman of the house instead of the hired damn help...!

myfavorite said: