So, a friend of me and her sister have arranged that this friend of the sister and me should get to know eachother, because they think we might like dating eachoter.

He got my e-mail adress and has send me good humoured mail. I've mailed some witty mail back. So, that's all going well.

The thing is, he asked me what I wanted to know about him. And I actually had no clue.

I mean, what do you want to know about somebody who's a potential date? I've allways just met people and had only one blind date in my life without a lot of mail contact prior to that. However, this guy lives in the UK, so meeting for a cup of coffee isn't going to happen and we'll have to get to know eachother by mail/ skype.

And I'm also in the blind about what kind of characteristics are important to pay attention to, because I really did make some bad judgements in the past.

What kind of info do you guys think is important about someone who you might want to date?

I think its to early to get into any deep questions..

So for now I would ask, what he does for a living, a little about his family, Hobbies... Just general things you ask when you are first getting to know someone... If you ask too personal and deep questions you may scare him off!

tinaz said:

I think its to early to get into any deep questions..

So for now I would ask, what he does for a living, a little about his family, Hobbies... Just general things you ask when you are first getting to know someone... If you ask too personal and deep questions you may scare him off!

O, lawd. I'm so lousy at small talk by mail. He has a nice job. I'll ask about that.

and he recently became an uncle, so I can ask about that.

Thanx. I just haven't done this kind of thing before. Have no clue how to do that.

quite right.. here are some suggestions:

1. can you juggle?

2. why is green the color chosen for traffic lights to signal forward motion?

3. if you had to choose between spending the night with a vampire or werewolf locked in the basement, which would you choose and why?

4. how do you feel about taxidermy?

5. would you wear blue suede shoes?

Has he got a nice dingaling and how does he intend using it.....

davetherave6767 said:

Has he got a nice dingaling and how does he intend using it.....

He's tall with small feet. Is that a good or a bad sign?

XxAxX said:

quite right.. here are some suggestions:

1. can you juggle?

2. why is green the color chosen for traffic lights to signal forward motion?

3. if you had to choose between spending the night with a vampire or werewolf locked in the basement, which would you choose and why?

4. how do you feel about taxidermy?

5. would you wear blue suede shoes?

Thanx for the input.

I'm going to ask him that.

dJJ said:

davetherave6767 said:

Has he got a nice dingaling and how does he intend using it.....

He's tall with small feet. Is that a good or a bad sign?

U have toys right.....

On a serious note he might b a realy nice dude.....so let him buy u dinner...Drink nice wine have a laugh have fun see how it goes....If it doesnt work out u say thanku 4 a fun nite and cya....Simple...If u like him then its coffee dimm the lights put do me baby on and get ready 2 rock....Just have fun...relax go with the flow...no pressure not at ur age djj....it should b funfunfun...

davetherave6767 said:

On a serious note he might b a realy nice dude.....so let him buy u dinner...Drink nice wine have a laugh have fun see how it goes....If it doesnt work out u say thanku 4 a fun nite and cya....Simple...If u like him then its coffee dimm the lights put do me baby on and get ready 2 rock....Just have fun...relax go with the flow...no pressure not at ur age djj....it should b funfunfun...

what he said

davetherave6767 said:

On a serious note he might b a realy nice dude.....so let him buy u dinner...Drink nice wine have a laugh have fun see how it goes....If it doesnt work out u say thanku 4 a fun nite and cya....Simple...If u like him then its coffee dimm the lights put do me baby on and get ready 2 rock....Just have fun...relax go with the flow...no pressure not at ur age djj....it should b funfunfun...

I def. want it to be fun. I'm not staying if it aint fun.

However, we've just emailed without knowing eachoter. He's very witty, and the person who thinks we would match is actually good at judging character. However, somebody can be a nice bloke and not match with me. Or vice versa.

Well, I also like that whole 'have no clue about him'. However, when we are to meet, he needs to fly to Amsterdam, because he lives in London. So, he would come over based on an invitation by me.

Well, I'm not worried about it. Maybe we don't click or match. I think we'r both mature and can sort that out in a mature way without any dramas.

dJJ said:

XxAxX said:

quite right.. here are some suggestions:

1. can you juggle?

2. why is green the color chosen for traffic lights to signal forward motion?

3. if you had to choose between spending the night with a vampire or werewolf locked in the basement, which would you choose and why?

4. how do you feel about taxidermy?

5. would you wear blue suede shoes?

Thanx for the input.

I'm going to ask him that.

good luck. i hope you meet, and he turns out to be the man of your dreams and you his. (woman, that is, not man) and you fall in love at first sight and live happily ever after. you'll get married live on the ORG, and name your resultant children after your favorite ORGers gawd i love happy endings

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XxAxX said:

dJJ said:

Thanx for the input.

I'm going to ask him that.

good luck. i hope you meet, and he turns out to be the man of your dreams and you his. (woman, that is, not man) and you fall in love at first sight and live happily ever after. you'll get married live on the ORG, and name your resultant children after your favorite ORGers gawd i love happy endings

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How would I pronounce my kids' name if it's XxAxX

dJJ said:

XxAxX said:

good luck. i hope you meet, and he turns out to be the man of your dreams and you his. (woman, that is, not man) and you fall in love at first sight and live happily ever after. you'll get married live on the ORG, and name your resultant children after your favorite ORGers gawd i love happy endings

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How would I pronounce my kids' name if it's XxAxX

good question. best name her davetherave instead!!

XxAxX said:

dJJ said:

How would I pronounce my kids' name if it's XxAxX

good question. best name her davetherave instead!!

davetherave6767 said:

XxAxX said:

good question. best name her davetherave instead!!

little davetheravette

DJJ, you might consider mentioning to this guy, when you meet him, that you've chosen names for your first three children, but you're willing to let him name your last five kids whatever he'd like

XxAxX said:

dJJ said:

How would I pronounce my kids' name if it's XxAxX

good question. best name her davetherave instead!!

Yeah, that will work at the playground.

And the boardroom when she's a grown up.

dJJ said:

XxAxX said:

good question. best name her davetherave instead!!

Yeah, that will work at the playground.

And the boardroom when she's a grown up.

yes. very distinctive. someday she will thank you

XxAxX said:

dJJ said:

Yeah, that will work at the playground.

And the boardroom when she's a grown up.

yes. very distinctive. someday she will thank you

Ur killing me...... .....................Now stop it!

PIN

davetherave6767 said:

Has he got a nice dingaling and how does he intend using it.....

Is he circumcised? Does he fart in public?

ask him why his last relationship ended

BlackAdder7 said:

ask him why his last relationship ended

Good one.

I actually never met a man that replied he made mistakes. It's allways because the ex-girlfriend had flaws

I did hear (hearsay) that it was a lot of drama and trouble and that it was a young Russian girl. I hope to find out about it. And see if he's mature enough to own up to his own failures.

XxAxX said:

davetherave6767 said:

little davetheravette

DJJ, you might consider mentioning to this guy, when you meet him, that you've chosen names for your first three children, but you're willing to let him name your last five kids whatever he'd like

I don't know if I let him that much choice, letting him name the majority? BTW, I'm too old for that many children. Well, it might be possible if I give birth to a couple of twins rapidly after eachother.

Just to be clear, what are the names again?

davetheravette, Gorgonzola and Stilton, right?

we did talk about our retirement already. It's comuting between Bali and Norway. So, now it's just about sorting the details. I'm glad you helped with the names of the children. Very gender neutral.

ZombieKitten said:

PIN

?

dJJ said:

ZombieKitten said:

PIN

?

Ask him for his pin, then go shopping.

D'oh!

dJJ said:

XxAxX said:

little davetheravette

DJJ, you might consider mentioning to this guy, when you meet him, that you've chosen names for your first three children, but you're willing to let him name your last five kids whatever he'd like

I don't know if I let him that much choice, letting him name the majority? BTW, I'm too old for that many children. Well, it might be possible if I give birth to a couple of twins rapidly after eachother.

Just to be clear, what are the names again?

davetheravette, Gorgonzola and Stilton, right?

we did talk about our retirement already. It's comuting between Bali and Norway. So, now it's just about sorting the details. I'm glad you helped with the names of the children. Very gender neutral.

glad i could help! let me know if you need advice regarding your honeymoon.

Even though all the suggestions here are good in their own way for all different kinds of reasons, the most important is that you be yourself. Make sure you ask him stuff you really want to know but be honest.

Maybe tell him that you've never met someone in this way before and that you have no idea how to proceed. Maybe he will pick stuff up and you both can figure it out as you go along.

I mean, it's nice to be prepared (shave your legs!) but don't expect anything except fun. Demand it! If you're having fun, the rest will follow, if it's there.

I've met people I have not seen in real life before (as have you) and most times, like 99% of the time, I knew IMMEDIATELY if there was going to be a click, any kind of click.

I like to know well in advance his salary, any debts he may have has he been wise with money? Does he have addictions - alcohol, gambling, sex, drugs etc

the relationship he has with his mother, is he on speaking terms with exes? does he have health issues, what medications is he on?

sorry these are pretty serious but I'd find these things out casually, in text chats etc just to know what you are in for

sometimes after you've had your fun and find out you're in love, and then it's too late

dJJ said:

davetherave6767 said:

Has he got a nice dingaling and how does he intend using it.....

He's tall with small feet. Is that a good or a bad sign?

It means he takes long trousers and wears small shoes.