JustErin said:

namepeace said:

A provocative, less reasonable piece on the martyrdom syndrome for "Nice Guys." I read this years ago and never forgot it.

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml

[Edited 10/7/11 14:10pm]

Amazing. Every self proclaimed "nice guy" that complains about being single needs to read this....twice.

As I've said before . . .

Those who believe themselves to be nice guys simply need to examine themselves. This article is provocative and I don't agree with some of what's said or how it's said, but the core message is that many nice guys are nonetheless insecure, don't love themselves as much as they should, and/or have problems managing expectations. That is the truth in many instances.

It doesn't mean genuinely good guys aren't overlooked or otherwise taken advantage of. The article isn't an alibi for the women who do such things. It just means there are reasons why many guys, who are at heart nice and act that way, wind up getting played.

namepeace said:

JustErin said:

Amazing. Every self proclaimed "nice guy" that complains about being single needs to read this....twice.

As I've said before . . .

Those who believe themselves to be nice guys simply need to examine themselves. This article is provocative and I don't agree with some of what's said or how it's said, but the core message is that many nice guys are nonetheless insecure, don't love themselves as much as they should, and/or have problems managing expectations. That is the truth in many instances.

It doesn't mean genuinely good guys aren't overlooked or otherwise taken advantage of. The article isn't an alibi for the women who do such things. It just means there are reasons why many guys, who are at heart nice and act that way, wind up getting played.

This is all so damned complicated.

How does one become a monk nowadays???

PurpleJedi said:

namepeace said:

As I've said before . . .

Those who believe themselves to be nice guys simply need to examine themselves. This article is provocative and I don't agree with some of what's said or how it's said, but the core message is that many nice guys are nonetheless insecure, don't love themselves as much as they should, and/or have problems managing expectations. That is the truth in many instances.

It doesn't mean genuinely good guys aren't overlooked or otherwise taken advantage of. The article isn't an alibi for the women who do such things. It just means there are reasons why many guys, who are at heart nice and act that way, wind up getting played.

This is all so damned complicated.

How does one become a monk nowadays???

Actually, that's a good strategy. Mystery is always a draw.

Plus, dude, you're a Jedi, you're halfway there.

namepeace said:

PurpleJedi said:

This is all so damned complicated.

How does one become a monk nowadays???

Actually, that's a good strategy. Mystery is always a draw.

Plus, dude, you're a Jedi, you're halfway there.

Peace and serenity are good for the Force.

My body is a temple.

...now who wants to ignite my lightsaber?

namepeace said:

A provocative, less reasonable piece on the martyrdom syndrome for "Nice Guys." I read this years ago and never forgot it.

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml

[Edited 10/7/11 14:10pm]

This article is the TRUTH! This (some) is definitely what was going on in my last relationship. Thought I didn't feel like those were the things that made me dump him, it was those things that made me realize why my feelings for him never grew to anything substantial.

PurpleRighteous1 said:

namepeace said:

A provocative, less reasonable piece on the martyrdom syndrome for "Nice Guys." I read this years ago and never forgot it.

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml

[Edited 10/7/11 14:10pm]

This article is the TRUTH! This (some) is definitely what was going on in my last relationship. Thought I didn't feel like those were the things that made me dump him, it was those things that made me realize why my feelings for him never grew to anything substantial.