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Thanks guys. Mostly I just don't want us to be at odds with each other. If we don't talk at all that's fine as long as it's something that's happened placidly and not out of anger I guess.
If I ignore her birthday, it seems like I'm angry at her. Which I guess I am. But I don't want her to think that. LOL. I'm so confused!
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I understand everybody's point. However, I agree with this one mostly.
Just send her a short; happy birthday, hope you have a nice day, enjoy! e-mail.
Then it's off your chest and you don't need to get in contact with her on the phone. So you can stay out of the emotional drama that's unnecessarry and not doing any good for either of you.
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Thanks. I think I'll do that. |
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Yeah , that's better . Be the bigger person . | |
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if you left me dog shyt at the door....you wouldnt worry about haveing to see me again..ev.er. THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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Eye havnt spoken 2 my x wife in 12 years and will keep that up 4 another 30........So what am eye saying......O yeh........Fuck her....Talking 2u like that......Dont b soft Militant she will pick up on ur weakness....Just look after urself and Fuck her off........................................If u can??......Id make a good relate counseller..... [Edited 10/5/11 14:08pm] Dave Is Nuttier Than A Can Of Planters Peanuts...(Ottensen) | |
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run away! fast! good luck! | |
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get on with your life!! why say happy anything to your ex-spouse live simply,love generously, care deeply,speak kindly, be loyal | |
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hes right
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That's the POINT.
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not that u are like my X... but
because it would b coming from him
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because i just want nothing to do with him
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because he wants a 'second' chance
i would not accept his gift or anything 'nice' he thinks he can say to win be back
as i only c it as an attept to get back together when there is nothing left
so ignore her birthday so she knows u understand that the marriage is well and truely over
it will b a big message to her and it will also help you
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Is membership free?....Im in Dave Is Nuttier Than A Can Of Planters Peanuts...(Ottensen) | |
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u need 2 be getting divorced in 2011 not 1970
so far its Militant, Jedi, djj and me
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Yes we ARE!!!
Can we have our own secret handshake or something? By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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Eye dont wanna b a member anyway......u will all b like those people in the film Eyes wide shut...All wearing masks and humming some crazy shit.....Eye can see jedi now....dressed as Obi 1.... Dave Is Nuttier Than A Can Of Planters Peanuts...(Ottensen) | |
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No one care 'bout the robes Dave...it's the lightsaber that counts.
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Fuck her.
No seriously fuck her and THEN ignore her. She deserves it for treating you like that. | |
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This is of course what you should really do. | |
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Actually, my ex went fo an appeal. The last they he could do that.
So, I'm still married. Have to go through another court hearing and a lot of b**sh**. I sure hope I can get divorced in 2011. However, it might be 2012 for me.
I'm still just an applicant for the divorceee orgeee.
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I believe to be the bigger person out of the situation, a simply "happy birthday" should be it and serve its purpose. But after that, I'd leave it alone...even if she does say thank you. I wouldn't reply back. Her behavior is unacceptable and no one deserves to be talked to or treated in that manner. I completely understand the position you are in though, its like you want to give her back what she's dishing out to you...a big ole by ignoring her ass, but yet you still care despite her rude behavior at the same time, with no desire to want to be with her again. It's okay. I get you. A simple email should do the trick. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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You're in the club regardless.
Emotionally this is our year of Divorce.
I have no papers filed, so God knows when mine will be legal. But my ass is out of the house and there's no looking back. It's a divorce. Fuck it. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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I'd ignore the birthday if she was like that. If she was being civil in your previous talks, then sure, send her a card, text, whatever.
And next time you guys talk and she blows up and says "Fuck you" just reply "Fuck your birthday." Then hang up. That way you have addressed and covered it for that year and don't have to worry about this again. | |
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Put you big draws on, hon! Ignore the heifer! She told you to fuck off and that you were a terrible husband, so why even give a shit about her birthday? | |
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Yup. All of that. | |
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At this point, what she may or may not think you feel towards her is not your problem. Let the chips fall where they may, move on, and focus on you. You are not responsible for her or her feelings anymore. I understand the idea of wanting to maintain a healthy post-break-up...but sometimes in order for the situation to be healthy it means that you need to cut contact, period and be healthy from afar. | |
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So Militant...do tell us what you decided.
"not a fan" yeah...ok | |
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I sent her a one line email. No reply. Wasn't expecting one, so... I think this was the best thing. |
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"not a fan" yeah...ok | |
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Well then thats it and you can move on. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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