It seems that it comes easy to a lot of girls. How did they get a boyfriend and how come boysdon't ever talk to me? Im in college and I thought that at least ONE boy would say something. I talk to boys all the time and I ALWAYS have to be the one to initiate the conversation. Will I ever have someone or be alone forever. It definetly feels like it. I brought a vase hoping that a boy would bring me flowers.. what am i kidding no one evr brings me flowers or gifts and that's never gonna randomly happen. It just maes me sad because my roommate has a boyfriend who bought her 2 bouquets of red roses and I had to let her use my vase for it. OH and to make it EVEN WORSE another boy likes her and brougt her flowers too..along with a cute teddy bear, chocolate and soup (becuase she has a cold). I think because she's far prettier than me. She's mexican and I guess got all the right looks so boys just flock to her. I hate myself.

Love...........starts from within.

ok, let's start at the very beggining.

First, are you an alter or recycled orger?

How do I put this gently? If you talk like you write, that might be your problem. You're rambling. Try to have a point before you speak. Keep it brief and light - and stick to one topic.

Also...men can smell desperation - and they will run as fast and as far as they can in the opposite direction. I mean...you're in college (so...what...20 years old?) and you're wondering if you're going to be alone forever? Really? Is this something you actually talk about? If so, you --> The guys you're talking to -->

Forget getting a boyfriend and focus on you. Develop some interests (other than finding a boyfriend).

Boyfriends aren't everything. Focus on doing what makes you happy and your personal goals, and the boyfriend will come on its own.

babyjubilation said:

It seems that it comes easy to a lot of girls. How did they get a boyfriend and how come boysdon't ever talk to me? Im in college and I thought that at least ONE boy would say something. I talk to boys all the time and I ALWAYS have to be the one to initiate the conversation. Will I ever have someone or be alone forever. It definetly feels like it. I brought a vase hoping that a boy would bring me flowers.. what am i kidding no one evr brings me flowers or gifts and that's never gonna randomly happen. It just maes me sad because my roommate has a boyfriend who bought her 2 bouquets of red roses and I had to let her use my vase for it. OH and to make it EVEN WORSE another boy likes her and brougt her flowers too..along with a cute teddy bear, chocolate and soup (becuase she has a cold). I think because she's far prettier than me. She's mexican and I guess got all the right looks so boys just flock to her. I hate myself.

1. At your age they are MEN not BOYS

2. Buy yourself flowers, they come with vases..

3. Quit talking to them so much, it may be annoying

4. Bringing teddy bears to girls is not sweet, its annoying

5. If this is an alter, its not a good one

tinaz said:

babyjubilation said:

It seems that it comes easy to a lot of girls. How did they get a boyfriend and how come boysdon't ever talk to me? Im in college and I thought that at least ONE boy would say something. I talk to boys all the time and I ALWAYS have to be the one to initiate the conversation. Will I ever have someone or be alone forever. It definetly feels like it. I brought a vase hoping that a boy would bring me flowers.. what am i kidding no one evr brings me flowers or gifts and that's never gonna randomly happen. It just maes me sad because my roommate has a boyfriend who bought her 2 bouquets of red roses and I had to let her use my vase for it. OH and to make it EVEN WORSE another boy likes her and brougt her flowers too..along with a cute teddy bear, chocolate and soup (becuase she has a cold). I think because she's far prettier than me. She's mexican and I guess got all the right looks so boys just flock to her. I hate myself.

1. At your age they are MEN not BOYS

2. Buy yourself flowers, they come with vases..

3. Quit talking to them so much, it may be annoying

4. Bringing teddy bears to girls is not sweet, its annoying

5. If this is an alter, its not a good one

My name is amber im 18 i quit 8 months ago (remember amberella..yeah of course you don't) but I signed up again because i liked prince too much. I don't really like posting in this forum becuase it seems nobody really cares about people here but i felt like ranting. I know none of you care so im not gonna say anything anymore. I don't have an existing account this is my only one. What do you get out of kicking people when they are already down?

babyjubilation said:

Your wrong, people DO care about people here... Your post came off as someone having a tantrum.. If you speak to us like an adult, we will answer you as adults...

Im not trying to be mean, but reread your OP from a 40 year old point of view... Most of us in here are older and dont ramble like that.. If you want advise, ask it like a grown up, not a whiny teenager...

you gotta love yourself before someone else can love you

PurpleRighteous1 said:

babyjubilation said:

My name is amber im 18 i quit 8 months ago (remember amberella..yeah of course you don't) but I signed up again because i liked prince too much. I don't really like posting in this forum becuase it seems nobody really cares about people here but i felt like ranting. I know none of you care so im not gonna say anything anymore. I don't have an existing account this is my only one. What do you get out of kicking people when they are already down?

Nobody's kicking you dear. It's called tough love. As someone who was in your shoes until I was 22, I can tell you that this is all very valid advice and you should find a way to incorporate it into your life. Stop caring about it so much and find things that make YOU happy and the guy will come along. Trust me.

Exactly. Nobody wants to be around someone who's whiny, needy and just generally pathetic. Most people have enough fears and self-doubt of their own - they don't want to take on anyone else's.

Why do people keep asking the broken ass Org collective questions like this? Do they really think THIS CROWD is where they should be getting their answers for all of life's great mysteries? And if its the answers THIS CROWD is going to supply that they want, then they MUST already be familiar with the type of response they're likely to get. Cerebus just doesn't really get it.

Also, this, "remember amberella..yeah of course you don't". Error.

I don't agree with much of what was said here. From my experience loving yourself (as much as it is wonderful of course for yourself) or being happy is not necessary that men are interested in you. It might be hard to find friends when you are sad and depressed and struggling, but men might very much still fall in love with you . And if you find hobbies and are happy then of course that's a good thing for you, but it won't mean that suddenly Mr. Right will walk into your life.

You cannot force to find a man, it will happen sooner or later, when it is meant to happen. But going around looking for somebody won't make much difference IMO. I could imagine that if they get the impression that you are totally focusing on finding a man that migth not give the best vibes, so I agree with that. Apart from that just give yourself a little more time, you are still young and you will find somebody .

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This thread reminded me of one of my favorite Sex and the City quotes: "You are knock-knock-knocking on sad gal door. And nobody likes a sad gal."

Efan said:

This thread reminded me of one of my favorite Sex and the City quotes: "You are knock-knock-knocking on sad gal door. And nobody likes a sad gal."

Also...you draw to yourself what you put out. So unless you're looking for a whiny, pathetic guy to go with your whiny, pathetic self, buck the hell up.

Genesia said:

Efan said:

This thread reminded me of one of my favorite Sex and the City quotes: "You are knock-knock-knocking on sad gal door. And nobody likes a sad gal."

Also...you draw to yourself what you put out. So unless you're looking for a whiny, pathetic guy to go with your whiny, pathetic self, buck the hell up.

This is totally not what I experienced in my life .

Okay here is my crazy advice: As everybody but me seems to agree that sad girls don't attract men (which is quite contrary to what I experienced) the easiest thing for you would be to pretend that you are not necessarily happy, but at least self confident and not in need to find a man. It might sound crazy, but it might work . I think a lot about what makes people attractive to others is charisma and vibes and you can "fake" those. When they find out that you are not that happy and self confident they already fell for you. And by pretending you might even get more happy and self confident with time.

I could see where sad, good looking women might be attractive on a "make them feel better" level. So, ya know, maybe she's just ugly.

Oh God, this is going to sound awful but....

Are you trying to get dudes that are out of your league? I mean that in every way possible.

Maybe you're only concentrating on one type of guy, ignoring other guys that may be into you...because you think they are not good enough for you.

I do find it a little hard to believe that you can't find anyone that is interested in you.

Soon you will be old enough to go to bars. You'll get to choose from several boyfriend candidates each time you go to one.

Sorry Serious, I know you're trying to help. But I don't think you can fake charisma or vibes, either. You've either got a type of charisma somebody is attracted to, or you don't. If you do, you'll "vibe" with that person. If you don't, well, then you're like most of the people on this planet. In case you haven't noticed we, as a species, don't exactly excel at interpersonal relationships.

Serious said:

Genesia said:

Also...you draw to yourself what you put out. So unless you're looking for a whiny, pathetic guy to go with your whiny, pathetic self, buck the hell up.

This is totally not what I experienced in my life .

We're not talking about your wardrobe, you know.

Look within...there's only one common denominator in this problem...

Genesia said:

Serious said:

This is totally not what I experienced in my life .

We're not talking about your wardrobe, you know.

I am not talking about that either, but about giving an vibe of being self confident. It is not about what you wear, but how you wear it, meaning how you come across and of course that's not only about how you dress.

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Cerebus said:

Sorry Serious, I know you're trying to help. But I don't think you can fake charisma or vibes, either. You've either got a type of charisma somebody is attracted to, or you don't. If you do, you'll "vibe" with that person. If you don't, well, then you're like most of the people on this planet. In case you haven't noticed we, as a species, don't exactly excel at interpersonal relationships.

Okay, maybe you cannot fake charisma, but you can very much fake self confidence and "coolness". And that will help you to get more self confident and once you are you will seem more attractive to people probably.

The key to your happiness lies with your cleavage.

You will need to post boob pics on the Org so that we may...uhm...er...ahh..."offer suggestions".

I'm going to have to agree with a lot of what is being said here. You're young. You should relax and work on yourself and your confidence and have fun. The attitude that you have right now is not going to attract anyone. Just chill. While I did have relationships as a teenager, I spent most of my early twenties single and I was a lot like you. It was when I stopped caring so much about it that things changed and I started meeting people and dating a lot more.

babyjubilation said:

It seems that it comes easy to a lot of girls. How did they get a boyfriend and how come boysdon't ever talk to me? Im in college and I thought that at least ONE boy would say something. I talk to boys all the time and I ALWAYS have to be the one to initiate the conversation. Will I ever have someone or be alone forever. It definetly feels like it. I brought a vase hoping that a boy would bring me flowers.. what am i kidding no one evr brings me flowers or gifts and that's never gonna randomly happen. It just maes me sad because my roommate has a boyfriend who bought her 2 bouquets of red roses and I had to let her use my vase for it. OH and to make it EVEN WORSE another boy likes her and brougt her flowers too..along with a cute teddy bear, chocolate and soup (becuase she has a cold). I think because she's far prettier than me. She's mexican and I guess got all the right looks so boys just flock to her. I hate myself.

sweetie, being single is the bomb you're just too young to realize that being part of a couple is not the end all, be all to living life.

PurpleJedi said:

The key to your happiness lies with your cleavage.

You will need to post boob pics on the Org so that we may...uhm...er...ahh..."offer suggestions".