SeventeenDayze said:

Spinlight said:

It only takes one time to get an STD and even condoms don't save you then.

Spin, do you wake up in a horrible mood everyday? geez....nevermind lol

Beyond the smiley, I'm not sure what else I could do to add levity to my post. Do I need to post webcam footage of me typing it out?

Graycap23 said:

Ladies....doesn't it depend on the guy?

Depends on how bad I want the guy.

2morrow I'll be meeting a girl I've had a terrible crush on for almost two weeks. She knows how i feel and hasn't done anything to discourage me, she's also been quick to make herself available when I find time to see her.

I've been out of practice with the dating game for so long it seems all very new and confusing. I think I might have been getting almost comfortable in my solitude, and now this crush.

I'm not really into being patient when I know what I want. This will be our third date.


I don't see why we can't have casual sex while we're getting to know each other

[Edited 8/23/11 12:17pm]

Graycap23 said:

paintedlady said:

Then yes. If a women really likes a guy panties are flung off... in most cases. I think its harder for a woman to deny herself than it is for a man.

That reminds of this woamn I met some years ago.

She was going on and on about being a woman of God, and there will be no sex....etc.

The woman damn near raped me 5 minutes after the 1st time I ever stepped inside her house.

That's what you get for being too sexy, smelling all good...... that'll teach you to trust a Christian!

Machaela said:

WE decided together and chose to "wait" ... close to 3 months into our dating life

See, that seems totally normal. Even six months, or maybe longer, so long as its a mutual decision. Something that's been discussed and agreed upon, or even something that isn't discussed but happens naturally. Its the unnecessary and nonsensical games that drive me right out the door. Especially BEFORE sex has taken place.

paintedlady said:

Graycap23 said:

Ladies....doesn't it depend on the guy?

No, it depends on the ladies comfort level with the guy.

Some guys think they have it like that though.... but they tend to go for women who are "at the club and looking".

And some women think they have the right to wield that shit like a weapon. I think what you're talking about works both ways.

Turning sex into a game playing power trip is a HUGE turn off for some men. It doesn't have to be like that. So, imo, if its as big a deal as some people have made it out to be in this thread, you (they) should probably just move on to someone else right now.

But hey, like I said, that's just me. I have no patience for all this nonsense. For me its mostly chemical, if I need to intellectualize the physical act that much before anything has taken place it definitely removes some of the "magic" involved with the early part of a relationship.

SeventeenDayze said:

How long should a girl make a guy wait before having sex with him? Will he "like her more" the longer she makes him wait?

Depends on how fine and smart he is.

If he superfine and possesses average intelligence - 2 weeks

If he superfine and really dumb - 1 week

If he ugly but posesses above average intelligence - 1 month

If he ugly and dumb - shame on you for even considering fucking him.

If he got money - pray on it.

ionno....im easy, a box a chicken will do...

[Edited 8/23/11 16:20pm]

What exactly is the purpose of waiting/resisting if you want to do it right away?

'How long do you make a guy wait before having sex?'

i don't even think of it like that. that's turning it into a game or trying to force it into a preset

If she's the one I don't mind playing the "90-day-no-Sex-Game". Very few women wanna wait 9 days more-less 90 days....So it depends on the woman...

JustErin said:

What exactly is the purpose of waiting/resisting if you want to do it right away?

IT'S A TRAP!

i'm so impatient, i can't see the point in waiting 4 sex. why invest days/weeks/months just to discover he/she is useless in the sack?

& who the hell would wait till they are married? now that's a gamble.

many years ago, there was a bloke. he was lush, he was amazing kisser & judging by what i could feel during hugs & stuff.. he was HUGE! i couldn't wait to get my hands on it!!!

but he made me wait & when he finally decided to shag me senseless the experience was very disappointing. needless to say i didn't marry him.

myfavorite said:

JustErin said:

What exactly is the purpose of waiting/resisting if you want to do it right away?

See post #30!

I've only ever been with one woman who made me wait. She blew me on the first day and then we fucked on the second.

I'm impatient as hell and also, I don't like being "made" to wait like the girl is on some power trip and gets to dictate the scenario. Out of respect I won't make any power moves on the first day to try and get anything, but if I dictate a hint of the girl trying to be the one "controlling" the situation, so to speak, I'm not down with that.

Militant said:

I've only ever been with one woman who made me wait. She blew me on the first day and then we fucked on the second.

I'm impatient as hell and also, I don't like being "made" to wait like the girl is on some power trip and gets to dictate the scenario. Out of respect I won't make any power moves on the first day to try and get anything, but if I dictate a hint of the girl trying to be the one "controlling" the situation, so to speak, I'm not down with that.

While I'm certain there are many women who like to use the cooter as a weapon, not all of us do that.

MyNameIsPiper said:

Militant said:

I've only ever been with one woman who made me wait. She blew me on the first day and then we fucked on the second.

I'm impatient as hell and also, I don't like being "made" to wait like the girl is on some power trip and gets to dictate the scenario. Out of respect I won't make any power moves on the first day to try and get anything, but if I dictate a hint of the girl trying to be the one "controlling" the situation, so to speak, I'm not down with that.

While I'm certain there are many women who like to use the cooter as a weapon, not all of us do that.

Of course. Just saying that if I start to get that impression, I'll most likely bounce.

JustErin said:

What exactly is the purpose of waiting/resisting if you want to do it right away?

Some people want to see if there is something more to their relationship other than sex. So, they wait to see if that non sex "chemistry" is there first.

kewlschool said:

JustErin said:

What exactly is the purpose of waiting/resisting if you want to do it right away?

Some people want to see if there is something more to their relationship other than sex. So, they wait to see if that non sex "chemistry" is there first.

How would sleeping with someone change that? You're still going to get to know each other better if you liked the sex. There would be no reason not to.

Four hours is already pushing it.

JustErin said:

kewlschool said:

Some people want to see if there is something more to their relationship other than sex. So, they wait to see if that non sex "chemistry" is there first.

How would sleeping with someone change that? You're still going to get to know each other better if you liked the sex. There would be no reason not to.

Sometimes sex confuses people and they don't really get to know the other person. (not saying everyone)

Rightly said:

2morrow I'll be meeting a girl I've had a terrible crush on for almost two weeks. She knows how i feel and hasn't done anything to discourage me, she's also been quick to make herself available when I find time to see her.

I've been out of practice with the dating game for so long it seems all very new and confusing. I think I might have been getting almost comfortable in my solitude, and now this crush.

I'm not really into being patient when I know what I want. This will be our third date.


I don't see why we can't have casual sex while we're getting to know each other

[Edited 8/23/11 12:17pm]

Update.
I had a 4th date later that day and had such a good time that it seemed almost easy to cutely proposition her.

She was delighted and said we needed privacy for that. Later we got very private. Four times. I was quite stoned and only came once.

Maddest sex I've had for some time. She told me she wasn't sure wether or not I was still interested.

She wasn't making me wait, she was waitiing for me.

kewlschool said:

Rightly said:

Rightly said:

2morrow I'll be meeting a girl I've had a terrible crush on for almost two weeks. She knows how i feel and hasn't done anything to discourage me, she's also been quick to make herself available when I find time to see her.

I've been out of practice with the dating game for so long it seems all very new and confusing. I think I might have been getting almost comfortable in my solitude, and now this crush.

I'm not really into being patient when I know what I want. This will be our third date.


I don't see why we can't have casual sex while we're getting to know each other

[Edited 8/23/11 12:17pm]

Update.
I had a 4th date later that day and had such a good time that it seemed almost easy to cutely proposition her.

She was delighted and said we needed privacy for that. Later we got very private. Four times. I was quite stoned and only came once.

Maddest sex I've had for some time. She told me she wasn't sure wether or not I was still interested.

She wasn't making me wait, she was waitiing for me.

Sounds like a great experience, for both of you!

I'm happy for you guys.

Guy has me waiting for sex, for practical reasons (he's been ill).

And it's driving me crazy! I don't like it at all. I know he's not playing games with me, because he truly is very sick. And it does work, I'm longing for sex with him.

However, if he would do this as powerplay, I would have stopped seeing the guy. I hate it when people play games like that. Be upfront and honest, otherwise, just leave. I don't want to open up my heart and be vulnerable for somebody who is into powerplay and mindgames.

Oops, I didn't wait.

Bottom line...if a guy really wants it, he'll wait as long as it takes.

JustErin said: