I love hesitating and waiting for the moment. I keep the relationship cute and honest with a little bit of natural distance, so that there´s always some raw eroticism in the air, but that it isn´t talked about at all. You think you know what´s on the other person´s mind, but you can´t be sure. Until, one afternoon, night or morning all this lust that built up will make someone explode, no matter how ready the other one is. The longer this erotic and emotional distance between two people lasts, the better the sex is after that.

Dave1992 said:

I love hesitating and waiting for the moment. I keep the relationship cute and honest with a little bit of natural distance, so that there´s always some raw eroticism in the air, but that it isn´t talked about at all. You think you know what´s on the other person´s mind, but you can´t be sure. Until, one afternoon, night or morning all this lust that built up will make someone explode, no matter how ready the other one is. The longer this erotic and emotional distance between two people lasts, the better the sex is after that.

I don't even understand the question.

Efan said:

I don't even understand the question.

Efan said:

I don't even understand the question.

Hetero couples sometimes wait before having sex.

It's.....fascinating.

imago said:

Dave1992 said:

I love hesitating and waiting for the moment. I keep the relationship cute and honest with a little bit of natural distance, so that there´s always some raw eroticism in the air, but that it isn´t talked about at all. You think you know what´s on the other person´s mind, but you can´t be sure. Until, one afternoon, night or morning all this lust that built up will make someone explode, no matter how ready the other one is. The longer this erotic and emotional distance between two people lasts, the better the sex is after that.

What? Tired of waiting?

Dave1992 said:

imago said:

What? Tired of waiting?

Our little Dave is all grown up.

.....and so naaaaaasssssssttttaaaaaayyyyyyyy!

JerseyKRS said:

Word.

ZombieKitten said:

ladder theory

I'm a total cuddle bitch

I would think "17 days" would be the answer to most of your questions!

RodeoSchro said:

I would think "17 days" would be the answer to most of your questions!

Hahaha I'm gonna call it the 17-date rule

SeventeenDayze said:

BklynBabe said:

lol, why wait?

Are you serious? Come on girl, leverage LOL!

lol.....if I want it, I'm gonna have it! I'm old enough to not confuse sex with love, and too old to play games!

Plus my "leverage" is hella good, so I know men are coming back for sex.

RodeoSchro said:

I would think "17 days" would be the answer to most of your questions!

Long enough to get his zipper open.

Hum, very interesting question (... and answers... )

From my point of view, it's simple : I want you. If you want me too (sexually speaking), let's have sex. There's a physical attraction, and a need to be fulfilled. I really don't understand why many girls are holding back to prove/test/observe something.

We're consenting adults, no rape, no mind tricks or what..

But the explanation I get most of the time is : "If I do now, you'll think I'm an easy woman and that I can sleep with any guy the first night just as I did with you"... Hum, that i can understand, because some guys can be asshole sometimes like telling folks : "See that girl over there? I took her home last night and we fucked right away... What a hoe!!" ... I hate that shit. Really. THESE are dumbasses, people collecting women and bragging about it just because they need to prove they're "The Man" (A real 'seducer', a gentleman keep his bedroom business private) and ruining the whole thing because women are getting more and more scary of being labelled "the hoe", whereas they still have sexual needs as men.

And making a guy wait for 6 months is no guarantee he'll stick with you. This might be the only reason he'll stay 6 months with you, it might become his main goal : Fucking you.

This is no science. Everybody thinks differently, act differently and express him/herself differently. I might sleep with a girl the first night just because I'm horny like a muthafucka outta jail. I can sleep with a girl on the same bed and not doing shit, cause I don't find her "appealing" sexually.

For me, having sex the first night or 6 months later, I don't mind (though waiting so long would actually piss me off ), I understand it's all about desire and attraction... A quote:

"♪♫ You want me just as much as I as I want you ... So let's stop fooling around! ♫♫" [Prince, "Do me, Baby"]

Call me old fashioned...but until we're married. But I give good hugs and kisses in between.

imago said:

Efan said:

I don't even understand the question.

Hetero couples sometimes wait before having sex.

It's.....fascinating.

Dave1992 said:

I love hesitating and waiting for the moment. I keep the relationship cute and honest with a little bit of natural distance, so that there´s always some raw eroticism in the air, but that it isn´t talked about at all. You think you know what´s on the other person´s mind, but you can´t be sure. Until, one afternoon, night or morning all this lust that built up will make someone explode, no matter how ready the other one is. The longer this erotic and emotional distance between two people lasts, the better the sex is after that.

1. get to know him

2. discover mutual interest

3. find out his social circles

4. see his family pictures

5. inquires into medical background (std screening is a major)

6. what's he like on a dinner date

7. does he have children/divorced/never married?

8. how does he interact with people

yeah i know i present hoops to jump through, but i'm so worth it.

if he can't meet my criteria then, "i'd rather be a casual aquaintance."

FrenchGuy said:

Hum, very interesting question (... and answers... )

From my point of view, it's simple : I want you. If you want me too (sexually speaking), let's have sex. There's a physical attraction, and a need to be fulfilled. I really don't understand why many girls are holding back to prove/test/observe something.

We're consenting adults, no rape, no mind tricks or what..

But the explanation I get most of the time is : "If I do now, you'll think I'm an easy woman and that I can sleep with any guy the first night just as I did with you"... Hum, that i can understand, because some guys can be asshole sometimes like telling folks : "See that girl over there? I took her home last night and we fucked right away... What a hoe!!" ... I hate that shit. Really. THESE are dumbasses, people collecting women and bragging about it just because they need to prove they're "The Man" (A real 'seducer', a gentleman keep his bedroom business private) and ruining the whole thing because women are getting more and more scary of being labelled "the hoe", whereas they still have sexual needs as men.

And making a guy wait for 6 months is no guarantee he'll stick with you. This might be the only reason he'll stay 6 months with you, it might become his main goal : Fucking you.

This is no science. Everybody thinks differently, act differently and express him/herself differently. I might sleep with a girl the first night just because I'm horny like a muthafucka outta jail. I can sleep with a girl on the same bed and not doing shit, cause I don't find her "appealing" sexually.

For me, having sex the first night or 6 months later, I don't mind (though waiting so long would actually piss me off ), I understand it's all about desire and attraction... A quote:

"♪♫ You want me just as much as I as I want you ... So let's stop fooling around! ♫♫" [Prince, "Do me, Baby"]

You got also bastards who claim they fucked Miss so-and-so and create a made-up story just to brag about it. Knowing that others gonna believe it the girl will be labelled "Hoe" no matter how. Nowadays girls are labelled "hoe" just because they're wearing mini skirts with black stockings and stilettos and are getting loose on a dancefloor without even getting laid. That's why I don't give it a fuck anymore. If I want you I just go and get you, no matter what people think.

free2bfreeda said:

1. get to know him

2. discover mutual interest

3. find out his social circles

4. see his family pictures

5. inquires into medical background (std screening is a major)

6. what's he like on a dinner date

7. does he have children/divorced/never married?

8. how does he interact with people

yeah i know i present hoops to jump through, but i'm so worth it.

if he can't meet my criteria then, "i'd rather be a casual aquaintance."

before SEX, not conception

Dave1992 said:

I love hesitating and waiting for the moment. I keep the relationship cute and honest with a little bit of natural distance, so that there´s always some raw eroticism in the air, but that it isn´t talked about at all. You think you know what´s on the other person´s mind, but you can´t be sure. Until, one afternoon, night or morning all this lust that built up will make someone explode, no matter how ready the other one is. The longer this erotic and emotional distance between two people lasts, the better the sex is after that.

That's BS.

If I wait 2 weeks to fuck you, saving up my jizz, and refraining from touching my overreactive crotch, and you turn out to be the most boring fucking lay beyond the fact you got me off, then I am going to be really pissed.

Spinlight said:

Dave1992 said:

I love hesitating and waiting for the moment. I keep the relationship cute and honest with a little bit of natural distance, so that there´s always some raw eroticism in the air, but that it isn´t talked about at all. You think you know what´s on the other person´s mind, but you can´t be sure. Until, one afternoon, night or morning all this lust that built up will make someone explode, no matter how ready the other one is. The longer this erotic and emotional distance between two people lasts, the better the sex is after that.

That's BS.

If I wait 2 weeks to fuck you, saving up my jizz, and refraining from touching my overreactive crotch, and you turn out to be the most boring fucking lay beyond the fact you got me off, then I am going to be really pissed.

Pissed, but at least yr balls will be empty.

SexLovely said:

Spinlight said:

That's BS.

If I wait 2 weeks to fuck you, saving up my jizz, and refraining from touching my overreactive crotch, and you turn out to be the most boring fucking lay beyond the fact you got me off, then I am going to be really pissed.

Pissed, but at least yr balls will be empty.

It ain't difficult to get my dick sucked, man. I wanna know I'm waiting for a good piece, not for some amateur.

ThruTheEyesOfWonder said:

Call me old fashioned...but until we're married. But I give good hugs and kisses in between.

MyNameIsPiper said:

ThruTheEyesOfWonder said:

Call me old fashioned...but until we're married. But I give good hugs and kisses in between.

Call me crazy but I think it's good that you wait because it leaves a bit of mystery. I wonder if a lot of guys lose interest in a chick because she put out too soon. So, if I'm into a guy but want him to be a bit patient, what can I do to show him I'm not a prude but I'm not down with a three date rule or waiting a few meaningless weeks before putting out. There's also a significant age gap between us (he's 18 years older than me).

SeventeenDayze said:

MyNameIsPiper said:

Call me crazy but I think it's good that you wait because it leaves a bit of mystery. I wonder if a lot of guys lose interest in a chick because she put out too soon. So, if I'm into a guy but want him to be a bit patient, what can I do to show him I'm not a prude but I'm not down with a three date rule or waiting a few meaningless weeks before putting out. There's also a significant age gap between us (he's 18 years older than me).

Only people with boring, non-engaging personalities have to rely on their genitals to keep a partner around.

SeventeenDayze said:

MyNameIsPiper said:

Call me crazy but I think it's good that you wait because it leaves a bit of mystery. I wonder if a lot of guys lose interest in a chick because she put out too soon. So, if I'm into a guy but want him to be a bit patient, what can I do to show him I'm not a prude but I'm not down with a three date rule or waiting a few meaningless weeks before putting out. There's also a significant age gap between us (he's 18 years older than me).

Wait until you are comfortable. There's no need to rush things, but there's also no need to wait if you truly feel it's right, and make sure you've vetted him thoroughly before that. Me personally, I'm waiting because I know (after several experiences, mind you) that it's right for me. If I was truly ready, I would've done it by now.

Talk it out and be completely honest. Tends to separate the men from the boys (even "old" boys) if you're looking for something serious.