So sometimes I notice other people do cool things or are dressed up nicely, or kind, friendly or whatever, and I want to tell them something nice to make them feel good and let them know they're appreciated.

Have you got any tips?

Heard any particularly nice compliments lately?

Are there any words you shouldn't use when giving a compliment?

Are there certain people you shouldn't compliment about certain things?

What's the nicest compliment you've ever received?

I want to brush up on my skills because I do like saying nice things to ppl but I think sometimes what comes out can be a bit clunky or even possibly inappropriate.

I have no advice on how to effectively give a compliment, because usually when I do, it ends up coming across as asskissing or something when I'm really being genuine.

You just do it.

I always make it a point ot compliment folk if there's something about them that stands out to me.

Your compliment could make their entire day.

Fauxie said:

So sometimes I notice other people do cool things or are dressed up nicely, or kind, friendly or whatever, and I want to tell them something nice to make them feel good and let them know they're appreciated.

Have you got any tips?

Heard any particularly nice compliments lately?

Are there any words you shouldn't use when giving a compliment?

Are there certain people you shouldn't compliment about certain things?

What's the nicest compliment you've ever received?

I want to brush up on my skills because I do like saying nice things to ppl but I think sometimes what comes out can be a bit clunky or even possibly inappropriate.

^-

Compliments are a give and take in life. Sometimes you get a compliment everyday or more than once a day sometimes you don't get any in months.

-Sometimes you give and give compliments and none get returned.

-I like to compliment all the time if I like something. "I think you are beautiful" or "I love your eyeshadow," things like that.

-It is about physical appearance and what is projected into your eyes.

Chile, I'm in Thailand.

I hear compliments everyday, and believe none of them

How to interpret compilments on the org:

You have such beautiful eyes. You're ugly

You have such a beautiful smile. You're fat

You have such a lovely face. You're fat

You have such pretty hair. There is absolutely nothing on your face worth complimenting.

Let's fuck You're actually good-looking

.

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Now, if you REALLY want to compliment someone... Don't script it and, upon noticing their complimentable behavior, drop it like its hot.

Some people are perceptible enough to tell premeditated compliment-giving.

imago said:

How to interpret compilments on the org:

You have such beautiful eyes. You're ugly

You have such a beautiful smile. You're fat

You have such a lovely face. You're fat

You have such pretty hair. There is absolutely nothing on your face worth complimenting.

Let's fuck You're actually good-looking

.

[Edited 8/12/11 22:58pm]

You have a lovely sense of humor.

And nice hair, but that's a compliment to all Asians.

Sorry guys.

Blame this shit thread on me. It's all my fault.

johnart said:

imago said:

How to interpret compilments on the org:

You have such beautiful eyes. You're ugly

You have such a beautiful smile. You're fat

You have such a lovely face. You're fat

You have such pretty hair. There is absolutely nothing on your face worth complimenting.

Let's fuck You're actually good-looking

.

[Edited 8/12/11 22:58pm]

You have a lovely sense of humor.

And nice hair, but that's a compliment to all Asians.

Your garden is abundant, ripe, and seen by many.

Spinlight said:

Now, if you REALLY want to compliment someone... Don't script it and, upon noticing their complimentable behavior, drop it like its hot.

Some people are perceptible enough to tell premeditated compliment-giving.

Then there's the dummies like you...

*snickering*

Sorry, last one, I had to do it.

johnart said:

You just do it.

I always make it a point ot compliment folk if there's something about them that stands out to me.

Your compliment could make their entire day.

I bet you're a good compliment giver.


Wait, did I really just type that?

Spinlight said:

Now, if you REALLY want to compliment someone... Don't script it and, upon noticing their complimentable behavior, drop it like its hot.

Some people are perceptible enough to tell premeditated compliment-giving.

^-

Sometimes I can't help it but to compliment someone from head to toe but only because i do like whatever it is they are showing.

-There is also a thing as a 'show-off', who only wants to get compliments that are forced. I had a friend like that, she was 2years younger than me too.

-She would make sure I would see her new purse or new pants and she just couldn't wait for me to notice her items on my own. It was frustrating.

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Spinlight said:

Now, if you REALLY want to compliment someone... Don't script it and, upon noticing their complimentable behavior, drop it like its hot.

Some people are perceptible enough to tell premeditated compliment-giving.

You shouldn't think about it. Just say it.

If something is worth complementing it shouldn't require thought or an elaborate speech.

To the point:

"You are so pretty"

"Your make up is workin'!" (not so hot coming from str8 dudes)

"I love your shirt"

"OMG (don't use the letters, say the words please ), your eyes are so lovely"

and so on...

MyJobIz2beCute said:

Fauxie said:

So sometimes I notice other people do cool things or are dressed up nicely, or kind, friendly or whatever, and I want to tell them something nice to make them feel good and let them know they're appreciated.

Have you got any tips?

Heard any particularly nice compliments lately?

Are there any words you shouldn't use when giving a compliment?

Are there certain people you shouldn't compliment about certain things?

What's the nicest compliment you've ever received?

I want to brush up on my skills because I do like saying nice things to ppl but I think sometimes what comes out can be a bit clunky or even possibly inappropriate.

^-

Compliments are a give and take in life. Sometimes you get a compliment everyday or more than once a day sometimes you don't get any in months.

-Sometimes you give and give compliments and none get returned.

-I like to compliment all the time if I like something. "I think you are beautiful" or "I love your eyeshadow," things like that.

-It is about physical appearance and what is projected into your eyes.

Good stuff, thanks.

What if their eyeshadow's really well done, but maybe the colour's not great on them? How to approach that? I don't want to mislead them.

imago said:

johnart said:

You have a lovely sense of humor.

And nice hair, but that's a compliment to all Asians.

Your garden is abundant, ripe, and seen by many.

OMG!! (letters not words) That's what my fortune cookie said last night!!!

Fauxie said:

johnart said:

You just do it.

I always make it a point ot compliment folk if there's something about them that stands out to me.

Your compliment could make their entire day.

I bet you're a good compliment giver.


Wait, did I really just type that?

I drop 'em left and right. They don't cost a thing.

Spinlight said:

Now, if you REALLY want to compliment someone... Don't script it and, upon noticing their complimentable behavior, drop it like its hot.

Some people are perceptible enough to tell premeditated compliment-giving.

ok ok.

Let me try a compliment....

Spinlight, you have enormous potential for dramatic improvement of your posts.

JustErin said:

Sorry guys.

Blame this shit thread on me. It's all my fault.

Please Erin, must you try to make EVERY thread about your enormous pubic mound?

EDIT:

In the form of a compliment

Erin, you are quite skilled about bringing the focus of every thread to your enormous pubic mound.

[Edited 8/12/11 23:11pm]

imago said:

Chile, I'm in Thailand.

I hear compliments everyday, and believe none of them

Land of smiles!

Fauxie said:

So sometimes I notice other people do cool things or are dressed up nicely, or kind, friendly or whatever, and I want to tell them something nice to make them feel good and let them know they're appreciated.

Have you got any tips?

Heard any particularly nice compliments lately?

Are there any words you shouldn't use when giving a compliment?

Are there certain people you shouldn't compliment about certain things?

What's the nicest compliment you've ever received?

I want to brush up on my skills because I do like saying nice things to ppl but I think sometimes what comes out can be a bit clunky or even possibly inappropriate.

I suck at compliments. For me it's because I am so boring and safe with the compliments. For instance, I generally don't use the words: hot, fine, beautiful, awesome...extremes like that. People look nice. Or they look good. Or they're pretty. Or they're cool. So there's not much to differentiate someone who is pretty, for instance, from someone who is absolutely, ridicuously attractive.

I sometimes get complimented on the shirts I wear to work. Nothing special, it's really a more relative thing than anything. The co-workers often make it easy.

I don't compliment people on sh*t they already have a big head about. If they're already complimenting themselves or if I feel they are fishing for a compliment...I don't cater to that sh*t. Even if they go the self-pity route. "Oh...I feel so ugly. Oh my hair is so ____." and so on. I just kind of stay quiet and let them pretend to hate themselves.

One of the nicest compliments I ever got was from a gay man, about 3 years ago, at a birthday party for a friend. A bunch of folks were dancing and stuff, and he had started speaking to me, and was offering general compliments, which initially I appreciated (it later got to be a bit much, like too persistent I guess). He asked me if I was seeing anyone all that, and I explained the situation with my ex-wife letting it be known I was straight. (His partner of 17 years was there, upstairs, so that made me uncomfortable, honestly). Anyhow, a bunch of us got to talking about dancing. I don't dance, though I was asked by some of the women there to do so. He asked me why not. I jokingly said "I'm too tall and uncoordinated for all that. One wrong move, I'd knock out half the damn room." Without missing a beat, he replied "Well it'd be a beautiful accident."

Have to give him credit, that was probably smoother and more flattering than any sh*t a woman has ever said to me.

Fauxie said:

MyJobIz2beCute said:

^-

Compliments are a give and take in life. Sometimes you get a compliment everyday or more than once a day sometimes you don't get any in months.

-Sometimes you give and give compliments and none get returned.

-I like to compliment all the time if I like something. "I think you are beautiful" or "I love your eyeshadow," things like that.

-It is about physical appearance and what is projected into your eyes.

Good stuff, thanks.

What if their eyeshadow's really well done, but maybe the colour's not great on them? How to approach that? I don't want to mislead them.

^-

Good example. So you compliment the form, the technique and the utensil used to draw the eyeshadow. Then you can add the better color by saying, "Blue would make your eyes pop out more and you can have those Bette Davis eyes."

[Edited 8/12/11 23:13pm]

JustErin said:

Sorry guys.

Blame this shit thread on me. It's all my fault.

You inspired it.

I'm glad you have great hair.

johnart said:

JustErin said:

Sorry guys.

Blame this shit thread on me. It's all my fault.

Please Erin, must you try to make EVERY thread about your enormous pubic mound?

EDIT:

In the form of a compliment

Erin, you are quite skilled about bringing the focus of every thread to your enormous pubic mound.

[Edited 8/12/11 23:11pm]

lawd

MyJobIz2beCute said:

Fauxie said:

Good stuff, thanks.

What if their eyeshadow's really well done, but maybe the colour's not great on them? How to approach that? I don't want to mislead them.

^-

Good example. So you compliment the form, the technique and the utensil used to draw the eyeshadow. Then you can add the better color by saying, "Blue would make your eyes pop out more and you can have those Bette Davis eyes."

[Edited 8/12/11 23:13pm]

Or just say "Nice makeup".

I usually end up going into this long debate with myself in my head over whether or not I should even give a compliment to people before I do it because I know that my delivery is apparently fucked up and that people immediately assume I'm going to ask them for something after I say it .

MyJobIz2beCute said:

Fauxie said:

Good stuff, thanks.

What if their eyeshadow's really well done, but maybe the colour's not great on them? How to approach that? I don't want to mislead them.

^-

Good example. So you compliment the form, the technique and the utensil used to draw the eyeshadow. Then you can add the better color by saying, "Blue would make your eyes pop out more and you can have those Bette Davis eyes."

[Edited 8/12/11 23:13pm]

The problem with that as I see it though is that it sounds terrible.

Fauxie said:

JustErin said:

Sorry guys.

Blame this shit thread on me. It's all my fault.

You inspired it.

I'm glad you have great hair.

Really.

I hate you.

MyJobIz2beCute said:

Fauxie said:

Good stuff, thanks.

What if their eyeshadow's really well done, but maybe the colour's not great on them? How to approach that? I don't want to mislead them.

^-

Good example. So you compliment the form, the technique and the utensil used to draw the eyeshadow. Then you can add the better color by saying, "Blue would make your eyes pop out more and you can have those Bette Davis eyes."

[Edited 8/12/11 23:13pm]

Let's be honest here. Saying that would piss the person off. They know exactly what you're saying...that what they have done looks like shit.

armpit said:

MyJobIz2beCute said:

^-

Good example. So you compliment the form, the technique and the utensil used to draw the eyeshadow. Then you can add the better color by saying, "Blue would make your eyes pop out more and you can have those Bette Davis eyes."

[Edited 8/12/11 23:13pm]

Or just say "Nice makeup".

I usually end up going into this long debate with myself in my head over whether or not I should even give a compliment to people before I do it because I know that my delivery is apparently fucked up and that people immediately assume I'm going to ask them for something after I say it .

I don't do that, but was wondering if maybe I should, but JohnArt's saying just do it!

Fauxie said:

MyJobIz2beCute said:

^-

Good example. So you compliment the form, the technique and the utensil used to draw the eyeshadow. Then you can add the better color by saying, "Blue would make your eyes pop out more and you can have those Bette Davis eyes."

[Edited 8/12/11 23:13pm]

The problem with that as I see it though is that it sounds terrible.

^-

Then you did not like how the person put on their makeup, so just don't say anything.

-Compliments are given if it is 'born' in you to say you like something.

-If someone puts effort in their appreance and you dig it, then put effort in telling them so.

-Half the truth is a lie.