Aw, yes!

I so understand you plight! I opted for my best interest.

And you know what I hate it, but it is what is best for me...

Good Luck IceNine. Money isn't everything..

Have you thought about moving closer to the new job that pays so well? The present commute sounds unworkable. It might do for a year or two, but the increased childcare costs may negate the increased salary.

Looked at another way, it may be in your child's best interests to go for the money, as long as you can stay sane and still enjoy the reduced time at home. In my own case, I'd be grateful to have had parents who made better financial decisions that would now allow them to live more financially independently. It's a real shame to see parents rely heavily on their adult children for financial support, especialy as the adult child is trying to secure his/her own future. It happens. It's happening to me.

Hard working parents, particularly fathers, have historically made huge sacrifices in family life in order to provide greater opportunities for their children. Tuition for expensive colleges, travel experiences, greater access to cultural events, music or sports lessons, or even a down payment for that first house. Not to mention creating adult children who never have to worry about your well-being as you get older and stop working. What a relief! Is our desire to spend more time with our children really just for them, or is it more for us? Will they pay a price later?

For the lowest paid workers, they usually have little opportunity for such lofty discussion. They rise early, toil at difficult or dangerous jobs, and come home exhausted late in the evening. This seems especially true of small business owners. They often claim to work so hard for the same reason that you might choose not to - they do it for their families. It serves as a strong role model, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. What model is created by the father who is home all of the time? I believe that as long as your son knows that you'd rather be at home than at work, you'll always be greeted with a hero's welcome after a long day in the trenches.

Good luck!

TheMax said:

Very well said, i feel the same way though i couldn't find the right words.

There's a saying..."Do what you love, and the money will follow."

Is it really true? I think so...at least long-term. Is screen printing what you love? Or do you just find it less repulsive than systems analysis? If so, then stay at the first crappy job until you can get pointed at what you REALLY love. So what's the 3rd option?

You could position yourself for a career as an intellectual shock-jock. Do what you love, ya know...?

teller said:

I really don't love printing, but I certainly don't hate it... I REALLY hate everything to do with computers and I am fucking sick of them and everything to do with them.


As far as the radio thing goes, I curse FAR too much for anyone to put me on the air.

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HONK HONK HONK!

u should sell ur life 4 1million a week!

IceNine said:

That's what the 7-second delay button was invented for...

Actually, I always thought Aero and I would make a good talk radio duo...

wellbeyond said:

Me too.

wellbeyond said:

My show would be a constant beeping sound... people would think that a public service announcement was coming soon.

"Had this been an actual emergency..."