I gotta say....I'd say my opinion is that everyone that posts their photo, including myself, and in threads in GD, not private orgnote......does so for validation on some level.

I think that would be fairly accurate. It's a fair assumption, reasonably speaking of course.

paintedlady said:

imago said:

Why would anyone assume anybody is looking for validtaion when they post a photo? Its a leap to go that far. Why even go there?

and since you posted...vvv makes it seem like you are saying "she asked for it". Mean shit man.

imago said:

I know it hurts, but if you're posting your photos online for validation,

Perhaps you haven't been attention to the posts (many of them recently) from other orgers on various threads about the REASONS they posted their photos--FOR VALIDATION.

Jerseykrs, Charlotte, several orgers have stated just that.

And, no I never said Cortney deserved it. I said that she should do so with caution, but ultimately that people just say what they want to say, so don't be "crushed" by it.

You're probably not aware that Cortney and I actually get along quite well--none of it was "mean shit" man.

JerseyKRS said:

I gotta say....I'd say my opinion is that everyone that posts their photo, including myself, and in threads in GD, not private orgnote......does so for validation on some level.

I think that would be fairly accurate. It's a fair assumption, reasonably speaking of course.

It's been stated not just by you but by several orgers MANY times that they post pictures to feel better about themselves.

I ain't neva lied.

imago said:

JerseyKRS said:

I gotta say....I'd say my opinion is that everyone that posts their photo, including myself, and in threads in GD, not private orgnote......does so for validation on some level.

I think that would be fairly accurate. It's a fair assumption, reasonably speaking of course.

It's been stated not just by you but by several orgers MANY times that they post pictures to feel better about themselves.

I ain't neva lied.

That might hold true for you and your boy Jers... but not for me. Shit I know my ass ain't perfect and if someone was like "Damn you gotta huge nose!!" I would just know they are telling the truth.

The piont is that you are assuming something that reads like a cheap shot at Instaible's expense while she's already feeling down. Kicking someone while they are down is not your style.

IMHO Most people do not post for validation. Just to share a pic... unless its a dick picture... then you would be absolutely right.

in so doing, I would say you should be prepared for non-validating comments also. It doesn't mean you have to pay attention to them, comment on them, etc. etc. It's just that, expect it.

especially in an incredibly diverse, often times polarizing, group of individuals taking part in an open forum.

I've had tons of negative shit said to me. I'm sure more is said that I don't see, but whatever. (mainly because I like the attention regardless )

but really, I mean....I'm posting pictures of myself. It's kind of silly to think someone WON'T be a douche.

btw, that orger was dealt with accordingly. I do notice the hammer gets dropped a lot quicker these days....but that's for the site discussion forum, and ya'll know that shit is a ghost town.

paintedlady said:

imago said:

It's been stated not just by you but by several orgers MANY times that they post pictures to feel better about themselves.

I ain't neva lied.

That might hold true for you and your boy Jers... but not for me. Shit I know my ass ain't perfect and if someone was like "Damn you gotta huge nose!!" I would just know they are telling the truth.

The piont is that you are assuming something that reads like a cheap shot at Instaible's expense while she's already feeling down. Kicking someone while they are down is not your style.

IMHO Most people do not post for validation. Just to share a pic... unless its a dick picture... then you would be absolutely right.

whoah now, I'd hardly say we're kicking her when she's down. I have compassion for her hurt feelings. the orger in question was wrong and banned. I agree with that too.

all I think Imago is saying, to which I'm agreeing with is that if you're going to post your photo on a thread in an open forum, don't expect everyone to love it. that's just common sense IMO.

I'd also add that it's good advice to help you be stronger in the face of opposition...but I'm not an expert in all that crap.

[Edited 8/14/11 11:32am]

paintedlady said:

imago said:

It's been stated not just by you but by several orgers MANY times that they post pictures to feel better about themselves.

I ain't neva lied.

That might hold true for you and your boy Jers... but not for me. Shit I know my ass ain't perfect and if someone was like "Damn you gotta huge nose!!" I would just know they are telling the truth.

The piont is that you are assuming something that reads like a cheap shot at Instaible's expense while she's already feeling down. Kicking someone while they are down is not your style.

IMHO Most people do not post for validation. Just to share a pic... unless its a dick picture... then you would be absolutely right.

My boy Jers?

But not for you.... fine

Then we disagree, Cortney knows where I'm comfing from. and I don't see where the problem is in that.

^^^ Good food for thought. Jersey may be right but its hard to gage when people are just kidding or being mean when you don't know if people are cool with one another like that. I ma in the same boat with Jersey in regards with people talking shit to be and just shaking it off.

Now see, that's the tricky part. I don't pay attention to who is all chummy with who, so if Supa read that post like a knock at Insatiable, heck so did I... its all a gamble when you joke like that and people don't know. Its easy to misread people here, and that's part of the problem in threads in GD.

I am glad to know that Imago is cool with Cortney like that. I hope she doesn't let that photowhore thing shake her.

paintedlady said:

^^^ Good food for thought. Jersey may be right but its hard to gage when people are just kidding or being mean when you don't know if people are cool with one another like that. I ma in the same boat with Jersey in regards with people talking shit to be and just shaking it off.

Now see, that's the tricky part. I don't pay attention to who is all chummy with who, so if Supa read that post like a knock at Insatiable, heck so did I... its all a gamble when you joke like that and people don't know. Its easy to misread people here, and that's part of the problem in threads in GD.

I am glad to know that Imago is cool with Cortney like that. I hope she doesn't let that photowhore thing shake her.

this will always be true

imago said:

paintedlady said:

Perhaps you haven't been attention to the posts (many of them recently) from other orgers on various threads about the REASONS they posted their photos--FOR VALIDATION.

Jerseykrs, Charlotte, several orgers have stated just that.

And, no I never said Cortney deserved it. I said that she should do so with caution, but ultimately that people just say what they want to say, so don't be "crushed" by it.

You're probably not aware that Cortney and I actually get along quite well--none of it was "mean shit" man.

Seriously dude... I am TOO lazy to being paying that much attention. I'll try though.

and the world is at peace again... :birds twirping n shit:

paintedlady said:

imago said:

Seriously dude... I am TOO lazy to being paying that much attention. I'll try though.

and the world is at peace again... :birds twirping n shit:

Well, please do, because I want to hurry up and win this argument.

imago said:

paintedlady said:

Seriously dude... I am TOO lazy to being paying that much attention. I'll try though.

and the world is at peace again... :birds twirping n shit:

Well, please do, because I want to hurry up and win this argument.

The leage of angry women orgers is gonna get you....

[Edited 8/14/11 11:55am]

oh my god

That shit is going in my signature

JerseyKRS said:

I gotta say....I'd say my opinion is that everyone that posts their photo, including myself, and in threads in GD, not private orgnote......does so for validation on some level.

I think that would be fairly accurate. It's a fair assumption, reasonably speaking of course.

Of course. That is completely logical and a no-brainer. If that is what you want to say, then just say that. There was an underhanded stab instead. The comments were very pointed and really uncalled for.

[Edited 8/14/11 12:03pm]

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

JerseyKRS said:

I gotta say....I'd say my opinion is that everyone that posts their photo, including myself, and in threads in GD, not private orgnote......does so for validation on some level.

I think that would be fairly accurate. It's a fair assumption, reasonably speaking of course.

Of course. That is completely logical and a no-brainer. If that is what you want to say, then just say that. There was an underhanded stab instead. The comments were very pointed and really uncalled for.

[Edited 8/14/11 12:03pm]

nope. wrong again

Christ on a cracker.

insatiable3 said:

i dont know how to even start this.. i guess this is more of a vent thread for me .. i just wanted to say that here on the org i try to be as true to my real self as i possibly can at all times.. not only is it important for me to let all of you guys try to see me for me but im never one to put on a show for anybody.. what you see with me is what you get... like anyone i know i have my flaws and im only human and i try to work on them everyday... insecurity is a major one for me.. but i have to tell you incase you dont know this about me i love every human that crosses my path until they give me a reason not too.. i guess im sensitive.. i guess i care to much about what everybody on here thinks of me... but thats who i am and i cant change it.. it kinda comes with the insatiable3 package..

i guess what im trying to say is i was deeply hurt about a comment said about me on a thread here at the org.. i know you cant stop this ... what i just dont understand is how someone can judge like that without even knowing who i am.. and i loved how they made the comment when i couldnt defend myself..

i thank all of you who stuck up for me on that thread and know that all the positive comments in responce meant so much to me .. i know that there are some totally wonderful people on here and dont ever think you go unnoticed to me... the org has done so much for me since i joined about a year and half ago.. i think its changed me in ways i never thought it could.. some of the people on here are the best friends anyone could wish for ... and im so blessed to have that.

anyway i just wanted to get all this off my chest so i could feel better im sorry for my dramatic rant..

thanks for listening

lol im such a emotional wreck lately oh well im gonna try to laugh it off i guess ( i dont expect many responces to this thread lol)

[Edited 8/9/11 19:56pm]

A chance to put someone else's life in order? Are you kidding?

SUPRMAN said:

insatiable3 said:

i dont know how to even start this.. i guess this is more of a vent thread for me .. i just wanted to say that here on the org i try to be as true to my real self as i possibly can at all times.. not only is it important for me to let all of you guys try to see me for me but im never one to put on a show for anybody.. what you see with me is what you get... like anyone i know i have my flaws and im only human and i try to work on them everyday... insecurity is a major one for me.. but i have to tell you incase you dont know this about me i love every human that crosses my path until they give me a reason not too.. i guess im sensitive.. i guess i care to much about what everybody on here thinks of me... but thats who i am and i cant change it.. it kinda comes with the insatiable3 package..

i guess what im trying to say is i was deeply hurt about a comment said about me on a thread here at the org.. i know you cant stop this ... what i just dont understand is how someone can judge like that without even knowing who i am.. and i loved how they made the comment when i couldnt defend myself..

i thank all of you who stuck up for me on that thread and know that all the positive comments in responce meant so much to me .. i know that there are some totally wonderful people on here and dont ever think you go unnoticed to me... the org has done so much for me since i joined about a year and half ago.. i think its changed me in ways i never thought it could.. some of the people on here are the best friends anyone could wish for ... and im so blessed to have that.

anyway i just wanted to get all this off my chest so i could feel better im sorry for my dramatic rant..

thanks for listening

lol im such a emotional wreck lately oh well im gonna try to laugh it off i guess ( i dont expect many responces to this thread lol)

[Edited 8/9/11 19:56pm]

A chance to put someone else's life in order? Are you kidding?

She is still innocent

JerseyKRS said:

I gotta say....I'd say my opinion is that everyone that posts their photo, including myself, and in threads in GD, not private orgnote......does so for validation on some level.

I think that would be fairly accurate. It's a fair assumption, reasonably speaking of course.

And I have to also agree.

Why is it such a terrible thing to look for a little validation or something that gives you a bit of an ego boost?

I fully believe that it's a completely natural desire to want to be desirable.

paintedlady said:

imago said:

It's been stated not just by you but by several orgers MANY times that they post pictures to feel better about themselves.

I ain't neva lied.

That might hold true for you and your boy Jers... but not for me. Shit I know my ass ain't perfect and if someone was like "Damn you gotta huge nose!!" I would just know they are telling the truth.

The piont is that you are assuming something that reads like a cheap shot at Instaible's expense while she's already feeling down. Kicking someone while they are down is not your style.

IMHO Most people do not post for validation. Just to share a pic... unless its a dick picture... then you would be absolutely right.

You're definitely an exeption then, because it's totally not "most people".

And I think this becomes clear when someone posts like a shitload of pictures of themselves, especially when it's in the same thread, that they are looking for some sort of validation.

Showing one picture to let people put a face to your name is one thing and you're right, it doesn't send the same impression as what I stated above.

But that said, I don't think there is anything wrong with doing things that might make you feel better about yourself....but the key word is "might" and you should be prepared to deal with getting a reaction you might not like.

JustErin said:

paintedlady said:

That might hold true for you and your boy Jers... but not for me. Shit I know my ass ain't perfect and if someone was like "Damn you gotta huge nose!!" I would just know they are telling the truth.

The piont is that you are assuming something that reads like a cheap shot at Instaible's expense while she's already feeling down. Kicking someone while they are down is not your style.

IMHO Most people do not post for validation. Just to share a pic... unless its a dick picture... then you would be absolutely right.

You're definitely an exeption then, because it's totally not "most people".

And I think this becomes clear when someone posts like a shitload of pictures of themselves, especially when it's in the same thread, that they are looking for some sort of validation.

Showing one picture to let people put a face to your name is one thing and you're right, it doesn't send the same impression as what I stated above.

But that said, I don't think there is anything wrong with doing things that might make you feel better about yourself....but the key word is "might" and you should be prepared to deal with getting a reaction you might not like.

True... my style is to show a pic of myself to let others know what I look like.

I guess I never though of people who posted lots of pics in that regard. I just thought they liked taking pictures.

Its also true that people should take criticism with a grain of salt. Its OK to be sensitive, but also to not let others hurt you that are not significant to you in real time.

JustErin said:

paintedlady said:

That might hold true for you and your boy Jers... but not for me. Shit I know my ass ain't perfect and if someone was like "Damn you gotta huge nose!!" I would just know they are telling the truth.

The piont is that you are assuming something that reads like a cheap shot at Instaible's expense while she's already feeling down. Kicking someone while they are down is not your style.

IMHO Most people do not post for validation. Just to share a pic... unless its a dick picture... then you would be absolutely right.

You're definitely an exeption then, because it's totally not "most people".

And I think this becomes clear when someone posts like a shitload of pictures of themselves, especially when it's in the same thread, that they are looking for some sort of validation.

Showing one picture to let people put a face to your name is one thing and you're right, it doesn't send the same impression as what I stated above.

But that said, I don't think there is anything wrong with doing things that might make you feel better about yourself....but the key word is "might" and you should be prepared to deal with getting a reaction you might not like.

A reaction you might not like and full out verbal assault are two different things.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

JustErin said:

You're definitely an exeption then, because it's totally not "most people".

And I think this becomes clear when someone posts like a shitload of pictures of themselves, especially when it's in the same thread, that they are looking for some sort of validation.

Showing one picture to let people put a face to your name is one thing and you're right, it doesn't send the same impression as what I stated above.

But that said, I don't think there is anything wrong with doing things that might make you feel better about yourself....but the key word is "might" and you should be prepared to deal with getting a reaction you might not like.

A reaction you might not like and full out verbal assault are two different things.

Actually, they aren't because the end result is the same.

JustErin said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

A reaction you might not like and full out verbal assault are two different things.

Actually, they aren't because the end result is the same.

to the sensitive, probably

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

JustErin said:

Actually, they aren't because the end result is the same.

to the sensitive, probably

And here's the thing, no one is saying that being sensitive is bad or wrong...just that if you're going to put yourself out there, be prepared to get ANY type of response. If you can't deal with that, it's best not to participate.

JustErin said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

A reaction you might not like and full out verbal assault are two different things.

Actually, they aren't because the end result is the same.

Arriving at the same result does not make two things the same.

A reaction someone does not like is not necessarily a full out verbal assault.

You might not like what I say about your clothes, but criticizing your selection is not a full out verbabl assault. However, a full out verbal assault could include criticism of your clothing.

SUPRMAN said:

JustErin said:

Actually, they aren't because the end result is the same.

Arriving at the same result does not make two things the same.

A reaction someone does not like is not necessarily a full out verbal assault.

You might not like what I say about your clothes, but criticizing your selection is not a full out verbabl assault. However, a full out verbal assault could include criticism of your clothing.

What does any of this have to do with the OP? Talk about dead horse flogging.

Don't shit talk people's pictures. It's annoying, stupid, and will get you banned. What's the big deal about that?

paintedlady said:

Fauxie said:

Made with former resident org twat and über-troll muthafunka in mind, but seems fitting in these current times too.

Uh, no. There was nothing "wanna-be" about Mutha. That "uber-troll" told the truth to much dismay and without apology. Pissed many off and punked all the wanna-be-thugs that threatened women in P&R ... it was a joy to see too. He was a total nuisance in the basketball threads and made them fun the read. You can remember those days how ever YOU want to though... what ever helps you feel better about those exchanges.

If you're gonna talk shit... make sure you keep it real. Now let those giants sleep.

I don't know about in P&R but in GD he was a trolling twat who routinely got exposed as such and rightly laughed at, until he could no longer hang. He was quite amusing though, but almost entirely unwittingly. It seems we disagree though.

imago said:

ok, after reading some of these comments,....

I've had my picture posted by other orgers then teased about all sorts of things about my looks.

Fat, "orange", hideous, gross--you name it. Sometimes, they're trying to get a reaction out of you.

I know it hurts, but if you're posting your photos online for validation, some of that

"feedback" isn't going to be positive. Sometimes, it's not even about the way you

look, and more about the fact they are annoyed by you or don't like you for

whatever reason.

The Internet is a mean, mean place. If you want to play on it, being crushed by

a few comments from somebody you don't know or will never meet is only

going to ruin your experience.

My advice: Stop posting pictures for validation with the expectation that all

you're going to get are compliments.

What thread was this anyways? I'm shit for following yall anymore.

Wait, this ^^^ is the post that ppl are taking issue with? Taking it as a whole this all sounds like good, rational advice to me, and given the first part empathizes with the OP I don't see how is being seen as anything like a 'verbal assault' or 'underhanded stab'. There's some sensible, home truths in there but I don't know how anyone would get 'mean' from it. It's obviously sympathetic to the OP's situation.