Teacher said:

A childhood friend who overdosed, perhaps accidentally (nobody knows). He was from Gambia, and during winter he would say "man Jen, you're white" to me (I get really pale in the winter) and I'd respond "Ebou, man you're black". Tearing up now. He was a joyful soul before the drugs took him. Some friends and I detoxed him once by locking him up for a week, but he kept going back. There was only so much we could do. Ebou, I miss you.

Miguel, I'm sorry for your losses. I understand you feel some survivor's guilt, but those you love live on in your memories of them. They're still loved.

It sounds like you had some good memories with him.

Thank you.

I miss my mommy.

I didn't mean to bring everyone down, I swear.

The good thing to come out of this is that we've had one great big fest and we've been able to remember our loved ones.

One of my fond memories of Frank was when we were young and stupid. We would drive to Santa Cruz, just right over the hill. (Santa Cruz is the beach town where THE LOST BOYS was filmed) We had to go through the mountains to get there to get to the only gay club that was 18 and over, FACES club. On the way back it would be so dark on the winding roads and we would turn the car lights off until we couldn't stand it no more. We'd be screaming!!! We'd turn on the lights and notice that yeah, we almost went over a cliff. I know it sounds horrible but we would laugh and laugh.

I have a zillion stories about him.

johnart said:

I miss my mommy.

What kind of mommy was she? My mom was soooo funny and didn't care about what other people thought. She reminded me of Bette Midler. That's how bawdy she was. We would have a get together and my mom would be cooking up a storm. She would pass by my dad and totally grab his crotch. My dad would turn red and just die of embarrassment.

Miguel

I miss my paternal grandmother. She passed away in June 2006. Her health had deteriorated slowly over a long period of time. For a while, when she was still alive even, I mourned the loss of the woman she was.

When she passed it was very bittersweet. I was overjoyed that she was freed from the body that failed her, but I still miss her everyday.

Out of our entire family, only my older sister, my dad and I knew her as she was and how she ended up. My sister cannot bear to talk about her, neither can my father.

I choose to celebrate her life. I keep pictures of her on view in my house along with a couple of personal items of hers that very much remind me of her free spirit. I still kind of include her in my activities. Whenever I see something interesting or do something unique I think, "Two Mama would have LOVED this!"

R.I.P. Two Mama

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

johnart said:

I miss my mommy.

What kind of mommy was she? My mom was soooo funny and didn't care about what other people thought. She reminded me of Bette Midler. That's how bawdy she was. We would have a get together and my mom would be cooking up a storm. She would pass by my dad and totally grab his crotch. My dad would turn red and just die of embarrassment.

She was crazy (good crazy) and silly, outspoken, ballsy, bawdy and hilarious.

But also selfless and caring.

I felt like nothing could harm me in her presence.

johnart said:

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

What kind of mommy was she? My mom was soooo funny and didn't care about what other people thought. She reminded me of Bette Midler. That's how bawdy she was. We would have a get together and my mom would be cooking up a storm. She would pass by my dad and totally grab his crotch. My dad would turn red and just die of embarrassment.

She was crazy (good crazy) and silly, outspoken, ballsy, bawdy and hilarious.

But also selfless and caring.

I felt like nothing could harm me in her presence.

!

I miss my brother. He died 4 yrs ago and I still get the urge to speak to him every few days. Sucks.

Miguel, I wanna give you a real hug...

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

PurpleJedi said:

Very touching.

I have a very good friend (she's my daughter's godmother in fact) whom I've known since the 9th grade (that's 27 years and counting). She's the only one left after all these years. I have FB friends from school...but not in RL.

Those are the best friends to have. The ones that you've known forever.

Absolutely.

johnart said:

I miss my mommy.

Spinlight said:

I miss my brother. He died 4 yrs ago and I still get the urge to speak to him every few days. Sucks.

Nothinbutjoy said:

Miguel

I miss my paternal grandmother. She passed away in June 2006. Her health had deteriorated slowly over a long period of time. For a while, when she was still alive even, I mourned the loss of the woman she was.

When she passed it was very bittersweet. I was overjoyed that she was freed from the body that failed her, but I still miss her everyday.

Out of our entire family, only my older sister, my dad and I knew her as she was and how she ended up. My sister cannot bear to talk about her, neither can my father.

I choose to celebrate her life. I keep pictures of her on view in my house along with a couple of personal items of hers that very much remind me of her free spirit. I still kind of include her in my activities. Whenever I see something interesting or do something unique I think, "Two Mama would have LOVED this!"

R.I.P. Two Mama

I love Two Mama! R.I.P.

johnart said:

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

What kind of mommy was she? My mom was soooo funny and didn't care about what other people thought. She reminded me of Bette Midler. That's how bawdy she was. We would have a get together and my mom would be cooking up a storm. She would pass by my dad and totally grab his crotch. My dad would turn red and just die of embarrassment.

She was crazy (good crazy) and silly, outspoken, ballsy, bawdy and hilarious.

But also selfless and caring.

I felt like nothing could harm me in her presence.

Amazing! Our moms would've gotten along so well.

Spinlight said:

I miss my brother. He died 4 yrs ago and I still get the urge to speak to him every few days. Sucks.

Yeah, it sucks. Talk to him now. I don't know what you believe in but I believe he's around.

RenHoek said:

Miguel, I wanna give you a real hug...

Soon. But for now,

I miss my Mom. She passed last March. It's only been a few months, but I miss her so much. She was very ill the last few years, so I know she isn't suffering anymore, but I miss our talks and her love and support.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Boriqua1130 said:

~*~ In Memory Of Those Forever In Miguel's Heart ~*~

I miss my Mom... R.I.P. ~*~

You're so sweet. Thank you!

This whole thread is now, not only for Frank, but to all our loved ones.

You're sweet too. You're welcome beloved.

~*~ May They Rest In Peace ~*~

My dad. He was my politics partner, my fashion plate, my sports trash talk partner, my music buddy, my life coach and my best friend. He was an amazing man, and I can't believe he's been gone nearly 2 years. Every curve in my journey still has me reaching for my phone to call him.

Grassy Arse

Christmas, Easter, Birthdays, WEddings, any kind of Family gatherings arent the same without my Father's Mum and Dad I was with them just before they passed away.....and my Mum's Father who I also with when he died, bless him.

.

It's a beautiful sentiment to Frank that he still makes you smile inside I know it's hard but that's a positive light to shed on it yeah?

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

I still hear something funny on tv, or something will happen to me and my first reaction is "Oh my God, I have to tell Frank." It's interesting that I still get that urge.

I can completely relate, and do that same thing very often myself.

my son who died when he was 18 months old and would have been 28 now. The saddness is the life he could have lived - he was so loved.

blueblossom said:

my son who died when he was 18 months old and would have been 28 now. The saddness is the life he could have lived - he was so loved.

blueblossom said:

my son who died when he was 18 months old and would have been 28 now. The saddness is the life he could have lived - he was so loved.

I can't even imagine.

You have your little angel watching over you.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

blueblossom said:

my son who died when he was 18 months old and would have been 28 now. The saddness is the life he could have lived - he was so loved.

I can't even imagine.

You have your little angel watching over you.

I cannot imagine it either. I think of Blueblossom a lot.

@ Miguel, I remember you telling me about Frank on your first trip here and we were sat at a Tapas restaurant at the mall shopping.

I still miss my great grandmother who passed in Feb 2001. She took care of me for my parents while they worked when I was really young up til I went to school. She taught me a lot. We spent lots of time talking on the phone and writing each other letters when I was older and did not live close enough to her to visit. She passed the day after her 97th birthday. I feel blessed to have had the time with her that I had. I miss her so much now that I have had a child. I really wish she could have met him.

Shanti0608 said:

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

I can't even imagine.

You have your little angel watching over you.

I cannot imagine it either. I think of Blueblossom a lot.

@ Miguel, I remember you telling me about Frank on your first trip here and we were sat at a Tapas restaurant at the mall shopping.

I still miss my great grandmother who passed in Feb 2001. She took care of me for my parents while they worked when I was really young up til I went to school. She taught me a lot. We spent lots of time talking on the phone and writing each other letters when I was older and did not live close enough to her to visit. She passed the day after her 97th birthday. I feel blessed to have had the time with her that I had. I miss her so much now that I have had a child. I really wish she could have met him.

That's wonderful that you got to know your great grandmother. Wow!! I bet you she's watching over Selden.