Cerebus said:

johnart said:

Telling of what?

A short, balding man (with beady eyes), who has short balding man complex. Feeling inadequate, he needs to post a pic showing himself looking down on the rest of the world, thereby hiding his short baldness (and making it look like his beady eyes are just facing downward).

Either that or he took a pic with his laptop or webcam on the table while he was standing up.

ALL of that?? Really?

I'd go with B and work my way back from that.

Erin, I and pretty much everyone who posts pics of themselves on here or elsewhere knows all about going for the most flattering angle and working with what you've got. We all have complexes or inadequacies.

JustErin said:

Ok, this dude messaged me today.

I figured these guys put their pics up on a public site, it should be ok to post here.

'He's cute too.

Prettier than no. 1 tho.

JustErin said:

Cerebus said:

.... seriously?! You've said what you're looking for is people to go out with, hang out with, do stuff with, whatever. So take that leap and just go out with a few guys. Maybe you'll end up meeting some cool people, or a good man, through them.

I fear rejection!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Uh, yeah. How should I phrase this? Probably something like, FUCKIN' DUH! I thought you'd made it clear that you were looking for hang out, friend type acquaintances. Can you do that on that site? I assure you single guys would like to hang out with you (and don't give me any shit about it, they would!).

johnart said:

Cerebus said:

A short, balding man (with beady eyes), who has short balding man complex. Feeling inadequate, he needs to post a pic showing himself looking down on the rest of the world, thereby hiding his short baldness (and making it look like his beady eyes are just facing downward).

Either that or he took a pic with his laptop or webcam on the table while he was standing up.

ALL of that?? Really?

I'd go with B and work my way back from that.

Erin, I and pretty much everyone who posts pics of themselves on here or elsewhere knows all about going for the most flattering angle and working with what you've got. We all have complexes or inadequacies.

This boy just hasn't learned that yet.

johnart said:

JustErin said:

Ok, this dude messaged me today.

I figured these guys put their pics up on a public site, it should be ok to post here.

'He's cute too.

Prettier than no. 1 tho.

Yeah, he's like a pretty version of my type.

johnart said:

Cerebus said:

A short, balding man (with beady eyes), who has short balding man complex. Feeling inadequate, he needs to post a pic showing himself looking down on the rest of the world, thereby hiding his short baldness (and making it look like his beady eyes are just facing downward).

Either that or he took a pic with his laptop or webcam on the table while he was standing up.

ALL of that?? Really?

I'd go with B and work my way back from that.

Erin, I and pretty much everyone who posts pics of themselves on here or elsewhere knows all about going for the most flattering angle and working with what you've got. We all have complexes or inadequacies.

Nah, not really. Mostly I'm just messin' with Erin and have a halfway decent idea how to do that.

Cerebus said:

johnart said:

ALL of that?? Really?

I'd go with B and work my way back from that.

Erin, I and pretty much everyone who posts pics of themselves on here or elsewhere knows all about going for the most flattering angle and working with what you've got. We all have complexes or inadequacies.

Nah, not really. Mostly I'm just messin' with Erin and have a halfway decent idea how to do that.

You scared me there for a bit.

johnart said:

Cerebus said:

Nah, not really. Mostly I'm just messin' with Erin and have a halfway decent idea how to do that.

You scared me there for a bit.

But he is short and balding. Not my fault. I didn't make him that way.

HermesReborn said:

JustErin said:

Um no. Women don't fuck UGLY nice guys. Hot ones get it no problem.

Hotness has nothing to do with it. lol

Some emotionally immature Girls like to fuck emotionally immagure bad asses and assholes

They go with the nice guy, after they find out that gambling on a hot asshole is a crapshoot

So far all my guys have been hot AND nice, nothing but the best for me!

This is the bigger guy I've been talking to. Again, the hair is not good. He's seems like a nice dude though.

Oh, he's in some band or something and that's why he has this douchey pic...it's from his facebook page actually.

ZombieKitten said:

HermesReborn said:

Hotness has nothing to do with it. lol

Some emotionally immature Girls like to fuck emotionally immagure bad asses and assholes

They go with the nice guy, after they find out that gambling on a hot asshole is a crapshoot

So far all my guys have been hot AND nice, nothing but the best for me!

HermesReborn said:

JustErin said:

Sure, that's what "nice" dudes who can't get a date (ie: ugly) tell themselves.

lol

either way, you've just admitted how superficial you are.

In all seriousness looks have nothing to do with it, it's personality AND MONEY.

It's why you see the ugliest guys with some of the hottest women.

But it is somewhat factual, at least through my observation, that if you are trying to close with a girl under the age of 28 (who are insecure and emotionally immature and probably mean too)

you gotta be somewhat of a dick to her.

I live in New York City, and girls are the most uppity obnoxious you'll ever find (so are the men case and point)

And it's 50 percent more likely that you'll get laid if you snub a girl, then treat her "nicely."

You treat her nicely she's going think your a wimp.

Looks have nothing to do with it.

Cause despite what pop culture tells you, women are not that superficial.

A guy could be 4'2 and look like super mario, and he could still close with a girl of model quality if he approaches her the right way.

It's sad that these games have to be played.

but eh...

Such is life.

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supermario is totally true there is probably a right way for each girl, and sometimes you get lucky

I don't equate NICE with doormat though

JustErin said:

This is the bigger guy I've been talking to. Again, the hair is not good. He's seems like a nice dude though.

Oh, he's in some band or something and that's why he has this douchey pic...it's from his facebook page actually.

Mmmm. Hmmm. Honestly, not messing with you at all, he seems like a bit of a meathead for you. All the pics of guys you've posted (that I've seen) are of thinner, slightly slacker lookin' dudes. This guy looks metal.

And he lacks eyebrows.

OK, now I'm messin' with you.

But still... did he have those things waxed or somethin'?

JustErin said:

johnart said:

'He's cute too.

Prettier than no. 1 tho.

Yeah, he's like a pretty version of my type.

He is too pretty, I want to smack him around a bit...

[Edited 8/9/11 21:27pm]

ZombieKitten said:

I don't equate NICE with doormat though

Good. Because its not anymore true than it is with any other type of person.

Cerebus said:

JustErin said:

This is the bigger guy I've been talking to. Again, the hair is not good. He's seems like a nice dude though.

Oh, he's in some band or something and that's why he has this douchey pic...it's from his facebook page actually.

Mmmm. Hmmm. Honestly, not messing with you at all, he seems like a bit of a meathead for you. All the pics of guys you've posted (that I've seen) are of thinner, slightly slacker lookin' dudes. This guy looks metal.

And he lacks eyebrows.

OK, now I'm messin' with you.

But still... did he have those things waxed or somethin'?

He's totally metallica. But he likes Dave Matthews too. I told him that my mom loves them.

But again, he's nice.

And yes, I think my type is totally slacker looking! Hahaha.

Fauxie said:

ZombieKitten said:

So far all my guys have been hot AND nice, nothing but the best for me!

I told the master if he keeps working at that place I'm leaving him, remember?

Looks like he is going to stay there, so now I have to make good on my threat, even thought I don't really want to, because I need to save face

So who's winning?

This dude is on my little list too.

JustErin said:

Cerebus said:

Mmmm. Hmmm. Honestly, not messing with you at all, he seems like a bit of a meathead for you. All the pics of guys you've posted (that I've seen) are of thinner, slightly slacker lookin' dudes. This guy looks metal.

And he lacks eyebrows.

OK, now I'm messin' with you.

But still... did he have those things waxed or somethin'?

He's totally metallica. But he likes Dave Matthews too. I told him that my mom loves them.

But again, he's nice.

And yes, I think my type is totally slacker looking! Hahaha.

If you're feelin' it you need to go for it. With this guy or whoever. Can't hurt to try, really. And on the plus side, like I said before, maybe you meet some people who don't suck in general.

I talked to this guy as well. He's probably the most grounded sounding so far. He's a nice dude so far...but he's an army guy and that's a bit scary to me.

LadyCasanova said:

JustErin said:

Yeah, he's like a pretty version of my type.

He is too pretty, I want to smack him around a bit...

[Edited 8/9/11 21:27pm]

I'm thinking he's out of my league anyway.

JustErin said:

This is the bigger guy I've been talking to. Again, the hair is not good. He's seems like a nice dude though.

Oh, he's in some band or something and that's why he has this douchey pic...it's from his facebook page actually.

He's cute, but not cut-a-bitch-while-it's-still-prime-time-at-the-bar-for cute.

If it were last call and I'd had a few (who am I kidding??) in me I might get territorial.

He also doesn't make me wonder if I might have to make a run for it in the middle of the night.

I don't know.

JustErin said:

This dude is on my little list too.

We'll call this the JerseyKRS model for now.

Cerebus said:

ZombieKitten said:

I don't equate NICE with doormat though

Good. Because its not anymore true than it is with any other type of person.

I believe there is a category of menfolks out there that ARE doormats for whatever reason, and they blame their lack of breaks on their misconception that what they are is NICE.

IMO, a nice guy is gentle and kind to children and animals, enjoys spending time with his lady, does what he says he will, doesn't abuse substances or become violent, has an even temperament, loves his family, has positive outlook, LOVES sex, is a good friend and basically doesn't have issues that make him a dick. None of these are mutually exclusive to being hot, or assertive or ambitious or anything else that one might assume are attractive traits.

Fauxie said:

So who's winning?

Serial killer...?

JustErin said:

This dude is on my little list too.

He looks alright. As in, 'normal'.

johnart said:

JustErin said:

This is the bigger guy I've been talking to. Again, the hair is not good. He's seems like a nice dude though.

Oh, he's in some band or something and that's why he has this douchey pic...it's from his facebook page actually.

He's cute, but not cut-a-bitch-while-it's-still-prime-time-at-the-bar-for cute.

If it were last call and I'd had a few (who am I kidding??) in me I might get territorial.

He also doesn't make me wonder if I might have to make a run for it in the middle of the night.

I don't know.

this one screams teddy bear to me, I can hear a big goofy laugh coming out of this one

those things wouldn't rule him out to me if he met all my NICE criteria

Fauxie said:

JustErin said:

This dude is on my little list too.

He looks alright. As in, 'normal'.

he looks happy open and friendly

god I would LOVE to know how different they are to their pics

Cerebus said:

JustErin said:

He's totally metallica. But he likes Dave Matthews too. I told him that my mom loves them.

But again, he's nice.

And yes, I think my type is totally slacker looking! Hahaha.

If you're feelin' it you need to go for it. With this guy or whoever. Can't hurt to try, really. And on the plus side, like I said before, maybe you meet some people who don't suck in general.

Yeah, totally. It's going to be hard for me because I struggle with self esteem issues, so I'm always so afraid of them being disappointed when we meet face to face.