I'm speaking in terms of relationships. You know, the couples who are together one week then break up the next week just to get back together the next week?

I've ALWAYS said that will never be me. We're done, We're done. Second chance, okay. But I swore I'd never put myself in such a vulnerable position.

I'm asking this because I've been seeing this guy for 4 months (I know, not long) and the first 3 we were fine. The last month has been a total earthquake of a relationship, it's ridiculous! I broke up with him first because he got really sketchy and I was tired of it.

We got back together after we talked about what was bothering me and we were fine, better than before.. for a week. Then he ended things with me just to come back 2 weeks later and say he was sorry and he doesnt want to be without me.

Then, a week or so later the same shit! This time however when we got back together I told him if were going to work things out DO NOT come to me in a week and say "Sara this is too hard.. I can't do it right now I'm sorry" because thats NOT fair to me and quite frankly I'm tired of it. He promised he wouldnt and things have been great until last night I got the I'm done shit again. Which knowing him in anywhere from 2 days - 2 weeks he'll be back saying he made a mistake.

So orgers, I know this is a stupid baby bitching post but tell me how do you know when enough is enough??

Live your life. If he fits into it, fine. If his attitude is interferring with your feelings, call it quits.

Does that make sense?

Sara, check this out.

Dump dude and never talk to him again. He isn't your soulmate. He probably isn't what you'll want a year from now.

Say peace and be on the lookout for someone better.

Easy peasy.

JerseyKRS said:

Sara, check this out.

Dump dude and never talk to him again. He isn't your soulmate. He probably isn't what you'll want a year from now.

Say peace and be on the lookout for someone better.

Easy peasy.

This.

You don’t need that kinda crap. He’s shown you time and again he’s not worth your time. Be done.

You’re far too awesome to put up with such nonsense.

CarrieMpls said:

JerseyKRS said:

Sara, check this out.

Dump dude and never talk to him again. He isn't your soulmate. He probably isn't what you'll want a year from now.

Say peace and be on the lookout for someone better.

Easy peasy.

This.

You don’t need that kinda crap. He’s shown you time and again he’s not worth your time. Be done.

You’re far too awesome to put up with such nonsense.

Agrees with both ~

Sounds like he's not really all that interested, to be honest. So... what everyone else said. ^^^

Cerebus said:

Sounds like he's not really all that interested, to be honest. So... what everyone else said. ^^^

Not only not interested - he also thrives on drama.

Do this -->

Sounds like my ex-boyfriend.

I put with him for a whole year of doing this bullshit, then I just started to ignore his phone calls and attempts at contacting me.

boys at this age like to see which girls will put up with their crap. They're laying down a blueprint for what they can and can't get away with. You've already set a precedent. He most certainly won't change. Even more sucky, when he is REALLY done with you, it will be simple for him as he's already tested out the water to see how it will go.

You can completely take that power away by simply telling him peace and seriously, never talk to him again.

It's totally empowering.

When resentment starts 2 kick in and u hate the sound of each others voices,watching ur partner eat repulses u then enuf is enuf........After about an hour time 2 move on.......

sounds like it's enough!

changing your mind is fine once, maybe twice...but thrice? No dice!

JerseyKRS said:

boys at this age like to see which girls will put up with their crap. They're laying down a blueprint for what they can and can't get away with. You've already set a precedent. He most certainly won't change. Even more sucky, when he is REALLY done with you, it will be simple for him as he's already tested out the water to see how it will go.

You can completely take that power away by simply telling him peace and seriously, never talk to him again.

It's totally empowering.

He's totally testing you whether he's conscious of it or not. He's seeing what you'll put up with.

Don't put up with it. You're better than that.

Totally agree with what everyone's said so far.

Give him the

SaraWright10 said:

I'm speaking in terms of relationships. You know, the couples who are together one week then break up the next week just to get back together the next week?

I've ALWAYS said that will never be me. We're done, We're done. Second chance, okay. But I swore I'd never put myself in such a vulnerable position.

I'm asking this because I've been seeing this guy for 4 months (I know, not long) and the first 3 we were fine. The last month has been a total earthquake of a relationship, it's ridiculous! I broke up with him first because he got really sketchy and I was tired of it.

We got back together after we talked about what was bothering me and we were fine, better than before.. for a week. Then he ended things with me just to come back 2 weeks later and say he was sorry and he doesnt want to be without me.

Then, a week or so later the same shit! This time however when we got back together I told him if were going to work things out DO NOT come to me in a week and say "Sara this is too hard.. I can't do it right now I'm sorry" because thats NOT fair to me and quite frankly I'm tired of it. He promised he wouldnt and things have been great until last night I got the I'm done shit again. Which knowing him in anywhere from 2 days - 2 weeks he'll be back saying he made a mistake.

So orgers, I know this is a stupid baby bitching post but tell me how do you know when enough is enough??

You're in a dysfunctional relationship with an emotionally immature person. When he comes back, calls, writes or whatever - IGNORE HIM! It's time to move on. From what you've posted he has done this to you twice in 4 months, that's a break up every two months or 6 breakups in a year. If you don't see that enough is enough right now then you will not see it and you will endure this craziness for many years to come. Even emotionally unstable people require a crutch of sorts. Right now you are his crutch because he can basically come and go as he pleases. One little fight or disagreement and he's out but he knows now, or suspects, that you will take him back despite you telling him you're tired.

Given your situation, you should have had enough after the first breakup. Of course, there is the "why" factor. Why are you guys fighting to begin with?

JerseyKRS said:

boys at this age like to see which girls will put up with their crap. They're laying down a blueprint for what they can and can't get away with. You've already set a precedent. He most certainly won't change. Even more sucky, when he is REALLY done with you, it will be simple for him as he's already tested out the water to see how it will go.

You can completely take that power away by simply telling him peace and seriously, never talk to him again.

It's totally empowering.

SaraWright10 said:

I'm speaking in terms of relationships. You know, the couples who are together one week then break up the next week just to get back together the next week?

I've ALWAYS said that will never be me. We're done, We're done. Second chance, okay. But I swore I'd never put myself in such a vulnerable position.

I'm asking this because I've been seeing this guy for 4 months (I know, not long) and the first 3 we were fine. The last month has been a total earthquake of a relationship, it's ridiculous! I broke up with him first because he got really sketchy and I was tired of it.

We got back together after we talked about what was bothering me and we were fine, better than before.. for a week. Then he ended things with me just to come back 2 weeks later and say he was sorry and he doesnt want to be without me.

Then, a week or so later the same shit! This time however when we got back together I told him if were going to work things out DO NOT come to me in a week and say "Sara this is too hard.. I can't do it right now I'm sorry" because thats NOT fair to me and quite frankly I'm tired of it. He promised he wouldnt and things have been great until last night I got the I'm done shit again. Which knowing him in anywhere from 2 days - 2 weeks he'll be back saying he made a mistake.

So orgers, I know this is a stupid baby bitching post but tell me how do you know when enough is enough??

imo, when you begin feeling like that.

Youth. Gotta love it. Just live and learn. We all have played the fool at one time.

JerseyKRS said:

boys at this age like to see which girls will put up with their crap. They're laying down a blueprint for what they can and can't get away with. You've already set a precedent. He most certainly won't change. Even more sucky, when he is REALLY done with you, it will be simple for him as he's already tested out the water to see how it will go.

You can completely take that power away by simply telling him peace and seriously, never talk to him again.

It's totally empowering.

First of all thank you to EVERYONE for your input. Really, it helps so much and I'm such a sucker when it comes to this stuff.

Secondly, Jers, he's actually 29 (10 years older than I) so I have no idea WHY he hasn't grown up yet? I just don't understand WHAT the deal is honestly..

Sara just put on your best "mommie dearest" moment. He wont come back! lose the loser!

i dont really think its ever worth it to go back out with somebody you broke up with. theyre your ex for a reason. i hate when i see people break up and complain that they cant stand their ex, but they keep hanging around them cause theyre like a drug... then wonder why they get so upset and end up going back out, only to break up again. do yourself a favor: shut him out and find someone better. im sure it wont be hard for you.

JerseyKRS said:

Dump dude and never talk to him again.

my first boyfriend broke up with me and begged me to come back about 3 times after the first time I didn't trust him any more It was like each time a little bit more of me was done with him, and the last and the final time I broke up with him. Over the phone. No buts. We'd been together a pretty long time, about 5 years.

ZombieKitten said:

Lisa10 said:

ZombieKitten said:

my first boyfriend broke up with me and begged me to come back about 3 times after the first time I didn't trust him any more It was like each time a little bit more of me was done with him, and the last and the final time I broke up with him. Over the phone. No buts. We'd been together a pretty long time, about 5 years.

I totally get this. It's a closure thing I think.

yes, it made the final break-up quite painless to be honest I'd suffered enough hurt over a 12 month period to finally get up, dust myself and get ON WITH IT!

ZombieKitten said:

Lisa10 said:

ZombieKitten said:

yes, it made the final break-up quite painless to be honest I'd suffered enough hurt over a 12 month period to finally get up, dust myself and get ON WITH IT!

There have been times in the past for me where people could give me useful advice til they're blue in the face, but if I wasn't ready to end it, I couldn't end it. Even though I knew keeping it going was almost pointless. The one time I ended a relationship without closure I was left wondering 'what if' for literally years afterwards.

I know, it's MUCH easier if you end up HATING the bastard

There is this one guy… last time I saw him was a long goodbye kiss in the carpark of where I worked in 1994. He flew home to Western Australia that day. I STILL dream about him! Because of the circumstances of our break-up, really a NON-break-up, since he said move to WA with me and I said no and that was that, it provided no closure whatsoever

SaraWright10 said:

I'm speaking in terms of relationships. You know, the couples who are together one week then break up the next week just to get back together the next week?

I've ALWAYS said that will never be me. We're done, We're done. Second chance, okay. But I swore I'd never put myself in such a vulnerable position.

I'm asking this because I've been seeing this guy for 4 months (I know, not long) and the first 3 we were fine. The last month has been a total earthquake of a relationship, it's ridiculous! I broke up with him first because he got really sketchy and I was tired of it.

We got back together after we talked about what was bothering me and we were fine, better than before.. for a week. Then he ended things with me just to come back 2 weeks later and say he was sorry and he doesnt want to be without me.

Then, a week or so later the same shit! This time however when we got back together I told him if were going to work things out DO NOT come to me in a week and say "Sara this is too hard.. I can't do it right now I'm sorry" because thats NOT fair to me and quite frankly I'm tired of it. He promised he wouldnt and things have been great until last night I got the I'm done shit again. Which knowing him in anywhere from 2 days - 2 weeks he'll be back saying he made a mistake.

So orgers, I know this is a stupid baby bitching post but tell me how do you know when enough is enough??

Sounds like commitment issues going on?

Choose for yourself. He doesn't make you feel good about yourself and doesn't enhance your general wellbeing. So, he isn't good for you. He can come back when he is capable of secure commitment and you know you can rely on him. Otherwise, take care of yourself and protect yourself from the damage he is doing to your selfesteem and stability. Really, you'r probably better off alone, meeting your own needs, in stead of some guy messing your life up.

SaraWright10 said:

JerseyKRS said:

boys at this age like to see which girls will put up with their crap. They're laying down a blueprint for what they can and can't get away with. You've already set a precedent. He most certainly won't change. Even more sucky, when he is REALLY done with you, it will be simple for him as he's already tested out the water to see how it will go.

You can completely take that power away by simply telling him peace and seriously, never talk to him again.

It's totally empowering.

First of all thank you to EVERYONE for your input. Really, it helps so much and I'm such a sucker when it comes to this stuff.

Secondly, Jers, he's actually 29 (10 years older than I) so I have no idea WHY he hasn't grown up yet? I just don't understand WHAT the deal is honestly..

Even worse.

Please stop trying to figure him out. It doesn't matter why he's an immature douche, only that you deserve better.

I have a strong feeling he dates younger girls because women his age have stopped putting up with his shit.

Send him this:

Ace said:

Send him this: