I met most my friends at university and work. Where did you meet your close friends and how long have you been friends already?

My closest friend I met my first year at university. I have another long term friend from school. I think we will always be good friends even though we dont see each other for years at a time. Ive also met a lot of good friends from all over the world since working and living in Korea.

most of them out of the classifieds/internet and I'm not joking

one from photography class

a few are exhousemates and exworkmates

some are school mums

a couple I went to school/uni with

some I met at the pub

Eye havnt got any friends its the life ive chosen 4 myself its cool....

Mostly through the jobs where I've worked. My friendships from high school deteriorated and I'm only friends with one person from college. I don't trust every one, all of those that I could no longer trust I cut out of my life and carried on. I only consider a small number of people to be my friends.

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oh! and one of my friends I met on TV!

My two longest friendships started in the 3rd grade when I started a new school. I have another friend that I've known since 6th grade and another that I've known since 10th grade. The rest of are acquaintances at this point.

I choose to keep a small group of close friends. I have trust issue.

I met most of my closest adulthood friends through various jobs I've held. And most of them annoyed the Hell out of me before becoming friends, lol. Initially, my reaction to many of them was like: "Oh no, here comes THIS guy/girl again", lol. Then over time, many of them setup shop in my heart, lol. The irony of this is that many of these friends are gone now, and I miss them dearly.

The lesson I've learned? Be more mindful of those that annoy me.

That's a damn good question.

I have friends I met in college, friends I worked with at some point, and friends I met doing theatre.

I have no close friends that I've known for less than 20 years.

At the Hall of Justice

I only have two left now.

One is a straight guy that I've been friends with since the sixth grade. He's a work-a-holic though and I usually just talk to him on the phone every now and then. Hell, if he's awake, he's at work.

The other is a guy that I met in the gay clubs back in the early 1990s and we've been best friends for years. I see him probably once every two or three weeks or so. I work days now and he works nights as security in that same gay club that has now become too boring to go to. Every once in a while, we get together on either a Saturday or a Sunday and go have lunch together somewhere and then come back to my apartment and hang out for a few hours. Or every blue moon he might come over on a Friday or Saturday night and hang out for a little while before he has to go to work but that's not very often.

Two of my other best friends have moved out of town and another one died back in 2008. All the rest of the people in my life have been simply just acquaintances, I really wouldn't call them good friends. And they have all either died of AIDS, been killed by rough trade, or have moved out of town.

Since my mother's passing in 2007, my brother has been mainly the person that I hang out and drink with on a lot of Friday nights.

As for the club scene these days, that's about as fun as a damn Lawrence Welk concert so I have no desire to get back into it. Now, if good music were to come back, I'd be all up in the clubs. But that ain't never gonna happen. Shit hop has got these folks tastes slower than an opera these days and trance has them overspeeded up like fucking rabbits on speed.

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Most are people that I met in previous jobs, some i've been frinds with since school, a few I met on nights out through other friends, some are wives of my husband's friends and some are parents from my kids days at pre-school and also a couple from primary school.

...Oh and a few I met through the org.

PDogz said:

I met most of my closest adulthood friends through various jobs I've held. And most of them annoyed the Hell out of me before becoming friends, lol. Initially, my reaction to many of them was like: "Oh no, here comes THIS guy/girl again", lol. Then over time, many of them setup shop in my heart, lol. The irony of this is that many of these friends are gone now, and I miss them dearly.

The lesson I've learned? Be more mindful of those that annoy me.

One of my good friends died in 2008. That guy used to call me every single night, several times a night. The only problem is, he wouldn't have anything to talk about. The entire conversation would be..."What are you doing? Oh, you're watching TV? What are you watching? Oh, I'm watching the same thing. What has she got on?....and we would proceed to watch TV together on the damn phone. Now, I don't call that fun. I love to hang out in person but I only talk on the phone when I have something to say or if you have something to say. I don't just talk on the phone just for the sake of talking on the phone.

It got to the point that I would let my answering machine pick up every single call and he would leave several messages a night...."Andy, this is Boris. Are you there? Give me a call, I'm bored."....He never gave up either. We would have a lot of fun when we were together but I'm sorry, I don't talk on the phone just to hear a voice. There would be times that we would be on the phone together and there would be a long periods of silence. He was just lonely and bored. He couldn't stand to be alone and wanted me to move in with him, rent free, just so he wouldn't be alone. Lord, that would have run me crazy.

Well, after he died, my phone practically never rings anymore. Now, the shoe is on the other foot and I'm the one feeling lonely these days. When I noticed how quiet it is without that damn phone ringing all night long and him leaving messages, I think to myself, well at least he cared enough to call night after night...............after night after night after NIGHT.

My very best friend and I have been friends since 1st grade (38 years).

Another close friend and I met at the bus stop around 4th grade.

I have a few friends that have remained since high school.

One gf and I met on the first day of classes freshman year of college.

Others have come from work, church, and other places....

I have a wonderful group of friends that I have met here on the Org.

From college and work.

i haven't got any friends.

whistle said:

i haven't got any friends.

We could be fuck-buddies.

vainandy said:

PDogz said:

I met most of my closest adulthood friends through various jobs I've held. And most of them annoyed the Hell out of me before becoming friends, lol. Initially, my reaction to many of them was like: "Oh no, here comes THIS guy/girl again", lol. Then over time, many of them setup shop in my heart, lol. The irony of this is that many of these friends are gone now, and I miss them dearly.

The lesson I've learned? Be more mindful of those that annoy me.

One of my good friends died in 2008. That guy used to call me every single night, several times a night. The only problem is, he wouldn't have anything to talk about. The entire conversation would be..."What are you doing? Oh, you're watching TV? What are you watching? Oh, I'm watching the same thing. What has she got on?....and we would proceed to watch TV together on the damn phone. Now, I don't call that fun. I love to hang out in person but I only talk on the phone when I have something to say or if you have something to say. I don't just talk on the phone just for the sake of talking on the phone.

It got to the point that I would let my answering machine pick up every single call and he would leave several messages a night...."Andy, this is Boris. Are you there? Give me a call, I'm bored."....He never gave up either. We would have a lot of fun when we were together but I'm sorry, I don't talk on the phone just to hear a voice. There would be times that we would be on the phone together and there would be a long periods of silence. He was just lonely and bored. He couldn't stand to be alone and wanted me to move in with him, rent free, just so he wouldn't be alone. Lord, that would have run me crazy.

Well, after he died, my phone practically never rings anymore. Now, the shoe is on the other foot and I'm the one feeling lonely these days. When I noticed how quiet it is without that damn phone ringing all night long and him leaving messages, I think to myself, well at least he cared enough to call night after night...............after night after night after NIGHT.

That's very sad.

I had a similar experience with my buddy John that passed away last year. The difference being; although he called every single night, at least we'd have really interesting conversations (up to 2 or 3 hours a night). But still, I'm like you in that I really don't enjoy being on the phone that much. Nevertheless, we talked every night for about the past 6 or 7 years, and had known each other since 1989.

John was much older than I (he was in his early 70's when he passed), and lived alone in Hawaii. I didn't realize it until he was gone that he was probably fearful of dying (...and of being alone). And like with you and Boris, sometimes I would just stay on the phone with him until I'd hear him snoring.

Something I'm having trouble forgiving myself for; is like you, I began letting my answering service pickup when he'd call. I did this for about a month or so before he seemed to get the message and stopped trying as often. Then, after the second month of not answering the phone, he called and I picked up. We talked for about 2 hours about really deep, meaningful things. He talked about what a great friend I had been to him, and I shared about how much I appreciated his friendship as well, and how he had been there for me when no one else was.

Then, about a week later (on July 18, 2010) I sent him a text message to inform him that my oldest nephew had just passed away that morning unexpectedly, but John didn't respond. 5 days later, I got a text message back from his phone, but it was his son Jorge sending it. The text informed me that his Dad, my buddy, had passed away... ON JULY 18, 2010 - the same day my nephew passed away, the same day I had sent him the text.

And now I can't forgive myself. When my long-time buddy and mentor needed me the most, all he got was an answering machine. I can't imagine how extra-lonely he must have felt, and fearful. And now, night after night, my phone is silent.

I met one of my closest friends when we moved into a new house when I was 2; we grew up across the street from each other. She is more like a sister to me than a friend. We go through phases of hanging out more or less over time but we’ll always be there for each other.

The rest of my friends I hang out with regularly these days I met through parties, clubbing and various social events over the years, starting around age 19 (and partly through her, actually). There has been a huge friend-of-friends network to get to where I am today.

And then there’s the org and Prince. I’ve met a whole bunch of folks from here (and various Prince-y events) over the years and that has translated into some good friendships, and not just online. I still keep up with the people who aren’t here anymore (as I’m not much either) and Anxy even moved to my city when he started seeing my bff.

I still have quite a few of the same friends I had in highschool.

My best friend I met in college.

I've met a lot of my friends through different jobs I've had over the years.

Most of the friends I hang out with on a regular basis I met at church/jobs/and highschool friends.

Oh, and also through kids activities.....another friend I hang out with on the reg I met years ago when our sons played Tball together.

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dJJ said:

I met most my friends at university and work. Where did you meet your close friends and how long have you been friends already?

school, university, work, my local pub, living and travelling abroad plus the org. some more than 20 years.

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I can't say I have many -- if any -- close personal friends these days. I don't seem ever to have enough things in common with those I meet (or at matching depths) that we have much glue for a sustaining relationship. And those things I had in common with my childhood "crew" (a couple former classmates and their cousins, each of whom I've known for 25+ years) seem to have stagnated to become little more than common history. It kinda sucks.

A couple at the riding school where I worked, we later went to school together. Much later. A couple I met through LARP:ing, and a few I met online through interests we have in common.

Current friends with whom I still have some regular contact:

Most I met at clubs back when I regularly went out.

A few are former coworkers.

A few I met on the org.

I don't keep in touch with anyone from my school days. I'm a much different person from then and can't relate to the people from that time in my life anymore.

chocolate1 said:

My very best friend and I have been friends since 1st grade (38 years).

Another close friend and I met at the bus stop around 4th grade.

I have a few friends that have remained since high school.

One gf and I met on the first day of classes freshman year of college.

Others have come from work, church, and other places....

I have a wonderful group of friends that I have met here on the Org.

I almost forgot!!

I met one of my closest friends at a Prince concert years ago.

Thank you all for sharing!

ZombieKitten said:

oh! and one of my friends I met on TV!

elaborate....