Thanks guys! I have read each and every answer, except Erins cuz i didnt like it.. J/K! Everything ya'll have said is true and I know it... I dont like her and im letting that cloud my behaviour...

When my son decides to have children I will be there come hell or high water so I cant understand how they STILL havent come to see the baby but thats them I guess.. But on the other hand, I love his in-laws... we get along great and have spent time together in the past when we used to live by them, so its a different situation... I know Lindsey (my dil) will want us there, maaaaybe not in the room and I would understand that totally!

If she were to have shown up at the hospital I honestly wouldnt have minded because they made the effort to be there for their son... There really is so much more behind the whole story that I havent said here, just because its long, but they are the kinda people who are just for themselves and kind of have the thought process of "your an adult, you dont need me anymore" which isnt true! They didnt come to their wedding if that helps any of you guys understand them

I think Kim said it best.. FAMILY CAN BE ANNOYING!

Tyler, your funny!

tinaz said:

Thanks guys! I have read each and every answer, except Erins cuz i didnt like it.. J/K! Everything ya'll have said is true and I know it... I dont like her and im letting that cloud my behaviour...

When my son decides to have children I will be there come hell or high water so I cant understand how they STILL havent come to see the baby but thats them I guess.. But on the other hand, I love his in-laws... we get along great and have spent time together in the past when we used to live by them, so its a different situation... I know Lindsey (my dil) will want us there, maaaaybe not in the room and I would understand that totally!

If she were to have shown up at the hospital I honestly wouldnt have minded because they made the effort to be there for their son... There really is so much more behind the whole story that I havent said here, just because its long, but they are the kinda people who are just for themselves and kind of have the thought process of "your an adult, you dont need me anymore" which isnt true! They didnt come to their wedding if that helps any of you guys understand them

I think Kim said it best.. FAMILY CAN BE ANNOYING!

Tyler, your funny!

Tinaz,your pretty Thanks.

TylerHippie said:

tinaz said:

Thanks guys! I have read each and every answer, except Erins cuz i didnt like it.. J/K! Everything ya'll have said is true and I know it... I dont like her and im letting that cloud my behaviour...

When my son decides to have children I will be there come hell or high water so I cant understand how they STILL havent come to see the baby but thats them I guess.. But on the other hand, I love his in-laws... we get along great and have spent time together in the past when we used to live by them, so its a different situation... I know Lindsey (my dil) will want us there, maaaaybe not in the room and I would understand that totally!

If she were to have shown up at the hospital I honestly wouldnt have minded because they made the effort to be there for their son... There really is so much more behind the whole story that I havent said here, just because its long, but they are the kinda people who are just for themselves and kind of have the thought process of "your an adult, you dont need me anymore" which isnt true! They didnt come to their wedding if that helps any of you guys understand them

I think Kim said it best.. FAMILY CAN BE ANNOYING!

Tyler, your funny!

Tinaz,your pretty Thanks.

TylerHippie said:

tinaz said:

Thanks guys! I have read each and every answer, except Erins cuz i didnt like it.. J/K! Everything ya'll have said is true and I know it... I dont like her and im letting that cloud my behaviour...

When my son decides to have children I will be there come hell or high water so I cant understand how they STILL havent come to see the baby but thats them I guess.. But on the other hand, I love his in-laws... we get along great and have spent time together in the past when we used to live by them, so its a different situation... I know Lindsey (my dil) will want us there, maaaaybe not in the room and I would understand that totally!

If she were to have shown up at the hospital I honestly wouldnt have minded because they made the effort to be there for their son... There really is so much more behind the whole story that I havent said here, just because its long, but they are the kinda people who are just for themselves and kind of have the thought process of "your an adult, you dont need me anymore" which isnt true! They didnt come to their wedding if that helps any of you guys understand them

I think Kim said it best.. FAMILY CAN BE ANNOYING!

Tyler, your funny!

Tinaz,your pretty Thanks.

I read pretty too!

Oh families, please don't get me started.

Just enjoy your grandbaby and give him lots of love! They are the ones missing out and they have to live with that.

You can't control other ppls lousy actions, only your reactions.

the flower is for being pretty

Shanti0608 said:

TylerHippie said:

Tinaz,your pretty Thanks.

I read pretty too!

Oh families, please don't get me started.

Just enjoy your grandbaby and give him lots of love! They are the ones missing out and they have to live with that.

You can't control other ppls lousy actions, only your reactions.

the flower is for being pretty

you all must of thought, "what a loser!" if i was startin am I pretty threads!! LMAO!

And thank you for the flower!!!

Stealing pictures is not nice but....as soon as you post something on the internet, no matter where and under which conditions, you basically give other people to do as they please with those pictures.

You shouldn´t have posted them then.

KoolEaze said:

Stealing pictures is not nice but....as soon as you post something on the internet, no matter where and under which conditions, you basically give other people to do as they please with those pictures.

You shouldn´t have posted them then.

I know this is true, but why is this? Seriously, I wouldnt walk into someones house and steal a pic from their shelf... I wouldnt walk into a yard and take something.. She came into my facebook page and took them... really, whats the difference? What is the difference if I print a watermark across them claiming trademark?? If by this post, any and all things should be fair game on the internet, so why are people getting sued for copy right issues??

tinaz said:

KoolEaze said:

Stealing pictures is not nice but....as soon as you post something on the internet, no matter where and under which conditions, you basically give other people to do as they please with those pictures.

You shouldn´t have posted them then.

I know this is true, but why is this? Seriously, I wouldnt walk into someones house and steal a pic from their shelf... I wouldnt walk into a yard and take something.. She came into my facebook page and took them... really, whats the difference? What is the difference if I print a watermark across them claiming trademark?? If by this post, any and all things should be fair game on the internet, so why are people getting sued for copy right issues??

It´s not about what´s morally right but about what you can get away with and of course human nature.

Sad, I know, but that´s how it is.

yes and no. she sounds annoying, likely to drive anyone to pettiness.

It sounds as being very petty to me.

Why can't you accept her for the person she is? Why do you want her to be somebody else? Somebody who fits in society perfectly and meets YOUR standards the way You want her to?

She gave birth to a boy who means the world to your daughter. She raised a boy who is the father of your daughters child. Why being so judgemental about her and getting all aroused and angry about some pictures of her grandson?

And why are you the omnipotent grandparent, and is she not even allowed by you to call the child of her son her grandchild?

No. I'm not with you on this one.

tinaz said:

Ok, heres the story...

So, you all know Im a grandma, I like to post his pics on Fb... yes, im one of those, shut up!

So I am friends with my daughters mother-in-law who i dont really care for... I dont hate her, but you know... So, I have posted a few pics that she STOLE from me, I say stole because she didnt ask me if she could take them and post them on fb as her own This pisses me off mostly because they havent even SEEN the baby yet... They live in colorado, but its only like a 6 hour drive from here, thats something that can easily be done over a weekend... I used to do it all the time when we lived far away from my family..

Anyway, Am i being petty and immature? This really bugs me for some reason... It drives me INSANE when she says things like "my grandson"... I was there when he came into this world! Hell, I FILMED it! Where was she... God this sounds immature But I just wanted to vent...

The last straw for me was when I posted a side by side of my daughter as a baby and Liam... I said how they looked so much alike... So a few hours later she posted on a pic of hers this... "It's amazing to see how well God knit together Aaron and Sarah's features into this beautiful baby."

this was out of the blue, and nothing to do with the convo on her picture... Oh, and yes, they are jesus freaks

Sooooo without knowing all the other crap she says am I just in feeling pissed about the pic stealing and her posting them on her own like she is even involved in his life?

I could see where you are coming from. I have somewhat experienced that with my father and his family not being around or even wanting to acknowledge me. So in my situation...yeah it sucks. But atleast you daughter's mother in law acknowleges that she has a grandson. I kind of see what you're saying but although her not being around by her posting the picture that you took, says alot. But that's just my opinion.

dJJ said:

It sounds as being very petty to me.

Why can't you accept her for the person she is? Why do you want her to be somebody else? Somebody who fits in society perfectly and meets YOUR standards the way You want her to?

She gave birth to a boy who means the world to your daughter. She raised a boy who is the father of your daughters child. Why being so judgemental about her and getting all aroused and angry about some pictures of her grandson?

And why are you the omnipotent grandparent, and is she not even allowed by you to call the child of her son her grandchild?

No. I'm not with you on this one.

In a situation like this, think of your daughter's happiness. Keep the peace. This is also her grandchild. My mother and my mother in law are glad to not have to spend time together, but the little they do have to, they can be civil. My mother in law is a great help to me, so even though she can be annoying as hell I do my best to love her and let her be with my kids, I know without my guys my father in law would have continued being depressed after he retired

My mother was there for the first 2 births but for my third one I let my mother in law be there. I let her give my third child his second name. This is a gift she will appreciate forever, and the bond between her and my littlest is very strong. I think usually the paternal grandmother can be a bit on the outside, since the mother-daughter bond is so strong, it's hard for the other one to feel as much a part of it.

I will only have a chance to be paternal grandmother, having no daughters, but I will love my grandchildren just as much and I hope my daughter in laws and their mothers will let me in.

ZombieKitten said:

dJJ said:

It sounds as being very petty to me.

Why can't you accept her for the person she is? Why do you want her to be somebody else? Somebody who fits in society perfectly and meets YOUR standards the way You want her to?

She gave birth to a boy who means the world to your daughter. She raised a boy who is the father of your daughters child. Why being so judgemental about her and getting all aroused and angry about some pictures of her grandson?

And why are you the omnipotent grandparent, and is she not even allowed by you to call the child of her son her grandchild?

No. I'm not with you on this one.

In a situation like this, think of your daughter's happiness. Keep the peace. This is also her grandchild. My mother and my mother in law are glad to not have to spend time together, but the little they do have to, they can be civil. My mother in law is a great help to me, so even though she can be annoying as hell I do my best to love her and let her be with my kids, I know without my guys my father in law would have continued being depressed after he retired

My mother was there for the first 2 births but for my third one I let my mother in law be there. I let her give my third child his second name. This is a gift she will appreciate forever, and the bond between her and my littlest is very strong. I think usually the paternal grandmother can be a bit on the outside, since the mother-daughter bond is so strong, it's hard for the other one to feel as much a part of it.

I will only have a chance to be paternal grandmother, having no daughters, but I will love my grandchildren just as much and I hope my daughter in laws and their mothers will let me in.

The difference is your MIL wants to be there, she participates and she helps out, This woman has done nothing and doesnt even think about helping out.. they only care about themselves, which is fine, but you dont become a parent or a grandparent just because someone is born... you have to BE involved... just cuz you post a pic doesnt automatically make you a grandparent...

It sucks I feel this way, and for my daughters sake, i dont say anything.. I love helping them out, we have bought them so many things for the baby because they couldnt, I gave her a baby shower to which her MIL wasnt going to come to, it was only after she got guilted into it by my daughter, and then her FIL refused to come at first as well... It was a couples shower and he was a complete ass while there... I almost wished he didnt come because they made the rest of the group uncomfortable by sitting in a corner not really speaking to anyone even tho we went out of the way to try and include them... But i played nice the whole time!

Shes always talkingabout her 1st grandson, which is from her daughter btw... I guess i went thru all this crap with MY MIL and it just pisses me off...

You will make an AMAZING grammie Charlotte, They key to the paternal trick is love your DIL and accept her for who she is, never judge her and she will love you back...

dJJ said:

It sounds as being very petty to me.

Why can't you accept her for the person she is? Why do you want her to be somebody else? Somebody who fits in society perfectly and meets YOUR standards the way You want her to?

She gave birth to a boy who means the world to your daughter. She raised a boy who is the father of your daughters child. Why being so judgemental about her and getting all aroused and angry about some pictures of her grandson?

And why are you the omnipotent grandparent, and is she not even allowed by you to call the child of her son her grandchild?

No. I'm not with you on this one.

Tina may not be the "All-powerful grandparent", but it sounds like she's the "omniPRESENT" one.

Yes, this woman gave birth to the baby's father, but from Tina's description, it appears that her involvement in his child's life has been limited to stealing pictures off the internet.

Tina talked about how they didn't want to come to the baby shower, and didn't attend the wedding. There is obviously "bad blood" ther that goes beyond Tina's need to remake the woman with her standards.

chocolate1 said:

dJJ said:

It sounds as being very petty to me.

Why can't you accept her for the person she is? Why do you want her to be somebody else? Somebody who fits in society perfectly and meets YOUR standards the way You want her to?

She gave birth to a boy who means the world to your daughter. She raised a boy who is the father of your daughters child. Why being so judgemental about her and getting all aroused and angry about some pictures of her grandson?

And why are you the omnipotent grandparent, and is she not even allowed by you to call the child of her son her grandchild?

No. I'm not with you on this one.

Tina may not be the "All-powerful grandparent", but it sounds like she's the "omniPRESENT" one.

Yes, this woman gave birth to the baby's father, but from Tina's description, it appears that her involvement in his child's life has been limited to stealing pictures off the internet.

Tina talked about how they didn't want to come to the baby shower, and didn't attend the wedding. There is obviously "bad blood" ther that goes beyond Tina's need to remake the woman with her standards.

That's true. Maybe I was a little too harsh and blunt.

tinaz said:

Ok, heres the story...

So, you all know Im a grandma, I like to post his pics on Fb... yes, im one of those, shut up!

So I am friends with my daughters mother-in-law who i dont really care for... I dont hate her, but you know... So, I have posted a few pics that she STOLE from me, I say stole because she didnt ask me if she could take them and post them on fb as her own This pisses me off mostly because they havent even SEEN the baby yet... They live in colorado, but its only like a 6 hour drive from here, thats something that can easily be done over a weekend... I used to do it all the time when we lived far away from my family..

Anyway, Am i being petty and immature? This really bugs me for some reason... It drives me INSANE when she says things like "my grandson"... I was there when he came into this world! Hell, I FILMED it! Where was she... God this sounds immature But I just wanted to vent...

The last straw for me was when I posted a side by side of my daughter as a baby and Liam... I said how they looked so much alike... So a few hours later she posted on a pic of hers this... "It's amazing to see how well God knit together Aaron and Sarah's features into this beautiful baby."

this was out of the blue, and nothing to do with the convo on her picture... Oh, and yes, they are jesus freaks

Sooooo without knowing all the other crap she says am I just in feeling pissed about the pic stealing and her posting them on her own like she is even involved in his life?

I'm late, but yeah, you come off as very petty on this, honeybuns. We've all got to practice separating our own issues from objective reality. Sounds like this is all about your issues.

tinaz said:

ZombieKitten said:

In a situation like this, think of your daughter's happiness. Keep the peace. This is also her grandchild. My mother and my mother in law are glad to not have to spend time together, but the little they do have to, they can be civil. My mother in law is a great help to me, so even though she can be annoying as hell I do my best to love her and let her be with my kids, I know without my guys my father in law would have continued being depressed after he retired

My mother was there for the first 2 births but for my third one I let my mother in law be there. I let her give my third child his second name. This is a gift she will appreciate forever, and the bond between her and my littlest is very strong. I think usually the paternal grandmother can be a bit on the outside, since the mother-daughter bond is so strong, it's hard for the other one to feel as much a part of it.

I will only have a chance to be paternal grandmother, having no daughters, but I will love my grandchildren just as much and I hope my daughter in laws and their mothers will let me in.

The difference is your MIL wants to be there, she participates and she helps out, This woman has done nothing and doesnt even think about helping out.. they only care about themselves, which is fine, but you dont become a parent or a grandparent just because someone is born... you have to BE involved... just cuz you post a pic doesnt automatically make you a grandparent...

It sucks I feel this way, and for my daughters sake, i dont say anything.. I love helping them out, we have bought them so many things for the baby because they couldnt, I gave her a baby shower to which her MIL wasnt going to come to, it was only after she got guilted into it by my daughter, and then her FIL refused to come at first as well... It was a couples shower and he was a complete ass while there... I almost wished he didnt come because they made the rest of the group uncomfortable by sitting in a corner not really speaking to anyone even tho we went out of the way to try and include them... But i played nice the whole time!

Shes always talkingabout her 1st grandson, which is from her daughter btw... I guess i went thru all this crap with MY MIL and it just pisses me off...

You will make an AMAZING grammie Charlotte, They key to the paternal trick is love your DIL and accept her for who she is, never judge her and she will love you back...