Ok, heres the story...

So, you all know Im a grandma, I like to post his pics on Fb... yes, im one of those, shut up!

So I am friends with my daughters mother-in-law who i dont really care for... I dont hate her, but you know... So, I have posted a few pics that she STOLE from me, I say stole because she didnt ask me if she could take them and post them on fb as her own This pisses me off mostly because they havent even SEEN the baby yet... They live in colorado, but its only like a 6 hour drive from here, thats something that can easily be done over a weekend... I used to do it all the time when we lived far away from my family..

Anyway, Am i being petty and immature? This really bugs me for some reason... It drives me INSANE when she says things like "my grandson"... I was there when he came into this world! Hell, I FILMED it! Where was she... God this sounds immature But I just wanted to vent...

The last straw for me was when I posted a side by side of my daughter as a baby and Liam... I said how they looked so much alike... So a few hours later she posted on a pic of hers this... "It's amazing to see how well God knit together Aaron and Sarah's features into this beautiful baby."

this was out of the blue, and nothing to do with the convo on her picture... Oh, and yes, they are jesus freaks

Sooooo without knowing all the other crap she says am I just in feeling pissed about the pic stealing and her posting them on her own like she is even involved in his life?

Maybe my dislike for her stems from SHE IS EXACTLY LIKE MY MOTHER IN LAW

Dont let it get to u Tinaz... i think it's what she wants

There r far more important things than someone like that... really it's not worth it cause your daughter will be hurt immensely if u do or say something!!!

but if u must...... subtle hints r usually the best in situations like this...

eg call her and ask if u can use some of the pics she will take of your grandson when she finally gets to see him

Regarding the pic stealing, I would call that being petty. I'd rather say that she didn't respect image privacy right.

FuzzyWitch said:

Dont let it get to u Tinaz... i think it's what she wants

There r far more important things than someone like that... really it's not worth it cause your daughter will be hurt immensely if u do or say something!!!

but if u must...... subtle hints r usually the best in situations like this...

eg call her and ask if u can use some of the pics she will take of your grandson when she finally gets to see him

I know... I know im being petty but I cant help it I usually just ignore her until she posts some dumb ass status and then i fight myself NOT to comment on it... I should just unfriend her...

tinaz said:

FuzzyWitch said:

Dont let it get to u Tinaz... i think it's what she wants

There r far more important things than someone like that... really it's not worth it cause your daughter will be hurt immensely if u do or say something!!!

but if u must...... subtle hints r usually the best in situations like this...

eg call her and ask if u can use some of the pics she will take of your grandson when she finally gets to see him

I know... I know im being petty but I cant help it I usually just ignore her until she posts some dumb ass status and then i fight myself NOT to comment on it... I should just unfriend her...

MarySharon said:

Regarding the pic stealing, I would call that being petty. I'd rather say that she didn't respect image privacy right.

The thing is, is she is soooo clueless about things like this... Shes one of those people who lives in lala land and has no concept of the rules of society and how to interact with people who are not like her...

I understand where you're coming from, but yeah, it does come off as petty and immature. She may not have been there for whatever reason, but she is still the baby's grandmother, just like you are. It's not a competition and you should all just be happy to have the baby in your lives and that he is healthy. They're just pictures! Damn

LionsAndTigers said:

I understand where you're coming from, but yeah, it does come off as petty and immature. She may not have been there for whatever reason, but she is still the baby's grandmother, just like you are. It's not a competition and you should all just be happy to have the baby in your lives and that he is healthy. They're just pictures! Damn

UGH, the voice of reason...

tinaz said:

LionsAndTigers said:

I understand where you're coming from, but yeah, it does come off as petty and immature. She may not have been there for whatever reason, but she is still the baby's grandmother, just like you are. It's not a competition and you should all just be happy to have the baby in your lives and that he is healthy. They're just pictures! Damn

UGH, the voice of reason...

LOL!

I wouldn't worry too much about what she was doing, to be honest. She's probably even jealous that your family is close by and get to watch him grow. Just enjoy it

Photo steal on any level bothers me ~ people should ask BUT many don't

I have unlisted photo stealers after asking them to ask me 1st and them again not respecting me/my photos ... POOF unfriend

On one had it's petty and on another it's not at all

You may need to talk to her and work things out ... or not

there is no law that says you have to have your daughters mom in law on YOUR friends list on FB

Kick her ass and then unfriend her.

No, just ignore her. If she wants to live in la-la land, let her.

tinaz said:

FuzzyWitch said:

Dont let it get to u Tinaz... i think it's what she wants

There r far more important things than someone like that... really it's not worth it cause your daughter will be hurt immensely if u do or say something!!!

but if u must...... subtle hints r usually the best in situations like this...

eg call her and ask if u can use some of the pics she will take of your grandson when she finally gets to see him

I know... I know im being petty but I cant help it I usually just ignore her until she posts some dumb ass status and then i fight myself NOT to comment on it... I should just unfriend her...

taint high school-unfriend her- the only thing you need to pay attention to is the baby- you are letting her steal your joy!! i would rather have her steal pictures than visit the baby in person.

tinaz said:

LionsAndTigers said:

I understand where you're coming from, but yeah, it does come off as petty and immature. She may not have been there for whatever reason, but she is still the baby's grandmother, just like you are. It's not a competition and you should all just be happy to have the baby in your lives and that he is healthy. They're just pictures! Damn

UGH, the voice of reason...

YUP!

I have my own perspective... if I may.

there usually is a different dynamic involved when the YOUR daughter has a baby, as opposed to when someone else's daughter has a baby. The same as when you are the mother of the bride as opposed to mother of the groom... a "tone" is set so to speak.

That being said... she may not have been at the birth because maybe she felt awkward being there?

Maybe she feels like a "Mother-in-law" and NOT a mother?

I see this dynamic happen often with mothers of sons... its the mother of the daughter that has more of an intimate relationship with the grandkids, where the parents of the father are a bit.... well, distant.

I don't know why that is... but this happens often in many families including my own. That's why they are the "in-laws" and not "family" and they are treated as such.

His mom stays away because she feels the she doesn't NEED to be there for some reason.

Which is by HER OWN CHOICE and its pretty messed up in my book. I am sure you welcomed the family, and from now on I would only post pics with my face in the pictures with the baby and post shit like

"Wish you were here!"

"Wow... you just can't believe what your missing!"

Because its only a six hour drive and there is no real excuse but the ones she has made for herself by choosing to not be involved. I understand WHY it happens, I just don't understand why someone who doesn't feel close DOES NOT try to get closer. Its like missing an opportunity that's open for love.... only a fool would choose not to take it.

and no you are not petty.... just being real.

BTW the pictures isn't the problem.... I think the real problem is that she should have raced to the hospital like you did to support your daughter (or heck her grandbaby! )... but its not HER daughter, so she didn't really want to be there.

That would bother me a whole hell of a lot. Yeah... I would be pissed. But what can you do?

People will be people.

Do you really wanna know if it's petty or do you just wanna vent?

Anyways, either way you're clearly upset. I get mad over petty stuff a lot myself, especially as of late, for some reason.

I'm sorry that you're upset. I think there is a deeper issue here and that is that you just flat out don't like the woman.

Do you tag her on the pictures?** She probably feels like she has to steal them because you don't keep her in the loop.

In my school, the teachers who have sons drop everything to get to their grandchildren's births. One flew all the way to San Francisco. I guess people just do things differently.

I'm not sure petty is the word, but there is definitely a "competitive tone", Sis.

**see orgnote

No

and yes, you're pretty

and I've said it many times: FB gives nothing but trouble

Pic stealing is wrong and would piss me off big time..so i understand that 100% and that isnt petty Tinaz...

soulpride said:

Not petty I go through the same thing I'm always asked to send my kids grandparents pictures and stuff and I feel like I have to pay to print hem out then for postage or portrait fees n stuff like why can't you visit and take your own pictures from time to time? It's about common curtesy and love.

There is no extra monetary cost involved here.

The picture has already been taken and it's already on the internet...

As long as no profit is being made off the picture, it should be fair game when on the internet!

If you don't like it, don't post photos up publicly?

family can be annoying!

Maybe she thought it would have been ruder to NOT flaunt off the pictures on her page.

Maybe she thought absolutely nothing of reposting something that she was proud of.

let me ask you this.... if she had shown up at the hospital, you know what this means right? You would have been waiting together. You would have had to talk to her and be friendly and all that and you obviously do not like her.... so would her showing up at the hospital made anything better? She may not have even been the one to make that decision.

This woman may be a horrible person inside in reality for all we know but are you absolutely sure she meant anything rude by it? If not, is there really any harm done? Until it's established that she did it with a sincerely disrespectful attitude within her conscious, I think you should approach the issue with extra tolerance.

yeah, you're being petty.

so what if they're twats? ignore them, and stop letting them know they get to you for christ's sake!

Yeah, I think so. Immature as well.

Pick & choose your battles.

This one isn't worth losing an ounce of sleep over.

I totally read the thread title wrog. I thought it said "am i being pretty?"

I was about to type a whole story about how "pretty" you are ahaha