I only had one rule - he had to come to the door and introduce himself. Also, I wanted his cell phone number but I could get that from my daughter. But I'd never met the fellow, so I wanted to see him before I let my daughter climb in a car with him.

He wouldn't do it! I never laughed so hard. Apparently, I "freaked him out".

YEAH ME!

I'm reminded of what Charles Barkley said when asked how he'd feel when his then-infant daughter was old enough to date. He said, "I figure if I kill the first boy that comes around, the rest will get the message".

YEAH CHARLES!

So anyway, he comes down our street and my daughter runs out and gets in her car. She texted me "bye : )". I called her immediately and said, "Texting me bye isn't good enough. You tell that boy he'd better turn that car around and come introduce himself or you are grounded for the rest of the year."

She hung up and then texted me they were arguing. I texted back for her to tell me where she was, and I'd come get her. But then I looked up the street, and my daughter was walking home. She'd made him let her out.

YEAH SYDNEY!

And YEAH RODNEY ATKINS!

It angers me that the boy didn't turn around to meet you, and he just gave her a hard time about it.... punk.

I am glad your daughter got out that car... dude has no good intention if he doesn't want you to see his face. IMO.

Go dad! You have a good daughter.

paintedlady said:

It angers me that the boy didn't turn around to meet you, and he just gave her a hard time about it.... punk.

I am glad your daughter got out that car... dude has no good intention if he doesn't want you to see his face. IMO.

Go dad! You have a good daughter.

Thanks, and you're right! He had no good intentions at all, and he probably figured I'd see right through him if I met him.

See?

That's why you're my favorite boo.

Are they still talking?

imago said:

See?

That's why you're my favorite boo.

Are they still talking?

I hope not.

As I was getting mad at this kid, all I could think about was "Hey Greg, guess what? You're now the same guy your dad was!" LOL.

She has a date with a new guy named Paul Stanley this Wednesday. Not the one from KISS, though.

Wow.

We always expected the young men to come to our home at least 3 times before the girls were allowed to then go out wiith them

I see nothing wrong with expecting to meet and get to know them 1st

RodeoSchro said:

imago said:

See?

That's why you're my favorite boo.

Are they still talking?

I hope not.

As I was getting mad at this kid, all I could think about was "Hey Greg, guess what? You're now the same guy your dad was!" LOL.

She has a date with a new guy named Paul Stanley this Wednesday. Not the one from KISS, though.

I don't think high school relationships are all that beneficial to girls anyways. Most the women I know cringe when they look back that far.

But, everyone has their own experience I guess. I don't think you're being unreasonable. It's arrogant and shady of the young man to think he could just take a girl out without first asking permission of her folks, .... or at least introducing himself.

Had these been college kids, then I'd have a more complex opinion. But high school? The boy should be kneeling.

Machaela said:

We always expected the young men to come to our home at least 3 times before the girls were allowed to then go out wiith them

I see nothing wrong with expecting to meet and get to know them 1st

I like that

ZombieKitten said:

Machaela said:

We always expected the young men to come to our home at least 3 times before the girls were allowed to then go out wiith them

I see nothing wrong with expecting to meet and get to know them 1st

I like that

Me too.

My parents had the same rule... but then again, it was at a time when you couldn't text or phone from the car ().

But God forbid a boy blew the car horn instead of getting out of the car... My Dad opened the garage door and stood in the driveway before I could get outside.

Good for your daughter for respecting your wishes and not going through with that date!

You truly are a great dad! You showed her that it's good to set a standard and be selective with whom she associates with.

I'm also very proud of your daughter, doing what is right and not going out with a boy who hasn't got the guts and decency to meet her father. What a jurk for putting her in a position that she has to oppose to her family in order to be with him.

I also like the 'shoot the first' strategy. Did you try that with the frogs and rodents first?

My parents allways welcomed my boyfriends. It's good to see him interact with the family, I learned that when he doesn't feel comfortable around my family, it's probably because he's up to no good with me

chocolate1 said:

My parents had the same rule... but then again, it was at a time when you couldn't text or phone from the car ().

But God forbid a boy blew the car horn instead of getting out of the car... My Dad opened the garage door and stood in the driveway before I could get outside.

Good for your daughter for respecting your wishes and not going through with that date!

One of the first dates I had with my wife was to NYC with my brother & cousin.

We were late to catch a train so we pulled up to her house and blew the horn.

Mind you, we'd already been dating so I had already properly introduced myself & all that.

The next day, her dad pulled me aside and told me that I should pull into the driveway and ring the door everytime I pick her up so that "there would be no problems for anyone".

Rodeo - you did the right thing. Anyone who is ashamed to look the dad in the eye is probably hiding something.

Machaela said:

We always expected the young men to come to our home at least 3 times before the girls were allowed to then go out wiith them

I see nothing wrong with expecting to meet and get to know them 1st

Greta idea... Imma do that.

What was the standard for the your son (s)? Was it the same?

paintedlady said:

Machaela said:

We always expected the young men to come to our home at least 3 times before the girls were allowed to then go out wiith them

I see nothing wrong with expecting to meet and get to know them 1st

Greta idea... Imma do that.

What was the standard for the your son (s)? Was it the same?

Our sons were expected to have dinner at the girls house with their family at least once ( or what the girls fam wanted ! ) and then once at our home ( at least ) BEFORE alone dates "out"

We never had arguments over this with any of our 4 and it worked quite well ...

Machaela said:

paintedlady said:

Greta idea... Imma do that.

What was the standard for the your son (s)? Was it the same?

Our sons were expected to have dinner at the girls house with their family at least once ( or what the girls fam wanted ! ) and then once at our home ( at least ) BEFORE alone dates "out"

We never had arguments over this with any of our 4 and it worked quite well ...

We also exchanged phone numbers with other parents and met each other 1st as well ~ you can often tell alot about kids/teens by meeting their parents

RodeoSchro said:

paintedlady said:

It angers me that the boy didn't turn around to meet you, and he just gave her a hard time about it.... punk.

I am glad your daughter got out that car... dude has no good intention if he doesn't want you to see his face. IMO.

Go dad! You have a good daughter.

Thanks, and you're right! He had no good intentions at all, and he probably figured I'd see right through him if I met him.

Exactly.

PurpleJedi said:

chocolate1 said:

My parents had the same rule... but then again, it was at a time when you couldn't text or phone from the car ().

But God forbid a boy blew the car horn instead of getting out of the car... My Dad opened the garage door and stood in the driveway before I could get outside.

Good for your daughter for respecting your wishes and not going through with that date!

One of the first dates I had with my wife was to NYC with my brother & cousin.

We were late to catch a train so we pulled up to her house and blew the horn.

Mind you, we'd already been dating so I had already properly introduced myself & all that.

The next day, her dad pulled me aside and told me that I should pull into the driveway and ring the door everytime I pick her up so that "there would be no problems for anyone".

Rodeo - you did the right thing. Anyone who is ashamed to look the dad in the eye is probably hiding something.

To all of this....

P.J.: Our rule in our home, whether is was a guy or a group, everyone gets out the car to greet our daughter and use at the door, everytime. I don't know what to say basic stuff, common sense things, (at least to me) manners aren't being taught to some young people. We've had a couple of young men who've come to our door and drove off alone.

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dJJ said:

You truly are a great dad! You showed her that it's good to set a standard and be selective with whom she associates with.

I'm also very proud of your daughter, doing what is right and not going out with a boy who hasn't got the guts and decency to meet her father. What a jurk for putting her in a position that she has to oppose to her family in order to be with him.

I also like the 'shoot the first' strategy. Did you try that with the frogs and rodents first?

My parents allways welcomed my boyfriends. It's good to see him interact with the family, I learned that when he doesn't feel comfortable around my family, it's probably because he's up to no good with me

Thanks, and if I had a gun, I'd shoot me some frogs! Believe me, I've fantasized about what a shotgun would do to any frogs that showed up in my pond!

I remember my very first date. I was 16, and drove a van because I used it to haul my race bike. It was carpeted inside but bare (no bed or anything like that) and had an understated paint job.

But still, I was worried what the girl's father would think when I pulled up in a van so I asked her to ask her parents if it was OK for her to go in a van.

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In some small way, I'd like to take credit for Rodeoschro's actions.

imago said:

In some small way, I'd like to take credit for Rodeoschro's actions.

I'm going to give you ALL the credit because since I've never met this guy, I imagined him looking exactly like your avatar.

RodeoSchro said:

imago said:

In some small way, I'd like to take credit for Rodeoschro's actions.

I'm going to give you ALL the credit because since I've never met this guy, I imagined him looking exactly like your avatar.

Machaela said:

Machaela said:

Our sons were expected to have dinner at the girls house with their family at least once ( or what the girls fam wanted ! ) and then once at our home ( at least ) BEFORE alone dates "out"

We never had arguments over this with any of our 4 and it worked quite well ...

We also exchanged phone numbers with other parents and met each other 1st as well ~ you can often tell alot about kids/teens by meeting their parents

Thanks Mach, this helps me... right now my 20yr. old is dating a girl I do not care for.

She claims her parents do not like black people and that he can not be seen with her.

I hate that my son is with a girl who would lie to her parents. I do not care how wrong they are, she is still thier daughter... and she is not welcomed in my home since she is only thinking of herself in this situation.

I met her, but I never got the other parents phone#. She told me they didn't speak English too well... I do not beileve that at all. Most Vietnamese people speak perfect English. I hate that my son is with a liar.

I know how to do better when my younger two begin to date.

paintedlady said:

Machaela said:

We also exchanged phone numbers with other parents and met each other 1st as well ~ you can often tell alot about kids/teens by meeting their parents

Thanks Mach, this helps me... right now my 20yr. old is dating a girl I do not care for.

She claims her parents do not like black people and that he can not be seen with her.

I hate that my son is with a girl who would lie to her parents. I do not care how wrong they are, she is still thier daughter... and she is not welcomed in my home since she is only thinking of herself in this situation.

I met her, but I never got the other parents phone#. She told me they didn't speak English too well... I do not beileve that at all. Most Vietnamese people speak perfect English. I hate that my son is with a liar.

I know how to do better when my younger two begin to date.

Man...love is blind at that age.

I hope he finds someone new and SOON!

...maybe a cucumber in the freezer is called for here?

double post...

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PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

Thanks Mach, this helps me... right now my 20yr. old is dating a girl I do not care for.

She claims her parents do not like black people and that he can not be seen with her.

I hate that my son is with a girl who would lie to her parents. I do not care how wrong they are, she is still thier daughter... and she is not welcomed in my home since she is only thinking of herself in this situation.

I met her, but I never got the other parents phone#. She told me they didn't speak English too well... I do not beileve that at all. Most Vietnamese people speak perfect English. I hate that my son is with a liar.

I know how to do better when my younger two begin to date.

Man...love is blind at that age.

I hope he finds someone new and SOON!

...maybe a cucumber in the freezer is called for here?

OK... I am almost afraid to ask but.... what's the reference to the frozen cucumber? I don't get it... over my head.

and geeesh look at all my typos!! Lord I need some coffee and spell check, for real!

It always surprised me how the two boyfriends my daughter has had, were never nervous about meeting me. I would think most teenage boys are not eager to go meet a girls parents and would avoid it if possible.

paintedlady said:

PurpleJedi said:

Man...love is blind at that age.

I hope he finds someone new and SOON!

...maybe a cucumber in the freezer is called for here?

OK... I am almost afraid to ask but.... what's the reference to the frozen cucumber? I don't get it... over my head.

and geeesh look at all my typos!! Lord I need some coffee and spell check, for real!

Sorry...I'd just assumed you had read my other post...

http://prince.org/msg/100/362784

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PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

OK... I am almost afraid to ask but.... what's the reference to the frozen cucumber? I don't get it... over my head.

and geeesh look at all my typos!! Lord I need some coffee and spell check, for real!

Sorry...I'd just assumed you had read my other post...

http://prince.org/msg/100/362784

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