but yanno how guys are visual and need like to be stimulated visually?

Well what are ways of doing that besides the usual wearing a hot outfit or doing a strip tease type stuff?

Like, when your with the same person for quite some time and they see you day after day, how do you keep them as attracted to you as the day they met you?

I have never done a strip tease for a man. I find masturbating infront of him works.

I don't think you need to ask this question, you are pretty & sexy.

I can't believe you being naked, with some heels on, and bending over, wouldn't do the trick.

Shanti0608 said:

I have never done a strip tease for a man. I find masturbating infront of him works.

I don't think you need to ask this question, you are pretty & sexy.

I'm embarrased I'm even asking. You know how it is when you have an infant, ya just don't feel sexy anymore. And the majority of the time whenmy husband see's my titts, Madi is hanging off of one.

Fauxie said:

I can't believe you being naked, with some heels on, and bending over, wouldn't do the trick.

I'll try it tonight!

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Shanti0608 said:

I have never done a strip tease for a man. I find masturbating infront of him works.

I don't think you need to ask this question, you are pretty & sexy.

I'm embarrased I'm even asking. You know how it is when you have an infant, ya just don't feel sexy anymore. And the majority of the time whenmy husband see's my titts, Madi is hanging off of one.

Trust me, men like to watch their wives breast feeding.

I am sure you have nothing to worry or wonder about.

You are a hot momma.

I think you hit the nail on the head right there. You’re looking for ways to feel sexier.

He likely sees you as sexy regardless. I’m often surprised at what about me or the times my bf thinks I’m sexy.

So what makes you feel sexy? Whatever it is, do it!

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Shanti0608 said:

I have never done a strip tease for a man. I find masturbating infront of him works.

I don't think you need to ask this question, you are pretty & sexy.

I'm embarrased I'm even asking. You know how it is when you have an infant, ya just don't feel sexy anymore. And the majority of the time whenmy husband see's my titts, Madi is hanging off of one.

I get it, in fact I've been there, you don't feel sexy right now having a baby can do that to you. When you can find some time, do things for yourself that will make YOU feel sexy, (whatever that means to YOU)and things will get better.

My husband and I found some alone time and just as we were starting to have sex both of my breasts started to leak. I burst into tears because I wanted the night to be perfect, I barely had time for him once I had the twins. I told him I felt like a cow my breasts were HUGE and all I seemed to do was feed them, burp them, and change them.

He started laughing and then calmly told me " Stephanie I can't take my eyes off of you since you gave birth to our daughters. You are the most beautiful person in the world to me" I cried some more and we had a great night leaking boobies and all LOL.

I bet your man feels the same way about you too. TotalANXiousNESS you ARE sexy especially when you are nursing Madi

I hear what ur sayin Carrie about doing what makes me feel sexy. I'm always a lot more confident when doing what makes me feel good, and who wants someone who is down in the dumps about themselves.

So maybe I'm just making it all up in my head that he doesn't find me sexy anymore because I'm not feeling good about myself.

Like I said I can't believe I'm even doing this. Sitting here googling ways to make ur husband find u attractive,

We are eachothers best friend, which I know is a good thing, but then it also makes me wonder if he even sees me as a sexual being anymore.

CarrieMpls said:

I think you hit the nail on the head right there. You’re looking for ways to feel sexier.

He likely sees you as sexy regardless. I’m often surprised at what about me or the times my bf thinks I’m sexy.

So what makes you feel sexy? Whatever it is, do it!

It is strange when they find you most sexy and you feel like you look terrible.

Like Carrie said, do what makes you feel sexy.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I hear what ur sayin Carrie about doing what makes me feel sexy. I'm always a lot more confident when doing what makes me feel good, and who wants someone who is down in the dumps about themselves.

So maybe I'm just making it all up in my head that he doesn't find me sexy anymore because I'm not feeling good about myself.

Like I said I can't believe I'm even doing this. Sitting here googling ways to make ur husband find u attractive,

We are eachothers best friend, which I know is a good thing, but then it also makes me wonder if he even sees me as a sexual being anymore.

I bet he looks at you with wonder and fascination. You are the mother of his child, he put his sperm inside you; you nurtured it and allowed it to grow. He watched your body expand to accomodate his seed. Then he had the honor to watch you push that baby out. He is nothing short of beguiled by you. And if that shit aint sexy I don't know what is!!!!

nammie said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I'm embarrased I'm even asking. You know how it is when you have an infant, ya just don't feel sexy anymore. And the majority of the time whenmy husband see's my titts, Madi is hanging off of one.

My husband and I found some alone time and just as we were starting to have sex both of my breasts started to leak. I burst into tears because I wanted the night to be perfect, I barely had time for him once I had the twins. I told him I felt like a cow my breasts were HUGE and all I seemed to do was feed them, burp them, and change them.

He started laughing and then calmly told me " Stephanie I can't take my eyes off of you since you gave birth to our daughters. You are the most beautiful person in the world to me" I cried some more and we had a great night leaking boobies and all LOL.

I bet your man feels the same way about you too. TotalANXiousNESS you ARE sexy especially when you are nursing Madi

Thanks!

I can relate to your story.

I know my husband loves me for being a Mommy and nurturing. And I know that when were old and looking back at our lives he will remember stuff like that, and not the stretch marks on my boobs.

I guess it's just my own struggle that I need to go through. Yanno, no matter how beautiful he or anyone tells me I am I won't believe it until I get to that place on my own.

Thanks guys. This is what I love about the org. It's like calling in to a talk radio show for advice.

nammie said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I hear what ur sayin Carrie about doing what makes me feel sexy. I'm always a lot more confident when doing what makes me feel good, and who wants someone who is down in the dumps about themselves.

So maybe I'm just making it all up in my head that he doesn't find me sexy anymore because I'm not feeling good about myself.

Like I said I can't believe I'm even doing this. Sitting here googling ways to make ur husband find u attractive,

We are eachothers best friend, which I know is a good thing, but then it also makes me wonder if he even sees me as a sexual being anymore.

I bet he looks at you with wonder and fascination. You are the mother of his child, he put his sperm inside you; you nurtured it and allowed it to grow. He watched your body expand to accomodate his seed. Then he had the honor to watch you push that baby out. He is nothing short of beguiled by you. And if that shit aint sexy I don't know what is!!!!

CarrieMpls said:

I think you hit the nail on the head right there. You’re looking for ways to feel sexier.

He likely sees you as sexy regardless. I’m often surprised at what about me or the times my bf thinks I’m sexy.

So what makes you feel sexy? Whatever it is, do it!

You're just really lovely though, Carrie. Like inherently lovely and pleasing to be around no matter what you're doing. Kinda magnetic and a sign to where fun and cool stuff that makes you smile is going to happen, like my missus often is. Now, I'm just a friend who loves you on one level, but I imagine for a guy, your guy, who LOVE loves you it's not a great leap from there to sexy.

I bet when you do that mowing the lawn dance he just loses it.

nammie said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I hear what ur sayin Carrie about doing what makes me feel sexy. I'm always a lot more confident when doing what makes me feel good, and who wants someone who is down in the dumps about themselves.

So maybe I'm just making it all up in my head that he doesn't find me sexy anymore because I'm not feeling good about myself.

Like I said I can't believe I'm even doing this. Sitting here googling ways to make ur husband find u attractive,

We are eachothers best friend, which I know is a good thing, but then it also makes me wonder if he even sees me as a sexual being anymore.

I bet he looks at you with wonder and fascination. You are the mother of his child, he put his sperm inside you; you nurtured it and allowed it to grow. He watched your body expand to accomodate his seed. Then he had the honor to watch you push that baby out. He is nothing short of beguiled by you. And if that shit aint sexy I don't know what is!!!!

Yeah, I don't think these thoughts are gonna get his dick hard.

What about blind guys?

CarrieMpls said:

I think you hit the nail on the head right there. You’re looking for ways to feel sexier.

He likely sees you as sexy regardless. I’m often surprised at what about me or the times my bf thinks I’m sexy.

So what makes you feel sexy? Whatever it is, do it!

Exactly ~ the projection of THIS will have more profound effects than anything else you could "try"

JustErin said:

nammie said:

I bet he looks at you with wonder and fascination. You are the mother of his child, he put his sperm inside you; you nurtured it and allowed it to grow. He watched your body expand to accomodate his seed. Then he had the honor to watch you push that baby out. He is nothing short of beguiled by you. And if that shit aint sexy I don't know what is!!!!

Yeah, I don't think these thoughts are gonna get his dick hard.

Erin, you beguile me. If it's not too forward, might I chance my arm at courting you awhile to see if you might be receptive to the receiving of my seed?

JustErin said:

nammie said:

I bet he looks at you with wonder and fascination. You are the mother of his child, he put his sperm inside you; you nurtured it and allowed it to grow. He watched your body expand to accomodate his seed. Then he had the honor to watch you push that baby out. He is nothing short of beguiled by you. And if that shit aint sexy I don't know what is!!!!

Yeah, I don't think these thoughts are gonna get his dick hard.

Fauxie said:

JustErin said:

Yeah, I don't think these thoughts are gonna get his dick hard.

Erin, you beguile me. If it's not too forward, might I chance my arm at courting you awhile to see if you might be receptive to the receiving of my seed?

See that thread where that woman fucked a dog then died?

Yeah, no....I'm not willing to take that risk with you. Sorry.

JustErin said:

nammie said:

I bet he looks at you with wonder and fascination. You are the mother of his child, he put his sperm inside you; you nurtured it and allowed it to grow. He watched your body expand to accomodate his seed. Then he had the honor to watch you push that baby out. He is nothing short of beguiled by you. And if that shit aint sexy I don't know what is!!!!

Yeah, I don't think these thoughts are gonna get his dick hard.

True.

JustErin said:

Fauxie said:

Erin, you beguile me. If it's not too forward, might I chance my arm at courting you awhile to see if you might be receptive to the receiving of my seed?

See that thread where that woman fucked a dog then died?

Yeah, no....I'm not willing to take that risk with you. Sorry.

I didn't dare venture into that thread, but I will dare to say that I pretty much am PWND beyond recovery by that post. Is there any way back for me, Erin? Can we still be enemies?

Fauxie said:

JustErin said:

See that thread where that woman fucked a dog then died?

Yeah, no....I'm not willing to take that risk with you. Sorry.

I didn't dare venture into that thread, but I will dare to say that I pretty much am PWND beyond recovery by that post. Is there any way back for me, Erin? Can we still be enemies?

Always.

Okay well where is your advice Erin???????????

I don't really have any because I'm pretty sure the problem is in your mind only.

JustErin said:

Fauxie said:

I didn't dare venture into that thread, but I will dare to say that I pretty much am PWND beyond recovery by that post. Is there any way back for me, Erin? Can we still be enemies?

Always.

Well, that's a relief.

Now go tell Dani what you know about what excites 'chubby chasers'.

Turn the lights off so your image doesn't interfere with his fantasy of fucking some young, hot chick.

In all seriousness though, what Erin said. And a bit of what Carrie and Mach said. You're an attractive person so it's likely more to do with your own confidence and what you're projecting. I've seen your pics around here of late and nothing's changed, you're still very attractive. Try to get a bit of a boost from somewhere so that you feel good about yourself. That should do the trick.

JowiiCoco said:

Turn the lights off so your image doesn't interfere with his fantasy of fucking some young, hot chick.

Andy, I love you sometimes, I'm sorry.

My last 3 posts, viewed in sequence, show me up to be so horribly disingenuous. Goodnight!