i cant trust my kids no more...

I have a question for some of you, im not trying to start anything but just trying to understand what you mean..

When you say you trust God, what does that mean to you? Or what do you mean by that?

I didn't say this but I try to trust God as much as I can but I can't deny being a worrier.

...so I'm going to try to answer, but not trying to answer for anyone else unless they happen to feel the same.... but I would say it is practicing faith. I trust God because I make a practice of it a lot (try to) and a lot of people probably do it a lot more... that when things go wrong or whatever that in the end, Gods will will be done and that is what is best.

I say this because I have to make myself trust God a lot... and it's something you actually have to stop and do...rather than it being some buried subconscious thing that you just say.

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formallypickles said:

hell, sometimes i can't even trust my own damn self

CM7 said:

I didn't say this but I try to trust God as much as I can but I can't deny being a worrier.

...so I'm going to try to answer, but not trying to answer for anyone else unless they happen to feel the same.... but I would say it is practicing faith. I trust God because I make a practice of it a lot (try to) and a lot of people probably do it a lot more... that when things go wrong or whatever that in the end, Gods will will be done and that is what is best.

I say this because I have to make myself trust God a lot... and it's something you actually have to stop and do...rather than it being some buried subconscious thing that you just say.

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But what are you trusting in him for?

My parents.

My brother (when he's around)

My three good friends at work

When I first started opening up to people, I placed my trust & confidence in a number of friends whom I believed were honest & loyal.

That list has withered down to 3 people.

The trick, I guess, is to learn how to discover which of your friends are genuinely concerned about you and which ones are just being polite.

when i say god, im referring to his word, knowing and understanding what he wants to say to me, what i am expected to do. with his power being so strong, i expect him to know i've done what he expected just to keep confusion down...

is that too forward?? :shame:

i trust lots of peeps... just not myself

i trust what they say is true, that dont mean its right or true for me...

but yeah thats too much ammunition for yall..

myfavorite said:

i cant trust my kids no more...

I find it ironice that you trust in God but, not your kids. Aren't they children of God?

I trust lots of people with lots of things.

I trust that most people aren’t out to get me or harm me in any way (though that doesn’t mean I don’t use locks or practice basic common sense). I have a general sense of faith in humankind that we all want the best for everyone.

As you get to know someone, you begin to learn what you can and cannot expect from them and adjust your behaviors accordingly. I think this is what most of you mean by not trusting someone with “everything”. I don’t know that I trust any one person with everything, myself included. Still, I would say I trust quite a few people with quite a lot.

I trust that my good friends and family have my best interests in mind. That they care about me and want to see me prosper and be happy. They will make mistakes and I will forgive them (eventually anyway). I know I’m going to make mistakes too, and they will forgive me when I do.

I trust my boyfriend more than I ever thought I’d trust a significant other. It’s scary, actually, how much trust I have in him. And I hope it only continues to grow. I realize this opens me up to huge disappointment, heartache and loss should that trust be broken, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. It’s a calculated risk I’m willing to take. The benefits still outweigh the possible end result.

CarrieMpls said:

I trust lots of people with lots of things.

I trust that most people aren’t out to get me or harm me in any way (though that doesn’t mean I don’t use locks or practice basic common sense). I have a general sense of faith in humankind that we all want the best for everyone.

As you get to know someone, you begin to learn what you can and cannot expect from them and adjust your behaviors accordingly. I think this is what most of you mean by not trusting someone with “everything”. I don’t know that I trust any one person with everything, myself included. Still, I would say I trust quite a few people with quite a lot.

I trust that my good friends and family have my best interests in mind. That they care about me and want to see me prosper and be happy. They will make mistakes and I will forgive them (eventually anyway). I know I’m going to make mistakes too, and they will forgive me when I do.

I trust my boyfriend more than I ever thought I’d trust a significant other. It’s scary, actually, how much trust I have in him. And I hope it only continues to grow. I realize this opens me up to huge disappointment, heartache and loss should that trust be broken, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. It’s a calculated risk I’m willing to take. The benefits still outweigh the possible end result.

Beautiful stated.

I agree and I hope to develop a similar trust in a partner when I would be in a relationship again.

dJJ said:

CarrieMpls said:

I trust lots of people with lots of things.

I trust that most people aren’t out to get me or harm me in any way (though that doesn’t mean I don’t use locks or practice basic common sense). I have a general sense of faith in humankind that we all want the best for everyone.

As you get to know someone, you begin to learn what you can and cannot expect from them and adjust your behaviors accordingly. I think this is what most of you mean by not trusting someone with “everything”. I don’t know that I trust any one person with everything, myself included. Still, I would say I trust quite a few people with quite a lot.

I trust that my good friends and family have my best interests in mind. That they care about me and want to see me prosper and be happy. They will make mistakes and I will forgive them (eventually anyway). I know I’m going to make mistakes too, and they will forgive me when I do.

I trust my boyfriend more than I ever thought I’d trust a significant other. It’s scary, actually, how much trust I have in him. And I hope it only continues to grow. I realize this opens me up to huge disappointment, heartache and loss should that trust be broken, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. It’s a calculated risk I’m willing to take. The benefits still outweigh the possible end result.

Beautiful stated.

I agree and I hope to develop a similar trust in a partner when I would be in a relationship again.

YES on both counts.

It's smart not to trust any ONE person with EVERYTHING in your life. Because then, if & when that person in whom you trusted utterly & completely suddenly becomes the most untrustworthy person in your life, the blow is nearly impossible to absorb.

But all the while, a partner SHOULD be the person in whom you trust the most.

...quite the connundrum, no?

short i trust them, i had a moment last night....

myfavorite said:

short i trust them, i had a moment last night....

You are a RIOT!! You know that....

PurpleJedi said:

when that person in whom you trusted utterly & completely suddenly becomes the most untrustworthy person in your life, the blow is nearly impossible to absorb.

But all the while, a partner SHOULD be the person in whom you trust the most.

mm

My mom

God

.

thisisit said:

PurpleJedi said:

when that person in whom you trusted utterly & completely suddenly becomes the most untrustworthy person in your life, the blow is nearly impossible to absorb.

But all the while, a partner SHOULD be the person in whom you trust the most.

mm

PurpleJedi said:

thisisit said:

mm

i'm agreeing with u

tinaz said:

CM7 said:

I didn't say this but I try to trust God as much as I can but I can't deny being a worrier.

...so I'm going to try to answer, but not trying to answer for anyone else unless they happen to feel the same.... but I would say it is practicing faith. I trust God because I make a practice of it a lot (try to) and a lot of people probably do it a lot more... that when things go wrong or whatever that in the end, Gods will will be done and that is what is best.

I say this because I have to make myself trust God a lot... and it's something you actually have to stop and do...rather than it being some buried subconscious thing that you just say.

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But what are you trusting in him for?

It's different things. It depends on the circumstance. It's that things will work out (after something goes wrong making you wonder what you are going to do... you can either panic or you can trust God) and if they don't, there was a reason in the grand scheme of things. That's my take on it anyway.

thisisit said:

PurpleJedi said:

i'm agreeing with u

Yeah I know...that was a dour "doesn't life suck sometimes" kind of face.

I can honestly say I trust no-one other than myself.

It does get hard at times but hey .. THAT'S LIFE

eighteenandover said:

I can honestly say I trust no-one other than myself.

It does get hard at times but hey .. THAT'S LIFE

OK, you get one too.

PurpleJedi said:

thisisit said:

i'm agreeing with u

Yeah I know...that was a dour "doesn't life suck sometimes" kind of face.

oh

I don't know. I don't even trust myself, really.

Were only human and we all make mistakes.

I don't trust anyone 100% but I do give my trust to my husband, because I know he would never want or try to hurt me. If he did hurt me, it would be unintentional. So I do give my trust to him, knowing in the back of my head that it is always possible for him to let me down, just like I may one day let him down. Nobody's perfect.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

If he did hurt me, it would be unintentional.

i have to stay away from people who unintentionally hurt me A LOT. a little i can handle and understand, but not A LOT.

if hurting me is something that comes so naturally to them they dont even realise they're doing it, then we're not on the same page, we're in totally different libraries.

makes it hard to trust someone after the first time they hurt you, because you dont know if that mess is gonna happen over and over again.

i'd rather bail out early, than stick around to find out. i care about my own health and happiness too much to risk it on a 'maybe'.

plus, some people make no effort to be considerate, they think they should be able to do whatever they like and you should just put up with it, and if u dont then there must be something wrong with you.

i left highschool over 20 years ago, so that line of thinking has grown way tired for me.

bring me someone upright, honorable, and true, who doesnt need to be told what NOT to do.

pretty simple really.

thisisit said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

If he did hurt me, it would be unintentional.

i have to stay away from people who unintentionally hurt me A LOT. a little i can handle and understand, but not A LOT.

if hurting me is something that comes so naturally to them they dont even realise they're doing it, then we're not on the same page, we're in totally different libraries.

makes it hard to trust someone after the first time they hurt you, because you dont know if that mess is gonna happen over and over again.

i'd rather bail out early, than stick around to find out. i care about my own health and happiness too much to risk it on a 'maybe'.

plus, some people make no effort to be considerate, they think they should be able to do whatever they like and you should just put up with it, and if u dont then there must be something wrong with you.

i left highschool over 20 years ago, so that line of thinking has grown way tired for me.

bring me someone upright, honorable, and true, who doesnt need to be told what NOT to do.

pretty simple really.

I hear ya.

This exact thing is what actually causes issues in my marriage. My own insecurity of being hurt in the past. It is not his fault because he IS honorable and full of integrity. He would never cheat or disrepect or be deceptive. I know that......but like I said nobody is perfect. I'm sure he will hurt me at some point. But how sad, if I would bail on a great thing just because of insecurities and trust issues.

JoeTyler said:

My mom

God

.

Basically.

I might be changing my answer, I just saw some stuff on the internet