I have been dealing with my friends playing the fool lately. As much as they talk about how bad their mates talk about them and how horrible their ex did them. The next time I talk to them, they are right back in their arms and I keep getting upset. I got to back off... but why does this happen, this has never happen to me lol, when I'm done with you, I'm done. this is crazy lol

Because they probably have low self esteem and don't think they can do any better.

Or because they're frightened of losing them and they think they can be stronger this time around and can handle all the crap that is thrown at them.

Maybe they think the good outweighs the bad?

Cuz there's no exceptions to the rule.....*sings*.

cause they dont give a shit or can't b bothered

yeah you might want to back off. only they truly know what's going on in their relationship(s) as it takes two to tango.

sometimes people exagerate when they're mad so some of their rants might not be as bad as originally described.

of course as another poster posted; some people aren't strong enough to leave (for whatever the reason).

as a friend you can listen (as much as you can stand) and just be ready to support them if/when they do leave.

'Cuz nobody else will tolerate them.

sweething said:

yeah you might want to back off. only they truly know what's going on in their relationship(s) as it takes two to tango.

sometimes people exagerate when they're mad so some of their rants might not be as bad as originally described.

of course as another poster posted; some people aren't strong enough to leave (for whatever the reason).

as a friend you can listen (as much as you can stand) and just be ready to support them if/when they do leave.

that's true to a degree, I know I have a good marriage, yet sometimes I just HAVE to say it out loud, and out of context I think some things sound so sad or awful, people have asked me "why don't you just leave him?"

I think if they are saying their partner hit them, then that's another story, I don't really think people make that up (I could be completely wrong here, perhaps there ARE attention seekers with half a brain that WOULD).

ZombieKitten said:

sweething said:

yeah you might want to back off. only they truly know what's going on in their relationship(s) as it takes two to tango.

sometimes people exagerate when they're mad so some of their rants might not be as bad as originally described.

of course as another poster posted; some people aren't strong enough to leave (for whatever the reason).

as a friend you can listen (as much as you can stand) and just be ready to support them if/when they do leave.

that's true to a degree, I know I have a good marriage, yet sometimes I just HAVE to say it out loud, and out of context I think some things sound so sad or awful, people have asked me "why don't you just leave him?"

I think if they are saying their partner hit them, then that's another story, I don't really think people make that up (I could be completely wrong here, perhaps there ARE attention seekers with half a brain that WOULD).

I know of a circumstance where friends started saying things about another friend's sigO worse than what she ever said -- the kicker was all they had to go by (knew) was what she told them.

They ended up splitting up and I think she regretted it as he really wasn't that bad. not funny.