Distract yourself.

dJJ said:

Serious said:

dJJ said:

Distract yourself.

I wish missfee it will work for her . For me that does not work at all.

Read a book. You know I recommend Robin Norwood "Women who love to much" as if it's the bible....

I bet it is released in Austria

dJJ said:

Serious said:

dJJ said:

Distract yourself.

I wish missfee it will work for her . For me that does not work at all.

Serious said:

dJJ said:

Read a book. You know I recommend Robin Norwood "Women who love to much" as if it's the bible....

I bet it is released in Austria

Thanks for the recommondation. I just read some parts of what it is saying online. Where the women are described to who that applies. And while I am sure it is an interesting read most of that doesn't fit for me at all. I guess I am one of a kind with my problems .

No, I don't think so. The book isn't about a particular kind of woman. It's about a mechanism. However, if you feel it's not for you, than, it isn't.

I really don't have an answer, I've been in love with the same person for four years, and it's never going to work out.

dJJ said:

TeenPr1nceChick said:

missfee said:

Serious said:

I wish missfee it will work for her . For me that does not work at all.

Naw it doesn't work for me. I cut him off for two years to get over him and it still didn't work. Had a relationship with someone else and that didn't work out b/c I didn't love him like I loved this person. my love life is in shambles.
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missfee said:

Maybe I should just date more. I should be able to meet someone else who can I connect deeply with right? Or is that just a fantasy and I'll either have to settle for someone I just love but not in love with or just be alone the rest of my life. [Edited 5/28/11 7:50am]

Yes.

missfee said:

Maybe I should just date more. I should be able to meet someone else who can I connect deeply with right? Or is that just a fantasy and I'll either have to settle for someone I just love but not in love with or just be alone the rest of my life.
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JustErin said:

March 28th, 1988 at 8pm. I went on a Blind date, I was helping a friend out, his Girlfriend wanted some company for her friend whilst she joined them on an evening out. I reluctantly agreed.........

I never for one moment expected to happen what did that night. I met the sweetest, most innocent and sincere Girl I have ever known. I fell for her straight away and she fell for me too, she told me that on that night she went home and sat on her Bed thinking about me and hoping and praying I would want to see her again, that same night, I couldn't sleep, I lay there all night with my Headphones on listening to music and just thinking about her.

I asked my friend to organise another night out and we again met up, the night flew by, we chatted and laughed and at the end of the night I gave her a kiss on her cheek......

We met again a few times more and things started to build up, the first time we kissed, I trembled so much I truly thought I was going to fall over.

I was consumed with love, I had never in my life felt like this, yes I was only 19, but still this was a feeling beyond comprehension. It wasn't sex, lust etc, it was true love. For 6 months, we never went beyond a Kiss, she wasn't ready and I respected that, then the first time we made love, it was like the Stars fell from Heaven, the World stopped turning and all that remained was us two.

I wanted to be with her every second of the day, when we weren't together I missed her so much, I still miss her today. I would walk 7 Miles just to see her, thats how far apart we lived and it was nothing to walk that far, just to spend an hour or two with her, then I would walk 7 Miles home and wish she was there with me.

I truly thought that she would be the one I grew old with, the one I would have children with, the one who would wait for me on the other side when our time came.

But I was stupid. I turned my back and walked away from her. I left her one night, outside her house, she stood at the Bus stop and begged me not to go and I left. I could hear her heart breaking all the way home.

I regret that moment, I have done for over 20 years.

I made promises to her, that I have kept to this very day, I have tried so many times just to speak to her, but she won't entertain me. That is my cross to bear, for my mistake, for the pain I caused her.

If you truly love someone, do everything you can to hold on to them at whatever the cost. Love is irreplacable.

Distract yourself..........................................................for years....:-/

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Hello!

Leave GD and head back over to P:M&M...

RenHoek said:

Serious said:

missfee said:

Maybe I should just date more. I should be able to meet someone else who can I connect deeply with right? Or is that just a fantasy and I'll either have to settle for someone I just love but not in love with or just be alone the rest of my life. [Edited 5/28/11 7:50am]

You never know what will happen in your life. It might happen that you will feel that deep love again for somebody else some day.

and be taken quite by surprise!

ZombieKitten said:

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ZombieKitten said:

and be taken quite by surprise!

Yeah I was totally taken by surprise every time I fell in love. And I never wanted to fall in love when I did ..

I'm not surprised when it happens to me, I know it's always been if I them, I think I am in love

stupid HORMONES!!!!

ZombieKitten said:

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ZombieKitten said:

I'm not surprised when it happens to me, I know it's always been if I them, I think I am in love

stupid HORMONES!!!!

I am in love before I even want to them . So I am always surprised.

I know! You can fall in love at first sight! I can't even IMAGINE that! It takes me a good long while to be sure, but when it happens, it HAPPENS

ZombieKitten said:

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ZombieKitten said:

I know! You can fall in love at first sight! I can't even IMAGINE that! It takes me a good long while to be sure, but when it happens, it HAPPENS

Apart from Peter every single time in my life I fell in love it was at first sight . One smile and that's it usually . And even with him I thought the first or second time when I saw him how lucky the woman will be who will be his girlfriend as he is such a nice guy, so I guess I saw him as somebebody very special from the very beginning too even though I did not fall in love with him right away. Or maybe I even did, but just not as much head over heels as I usually do and thus it took me a long time to realize I loved him . So for me it's the other way round: I can hardly imagine to fall in love with somebody who I don't feel some kind of instant connection with the first time we talk and who at least fascinates me one way or another the day I meet him. If there is nothing there in the first minutes it never changes for me later. So I cannot really choose anybody as my partner, it just is chemistry that is there or is not there. I see that person and I am lost .

I'd say it takes me about 3 weeks of being around them before I look back and think SHIT I LOVE HIM!

ZombieKitten said:

Serious said:

ZombieKitten said:

I'd say it takes me about 3 weeks of being around them before I look back and think SHIT I LOVE HIM!

It takes me about 3 seconds to feel the total attraction and about 3 hours to think SHIT I LOVE HIM!

ZombieKitten said:

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ZombieKitten said:

And BTW SHIT I LOVE HIM! are the exact words that I said to myself usually .

I wrote it in my diary, I remember