Serious said:

JoeTyler said:

I did it, I was only 21

I realized that life is cool as long as you live it by your own rules. And luckily I hate traveling (I'd only visit select ancient cities of the mediterranean, lol) so that's not a problem, lol

Am I being counfused, but wasn't it you who posted he travelld thousand of kms just to have sex with somebody ?

yes I did I enjoyed the sex/experience, but not the trip...

JoeTyler said:

This is exactly where i am at so I am pulling this thread out of the deep deep files to write about it.

I am on my way out of my present life and a bit scared as hell because I do not have the next step all in place. What I do know is that I gave my notice to my landlady without having a set place to go to so everything must be gone it less that 20 days, especially me.

I had this horrble feeling that there is no time like the present. i own very little of value and my daughter is on summer vacation too. I get a fixed income every month sent directly to the bank. If I don't spend this months rent and next on getting the car fixed and back on the road it never will happen.

Also this area of the US is much more expensive then the Gulf Coast which is where I am headed. Hopefully my daughter and I will not be homeless long. Maybe not at all.

blueblossom said:

...today I'm one step closer to buying that mango cart on Miami Beach.

Lisa10 said:

PunkMistress said:

I suppose I kind of did a similar thing when I moved here to start a new life with Christopher. I left the life I'd built for 3 decades (in the only city I ever lived in), came to a state and a culture that I knew almost nothing about, which was as foreign to me as you can get inside the same country, knowing not a soul but my immediate family.

And I love it. I hear bits and bobs of drama from back home drifting past my ears, or scrolling down the Facebook screen, and I just laugh. I'm so removed from all the bullshit that many people back there are mired in.

On the other hand, I didn't move here to simplify - quite the opposite! And Chris and I do very often yearn to run away and live more simply - somewhere not quite so hot, boring, backwards, oppressive, economically depressed or culturally bereft. For him, this is that old place that he's sick of.

England is lovely. Just sayin'...

i want to come home! i did say fuck it 20 years ago. it was a good run, but i want to be English again before i die.

PurpleJedi said:

...today I'm one step closer to buying that mango cart on Miami Beach.

Deadflow3r said:

This is exactly where i am at so I am pulling this thread out of the deep deep files to write about it.

I am on my way out of my present life and a bit scared as hell because I do not have the next step all in place. What I do know is that I gave my notice to my landlady without having a set place to go to so everything must be gone it less that 20 days, especially me.

I had this horrble feeling that there is no time like the present. i own very little of value and my daughter is on summer vacation too. I get a fixed income every month sent directly to the bank. If I don't spend this months rent and next on getting the car fixed and back on the road it never will happen.

Also this area of the US is much more expensive then the Gulf Coast which is where I am headed. Hopefully my daughter and I will not be homeless long. Maybe not at all.

whoa! good lucky lady!

Shorty said:

Deadflow3r said:

This is exactly where i am at so I am pulling this thread out of the deep deep files to write about it.

I am on my way out of my present life and a bit scared as hell because I do not have the next step all in place. What I do know is that I gave my notice to my landlady without having a set place to go to so everything must be gone it less that 20 days, especially me.

I had this horrble feeling that there is no time like the present. i own very little of value and my daughter is on summer vacation too. I get a fixed income every month sent directly to the bank. If I don't spend this months rent and next on getting the car fixed and back on the road it never will happen.

Also this area of the US is much more expensive then the Gulf Coast which is where I am headed. Hopefully my daughter and I will not be homeless long. Maybe not at all.

whoa! good lucky lady!

From me too !

blueblossom said:

I do. I wish I could leave it all behind - the bills - the house- shitty people with their shitty whining ways - fed up with bitches who are in my life and I can't tell them to piss off.

I would move to Canada - start again - take some courses - be a teacher (I have always dreamed of being a teacher). Get into no more debt - don't have people who piss me off in my life. See the world - have fun - live a little...

sometimes I feel as if I wasted my life chasing money to pay fekking bills!!

Gawd it feels better to have a rant!!!

[Edited 6/7/11 8:10am]

sigh....kindof.

not my kids....I don't wanna leave them behind but I am in need of a change. a BIG change.

Serious said:

Shorty said:

whoa! good lucky lady!

From me too !

Thanks you two . Every single month I go through my money like water. I have never been able to save or even get my car back on the road. I am scared though, I must admit THAT!!!!

I have a young cousin that did that. She used to be a little girl, she grew up... got fed up... moved to Canada and married another chick. I wonder if she is getting high right now.

Here's what I want to do... I'm serious. I live pay check to pay check and I only get paid once a month and my job does NOT pay a lot.... course I don't have many hours. I think I'm about to get some wheels and maybe I will find some more ways to make money to save to buy things.... cause what I want to buy is a cheap gutted 5th wheel somebody wants to get rid of and since I'm handy, make it how I want it on the inside and very tight... and live in it. hell, the place i pay rent for is less than 500 sq feet, is cruddy and I really don't need a lot of space anyway.... I just like my private yard which is why I live in this dump and don't live in a newer apartment. Where I live, there are campgrounds everywhere that would be cheaper than any rent and sometimes I want to just take off... get away from everything. I want to go explore the rockies and elsewhere.

There are places overseas I'd like to go but that is much less likely to happen.

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ScarletScandal said:

Deadflow3r said:

This is exactly where i am at so I am pulling this thread out of the deep deep files to write about it.

I am on my way out of my present life and a bit scared as hell because I do not have the next step all in place. What I do know is that I gave my notice to my landlady without having a set place to go to so everything must be gone it less that 20 days, especially me.

I had this horrble feeling that there is no time like the present. i own very little of value and my daughter is on summer vacation too. I get a fixed income every month sent directly to the bank. If I don't spend this months rent and next on getting the car fixed and back on the road it never will happen.

Also this area of the US is much more expensive then the Gulf Coast which is where I am headed. Hopefully my daughter and I will not be homeless long. Maybe not at all.

Good luck in your new adventures! I wish you both well!

Sometimes, I feel like running away from my life because there is so much going on right now. I have found if I take a day here and there for me, it seems to regenerate my batteries. A few weeks ago, I spent the day with my three sisters-in-law and we had a ball. Friday, I'm meeting some gals I used to work with and we are going to lunch. Not excitig but it works for me!

blueblossom said:

I do. I wish I could leave it all behind - the bills - the house- shitty people with their shitty whining ways - fed up with bitches who are in my life and I can't tell them to piss off.

I would move to Canada - start again - take some courses - be a teacher (I have always dreamed of being a teacher). Get into no more debt - don't have people who piss me off in my life. See the world - have fun - live a little...

sometimes I feel as if I wasted my life chasing money to pay fekking bills!!

Gawd it feels better to have a rant!!!

[Edited 6/7/11 8:10am]

We all have those days, love. You're not alone. It's just a phase and will pass over in a couple of days or maybe a week's time.

Hope u r feeling better right now though.

I actually did do that 2 years ago cause I'm still at home and I had enough savings, but now I'm struggilng for a better job cause of bills. My physical and mental health was awful and I did it for those reasons mainly.

If you come to Canada, I would have said come to Toronto cause the diversity here is amazing, but I just found out it's the most expensive city to live in over here. Go to a suburb or town nearby if you can. If not and you want an urban city, Ottawa is affordable, Vancouver is reasonable though full of assholes, and Alberta (province) has lower taxes.

[Edited 7/13/11 17:05pm]

Nah I've almost never tried to get concerned about how I should live my life and the decisions I've made and want to make. I'm guess I'm one of those "it's fate" kind of things. Stress is always gonna be a part of life but it's all in how you manage it.

Im there now...................all in good time.....

of course, but i chose responsibility over freedom a long time ago.

i wont be free to say 'fuck it and go' til my son is off living his own life.

i'm cool with that.

I'm realistically tied down for about 15 more years

I hate hearing about feeling tied down. This is why I don't want children though I don't know about a partner. Commitment doesn't seem to be my thing after all, at least not now. I want inner peace and personal satisfaction and hope that by 30 (I have 2 more years to go) I can settle down and be happy where I work and live. If I'm working near home, I'll stick around since I do pay the bills anyway, but if I have to go far enough, then I'll get a flat after saving up so I can have my own space and hang around on the weekends. I also hate admitting this , but working full time makes me feel tied down too so I really have to find something that suits me. I wish I wasn't so lazy and used my talents to create my own business by now, but I feel so insecure and unsure all the time and don't have discipline, cause I would have loved to work from home doing what I enjoy and having my own clientele. I would have done what I studied part time, and then the music thing being self employed. I think about grad school time to time, but I really don't know if it's worth it if I'm unsure though it will open up job opportunities that I'm not even sure I can do. Plus then there's my mental health that I'm trying to get back in shape, have to make time for that and I have it now, but may not have it forever. and I don't want to fall again like I did when I got too busy the last time.

[Edited 7/13/11 19:49pm]

ZombieKitten said:

I'm realistically tied down for about 15 more years

Enjoy the good parts, ignore the bad, because before you know it they'll be hormonal teens doing nothing but eating, crapping and borrowing the keys to the car all the while thinking you're the most ignorant person on earth.

nd33 said:

blueblossom said:

I do. I wish I could leave it all behind - the bills - the house- shitty people with their shitty whining ways - fed up with bitches who are in my life and I can't tell them to piss off.

I would move to Canada - start again - take some courses - be a teacher (I have always dreamed of being a teacher). Get into no more debt - don't have people who piss me off in my life. See the world - have fun - live a little...

sometimes I feel as if I wasted my life chasing money to pay fekking bills!!

Gawd it feels better to have a rant!!!

[Edited 6/7/11 8:10am]

The power is within you. DO IT.

i did in 1999, i went off to brazil and stayed as long as i wanted, it was amazing! then in 2001 i went on a mission trip to brazil to help wherever i was needed, was one of the best times of my life! in 2002 i went to brazil again and fell in-love and said screw it to my job back in the usa, and my life here in the usa. i lived in brazil for as long as i could with my visa until i had to return home. getting away from everything here in the states was such a wonderful feeling.

I am dying to do just that.

i have wanted to do that so many times... over soooooooooooooooooo many years

and for a while it felt like i had - as i distanced myself from reality

but it all caught up with me.... it always does

now i am changing things in my life so i dont feel like that anymore

ticking my boxes...

un-necessary bills.... tick

watch my spending....tick

kick husband out... tick

and u know what ........................ things r looking so much better

I have been on this inner quest for some time now. I found a book on "hoarding' believe it or not in the dollar store " Does this clutter make my butt look big". It is about hoarding and also obesity and it was written by the clean sweep guy, I think his name is Paul Walsh or Peter Welsh whatever. Anyway it really talks about the fact that the stuff is not the issue. The big overall problem is your life and what you really want to be doing with it and who you really are.

Next I was drawn to this book, after I already made my decision, called "Kick Start" also at the $$ store. She basically is saying the same thing. Who are you? What is the purpose of your existence? What are your core values? etc. I will be 50 at the end of August and I want to spend the next 20 years meaningfully. I also want to teach my daughter to take chances and to be true to herself. Where I live now is a town where, if you aske people, everyone tells you they only live here because they have family here.

I am very attracted to New Orleans, I love it there and I love it's drama. The people have been through so much yet they absolutely love their city despite it's crime and other issues. I need to be around passionlate and festive people. I thrive in places where I can let my freak flag fly.

Deadflow3r said:

I have been on this inner quest for some time now. I found a book on "hoarding' believe it or not in the dollar store " Does this clutter make my butt look big". It is about hoarding and also obesity and it was written by the clean sweep guy, I think his name is Paul Walsh or Peter Welsh whatever. Anyway it really talks about the fact that the stuff is not the issue. The big overall problem is your life and what you really want to be doing with it and who you really are.

Next I was drawn to this book, after I already made my decision, called "Kick Start" also at the $$ store. She basically is saying the same thing. Who are you? What is the purpose of your existence? What are your core values? etc. I will be 50 at the end of August and I want to spend the next 20 years meaningfully. I also want to teach my daughter to take chances and to be true to herself. Where I live now is a town where, if you aske people, everyone tells you they only live here because they have family here.

I am very attracted to New Orleans, I love it there and I love it's drama. The people have been through so much yet they absolutely love their city despite it's crime and other issues. I need to be around passionlate and festive people. I thrive in places where I can let my freak flag fly.

I'm sort'a the opposite.

All my life I've been low-key and laid back. And I like it that way.

Now people around me are getting older and coming to their mid-life crisis nonsense...my sister-in-law, my brother, my best friend, my WIFE...all came to that "what am I doing with my life?/Am I happy?/Need to go out and enjoy life to its fullest!" point. Damn the consequences. Obviously, the last one on that list impacts me directly, so I have been dealing with drama that I don't need nor want. I can deal with problems - everyone has problems - and I work well with trying to overcome whatever comes your way (with more than a gentle nudge).

Now I want to say "fuck it and go" to get back to the peace and tranquility that I crave. To rid myself of the stress, anxiety and drama that I despise. To surround myself with people who share certain values that I still hold dear (respect, humility, self-worth, charity, restraint, etc.) and who don't gauge their happiness by how drunk/high they can get or how many times they get laid a week. I dunno...I mean I love having a good time and letting loose, but not on a daily basis.

That's why I want to sell mangos from a cart by the beach.

imago said:

This actually happened to me.

I was laid off on my job, and dumped basically by my fiance', etc. etc.

I was offered a job after almost a year of searching, but it would have required me

to relocate to Dallas fucking Texas, which I've visited before on business.

I turned that down of course, and end up moving to Thailand and teaching.

I've also re'started writing my book, and have travelled and seen some of the

coolest people. With a little help from family, my debts became manageable,

and now they're actually dwindling in comparison to before.

But, most of all, I'm very happy. Moreso than I've been in years.

So yeah--saying fuck it, even if it's sort of forced upon you at first, is liberating.

I've comtemplated moving to Thailand. Inspired by you of course. Would U recomend it?