i have a 15 yr old i have been helping a friend of mine raise due to his behavior and bad grades things have gotten worse with them i find out he is having sex and smoking weed. friday she put him out and he comes running to my house yet i really dont want 2 take him in b/c he is very disrespectful i dont feel like i should take care of a kid that is smoking and having sex in my eyes its no different than taking care of a unemployed man. orgers help me give me your opinion

U dont need this stress!!!!! 15 years old having sex & smoking weed & 2 top it all off the lad is disrespectful!!!!!Listen! U DONT NEED THIS STRESS!!!Im almost sure whatever kindness u show 2wards this delinquent he will throw it in ur face!!! If u shelter him/feed him/advise him he will simply take the piss!!And whatever u do dont give him any money!!!!

Kids like this who smoke weed think that gas/electricity/water/rent/food is all free!!!they have no consept of bills & r ungrateful 4 anything u do 4 them!!U must b tough with him!He will come in2 ur life & simply f**k it up!!Good luck!.

cbarnes3121 said:

i have a 15 yr old i have been helping a friend of mine raise due to his behavior and bad grades things have gotten worse with them i find out he is having sex and smoking weed. friday she put him out and he comes running to my house yet i really dont want 2 take him in b/c he is very disrespectful i dont feel like i should take care of a kid that is smoking and having sex in my eyes its no different than taking care of a unemployed man. orgers help me give me your opinion

Having sex at 15 is pretty normal these days. Smoking weed is just plain stupid, as are bad grades.

She put him out for a reason, however I think that's the most horrible thing you can do to a child. If you don't want to raise the child, talk to his parent about that. The parent should call in professional help with raising this kid. And he should not have to wonder the streets at 15. THat will harm him more. There is no benefit for anybody involved when it involves a homeless kid.

Get in a social worker to arrange the help that is needed. Look out for specialized care for defiant teenagers.

Wish you, the child and parent well.

dJJ said:

cbarnes3121 said:

i have a 15 yr old i have been helping a friend of mine raise due to his behavior and bad grades things have gotten worse with them i find out he is having sex and smoking weed. friday she put him out and he comes running to my house yet i really dont want 2 take him in b/c he is very disrespectful i dont feel like i should take care of a kid that is smoking and having sex in my eyes its no different than taking care of a unemployed man. orgers help me give me your opinion

Having sex at 15 is pretty normal these days. Smoking weed is just plain stupid, as are bad grades.

She put him out for a reason, however I think that's the most horrible thing you can do to a child. If you don't want to raise the child, talk to his parent about that. The parent should call in professional help with raising this kid. And he should not have to wonder the streets at 15. THat will harm him more. There is no benefit for anybody involved when it involves a homeless kid.

Get in a social worker to arrange the help that is needed. Look out for specialized care for defiant teenagers.

Wish you, the child and parent well.

just cuz its normal dont make it right and this kid makes all f's in school and is presently suspended from school 3rd time this year.these people are not related 2 me i dont owe them nothing and at this point by him being so disrespectly and ungrateful i could care less b/c i have went beyond with him and he still does no good so if u want him come and get him

dJJ said:

cbarnes3121 said:

i have a 15 yr old i have been helping a friend of mine raise due to his behavior and bad grades things have gotten worse with them i find out he is having sex and smoking weed. friday she put him out and he comes running to my house yet i really dont want 2 take him in b/c he is very disrespectful i dont feel like i should take care of a kid that is smoking and having sex in my eyes its no different than taking care of a unemployed man. orgers help me give me your opinion

Having sex at 15 is pretty normal these days. Smoking weed is just plain stupid, as are bad grades.

She put him out for a reason, however I think that's the most horrible thing you can do to a child. If you don't want to raise the child, talk to his parent about that. The parent should call in professional help with raising this kid. And he should not have to wonder the streets at 15. THat will harm him more. There is no benefit for anybody involved when it involves a homeless kid.

Get in a social worker to arrange the help that is needed. Look out for specialized care for defiant teenagers.

Wish you, the child and parent well.

Please don't spread lies and BS morality. Smoking weed isn't stupid and it shows your ignorance to suggest so.

People smoke and fuck all the time. Stop acting like children shouldn't do it. Perhaps instead of worrying about diagnosing the kid's problem or preventing them from expressing themselves, you instill a little order by listening to them and working with them?

Or just repeat the BS cycle and teach them how to disassociate the way you have.

Spinlight said:

dJJ said:

Having sex at 15 is pretty normal these days. Smoking weed is just plain stupid, as are bad grades.

She put him out for a reason, however I think that's the most horrible thing you can do to a child. If you don't want to raise the child, talk to his parent about that. The parent should call in professional help with raising this kid. And he should not have to wonder the streets at 15. THat will harm him more. There is no benefit for anybody involved when it involves a homeless kid.

Get in a social worker to arrange the help that is needed. Look out for specialized care for defiant teenagers.

Wish you, the child and parent well.

Please don't spread lies and BS morality. Smoking weed isn't stupid and it shows your ignorance to suggest so.

People smoke and fuck all the time. Stop acting like children shouldn't do it. Perhaps instead of worrying about diagnosing the kid's problem or preventing them from expressing themselves, you instill a little order by listening to them and working with them?

Or just repeat the BS cycle and teach them how to disassociate the way you have.

u must be a child yourself to come out your trap with some garbage

cbarnes3121 said:

Spinlight said:

Please don't spread lies and BS morality. Smoking weed isn't stupid and it shows your ignorance to suggest so.

People smoke and fuck all the time. Stop acting like children shouldn't do it. Perhaps instead of worrying about diagnosing the kid's problem or preventing them from expressing themselves, you instill a little order by listening to them and working with them?

Or just repeat the BS cycle and teach them how to disassociate the way you have.

u must be a child yourself to come out your trap with some garbage

And you clearly ARE an unintelligent goon and I fear that a child would be in your care.

cbarnes3121 said:

i have a 15 yr old i have been helping a friend of mine raise due to his behavior and bad grades things have gotten worse with them i find out he is having sex and smoking weed. friday she put him out and he comes running to my house yet i really dont want 2 take him in b/c he is very disrespectful i dont feel like i should take care of a kid that is smoking and having sex in my eyes its no different than taking care of a unemployed man. orgers help me give me your opinion

If the child is 15, the parent has no choice but to continue to care for the child. I would contact child services if I were you and try to get help for the whole family. I wish all of you the best of luck.

Vendetta1 said:

cbarnes3121 said:

i have a 15 yr old i have been helping a friend of mine raise due to his behavior and bad grades things have gotten worse with them i find out he is having sex and smoking weed. friday she put him out and he comes running to my house yet i really dont want 2 take him in b/c he is very disrespectful i dont feel like i should take care of a kid that is smoking and having sex in my eyes its no different than taking care of a unemployed man. orgers help me give me your opinion

If the child is 15, the parent has no choice but to continue to care for the child. I would contact child services if I were you and try to get help for the whole family. I wish all of you the best of luck.

thanxs

Spinlight said:

dJJ said:

Having sex at 15 is pretty normal these days. Smoking weed is just plain stupid, as are bad grades.

She put him out for a reason, however I think that's the most horrible thing you can do to a child. If you don't want to raise the child, talk to his parent about that. The parent should call in professional help with raising this kid. And he should not have to wonder the streets at 15. THat will harm him more. There is no benefit for anybody involved when it involves a homeless kid.

Get in a social worker to arrange the help that is needed. Look out for specialized care for defiant teenagers.

Wish you, the child and parent well.

Please don't spread lies and BS morality. Smoking weed isn't stupid and it shows your ignorance to suggest so.

People smoke and fuck all the time. Stop acting like children shouldn't do it. Perhaps instead of worrying about diagnosing the kid's problem or preventing them from expressing themselves, you instill a little order by listening to them and working with them?

Or just repeat the BS cycle and teach them how to disassociate the way you have.

Really?

Kid is 15. He is homeless. Bad grades. Smoking weed. Having (unprotected?) sex. Agressive in his communicating.

dJJ said:

Spinlight said:

Please don't spread lies and BS morality. Smoking weed isn't stupid and it shows your ignorance to suggest so.

People smoke and fuck all the time. Stop acting like children shouldn't do it. Perhaps instead of worrying about diagnosing the kid's problem or preventing them from expressing themselves, you instill a little order by listening to them and working with them?

Or just repeat the BS cycle and teach them how to disassociate the way you have.

Really?

Kid is 15. He is homeless. Bad grades. Smoking weed. Having (unprotected?) sex. Agressive in his communicating.

The kid obviously has emotional problems. Turning him away doesn't help him. A 15 year old smoking weed and having sex is not an "unemployed man", etc. Compassion wins out, always. Show the child compassion because in all likelihood, that is what he is rebelling against.

And I said morality about pot and sex. It's wonderful you deign to think you can stop a kid from doing those things (if so, you've officially forgotten what it was like to be that age), but you can't. Nor should you. The poisonous propaganda that weed is somehow a detriment to him is brainwashing introduced by the US government and is based in zero facts. Simply put, you will never find a factual situation that proves its bad for him, so stop saying such retarded things.

And sex is sex. If you think this bad ass kid is going to stop having sex or is going to use a condom before EVEEEERYTHING else in his head is fixed, you're dreaming.

[Edited 5/29/11 15:10pm]

he sounds like a little shit but he is only 15 & there's no avoiding it... he will spend the next few years going through his being an arsehole stage

your friend must be at their wits end & needs your support too. they wouldn't kick him out & then not be worrying, it does't mean they don't love him! they are just trying the being cruel to be kind approach!!

it's the fucking weed & pothead mates! that is his biggest problem to start with!!.. lack of motivation & no money.. habit addiction!.. sod the arseholes who defend it! just a bunch of scummy twats

take him in, lay down the rules, make sure he knows he's in shit street.. give him a chance & don't let him take the mick.. tell he's got a month to sort himself! chance is he'll realise he's been a complete knob & go begging to be let back home

DoffieParker said:

he sounds like a little shit but he is only 15 & there's no avoiding it... he will spend the next few years going through his being an arsehole stage

your friend must be at their wits end & needs your support too. they wouldn't kick him out & then not be worrying, it does't mean they don't love him! they are just trying the being cruel to be kind approach!!

it's the fucking weed & pothead mates! that is his biggest problem to start with!!.. lack of motivation & no money.. habit addiction!.. sod the arseholes who defend it! just a bunch of scummy twats

take him in, lay down the rules, make sure he knows he's in shit street.. give him a chance & don't let him take the mick.. tell he's got a month to sort himself! chance is he'll realise he's been a complete knob & go begging to be let back home

i have let this kid live with me for 2 years in the past him and his mom have a bad relationship but im not responsible for his upbringing his mom is and im not about to feel baited to say give him a chance he had 2 years in my house and he is not related 2 me at all thats more than most people would give there own flesh and blood. i dont wnt 2 see anything bad happen to him but he chose to smoke and have sex things that i myself dont even do so im not tolerated that shit in my house. if his own mother dont care enuff and put him on the streets he should resepct my house enoughto do the right thing

Spinlight said:

cbarnes3121 said:

u must be a child yourself to come out your trap with some garbage

And you clearly ARE an unintelligent goon and I fear that a child would be in your care.

its clear that u are really ignorant

cbarnes3121 said:

Spinlight said:

And you clearly ARE an unintelligent goon and I fear that a child would be in your care.

its clear that u are really ignorant

LOL and you just came here to get your behavior validated. You obviously feel guilty for turning away the kid or else you wouldn't have made this post. And clearly something I said touched a nerve. Maybe you feel like you've done enough and shouldn't have to do more, but obviously you feel compelled to do something. Surely if your opinion was to turn him away and you were secure in that, you wouldn't need advice about how to handle the kid.

Sorry, but tough love doesn't work. Kids just find alternatives and outsmart you.

Spinlight said:

cbarnes3121 said:

its clear that u are really ignorant

LOL and you just came here to get your behavior validated. You obviously feel guilty for turning away the kid or else you wouldn't have made this post. And clearly something I said touched a nerve. Maybe you feel like you've done enough and shouldn't have to do more, but obviously you feel compelled to do something. Surely if your opinion was to turn him away and you were secure in that, you wouldn't need advice about how to handle the kid.

Sorry, but tough love doesn't work. Kids just find alternatives and outsmart you.

u dumb ass fool his mom put him out he living with me so u so stupid u cant even read

cbarnes3121 said:

i have a 15 yr old i have been helping a friend of mine raise due to his behavior and bad grades things have gotten worse with them i find out he is having sex and smoking weed. friday she put him out and he comes running to my house yet i really dont want 2 take him in b/c he is very disrespectful i dont feel like i should take care of a kid that is smoking and having sex in my eyes its no different than taking care of a unemployed man. orgers help me give me your opinion

This is a tricky situation. On the one hand, it's not your problem and every good deed goes unpunished. It's likely to be a disaster in the end if you let him in. On the other hand, sometimes it's not the kids fault it's the dumbass parent in charge of them who doesn't know how to handle a problem child good luck

cbarnes3121 said:

DoffieParker said:

he sounds like a little shit but he is only 15 & there's no avoiding it... he will spend the next few years going through his being an arsehole stage

your friend must be at their wits end & needs your support too. they wouldn't kick him out & then not be worrying, it does't mean they don't love him! they are just trying the being cruel to be kind approach!!

it's the fucking weed & pothead mates! that is his biggest problem to start with!!.. lack of motivation & no money.. habit addiction!.. sod the arseholes who defend it! just a bunch of scummy twats

take him in, lay down the rules, make sure he knows he's in shit street.. give him a chance & don't let him take the mick.. tell he's got a month to sort himself! chance is he'll realise he's been a complete knob & go begging to be let back home

i have let this kid live with me for 2 years in the past him and his mom have a bad relationship but im not responsible for his upbringing his mom is and im not about to feel baited to say give him a chance he had 2 years in my house and he is not related 2 me at all thats more than most people would give there own flesh and blood. i dont wnt 2 see anything bad happen to him but he chose to smoke and have sex things that i myself dont even do so im not tolerated that shit in my house. if his own mother dont care enuff and put him on the streets he should resepct my house enoughto do the right thing

if u cba then that's up 2 u.. but he is only 15 & if he's fallen out with his mum then u will be doing the both of them a favour by giving them space from each other.

he'd have to respect your wishes! no smoking in the house! no sex in the house! & whatever else.. tell him just tempory! make sure he has remorse 4 upsetting his mum (little fucker!)

who knows which direction this kid will go, but at least u will know u gave him a chance to get his head clear!!

real simple

know whut is and isn't your prollum.

thus far, it's not your prob.

very qwickly, it can become your worst.

the qwestion is, are you the person

that can give up all to help another???

personally,

if i had to ask, as you did,

i'ld stay out of it...

cbarnes3121 said:

Spinlight said:

LOL and you just came here to get your behavior validated. You obviously feel guilty for turning away the kid or else you wouldn't have made this post. And clearly something I said touched a nerve. Maybe you feel like you've done enough and shouldn't have to do more, but obviously you feel compelled to do something. Surely if your opinion was to turn him away and you were secure in that, you wouldn't need advice about how to handle the kid.

Sorry, but tough love doesn't work. Kids just find alternatives and outsmart you.

u dumb ass fool his mom put him out he living with me so u so stupid u cant even read

No wonder the kid is growing up wrong. Look at the morons in his charge. You said he lived with you 2 years before and can't be bothered taking care of him now. Either shit or get off the pot. If you have rules in your home, enforce them or kick them out. The fuck is the point of you coming here with this crap.

Spinlight said:

dJJ said:

Really?

Kid is 15. He is homeless. Bad grades. Smoking weed. Having (unprotected?) sex. Agressive in his communicating.

The kid obviously has emotional problems. Turning him away doesn't help him. A 15 year old smoking weed and having sex is not an "unemployed man", etc. Compassion wins out, always. Show the child compassion because in all likelihood, that is what he is rebelling against.

And I said morality about pot and sex. It's wonderful you deign to think you can stop a kid from doing those things (if so, you've officially forgotten what it was like to be that age), but you can't. Nor should you. The poisonous propaganda that weed is somehow a detriment to him is brainwashing introduced by the US government and is based in zero facts. Simply put, you will never find a factual situation that proves its bad for him, so stop saying such retarded things.

And sex is sex. If you think this bad ass kid is going to stop having sex or is going to use a condom before EVEEEERYTHING else in his head is fixed, you're dreaming.

[Edited 5/29/11 15:10pm]

Did you read my post? Are you responding to my post or someone else's post?

Do you know that smoking pot has a negative influence on his still developing brain? That aren't reversible?

dJJ said:

Spinlight said:

The kid obviously has emotional problems. Turning him away doesn't help him. A 15 year old smoking weed and having sex is not an "unemployed man", etc. Compassion wins out, always. Show the child compassion because in all likelihood, that is what he is rebelling against.

And I said morality about pot and sex. It's wonderful you deign to think you can stop a kid from doing those things (if so, you've officially forgotten what it was like to be that age), but you can't. Nor should you. The poisonous propaganda that weed is somehow a detriment to him is brainwashing introduced by the US government and is based in zero facts. Simply put, you will never find a factual situation that proves its bad for him, so stop saying such retarded things.

And sex is sex. If you think this bad ass kid is going to stop having sex or is going to use a condom before EVEEEERYTHING else in his head is fixed, you're dreaming.

[Edited 5/29/11 15:10pm]

Did you read my post? Are you responding to my post or someone else's post?

Do you know that smoking pot has a negative influence on his still developing brain? That aren't reversible?

somebody else i get what u saying and i agree it has a negative effect i never smoked and i am 31 and i dont feel the need to take of a kid who is not my family with those kind of issues im still young trying to sort out life for myself

dJJ said:

Spinlight said:

The kid obviously has emotional problems. Turning him away doesn't help him. A 15 year old smoking weed and having sex is not an "unemployed man", etc. Compassion wins out, always. Show the child compassion because in all likelihood, that is what he is rebelling against.

And I said morality about pot and sex. It's wonderful you deign to think you can stop a kid from doing those things (if so, you've officially forgotten what it was like to be that age), but you can't. Nor should you. The poisonous propaganda that weed is somehow a detriment to him is brainwashing introduced by the US government and is based in zero facts. Simply put, you will never find a factual situation that proves its bad for him, so stop saying such retarded things.

And sex is sex. If you think this bad ass kid is going to stop having sex or is going to use a condom before EVEEEERYTHING else in his head is fixed, you're dreaming.

[Edited 5/29/11 15:10pm]

Did you read my post? Are you responding to my post or someone else's post?

Do you know that smoking pot has a negative influence on his still developing brain? That aren't reversible?

lol. You're kidding right?

Last November, a study was released saying that kids who began smoking pot before 16 years old could suffer cognitive problems. Those kids they tested smoked 3 times as much marijuana than their adult counterparts who were also chronic smokers. Those studies didn't involve genetics or anything involving the children's lives outside of this intense smoking.

Similarly, decades ago when the anti-communism and anti-cannabis (and, incidentally, segregation) days, monkeys were used to test if pot caused brain damage like alcohol. The tests came out clearly positive, yet the monkeys had been wearing masks with constant joints being fed to them until they died.

Furthermore, if you're going to be worried about a kid smoking pot, you should be worried about the act of smoking itself and perhaps seek a vaporization alternative. Again, the information is extremely faith-based. There is no proof because it doesn't exist. There IS proof it shrinks tumors, calms autism and other spectrum disorders, and prevents wasting in AIDS and cancer patients as well as helps with pain control in people with MS and muscular dystrophy (along with the tried and true heightened sense of artistic and passionate feelings).

It doesn't take a private investigator to find out information about marijuana and to dispel the rumors and lies. If anything, you should be curious to find out this information given the herb has been used for thousands of years. There's a reason for that. And a reason for why the government and the pharmaceutical industry would suppress information championing it.

And in closing, 30 million people in 2008 don't lie. Pot is fucking great.

obviously you care about him otherwise you would have just turned him away......

its up to u if u take him in, but if you do u need to set some very strict ground rules that he must comply with or he gets booted out and he needs to know that 2

also make him pay board by doing chores around the house give him a list of things he has to do on a daily basis to teach him about responsibility... don't make it easy for him to bludge off u

Spinlight said:

dJJ said:

Did you read my post? Are you responding to my post or someone else's post?

Do you know that smoking pot has a negative influence on his still developing brain? That aren't reversible?

lol. You're kidding right?

Last November, a study was released saying that kids who began smoking pot before 16 years old could suffer cognitive problems. Those kids they tested smoked 3 times as much marijuana than their adult counterparts who were also chronic smokers. Those studies didn't involve genetics or anything involving the children's lives outside of this intense smoking.

Similarly, decades ago when the anti-communism and anti-cannabis (and, incidentally, segregation) days, monkeys were used to test if pot caused brain damage like alcohol. The tests came out clearly positive, yet the monkeys had been wearing masks with constant joints being fed to them until they died.

Furthermore, if you're going to be worried about a kid smoking pot, you should be worried about the act of smoking itself and perhaps seek a vaporization alternative. Again, the information is extremely faith-based. There is no proof because it doesn't exist. There IS proof it shrinks tumors, calms autism and other spectrum disorders, and prevents wasting in AIDS and cancer patients as well as helps with pain control in people with MS and muscular dystrophy (along with the tried and true heightened sense of artistic and passionate feelings).

It doesn't take a private investigator to find out information about marijuana and to dispel the rumors and lies. If anything, you should be curious to find out this information given the herb has been used for thousands of years. There's a reason for that. And a reason for why the government and the pharmaceutical industry would suppress information championing it.

And in closing, 30 million people in 2008 don't lie. Pot is fucking great.

fuck research & labs!! drugs have devastating effects on society & drug addicts love spouting this shit just to justify their pathetic addicttion!

DoffieParker said:

he sounds like a little shit but he is only 15 & there's no avoiding it... he will spend the next few years going through his being an arsehole stage

your friend must be at their wits end & needs your support too. they wouldn't kick him out & then not be worrying, it does't mean they don't love him! they are just trying the being cruel to be kind approach!!

it's the fucking weed & pothead mates! that is his biggest problem to start with!!.. lack of motivation & no money.. habit addiction!.. sod the arseholes who defend it! just a bunch of scummy twats

take him in, lay down the rules, make sure he knows he's in shit street.. give him a chance & don't let him take the mick.. tell he's got a month to sort himself! chance is he'll realise he's been a complete knob & go begging to be let back home

social worker material!.

DoffieParker said:

Spinlight said:

lol. You're kidding right?

Last November, a study was released saying that kids who began smoking pot before 16 years old could suffer cognitive problems. Those kids they tested smoked 3 times as much marijuana than their adult counterparts who were also chronic smokers. Those studies didn't involve genetics or anything involving the children's lives outside of this intense smoking.

Similarly, decades ago when the anti-communism and anti-cannabis (and, incidentally, segregation) days, monkeys were used to test if pot caused brain damage like alcohol. The tests came out clearly positive, yet the monkeys had been wearing masks with constant joints being fed to them until they died.

Furthermore, if you're going to be worried about a kid smoking pot, you should be worried about the act of smoking itself and perhaps seek a vaporization alternative. Again, the information is extremely faith-based. There is no proof because it doesn't exist. There IS proof it shrinks tumors, calms autism and other spectrum disorders, and prevents wasting in AIDS and cancer patients as well as helps with pain control in people with MS and muscular dystrophy (along with the tried and true heightened sense of artistic and passionate feelings).

It doesn't take a private investigator to find out information about marijuana and to dispel the rumors and lies. If anything, you should be curious to find out this information given the herb has been used for thousands of years. There's a reason for that. And a reason for why the government and the pharmaceutical industry would suppress information championing it.

And in closing, 30 million people in 2008 don't lie. Pot is fucking great.

fuck research & labs!! drugs have devastating effects on society & drug addicts love spouting this shit just to justify their pathetic addicttion!

Cannabis isn't a synthesized drug. If you wanna talk about drug addicts, refer to synthesized drugs. ANd if you can't back up your claims with information, then you're just a babbling troglodyte.