My uncle got married about 5 years ago. He and his wife lived in different cities in Cali and got 2gether on the weekends. They had a good "long" distance marriage. (from the outside looking in)

In November, while having dinner the wife went upstairs 2 use the bathroom. A few minutes passed and my uncle went 2 see what was taking so long 4 her 2 return. She had died in the bathroom.

While making arrangements 4 the funeral my uncle discovered the following:

1. His wife let her $1,000,000 insurance policy lapse a month before she passed.

2. She withdrew $250,000 from their joint account less 2 weeks before she passed and he has no idea what she did with the money.

What do u think was going on?

My uncle is left scratching his head........

Nothinbutjoy said:

My condolences to your uncle. Not only did he lose his wife, he was also left with so many questions. Her actions could mean so many things. I hope you uncle learns the truth. [Edited 6/16/11 8:18am]

Agreed.

Sorry to hear.

It sounds like she was having some money troubles, but there's really no way to know what it was all about or why.

Maybe he should hire a private investigator to see if he/she can figure out what happened. I mean, that's a lot of money to piss away in 2 weeks. It's also a dirty shame that she let the insurance policy lapse. Unc would have been sitting pretty right about now, that is if he was the beneficiary. My condolences.

Shyra said:

Maybe he should hire a private investigator to see if he/she can figure out what happened. I mean, that's a lot of money to piss away in 2 weeks. It's also a dirty shame that she let the insurance policy lapse. Unc would have been sitting pretty right about now, that is if he was the beneficiary. My condolences.

Sounds like it's time for a forensic accountant 2 get involved.

Graycap23 said:

My uncle got married about 5 years ago. He and his wife lived in different cities in Cali and got 2gether on the weekends. They had a good "long" distance marriage. (from the outside looking in)

In November, while having dinner the wife went upstairs 2 use the bathroom. A few minutes passed and my uncle went 2 see what was taking so long 4 her 2 return. She had died in the bathroom.

While making arrangements 4 the funeral my uncle discovered the following:

1. His wife let her $1,000,000 insurance policy lapse a month before she passed.

2. She withdrew $250,000 from their joint account less 2 weeks before she passed and he has no idea what she did with the money.

What do u think was going on?

My uncle is left scratching his head........

Prayers for your family. That is terrible to have someone die unexpectedly yet alone in your bathroom.

Too bad about her policy...insurance companies bank on people lapsing in payments.

As for the $250K. Well, this just makes the whole long distance thing seem so unrealistic and not a good idea especially where finances are concerned. How could he not have known about such a large amounth of money being withdrawn?

Perhaps she was going to divorce him? That's what my uncle did to his first wife...withdrew half the money and she had not a clue that he was building a life with another woman.

The other possibility is she transferred the funds or was making an investment and just neglected to tell him. It was only 2 weeks.

How is your uncle doing? Is he grieving over his wife or over the decisions she made that he was unaware of?

Shyra said:

Maybe he should hire a private investigator to see if he/she can figure out what happened. I mean, that's a lot of money to piss away in 2 weeks. It's also a dirty shame that she let the insurance policy lapse. Unc would have been sitting pretty right about now, that is if he was the beneficiary. My condolences.

Maybe he was the beneficiary and that's why she let the payment laspe.

HotGritz said:

Graycap23 said:

My uncle got married about 5 years ago. He and his wife lived in different cities in Cali and got 2gether on the weekends. They had a good "long" distance marriage. (from the outside looking in)

In November, while having dinner the wife went upstairs 2 use the bathroom. A few minutes passed and my uncle went 2 see what was taking so long 4 her 2 return. She had died in the bathroom.

While making arrangements 4 the funeral my uncle discovered the following:

1. His wife let her $1,000,000 insurance policy lapse a month before she passed.

2. She withdrew $250,000 from their joint account less 2 weeks before she passed and he has no idea what she did with the money.

What do u think was going on?

My uncle is left scratching his head........

Prayers for your family. That is terrible to have someone die unexpectedly yet alone in your bathroom.

Too bad about her policy...insurance companies bank on people lapsing in payments.

As for the $250K. Well, this just makes the whole long distance thing seem so unrealistic and not a good idea especially where finances are concerned. How could he not have known about such a large amounth of money being withdrawn?

Perhaps she was going to divorce him? That's what my uncle did to his first wife...withdrew half the money and she had not a clue that he was building a life with another woman.

The other possibility is she transferred the funds or was making an investment and just neglected to tell him. It was only 2 weeks.

How is your uncle doing? Is he grieving over his wife or over the decisions she made that he was unaware of?

It gets even more bizarre..........

Graycap23 said:

My uncle got married about 5 years ago. He and his wife lived in different cities in Cali and got 2gether on the weekends. They had a good "long" distance marriage. (from the outside looking in)

In November, while having dinner the wife went upstairs 2 use the bathroom. A few minutes passed and my uncle went 2 see what was taking so long 4 her 2 return. She had died in the bathroom.

While making arrangements 4 the funeral my uncle discovered the following:

1. His wife let her $1,000,000 insurance policy lapse a month before she passed.

2. She withdrew $250,000 from their joint account less 2 weeks before she passed and he has no idea what she did with the money.

What do u think was going on?

My uncle is left scratching his head........

i'm sorry for your loss, and that of your uncle. he might want to look into her health records and phone records.

[Edited 6/16/11 17:20pm]

[Edited 6/16/11 17:35pm]

Wow Gray, sorry to hear about your Aunt's passing.

Perhaps she was terminally ill and didn't tell anyone about that, I suppose she commited suicide as she knew her fate was sealed (Does anyone know more about the circumstances of her death by now?). The $250,000 could have been used as an attempt to cover invasive treatments and medical extra fees going along. Regarding the insurance policy, maybe she just forgot about it as she might have been deeply upset by something else. I assume she wouldn't have won anything by letting it lapse...

Just assuptions...

Deepest condolences.

Graycap23 said:

My uncle got married about 5 years ago. He and his wife lived in different cities in Cali and got 2gether on the weekends. They had a good "long" distance marriage. (from the outside looking in)

In November, while having dinner the wife went upstairs 2 use the bathroom. A few minutes passed and my uncle went 2 see what was taking so long 4 her 2 return. She had died in the bathroom.

While making arrangements 4 the funeral my uncle discovered the following:

1. His wife let her $1,000,000 insurance policy lapse a month before she passed.

2. She withdrew $250,000 from their joint account less 2 weeks before she passed and he has no idea what she did with the money.

What do u think was going on?

My uncle is left scratching his head........

Somrtimes marriages are not all they seem when ur lookin in from outside.You never really no what goes on behind closed doors ! May be she was planning to leave him. Its a major thing taking so much money from your joint account and neglecting to tell your hubbie. its hardly something you would just forget to tell him. Deepest condolences to you and your uncle

Have they determined the cause of death? Was it a long term illness or something sudden? I think if it was a long term illness that she must have known about could indicate her motivations for doing what she did with the money and insurance.