callimnate said:

ZombieKitten said:

callimnate said:

You sound like my wife!

someone's stealing my jokes.

whistle said:

Serious said:

whistle said:

someone's stealing my jokes.

That's good to know that you are only joking when you say you and your wife's sexlife is pretty much non-existant

that is not a joke.

whistle said:

I wish I could go off sex.. It pretty much controls my life

idk... I think it's healthy lol

IamFunkay7 said:

idk... I think it's healthy lol

Healthy and good for your mood

dJJ said:

IamFunkay7 said:

idk... I think it's healthy lol

Healthy and good for your mood

yeah you don't need that nasty stuff, celibacy will set you all free.

MattyJam said:

I try to avoid the doctors when I can.

Ask Warren Zevon how that worked out for him.

My sex drive isn't as strong as it used to be and when I do get worked up, I'd rather 'drain it like the medical condition it is' (to paraphrase Doug Stanhope) than go about that filthy business with somebody else.

IamFunkay7 said:

yeah you don't need that nasty stuff, celibacy will set you all free.

MattyJam said:

dJJ said:

Porn turns you on? Do you take any meds? It can be a side effect.

Not really. It used to, but I'm not bothered by it anymore.

I am on anti-anxiety meds, which I thought perhaps could be a cause.

Spinlight said:

Has your relationship been stressful?

Not at all. I don't think it's anything to do with my relationship. I don't even masturbate anymore... I just don't feel like it.

I'm kinda wary about going to the doctors, because it's quite an embarassing subject to bring up face to face.

Honey, I advise you to go to your doctor and talk about it. It's likely to be a side effect of your meds. It's no fun for your girlfriend!

I didn't read all the replies, but I did see where the op said he was taking anti anxiety medication. I can almost guarantee that is the cause of your problem. I think being in your twenties is too young just to up and lose interest in sex. I took Zoloft for a few years and my libido dried up like a friggin raisin. I had absolutely no interest in sex, NONE. I finally stopped taking the Zoloft, but then I started menopause, so that was another wammy to the old girl's libido. I'll get a little "twitch" every now and then, but I try not to think about it.

My wife's libido flat-out died years ago, after we had the first baby. Now she makes me feel like shit everytime I twist her arm for some action every couple months or so.

That sucks.

abigail05 said:

My wife's libido flat-out died years ago, after we had the first baby. Now she makes me feel like shit everytime I twist her arm for some action every couple months or so.

That sucks.

that's horrible

ZombieKitten said:

abigail05 said:

My wife's libido flat-out died years ago, after we had the first baby. Now she makes me feel like shit everytime I twist her arm for some action every couple months or so.

That sucks.

that's horrible

at least a lovely lady in australia feels bad for me, it helps a little

abigail05 said:

ZombieKitten said:

that's horrible

at least a lovely lady in australia feels bad for me, it helps a little

probably not much, I just know that if my husband stopped putting out, he'd be DROPPED you're a better person than I

that actually does help a little

Wish more guys were like you so I don't have to worry about the thought of someone being turned on by me like I'm their object. Enjoy it while you can and worry when the time comes

abigail05 said:

that actually does help a little

Some of the girls round here sound a little 'easy'.

I mean if you marry someone just based on sex then you've married them for the wrong reason as when you get older that's likely to dry up and the friendship and companionship will be what counts.

We agree that sex is a central component to a relationship so if you are not feeling it then yes theres prob a medical issue or perhaps the person has questions about their sexuality, but if the other person isnt into sex either then they can just be companions.

However, its hard for one partner who's horny and the other one isnt and vice versa.

Abigail05 - why do you have a womans' name out of interest?

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TheFreakerFantastic said:

Some of the girls round here sound a little 'easy'.

I mean if you marry someone just based on sex then you've married them for the wrong reason as when you get older that's likely to dry up and the friendship and companionship will be what counts.

We agree that sex is a central component to a relationship so if you are not feeling it then yes theres prob a medical issue or perhaps the person has questions about their sexuality, but if the other person isnt into sex either then they can just be companions.

However, its hard for one partner who's horny and the other one isnt and vice versa.

Abigail05 - why do you have a womans' name out of interest?

if there is a difference in the importance placed on sex within a marriage, it's a HUGE thing!

I like sex a lot, and if being married to someone who doesn't like sex stops me from enjoying my favourite activity, then I'd be in serious trouble.

TheFreakerFantastic said:

Abigail05 - why do you have a womans' name out of interest?

[Edited 5/21/11 2:12am]

I've been other names, androgynous ones, but got tired of having my comments 100% ignored. And I'm probably one of the most androgynous people I know anyway, though I'm definitely straight.

Back on topic... Perhaps what MattyJam needs is another Titty Thread. Ladies?

sounds like u have grown bored of ur partner! when uve done it in every room in the house in every position day after day after day this is what happens & why relationships r crap!!

MattyJam said:

I used to have quite a healthy appetite for sex. I'm a guy and sex was something I thought of a lot. I used to always want it more than my girlfriend did, which I'm guessing is the plight of most straight relationships.

Lately though, I just don't want to do it anymore. I'm not interested, I'm never horny, I'd rather listen to a good album or watch a film.

Is it normal for a guys sex drive to just disappear like that? I know it's never going to be the same as when you're 16-23 and sex is all you think about... but I'm only in my late twenties and I can't help but feel like a bit of a freak for just not craving sex anymore.

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I think so. The longest I went without any type of sex was probably 2 months. I am not going to lie though I at least masturbate once every day or day after the next.

I believe as we get older it is more or less not that important as it used to be.

davetherave6767 said:

sounds like u have grown bored of ur partner! when uve done it in every room in the house in every position day after day after day this is what happens & why relationships r crap!!

Oh Dave...

PurpleJedi said:

davetherave6767 said:

sounds like u have grown bored of ur partner! when uve done it in every room in the house in every position day after day after day this is what happens & why relationships r crap!!

Oh Dave...

im damaged goods eye no it!!!!

Maybe for like a day or so.

I second what others have said about antidepressants affecting people differently. I've been on them and still wanted to fuck every day.

MattyJam said:

I used to have quite a healthy appetite for sex. I'm a guy and sex was something I thought of a lot. I used to always want it more than my girlfriend did, which I'm guessing is the plight of most straight relationships.

Lately though, I just don't want to do it anymore. I'm not interested, I'm never horny, I'd rather listen to a good album or watch a film.

Is it normal for a guys sex drive to just disappear like that? I know it's never going to be the same as when you're 16-23 and sex is all you think about... but I'm only in my late twenties and I can't help but feel like a bit of a freak for just not craving sex anymore.

[Edited 5/14/11 4:36am]

I dunno, I don't think about it nearly as much as I used to (late 20s as well), but it hasnt completely vanished either. For me it's probably mostly my mind and body adapting to the drought. If it were made available to me regularly, I would probably be all about it.

PunkMistress said:

Maybe for like a day or so.

I second what others have said about antidepressants affecting people differently. I've been on them and still wanted to fuck every day.