I MET A MAN - NOT LONG AGO...HE IS VERY SWEET AND REALLY CUTE...BUT WE HAVE SOME PROBLEMS AND I WOULD LIKE TO ASK EVERYONES ADVISE...
FIRST THE LADIES - HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU HAVE A GOOD MAN
WHAT ARE THE QUALITIES YOU LOOK FOR
WHAT DO YOU DO THE FIRST TIME YOU CATCH
HIM LYING TO YOU
AND WHAT IS THE BIGGEST TIP-OFF THAT HE
IS MARRIED
WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN A
RELATIONSHIP ???


NOW THE MEN - WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A WOMAN
WHAT MAKES A WOMAN THE KIND OF WOMAN YOU
WOULD LIKE TO MARRY
HOW DO YOU KNOW A WOMAN IS PLAYIN' YOU
AND WHAT TRUELY MAKES A GOOD WOMAN


FOR EVERYONE - LIST THE WAYS YOU KNOW SOMEONE IS MARRIED
AND TRYING TO PLAY AROUND...


THANKS SO MUCH IN ADVANCE - THIS HELPS MORE THAN YOU KNOW

Based solely on your questions: run, don't walk!

I am the last person to advise but I will give it my best shot Kelley.

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU HAVE A GOOD MAN - He has gotta make you feel good and feel good about yourself, if he doesnt then he isnt right for you. If you feel insecure around him, then you are not gonna be your true self with him.


WHAT ARE THE QUALITIES YOU LOOK FOR - Honesty


WHAT DO YOU DO THE FIRST TIME YOU CATCH HIM LYING TO YOU - Get rid of him! Easier said than done.


Sorry I will get back to you again on this. You are special, and you need a man to treat you special.
[This message was edited Sun Feb 9 13:09:33 PST 2003 by REDFEATHERS]

REDFEATHERS said:

I think you did a great job, Redfeathers. Everything you said, I think, is true!

YOU GUYS ARE DOING GREAT - KEEP IT UP...THANK YOU

justkelley said:

I'd start with the basics:

Someone who can turn the Caps Lock off.

AD-VICE is the WORST VICE in the world

People can only give you advice, you have to listen to your

I will be the pot calling the kettle black here, lol...

But, I'd have to say...KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN. :O

The very things that you are uncomfortable about, experience, or are warned about (if anything) IS who this person is...they will not change...well 99% of the time.

Take heed...proceed with caution, trust your gut. Don't kid yourself...and all that good stuff.

00769BAD said:

sounds like just what prince would say

You don't need to address some questions to women and some to men. "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" is complete crap. Men and women are basically the same. Women cheat and lie for the same reasons that men do. That says what?

So if you think that you've got a "role" to play in a relationship and a "good man" has a different "role" to play, then you'll be lonely forever. You both owe each other the same things.

And if he's a cheater, get out. Feel free to leave a few bruises on his ass before leaving though. You have to have fun with a break-up somehow! Sorry to hear if you're in a bad situation like this...

DORA said:

and he would also say THIN IS IN
now about your INNER PIECE

I agree with LaVisHh: Trust your gut. And talk to him about it instead of letting it stew inside of you.

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU HAVE A GOOD MAN
WHAT ARE THE QUALITIES YOU LOOK FOR
WHAT DO YOU DO THE FIRST TIME YOU CATCH
HIM LYING TO YOU
AND WHAT IS THE BIGGEST TIP-OFF THAT HE
IS MARRIED

Well, it is easier 2 leave him in the mind, but in person is very hard. Especially if he grew apon u. He's not going 2 risk his marrige 4 u, and u know that...so there's nothing u can do.

WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN A
RELATIONSHIP ??? Makin' sure both u guys got ur priorities str8.





FOR EVERYONE - LIST THE WAYS YOU KNOW SOMEONE IS MARRIED
AND TRYING TO PLAY AROUND...
Look around their house. If they wont let u c their house...then...

Snoop!!! Snoop! Snoop!!! Once ur inspection is complete u know where the doo doo tracks are.

again...doing really good...except i dont really think if he is married...i just get the feeling something isn't right and i know i should follow my gut...but i do really like the guy - this shit sucks

justkelley said:

Is he insecure, scared of commitment, has he been hurt in the past, maybe you both are moving too quick and he likes you more than you think, doesnt necessarily mean he is married, there could be a whole number of reasons. You need to sit down and talk to him, communication is sooo inmportant. Air your views, your fears (without trying to scare him off ) if you still arent getting the information you require, is he right for you?

You may find talking to him helps.

langebleu said:

thanks RED you are my girl