They're aiiiight

See i used to really look down on them because i am always very faithful in relationships. But i have seen the POV of the people in them and have come to find it acceptable there is some good & BAD to it. The first time this came to me, there was this beautiful sweet asian guy and i liked him quite a bit. And well i found out he was in a relationship..... i was like oh

Then he was like BUT i'm in an open relationship, and he explained it to me which i felt weird about and i almost ALMOST did stuff with this guy... but it still made me squirm when i thought about him having a bf i felt so wrong. And i had lunch with him today he is a good friend now, And him & his guy have dated 6 years so..... hmmmm i just don't know.

Some obvious problems that could arise are one person having more serious feelings then the other, another is that there getting better dick so to speak and you get jealous and may think your not up to par.

Either i am curious what others think about it, everyones like your 20 say f..k it & have an open relationship lol. And others think it's highly immoral

Open relationships are not for everyone. But they should be for everyone involved in one or people will get hurt. I'm not one to have an open relationship. That's not to say I would never be an open relationship, just has never came up or wanted one.

no

might as well not be a relationship if their is no commitment

might as well call it for what it is ...being greedy

Wasn't there a thread about this recently?

Anyway, I sometimes find it difficult to shake the traditions built into me as a kid so often times things like open relationships are completely out of bounds no matter what. However, the progressive thinker in me doesn't really have much of a problem with open relationships as long as they remain their namesake - open! Open relationships, in my opinion, are much more difficult than closed ones as the questioning and suspicion usually doesn't follow a healthy closed relationship - but it could mean something different for open ones. A therapist I spoke with once told me that open relationships were often built upon contracts between the partners and could become more complicated and intricate than a normal, closed relationship. Food for thought.

They're pretty good for STDs.

Spinlight said:

you're setting yourself up for some real sadness

abigail05 said:

you're setting yourself up for some real sadness

how do you know this?

there are lots of people in the world, abigail!

Hell no. I have way less game than my wife.

Hell no.

that's what I'm saying, Fauxie.

I used to feel bad when my friends would pick up more girls than me.

I'd be ready to eat a shotgun shell if I had to keep score with "you know who"

JerseyKRS said:

that's what I'm saying, Fauxie.

I used to feel bad when my friends would pick up more girls than me.

I'd be ready to eat a shotgun shell if I had to keep score with "you know who"

Right! I'll be in the bar, go out in the smoking area, chat to a girl I bump into out there for 20 mins, and I'll be thinking she's mesmerized, discombobulated by my disarming charm and unflinching honesty, looking at me like I've said things nobody's ever said to her before. I'm feeling good, go back inside to tell my missus about the Scandinavian beauty I could swear I've just blown the mind of, and she's since garnered a group of 5 or 6 guys and girls dancing around her purely by the way she shakes her hips and looks like she holds the secret to having a good time. I never even see a glimpse of the Scandinavian girl again but that group of guys and girls is willing to follow my wife to whatever club she feels like going to!

Gunsnhalen said:

Just curious on fellow orgers opinions of open relationships

Open relationships are either open wounds or open options.

Nothing is for sure.

That's cool, if you are able and willing to deal with the down sides too

it is open then is it really a 'relationship'?

OnlyNDaUsa said:

it is open then is it really a 'relationship'?

sure it is

once you know and better yet, fuck eachother, you sure have a relationship.

When I was young, naive and inexperienced, I thought that I could deal with being in an open relationship. But, then I got older, wiser and more selfish and said to myself, "Fuck an open relationship! I want a M.F. all to myself".

Open relationships work for some people but it would never work for me. Funny thing is a lot of people are in open relationships and they don't even know it.

Spinlight said:

Wasn't there a thread about this recently?

Anyway, I sometimes find it difficult to shake the traditions built into me as a kid so often times things like open relationships are completely out of bounds no matter what. However, the progressive thinker in me doesn't really have much of a problem with open relationships as long as they remain their namesake - open! Open relationships, in my opinion, are much more difficult than closed ones as the questioning and suspicion usually doesn't follow a healthy closed relationship - but it could mean something different for open ones. A therapist I spoke with once told me that open relationships were often built upon contracts between the partners and could become more complicated and intricate than a normal, closed relationship. Food for thought.

Yep.Been there and I confirm, it can be a very sick relationship.

Fuck buddies who may or may not have joint checking accounts and share rent & utilities. Seriously, if you gotta frequently fuck someone other than the person you claim to love...maybe relationships aren't for you.

I could never be in one of those relationships, I'd get too jealous and I'm too old-fashioned and loyal. The words "open" and "relationship" are at odds with one another.

PurpleKittyK said:

I could never be in one of those relationships, I'd get too jealous and I'm too old-fashioned and loyal. The words "open" and "relationship" are at odds with one another.

Yes. Just like devotion and faithlessness.

But it goes without saying that in today's culture too many people consider every little exchange some kind of relationship. It's like you go out on 3 dates and boom, you're in a relationship or you're married for a dozen years and the other person considered you separated. But hey, what can you do? Sexual gratification often trumps fidelity and responsibility.

not for me, im to over protective and jealous for that shit..

it's all good, 'til someone gets an eye poked out...

KingBAD said:

it's all good, 'til someone gets an eye poked out...

isn't this why we have shows like jerry springer, cheaters, and maury povich?

For those afraid to commit.

KingBAD said:

it's all good, 'til someone gets an eye poked out...

HotGritz said:

Fuck buddies who may or may not have joint checking accounts and share rent & utilities. Seriously, if you gotta frequently fuck someone other than the person you claim to love...maybe relationships aren't for you.

The whole "love" thing gets in the way, wouldn't you say?

word of advice: If he's in an open relatioship ask him to allow you to speak to his significant other; if he balks than he is lying.

Whatever agreement consenting adults set for the parameters for their relationship is acceptable. The key words should be, what they agree upon and legal. In most instances when adults make mutual decisions about their relationships, I don't judge because it takes all kinds. I know quite a few people who are or in the past have been in open relationships and it has worked for them. Some people couldn't imagine being in this type of relationship and that's fine too.

TD3 said:

word of advice: If he's in an open relatioship ask him to allow you to speak to his significant other; if he balks than he is lying.

Whatever agreement consenting adults set for the parameters for their relationship is acceptable. The key words should be, what they agree upon and legal. In most instances when adults make mutual decisions about their relationships, I don't judge because it takes all kinds. I know quite a few people who are or in the past have been in open relationships and it has worked for them. Some people couldn't imagine being in this type of relationship and that's fine too.

Different strokes for different folks, and all that.

But as for two people who supposedly LOVE each other...I don't see how an open relationship could possibly work into the equation.

If you don't have a problem with STI's and worrying all the time with extra burdens, go for it.