How often has it happened to you? Did you want to drop kick them and did something better come later on?

Yup. Not to my face per se...just...they chose someone else over me...despite my efforts. It made me wanna beat him and the girl up...especially him. Taking advantage of my kindness and love...then to choose another over me. Not great for the self-esteem.

But I get over it. Each time it happens...I get bitter for a few weeks...then I'm back to my normal self.

Learned a valuable lesson tho...

Mister...if you like me..prove it, motherfucker. Cuz I'm sick of being your fool....

Yes I was rejected and the most recent one was my baby daddy told me that he found a senior citizen that was better than me in everyway.

Sexier, smarter, better in bed, better woman in general.... I was 35 at the time. I was devastated, I cried and even begged him to come back to his family, he never did.

So years later I found a new lover... who is sexier and a better man than him in everyway.

And old baby daddy came back with nice gifts in hand, took me out to a fancy dinner and then took me on a walk to my beach to be romantic ... to ask me to be with him and forgive him since he wanted to be with his family again... I said in a soft loving voice:

"Well, since I am not the sexiest, smartest, or the best woman you ever been with, you will always search for and desire the best... so you should go find the one that was better than me in every way and make it work with her because you will never have me again."

and I went home and called up my lover and for the first time told him that I loved him... we had awesome sex that day, kept me smiling for days after.

IamFunkay7 said:

How often has it happened to you? Did you want to drop kick them and did something better come later on?

I get rejected more than I get accepted, actually lmao.

But it ends up working out, because all the guys that reject me turn out to be assholes who would've treated me like shit anyway, and the guys that don't are sweethearts.

armpit said:

IamFunkay7 said:

How often has it happened to you? Did you want to drop kick them and did something better come later on?

I get rejected more than I get accepted, actually lmao.

But it ends up working out, because all the guys that reject me turn out to be assholes who would've treated me like shit anyway, and the guys that don't are sweethearts.

Encouraging to hear

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Yes, of course! My first boyfriend broke up with me about 3 or 4 times! My husband broke up with me after a year of being with me, but I refused to accept that

ZombieKitten said:

Serious said:

ZombieKitten said:

Yes, of course! My first boyfriend broke up with me about 3 or 4 times! My husband broke up with me after a year of being with me, but I refused to accept that

My ex boke-up with me shortly before our relationship really started and I refused to accept that and we entered into a 17 year long relationship .

control twins unite! that is nearly the same for us - we hadn't even said I love you yet!

ZombieKitten said:

Oh God, of course!

It never really makes me mad at them just makes me feel like shit about myself....but I eventually get over it.

paintedlady said:

Yes I was rejected and the most recent one was my baby daddy told me that he found a senior citizen that was better than me in everyway.

Sexier, smarter, better in bed, better woman in general.... I was 35 at the time. I was devastated, I cried and even begged him to come back to his family, he never did.

So years later I found a new lover... who is sexier and a better man than him in everyway.

And old baby daddy came back with nice gifts in hand, took me out to a fancy dinner and then took me on a walk to my beach to be romantic ... to ask me to be with him and forgive him since he wanted to be with his family again... I said in a soft loving voice:

"Well, since I am not the sexiest, smartest, or the best woman you ever been with, you will always search for and desire the best... so you should go find the one that was better than me in every way and make it work with her because you will never have me again."

and I went home and called up my lover and for the first time told him that I loved him... we had awesome sex that day, kept me smiling for days after.

I'm curious to know how old she was.......but I love your story though. It's always nice when you can pay someone back who has hurt you.

@ the OP Yes of course....Always the ones that I'm really digging sometimes too. Depending on my mood I lash out or cry.....usually cry.. and I try and figure out all the 101 things that are wrong with me..so after a good cry and lots of sweets and a couple of days feeling like it's just the end of the world..I usually get over it and find someone else who is 1000x better...especially when I least except it...and usually someone I never woulda noticed before.

Of course

and usually within a week or month realized I was greatful for it

though in the moment it seemed to suck

yeah... I haven't found a good one yet, this cycle has occurred for years so I'm waiting for someone to come along I have yet to understand what acceptance is in that way xD

YES! After 13 years of marriage, I found out my husband was having a year long affair with some woman he met on Myspace, ( this was in 2007). Once caught, he told me I was stagnant, going no where in life, was not interesting enough, resented me for the money HE had to borrow from his parents to support our family, and in general I sucked as a person. He told me my half of the debt was 10K. I was shocked, scared, devasted, humiliated, embarrassed, and stupidly believed every thing he said to be true. I tried, in vain, to get him to stop with the other woman.

Long story short he was with MANY women in addition to his new love. I divorced him and re-discovered myself. I learned I'm a strong sexy woman who is loyal to the people I love. I'm funny, sensitive, and smart. I have a great smile, a positive attitude, and love my curvy body. I even discovered the he was not the ony man who loves my body too!! LOL. I've gone from just a phone sex operator to nowmaking a good living as a broadcast closed captioner. Supporting myself and our three daughters without one dime from him. I've even managed to pay off my home while he lives with his parents.

I got over it, and consider the experience a gift, it made me love myself first before loving someone else. Something I realized I didn't do when I was with him.

Oh, and I paid his parents the 10K he said I owed them. At first they tried to refuse the money, saying they were helping their grandchildren and never felt I owed them anything. I insisted they take it. I told them once their son said this to me I could not look them in the eye knowing they may or may not feel this way too. It was the best feeling in the world to hand them that money, that I saved for 4 years. I have a great relationship with them to this day.

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lavender1983 said:

paintedlady said:

Yes I was rejected and the most recent one was my baby daddy told me that he found a senior citizen that was better than me in everyway.

Sexier, smarter, better in bed, better woman in general.... I was 35 at the time. I was devastated, I cried and even begged him to come back to his family, he never did.

So years later I found a new lover... who is sexier and a better man than him in everyway.

And old baby daddy came back with nice gifts in hand, took me out to a fancy dinner and then took me on a walk to my beach to be romantic ... to ask me to be with him and forgive him since he wanted to be with his family again... I said in a soft loving voice:

"Well, since I am not the sexiest, smartest, or the best woman you ever been with, you will always search for and desire the best... so you should go find the one that was better than me in every way and make it work with her because you will never have me again."

and I went home and called up my lover and for the first time told him that I loved him... we had awesome sex that day, kept me smiling for days after.

I'm curious to know how old she was.......but I love your story though. It's always nice when you can pay someone back who has hurt you.

I never could confirm her age, david would never tell me her age. All I knew was that David was 36, I was 35 and her youngest child was 29 years of age... she had 5 kids and was a grandmother. She had to be at least in her late 50's ... I was told she looked old in the face by a neighbor that happened to know her.

She met David at his job, she was his supervisor and my neighbor worked with them both. My neighbor was a guy and he was horrified that someone David's age was with her. I never met her and I never wanted to, but she was there at that job for years. She dumped him a year later after she tried to stab him and was arrested.

Isn't karma great?

paintedlady said:

lavender1983 said:

I'm curious to know how old she was.......but I love your story though. It's always nice when you can pay someone back who has hurt you.

I never could confirm her age, david would never tell me her age. All I knew was that David was 36, I was 35 and her youngest child was 29 years of age... she had 5 kids and was a grandmother. She had to be at least in her late 50's ... I was told she looked old in the face by a neighbor that happened to know her.

She met David at his job, she was his supervisor and my neighbor worked with them both. My neighbor was a guy and he was horrified that someone David's age was with her. I never met her and I never wanted to, but she was there at that job for years. She dumped him a year later after she tried to stab him and was arrested.

Isn't karma great?

1. I mean damn was she rich or sumthin'....what was the attraction? Some cougars are actually hot...this one doesn't sound so attractive.

2. !

nammie said:

YES! After 13 years of marriage, I found out my husband was having a year long affair with some woman he met on Myspace, ( this was in 2007). Once caught, he told me I was stagnant, going no where in life, was not interesting enough, resented me for the money HE had to borrow from his parents to support our family, and in general I sucked as a person. He told me my half of the debt was 10K. I was shocked, scared, devasted, humiliated, embarrassed, and stupidly believed every thing he said to be true. I tried, in vain, to get him to stop with the other woman.

Long story short he was with MANY women in addition to his new love. I divorced him and re-discovered myself. I learned I'm a strong sexy woman who is loyal to the people I love. I'm funny, sensitive, and smart. I have a great smile, a positive attitude, and love my curvy body. I even discovered the he was not the ony man who loves my body too!! LOL. I've gone from just a phone sex operator to nowmaking a good living as a broadcast closed captioner. Supporting myself and our three daughters without one dime from him. I've even managed to pay off my home while he lives with his parents.

I got over it, and consider the experience a gift, it made me love myself first before loving someone else. Something I realized I didn't do when I was with him.

Oh, and I paid his parents the 10K he said I owed them. At first they tried to refuse the money, saying they were helping their grandchildren and never felt I owed them anything. I insisted they take it. I told them once their son said this to me I could not look them in the eye knowing they may or may not feel this way too. It was the best feeling in the world to hand them that money, that I saved for 4 years. I have a great relationship with them to this day.

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yes! and I can get depressed for months over it

lavender1983 said:

paintedlady said:

I never could confirm her age, david would never tell me her age. All I knew was that David was 36, I was 35 and her youngest child was 29 years of age... she had 5 kids and was a grandmother. She had to be at least in her late 50's ... I was told she looked old in the face by a neighbor that happened to know her.

She met David at his job, she was his supervisor and my neighbor worked with them both. My neighbor was a guy and he was horrified that someone David's age was with her. I never met her and I never wanted to, but she was there at that job for years. She dumped him a year later after she tried to stab him and was arrested.

Isn't karma great?

1. I mean damn was she rich or sumthin'....what was the attraction? Some cougars are actually hot...this one doesn't sound so attractive.

2. !

He was a moocher... I guess she had a cozy crib that suited his needs. She was accomidating I guess until she figured out he was a moocher and tried to cut his ass. Go 'head sexay granny!

Him leaving me was the best thing for me, and it didn't feel like it at first but I am so glad he is out of my life. Ol' gal did me a huge favor.

Course I have. It's part of life.

paintedlady said:

lavender1983 said:

1. I mean damn was she rich or sumthin'....what was the attraction? Some cougars are actually hot...this one doesn't sound so attractive.

2. !

He was a moocher... I guess she had a cozy crib that suited his needs. She was accomidating I guess until she figured out he was a moocher and tried to cut his ass. Go 'head sexay granny!

Him leaving me was the best thing for me, and it didn't feel like it at first but I am so glad he is out of my life. Ol' gal did me a huge favor.

She sure did... *cue in TLC's "No Scrubs"*.

Yeah but I never get depressed or anything They're free to do whatever the fuck they want and so am I. I get over it quite soon

Alej said:

Yeah but I never get depressed or anything They're free to do whatever the fuck they want and so am I. I get over it quite soon

You have a really healthy attitude about it!

I give off the appearance of not caring and moving on quite quickly,

but inside it messes with my pride!

I much prefer to be the one doing the rejecting!

I've been rejected so many times I deserve an award......

But it never bothered me much after the first time. Now I am happily married with kids and the only rejection I get is from Banks and credit card companies.............

Yes! The other guy... used a tape of "the beautful ones" to win her over too!

and other than the fact that she has a child by him she told me she always regreted not chosing me!

(it happend 2 other times with simular resluts. We are dating and she runs off with some yahoo and then not too long later wants me back)

Huh NO. Once I get 'left' for another there is no getting back together.

When I was 19, I applied for a sales job at Circuit City and was rejected. Now Im 31 and make nearly 6 figures and Circuit City is out of business. Take that Fuckers!!! Bwahahahaha!!!

dreamfactory313 said:

When I was 19, I applied for a sales job at Circuit City and was rejected. Now Im 31 and make nearly 6 figures and Circuit City is out of business. Take that Fuckers!!! Bwahahahaha!!!

i made 6 figures last week! $1,210.12 !

paintedlady said:

Yes I was rejected and the most recent one was my baby daddy told me that he found a senior citizen that was better than me in everyway.

Sexier, smarter, better in bed, better woman in general.... I was 35 at the time. I was devastated, I cried and even begged him to come back to his family, he never did.

So years later I found a new lover... who is sexier and a better man than him in everyway.

And old baby daddy came back with nice gifts in hand, took me out to a fancy dinner and then took me on a walk to my beach to be romantic ... to ask me to be with him and forgive him since he wanted to be with his family again... I said in a soft loving voice:

"Well, since I am not the sexiest, smartest, or the best woman you ever been with, you will always search for and desire the best... so you should go find the one that was better than me in every way and make it work with her because you will never have me again."

and I went home and called up my lover and for the first time told him that I loved him... we had awesome sex that day, kept me smiling for days after.

Now that's the way it's done! I'm happy for you!

IamFunkay7 said:

How often has it happened to you? Did you want to drop kick them and did something better come later on?

nope.

welllll, maybe.

Oh all right YES I HAVE BEEN !!!! WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!! ARE YOU TRYING TO RUIN A PERFECTLY GOOD DAY????

no, really don;t worry about me. i'm fine now. it's all in the past