during sex...do women in general like it to be steady... ...not too hard and not too gentle... or is it the harder it is the better...?.. ....i have never been sure about this.....i dont want to hurt her but i want her to have as good a time as possible ..of course...bought it up now and then but she is a bit vague and shy when it comes to talking about things like that..

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Just because one woman (or 50 for that matter) likes something doesn’t mean your girlfriend will.

If you want to please one woman, you’re going to have to ask her what she specifically likes. So you’re going to have to get it out of her. Do everything you can to make her feel comfortable talking about it.

I imagine they want what they want when they want it, and the key is knowing what and when.

Does that help?

If they do I imagine they're role playing . But yeah, ask your gf first.

It all depends, I'm a HUGE fan of a good "sweat my perm out pounding". Long hard firm strokes can send me into ecstasy, and I'll beg, or suck his dick for more. Other times slow and gentle is what I need. It can vary, how the foreplay goes usually dicates how the "deed" will be done.

CarrieMpls said:

Just because one woman (or 50 for that matter) likes something doesn’t mean your girlfriend will.

If you want to please one woman, you’re going to have to ask her what she specifically likes. So you’re going to have to get it out of her. Do everything you can to make her feel comfortable talking about it.

NDRU said:

I imagine they want what they want when they want it, and the key is knowing what and when.

Does that help?

HotGritz said:

NDRU said:

I imagine they want what they want when they want it, and the key is knowing what and when.

Does that help?

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so both then...sometimes gentle...sometimes harder...its just that she never tells me...is the reason for that that women generally like the man to take the lead in sex ?.....i am not very domineering .....

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HotGritz said:

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so both then...sometimes gentle...sometimes harder...its just that she never tells me...is the reason for that that women generally like the man to take the lead in sex ?.....i am not very domineering .....

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Even if she doesn't verbally tell you "faster/harder" or "slower/softer" you can tell by the way she physically responds to you. If she is moaning in pleasure or making weird sounds that have you going or if she is drying up versus staying moist...those are clues as to whether she is being pleased. I think women may like the man to take the lead because we want to be aroused and enjoy sex without it turning into a "lesson" of sorts.

But...you've been with your lady a while now right? She really has never mentioned what she likes in that regard? I can understand not wanting to talk about it constantly but even a one time mention is all a guy needs.

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Even if she doesn't verbally tell you "faster/harder" or "slower/softer" you can tell by the way she physically responds to you. If she is moaning in pleasure or making weird sounds that have you going or if she is drying up versus staying moist...those are clues as to whether she is being pleased. I think women may like the man to take the lead because we want to be aroused and enjoy sex without it turning into a "lesson" of sorts.

But...you've been with your lady a while now right? She really has never mentioned what she likes in that regard? I can understand not wanting to talk about it constantly but even a one time mention is all a guy needs.

Judging by Bob's past posts about him and his girl, I'm betting he is shook. She sounds pretty scary.

Whever i see this guys posts I jsut keep thinking of the Fleshlight!

Answer: It varies on her mood and personal preferences, try it and see, the reaction will soon tell u if its appreciated or not LOL

Judging from past posts, when you give it hard she'll probably be like ugh, wtf is wrong with you that's a pussy not a punching bag and if you give it soft she'll be like ugh, what are you a girl, you're such a fuckin moaner

Good luck!

TheFreakerFantastic said:

Whever i see this guys posts I jsut keep thinking of the Fleshlight!

Answer: It varies on her mood and personal preferences, try it and see, the reaction will soon tell u if its appreciated or not LOL

And whenever I read the posts about his gf I think of the Fleshlight as "the one that got away".

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johnart said:

TheFreakerFantastic said:

Whever i see this guys posts I jsut keep thinking of the Fleshlight!

Answer: It varies on her mood and personal preferences, try it and see, the reaction will soon tell u if its appreciated or not LOL

And whenever I read the posts about his gf I think of the Fleshlight as "the one who got away".

I shouldn't laugh but i did !!! Sorry blackbob u seem a nice guy - where does 'blackbob' come from as you don't look black to me ?!

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johnart said:

TheFreakerFantastic said:

Whever i see this guys posts I jsut keep thinking of the Fleshlight!

Answer: It varies on her mood and personal preferences, try it and see, the reaction will soon tell u if its appreciated or not LOL

And whenever I read the posts about his gf I think of the Fleshlight as "the one who got away".

It's about the foreplay.

Work the foreplay out for one or two hours. By then, it really doesn't matter anymore how hard or what rhythm you keep. She will just beg you for it.

Get a course in massaging, that will help.

My two cents, based on several of your recent posts: Your girlfriend is giving you some clearcut signs that she wants you to man up. Wear the pants. Make firm decisions and stick with them. Don't be so apologetic all the time. Stop doubting yourself so much. If you have to keep asking, "Is that good? Do you like that?" then you already know the answer.

You shouldn't become a total neanderthal, but maybe watch this video and scale it back by half or so:

TheFreakerFantastic said:

johnart said:

And whenever I read the posts about his gf I think of the Fleshlight as "the one who got away".

I shouldn't laugh but i did !!! Sorry blackbob u seem a nice guy - where does 'blackbob' come from as you don't look black to me ?!

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a nickname i had when i was younger...black hair...blackboab....blackbob...and yes...my gf can be hard work but isnt that par for the course ?......fleshlight...whats that ???...

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Efan said:

My two cents, based on several of your recent posts: Your girlfriend is giving you some clearcut signs that she wants you to man up. Wear the pants. Make firm decisions and stick with them. Don't be so apologetic all the time. Stop doubting yourself so much. If you have to keep asking, "Is that good? Do you like that?" then you already know the answer.

You shouldn't become a total neanderthal, but maybe watch this video and scale it back by half or so:

Sometimes you just need to be told to suck someone's big fat dick. It just tastes better that way.

blackbob said:

TheFreakerFantastic said:

I shouldn't laugh but i did !!! Sorry blackbob u seem a nice guy - where does 'blackbob' come from as you don't look black to me ?!

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a nickname i had when i was younger...black hair...blackboab....blackbob...and yes...my gf can be hard work but isnt that par for the course ?......fleshlight...whats that ???...

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Oh ok that makes sense!!

My name is a nickname too, it used to be just Freaker since when I joined in 1997 but i got banned back in 2003 due to a bust up with another long standing fan so I had to go under this moniker!

blackbob said:

TheFreakerFantastic said:

I shouldn't laugh but i did !!! Sorry blackbob u seem a nice guy - where does 'blackbob' come from as you don't look black to me ?!

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a nickname i had when i was younger...black hair...blackboab....blackbob...and yes...my gf can be hard work but isnt that par for the course ?......fleshlight...whats that ???...

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You must understand that to us looking in through just your posts, it seems more sand trap than course. You're a good man, Charlie Brown.

johnart said:

Efan said:

My two cents, based on several of your recent posts: Your girlfriend is giving you some clearcut signs that she wants you to man up. Wear the pants. Make firm decisions and stick with them. Don't be so apologetic all the time. Stop doubting yourself so much. If you have to keep asking, "Is that good? Do you like that?" then you already know the answer.

You shouldn't become a total neanderthal, but maybe watch this video and scale it back by half or so:

Sometimes you just need to be told to suck someone's big fat dick. It just tastes better that way.

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bboy87 said:

johnart said:

Sometimes you just need to be told to suck someone's big fat dick. It just tastes better that way.

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I can picture her telling him to suck her big fat dick.

johnart said:

bboy87 said:

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I can picture her telling him to suck her big fat dick.

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Yeah, I'll be taking this 'til you act right

bboy87 said:

johnart said:

I can picture her telling him to suck her big fat dick.

takes alcohol rack

Yeah, I'll be taking this 'til you act right

blackbob said:

during sex...do women in general like it to be steady... ...not too hard and not too gentle... or is it the harder it is the better...?.. ....i have never been sure about this.....i dont want to hurt her but i want her to have as good a time as possible ..of course...bought it up now and then but she is a bit vague and shy when it comes to talking about things like that..

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every one is different, i am different all the time

it depends on my mood and how excited i am ...... the more excited, the crazier i get

just go with the flow.... its more fun that way

do u realize how simple sex really is????

cause u seem to think about it way tooooo much and make it oh so complex!!!!

When you doubt yourself so much and you need other people to confirm that your actions are okay, you end up being a dependable pain in the ...

Your partner is not the person who you should give the power of deciding about how good you are. In general I mean.

I'm not talking about repeating extremely gentile tongue routes, strong nibbling and a nice overpowering physical interaction. That's allways a good thing.

I really believe that working on self-esteem is the best way to take the power about your own happiness in your own hands. Somebody who was experienced with Al-Anon groups formulated this to me, and I thought it was so beautiful said:

Don't give your power away. And don't take the power away from somebody else.

For me if I have come already, then I want it hard and fast but if not, then gentle and prolonged, since in my book it's then still part of my foreplay